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@Karmadhimy social skills are pretty good, I study at a University, so I meet a lot of new people. I don't want to approach at Uni because it's relatively small (we don't have a campus or a similar thing sort of). I get along with friendly interactions pretty well, it's just with flirting and sexual interactions that I get nervous and uncomfortable... Even in the past when girls that liked me usually dumped me after two weeks telling me that I don't know how to date, they felt repelled eventually. I also rejected girl that was into me, we just made out a few times, she invited me home, but she didn't want to have sex, she told me that we'll have sex but not today, so I gave it a shot and I didn't feel the chemistry, I rejected her also because I wanted to learn game and get more of options, she was like 5 out of 10, in retrospect I could make it work with her, but I didn't want to at the time, the issue was she was 'independent' and made me feel like she didn't need me emotionally, she felt more like a guy friend. And I wasn't horny for sex yet? @The0SelfThanks, I'll write it on my big white board that I have in my room? @Razethanks!

@Karmadhi Yeah, get the basics down first ? @Eyowey That would surely help me, thanks? @supremeyingyang You exceeded the threshold it seems like, I guess that works like that in pickup as well? Thanks for all the answers I did just two approaches today, and I got an Instagram from a girl, however she was in a rush, we talked for a 20s, so I think it's a flaky IG. The second girl politely rejected me and told me she has a boyfriend, even said sorry. I guess that were better approaches than the previous ones. Going to do more when I go out next time, probably a night game this time, we'll see.

Thanks, I'll check it out ?

@flowboyGood thing you posted this, I've just done parts work on myself and integrated a part of me - the part I fell in love with before. I knew about parts work before, but I forgot about it. The part I integrated didn't even know my current circumstances, it lived in the past, as you described. It felt like my identity changed completely. Gotta jump into reading that book! Thanks ?

I remember Teal Swan saying something similar in one of her videos. I also remember her saying that you can integrate that lost part through parts work. Where did you get this information from? A book, a video? I'd like to look more into that.

I'd really like to learn game, but the problem is that I live in a small city of 90k people. I'm a guy, 20 y.o., studying at university unable to move out to a bigger city because I don't have the money yet and I'm still dependent on my parents. I'll finish my degree at 26 y.o. and I don't want to wait till then... (I'm studying medicine which takes 6 years, I'm from central Europe) Day game is really difficult here because there aren't much girls around, especially nowdays, when people are off school, during Holidays. Night game is an option, but the thing is, how am I supposed to make this work? The night clubs are really crowded and there are usually 15 people per square meter (which I view as a lot) and I have no chance to isolate a girl and most girls are with their friends -> I find it awkward to talk to a group of girls because how am I gonna justify it to them? When I'm talking to a single girl I can just tell her that I like her, but to a group? I can't just tell that I like a single girl, or can I? Is this how nightclubs are in other cities? Crowded, you can't see your own feet... I find it to be not a good place to meet girls, since most girls are with guys or came to have fun with their friends, but the thing is, what else is there? Nothing really in my city. I'd appreciate your perspective on this, whether I'm missing something or just overthinking and whether I should go to clubs more often. Not learning game is not an option for me.

Report of the night: I went to a nightclub by myself and was there for 3 hours. Approached few girls, talked to them for a bit and then backed off, since I had nothing more to say I and I didn't want to be awkward. I was walking through the nightclub back and forth and an older woman (in her 30s/40s) approached me and told me that I can join her group because she saw me walking alone and I was not in the mood. Kinda interesting ?. Was I that awkward? Met a few people I know from high school I went to, year younger. At first I felt uncomfortable, when I talked to girls I felt the urge to ask them logical questions. It showed me potential how much I can improve my game. Thanks guys for points of view. Actually, the Uni I go to is not in my home town, it's 30 minutes away by train. It's a larger city of 240k people. But now for 6 weeks I don't have school, just exams. I really can spend more time socialising at Uni. That's a good idea. I'll try to do my best with what I have.

Oh, really? Then I might try something today, really push myself.?

I went out yesterday, and my goal was to do one approach. I didn't do it. When i got off the train, I was a beautiful girl who was behind me. I could've approached her, but I didn't do it.? I had two hours left till last train was leaving. And I saw another girl then, my excuse was that she wasn't that beautiful (in retrospect I could've approached her). Then I was beautiful two girls in a mall but how do I approach two girls? I've done it before but I don't how to handle that yet... My only success was that I didn't use headphones and I was feeling uncomfortable because of it. Thinking about how often do I go out? Like 5 times a week should be okay. And what about nightclubs? I've tried that but I have no idea how to approach in there. There's usually so many people in one place dancing and I'd like to approach but there are girls who are in groups and I don't know how to approach that. I only know how to approach girls who go by themselves and that's a rarity I think.

Hello, I'm currently 19 years old and I'd like to start pickup. I'm becoming more and more frustrated with my sexuality, since I'm a virgin. I've had some dating success earlier, but it didn't go anywhere. I'm entering University now in September, so I think it's perfect time to begin again. My options to approach: home city which is about 90k people and the city which the University is in, about 240k people. It's about 40km from my home city and I get there for free by train. That's all I get to work with and it's so frustrating for me because I'd like to live in a larger city because of improving my game, but I can't, since I'm basically broke because I don't make any money because I don't have a job and I'm a student. ?

