JustThinkingAloud

Also, you shouldn’t have kids just for the sake of it. Kids need lots of love, a good guidance and it costs a lot of money and time. Once you know that you can give all that, it’s great time to have kids!

A lot of parents think they know everything better than you because they’re older and have more experience. They also want to prevent you from getting hurt by getting attached to a girl that doesn’t love you back. Maybe don’t share everything with them when you want to do it on your own and don’t want their advice. You can predict their reaction and if you want them to be happy with what you’re doing, share only the things that will make them happy.

It's much easier to keep doing something when you actually enjoy doing it. I'd also analyse what thoughts make you stop. There might be a hidden fear or some kind of a limiting belief that stops you.

I like this one. Also be honest and specific, it has to be a genuine compliment that doesn't involve her physical appearance. It's great to turn her negatives into positives. Maybe try "I love spending time with you doing so and so or talking about so and so."

Maybe try to replace it with something else. It might take a while to find a suitable thing but it’s easier to replace it than to remove it.

Maybe try to get the first one out of the way and then do the more exciting things on the second or third go. Also when you're young and it's a new relationship it's quite normal. I think it's actually a compliment, it shows that you find her irresistible.

I’d have a look at what she specifically did to make you feel like that. And also, what did you expect her to do so you can compare and find out whether there’s a problem. You can ask her directly whether you’ve done something wrong. Also, you can ask other people that you trust whether they agree with you or whether they know something.

Welcome! Just the fact that you made this post shows that you have a loving side. Nobody’s perfect, we all keep learning how to do things better way and this post shows that you want to learn and that’s great! It’s a bit hard in your situation to get it right straight away, keep fine tuning so you’re the way you want to be. All it needs is practice and patience I used to have a big problem with being brutally honest and probably still do, I’m slowly learning how to “sugar coat” things and I also realised that not everything has to be said.

We are all different and different things work for us. We are all valuable human beings and deserve respect because every single one of us can become great at something! Just because people aren’t like you or doing things different way or you don’t like them doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with them. Let them do their thing and focus on your thing and everyone should be happy

I consider everyone selfish and good relationships are the ones that both parties benefit from. Once someone starts losing, it goes all wrong. If you want to keep good relationships with others, you need to give as much as you get and they need to give as much as they get. At this moment, you’re way too busy to do what they expect you to do and there’s no problem with it if it’s a short term situation. I’d ask others to let me do what I need to do and promise them that once it’s over, I’ll make up for everything and then I’d deliver on the promise. You can also try to come up with different arrangements that would work for both parties. If this is not a short term situation, you might have to do some adjustments. What do you want more? Do you really need to do that much to get what you want? If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll probably lose these relationships but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I’d prefer few quality relationships than a lot of superficial ones. Also, think of your physical and mental health, can you keep living life like this and keep yourself healthy? Stress can be a very dangerous thing.

Maybe it’s an opportunity to fix the problems with the industry. You could prove how keeping animals happy is beneficial for the industry. Just an idea I’d still look for ways how to get out of it and once you find a way then I’d leave this project.

It’s your fantasy so you’re in charge what happens. It might be very hard to implement in practice though. But hey, anything can happen when you really want it. Just that the more you want, the harder you have to work on it. And as long as everyone involved knows what’s going on and are happy with it, I don’t see a problem. Where there’s one, there’s many?

I’d ask myself “Why is that?” or “What makes you think/feel like that?” If you want to get rid of that feeling, you need to find the source. It’s much easier to fix it when you exactly know what’s going on in you mind. And it’s great that you still decided to heal, the earlier you start, the earlier you can get on with your life and enjoy it.

I agree that you need to find a balance as you seem to get quite exhausted with the overconfident side of you. I think you’re on the right track, keep fine tuning and you will eventually find the balance that works for you. Your confidence is real at that moment because you feel it and you act like it. You can control it once you learn what exactly it is that triggers it. Have a look what actually happens or what thoughts you had when you became confident, that will help you to understand it.

It does take some time to change strong habits especially smoking. Are you progressing towards what you want? If you do, that’s great because you’re doing the right things, if not, try to find a different way of doing it.

I’d try to do the tricky work first while I still have my focus and then do the easy work when I’m more tired.

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How much sleep do you actually get? Your brain can’t function well when it’s tired and doesn’t have a rest. I can understand that you can get bored and your mind wonders off when the topic isn’t interesting enough but falling asleep can come from some other health issues.

Do you really need to understand life to have a happy fulfilling life? There’s a lot of people that just aim for happiness and that’s all they need. But if you really need to understand life, try to understand the basics first and add only once you fully understood them and made sure that it makes sense to you. It can take decades to fully understand it.

You still need to learn how to protect yourself. Ask yourself what can you do differently to make sure that nobody does wrong to you again. If you know a way and want to go through it, you can “punish” the person in a civilised way, that’s why we have legal system. If it’s not that serious, you can try to let go by realising that you exposed yourself and by making sure that it won’t happen to you again and maybe even help others to avoid being hurt.

Sorry, I didn’t explain it properly. It takes two to tango, meaning that when two people don’t get along both are to blame. The biggest problem is that these two people shouldn’t have put themselves into that position. If you don’t get along with someone either fix it or walk away from it. So that means that you’re partly to blame because you were around that person and opened yourself up to get hurt. Nobody needs to be hated, bad people get punished because everyone will walk away from them and they’ll lose the benefits of having good people like you around. Don’t be hard on yourself though, we’ve all done it. Learn from it and don’t do it again. Watch out for signs that could lead to being hurt. Usually, when someone doesn’t like you or you interfere with what they want, you’re opening yourself up to get hurt. If you have more questions, just let me know

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Unfortunately, most of the people don’t like being wrong. I’m still learning how to put across my ideas but generally I’ve given up on sharing unless someone specifically asks for it and even then I have to be careful not to bruise their “ego”. None of my friends are fully into personal development but they know that I am so most of the time we just casually joke about it. I usually try to suggest ideas rather than tell them that they are wrong or what to do. I’m a strong believer of karma so if they don’t listen it’s their bad luck.

This is what I do: Have a dream – it has to be the ultimate wish, no compromises, it has to feel awesome every time you imagine it. This is not a goal, goals are more realistic, when you have a dream you shoot for the stars! This gives you motivation and drive to keep going and get through tough times. Don’t worry about details too much, it just has to feel awesome, you’ll work on details as you go. Have next couple of steps towards it – this is what you work on, think about, analyse, learn, research etc Celebrate every progress – your motivation is you biggest energy source, you need to keep feeding it So now you can setup a routine that needs to involve the following: Productive time – working on your dream Thinking time – analysing your strategy - How can I do it better? Is it the right step? What is the next step? Am I progressing? Do I need to learn or research more? etc. You can do this while exercising, watching TV, cleaning your room or doing the dishes. Once you start doing it you'll know when you get tired etc you can setup how many hours a day you can do. Just don’t forget to take care of other important things (eg a loved one, your health).

At this moment, she doesn’t know what she wants so you either try to forget her or wait for her to decide. Is she worth the pain? Is she love of your life? If not, focus on her faults and you might be able to forget her and move on.