JustThinkingAloud

I consider everyone selfish and good relationships are the ones that both parties benefit from. Once someone starts losing, it goes all wrong. If you want to keep good relationships with others, you need to give as much as you get and they need to give as much as they get. At this moment, you’re way too busy to do what they expect you to do and there’s no problem with it if it’s a short term situation. I’d ask others to let me do what I need to do and promise them that once it’s over, I’ll make up for everything and then I’d deliver on the promise. You can also try to come up with different arrangements that would work for both parties. If this is not a short term situation, you might have to do some adjustments. What do you want more? Do you really need to do that much to get what you want? If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll probably lose these relationships but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I’d prefer few quality relationships than a lot of superficial ones. Also, think of your physical and mental health, can you keep living life like this and keep yourself healthy? Stress can be a very dangerous thing.

Maybe it’s an opportunity to fix the problems with the industry. You could prove how keeping animals happy is beneficial for the industry. Just an idea I’d still look for ways how to get out of it and once you find a way then I’d leave this project.

It’s your fantasy so you’re in charge what happens. It might be very hard to implement in practice though. But hey, anything can happen when you really want it. Just that the more you want, the harder you have to work on it. And as long as everyone involved knows what’s going on and are happy with it, I don’t see a problem. Where there’s one, there’s many?

I’d ask myself “Why is that?” or “What makes you think/feel like that?” If you want to get rid of that feeling, you need to find the source. It’s much easier to fix it when you exactly know what’s going on in you mind. And it’s great that you still decided to heal, the earlier you start, the earlier you can get on with your life and enjoy it.

I agree that you need to find a balance as you seem to get quite exhausted with the overconfident side of you. I think you’re on the right track, keep fine tuning and you will eventually find the balance that works for you. Your confidence is real at that moment because you feel it and you act like it. You can control it once you learn what exactly it is that triggers it. Have a look what actually happens or what thoughts you had when you became confident, that will help you to understand it.

It does take some time to change strong habits especially smoking. Are you progressing towards what you want? If you do, that’s great because you’re doing the right things, if not, try to find a different way of doing it.

I’d try to do the tricky work first while I still have my focus and then do the easy work when I’m more tired.

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How much sleep do you actually get? Your brain can’t function well when it’s tired and doesn’t have a rest. I can understand that you can get bored and your mind wonders off when the topic isn’t interesting enough but falling asleep can come from some other health issues.

Do you really need to understand life to have a happy fulfilling life? There’s a lot of people that just aim for happiness and that’s all they need. But if you really need to understand life, try to understand the basics first and add only once you fully understood them and made sure that it makes sense to you. It can take decades to fully understand it.

You still need to learn how to protect yourself. Ask yourself what can you do differently to make sure that nobody does wrong to you again. If you know a way and want to go through it, you can “punish” the person in a civilised way, that’s why we have legal system. If it’s not that serious, you can try to let go by realising that you exposed yourself and by making sure that it won’t happen to you again and maybe even help others to avoid being hurt.

Sorry, I didn’t explain it properly. It takes two to tango, meaning that when two people don’t get along both are to blame. The biggest problem is that these two people shouldn’t have put themselves into that position. If you don’t get along with someone either fix it or walk away from it. So that means that you’re partly to blame because you were around that person and opened yourself up to get hurt. Nobody needs to be hated, bad people get punished because everyone will walk away from them and they’ll lose the benefits of having good people like you around. Don’t be hard on yourself though, we’ve all done it. Learn from it and don’t do it again. Watch out for signs that could lead to being hurt. Usually, when someone doesn’t like you or you interfere with what they want, you’re opening yourself up to get hurt. If you have more questions, just let me know

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Unfortunately, most of the people don’t like being wrong. I’m still learning how to put across my ideas but generally I’ve given up on sharing unless someone specifically asks for it and even then I have to be careful not to bruise their “ego”. None of my friends are fully into personal development but they know that I am so most of the time we just casually joke about it. I usually try to suggest ideas rather than tell them that they are wrong or what to do. I’m a strong believer of karma so if they don’t listen it’s their bad luck.

This is what I do: Have a dream – it has to be the ultimate wish, no compromises, it has to feel awesome every time you imagine it. This is not a goal, goals are more realistic, when you have a dream you shoot for the stars! This gives you motivation and drive to keep going and get through tough times. Don’t worry about details too much, it just has to feel awesome, you’ll work on details as you go. Have next couple of steps towards it – this is what you work on, think about, analyse, learn, research etc Celebrate every progress – your motivation is you biggest energy source, you need to keep feeding it So now you can setup a routine that needs to involve the following: Productive time – working on your dream Thinking time – analysing your strategy - How can I do it better? Is it the right step? What is the next step? Am I progressing? Do I need to learn or research more? etc. You can do this while exercising, watching TV, cleaning your room or doing the dishes. Once you start doing it you'll know when you get tired etc you can setup how many hours a day you can do. Just don’t forget to take care of other important things (eg a loved one, your health).

At this moment, she doesn’t know what she wants so you either try to forget her or wait for her to decide. Is she worth the pain? Is she love of your life? If not, focus on her faults and you might be able to forget her and move on.

@Nivsch Both the good and the bad emotion are from a different source. Explore your mind to find the source of the bad feeling. What thoughts, memories, actions etc trigger the bad emotion? It’s much easier to fix it when you know where it’s actually coming from.

Don’t spend more than you earn and pay it off before you have to pay interest on it and you should be fine. If you’re worried, keep your limit low so you don’t overspend. If you start accumulating debt, stop using it, block it, repay it as quickly as you can as it can go out of control very easily.

Maybe try to find faults on her so you don’t idealise her too much. I think that you shouldn’t try too hard to make someone to love you, they should love you for who you actually are.

Things change. Just because the same experience doesn’t make us happy doesn’t mean that we can’t ever be happy again or that the memory is not a great memory any more. There’s new things that we can do and can get. So getting what we want or progressing towards what we want should be celebrated, appreciated and be grateful and thankful for these moments. These moments show that life can be the way we want it and that’s great!

Personally, I find it rude when people don’t face me while I’m talking to them so I find someone else to talk to. Another thing to consider is eye contact when you’re facing someone, not many people like a direct eye contact. I usually look at their mouth or nose so they don’t feel uncomfortable. Sometimes, when I ask a direct question I do look directly into their eyes but not for long. Anyway, I hope this helps a little, either way good luck!

Maybe part of you wants to experience it again, somewhere deep inside. It doesn’t have to be the actual experience that you still want, it could be that great emotion that you had and want to feel like that again.

Wow, that’s great! If you need any help on what to do with it just let know haha

How can I believe that something is true when I need to keep constantly persuading myself that it’s true?

Thank you for sharing your opinion. I suppose we all have different experiences.