I'm still in high school (although I'm graduating in two weeks) and my question is, how do I pull if I still live with my parents? I'm 19 and I can't financially support myself yet. I've been on couple of dates recently from cold approach and I didn't pull because my parents were home. Do you think it's a good idea to take girls outside a city to a forest (though I think that's creepy to do on a first date, maybe take her there after a while?) and start making out with them there? I know some spots in my city that are quite isolated. I live in a relatively small city (about 90k people) and in autumn I'm going to a university in a larger city (about 400k people) and I will be living in a dormitory. Do you have any ideas on how to pull girls more easily?

Thanks guys for advice

Minecraft's new update looks stage greeny to me. It's called Minecraft Infinity update. Over 2 bilion new dimensions with lot of creative art.

I highly recommend Coach Corey Wayne and his book How to be a 3% man.

I'm 17 years old high school INTP student and I've come to a point in my life where most of my thoughts and desires are about women and socializing. I descoved Leo a year ago and I've learned a lot from him since then. I've already done a lot of self-help work because I was very shy and unconfident in my past. I come from Blue/Orange Christian background (I love my parents, they've been supporting me a lot, we've learned a lot together). In last year I've encountered a lot of emotional obstacles and they've made me to love and accept myself like never before... So, in this journal I'll write about my progress with pickup. I've known about pickup for a long time, but now I commit to it 100%. I've already done a couple approaches and I came down to conclusion that this is a thing I'm focusing on in next years. My favourite pickup, dating and realtionship coach is Corey Wayne, I've read his book "How to be a 3% man" already five times (atleast 10 times left). Another channel about attraction stuff is YT channel "Develop attraction", I've bought their book and read it just once. And many others (RSD, Todd, Don Bacon, James Marshall, Dynamic Education [this one is in Czech language], etc...) . Other channels that I follow are Teal Swan and Ralph Smart (emotional mastery, spiritual development, self-awareness...), and of course Leo (I love his philosophy and his teachings, made me cry couple of times ), Joseph Rodrigues and a lot of other channels. And I have bought RSD Max's course, The Natural, which I study. I can practise pickup and socializing in 2 cities (with 90k and 240k people, I live near the 90k one, they're the largest I can afford to go to, they are 40 minutes away from each other with train transport, in my country I have free train tickets for slow trains as a student which is perfect for me). I don't find clubs and bars attractive, altough I may try them in a future. In this journal I'll write about my insights and my progress. Current goals to accomplish: make atleast 10 approaches a week (funny thing is that I'm in a city almost every day, this number is possible to accomplish in one day) consciously setting time for approaching women atleast 3/4 times a week (WED, FRI, SAT/SUN), otherwise I'll just approach when I'm coming home from school or just when hanging around make this approaching part of my daily basis meeting my social, sexual needs becoming more emotionally independent (interdependent?) daily "do nothing meditation" (20 mins minimum) practising mindfulness integrating my shadows I project onto others slowly eliminating distractions and unnecessary addictions becoming more authentic, expressive person becoming aware of my emotions and thoughts, observing them (disidentifying from them) aligning with my truest desires changing my beliefs about realationships, women, socializing connecting with people and self-actualising, improving my social, emotional awareness having multiple sexual relationships General Tactics: no fap (once a week fap) approaching before my mind can stop me learning from my mistakes, being able to not be perfect, so I can learn displaying masculine energy (with integrated [(transended the duality?) feminine] using "negative" emotions to fuel my actions focusing both on results and progress adjusting my tactics towards goals I want to accomplish feeling results before I can "see" them in physical form I wish myself good luck!?

Todays number of approaches: 4 (daygame) ✔Things I did right: Approached without hesitation In my 1st set I was spontaneous! I silenced my mind Open was callibrated I speaked clearly I wasn't so nervous ❌Things I did wrong: Left sets too early In other 3 sets I wasn't spontaneous My body language wasn't up tight Didn't get to premise Didn't contunue in coversation All approaches were indirect ↗Things to improve: It doesn't matter what you say as an opener, be spontaneous Stay in sets longer Try direct approaches! Train eye contact Try to approach women who are alone by themselves (all four approaches were group approaches of 2 girls) You can(could) do more approaches Learn to build the conversation up

I may use this on tournaments lol

Healthy attidute after break up, lyrics says it all ?

Leo has some good books from him on his booklist as well

Today I've done 3 approaches. I've had so much anxiety in my body. Jesus. But I'm happy I've done it. I really like the idea of 5 stages by Todd: 1. Open 2. Premise 3. Evaluate 4. Narrative 5. Close Today I've done just open and close. It was clear that premise was missing. I've used two openers: 1. Hey, I have one question. Who do you think lies more, men or women? 2. Hey, tell me a something you've been doing and liked when you were a child. Clearly, those are just sentences. But I need to start somewhere. Step by step. Tortoise wins the race. Even though I just had to say those sentences, I was so anxious. I don't find that as a bad thing though. I find it as a signal from my body that I'm doing a thing I'm not used to be doing. I don't find talking to strangers difficult. I find talking to girls at street 'difficult' (although it just feels that way, because I'm not used to it). My first approach was very uncalibrated. I jumped in front of them and I scared them LOL. They were like 'huh??'???(they were 2) and I asked them a simple question number 1. I was speaking so fast and I was so nervous. But it was a success. I was feeling so anxious. I left the conversation. They were very pretty. I felt the awkwardness at the end. But whatever. I'm happy I've done it. My second one was a quicker one. I used question number 2. I left first again. My third one was quick as well. I used question number 1. They were like 'why are you asking *us* this question?'. I answered because I'm learning to talk to strangers. And they left. I feel like I could approach like 10 more girls... but whatever. For the first time it's more than enough. Things to improve next time: • Learn to speak calmly, clearly, and talking the way they understand you. • Don't be afraid to do that. I love you and you can do this. It's like going to the gym for the first time? • Really. I know how you felt. That's alright though. Don't be afraid. TALK TO MORE WOMEN❤ • I really felt that after couple of seconds that premise was missing in a conversation. But I'd like to focus more on that open more. Master the open so I can move towards mastering a premise. • I have no problem creating conversations with women I'm sexually interested in my head. In real life it's just more emotionally difficult(different?)? • PRACTISE PRACTISE PRACTISE❤

I'm 17 years old high school INTP student and I've come to a point in my life where most of my thoughts and desires are about women and socializing. I descoved Leo a year ago and I've learned a lot from him since then. I've been doing personal development before him but he's made me to be doing it like going to church . I've already done a lot of self-help work because I was very shy and unconfident in my past. I come from Blue/Orange Christian background (I love my parents, they've been supporting me a lot, we've learned a lot together). In last year I've encountered a lot of emotional obstacles and they've made me to love and accept myself like never before... So, in this journal I'll write about my progress with pickup. I've known about pickup for a long time, but now I commit to it 100%. I've already done a couple approaches and I came down to conclusion that this is a thing I'm focusing on in next years. My favourite pickup, dating and realtionship coach is Corey Wayne, I've read his book "How to be a 3% man" already five times (atleast 10 times left ). Another channel about attraction stuff is YT channel "Develop attraction", I've bought their book and read it just once. And many others (RSD, Todd, Don Bacon, James Marshall, Dynamic Education [this one is in Czech language], etc...) . Other channels that I follow are Teal Swan and Ralph Smart (emotional mastery, spiritual development, self-awareness...), and of course Leo (I love his philosophy and his teachings, made me cry couple of times ), Joseph Rodrigues and a lot of other channels. I've had few crushes at my school but I came down to conclusion that they're not worth my time (wasted too much already ). I feel like school is such a distraction for me right now. I feel like I'm a smart intelligent guy (relative to others ofc ) with straight A's and I get a lot of approval from it and I do not like it, since I'm thinking about how much approval I get almost all the time during school days. I'm fed up with it like addicted rat on sugar. Of course, when someone diminishes me it affects me the opposite way. That's the thing I'm changing. I've studied Nathaniel Branded's work about self-esteem and it's been helping me a lot. Ye, I'm mostly extrinsically confident, not intrinsically right now, so I'm changing it (I've done a lot of progress already). I'm really into chemistry and biology, that's something what my life purpuse will be about (I've got Life Purpose Course, but I haven't started it yet since I have more fundamental (lower) desires right now, like sex and socializing). I have a close friend who is with me in this so I can set myself accountable and have emotional support in the beggining. I already have no problem approaching random people and asking them stuff, but I'm uncomfortable with approching girls about trying to know them (that's the sign I need to do it ) . I can practise pickup and socializing in 2 cities (with 90k and 240k people, I live near the 90k one, they're the largest I can afford to go to, they are 40 minutes away from each other with train transport, in my country I have free train tickets for slow trains as a student which is perfect for me). I don't find clubs and bars attractive, altough I may try them in a future. In this journal I'll write about my insights and my progress. Goals to accomplish: make atleast 10 approaches a week (funny thing is that I'm in a city almost every day, this number is possible to accomplish in one day) consciously setting time for approaching women atleast 3/4 times a week (WED, FRI, SAT/SUN) , otherwise I'll just approach when I'm coming home from school or just when hanging around make this approaching part of my daily basis meeting my social, sexual needs, self-esteem needs(with this one I'm currently codependent) becoming more emotionally independent (interdependent?) daily "do nothing meditation" (20 mins minimum) mindfulness meditation during a day integrating lower spiral stages (from red to green) integrating my shadows I project onto others slowly eliminating distractions and unnecessary addictions becoming my own best friend and therapist practising Self-Love reprogramming my subconscious mind rising my vibration towards unconditional Love becoming more authentic, expressive person becoming aware of my emotions and thoughts, observing them (disidentifying from them) aligning with my truest desires General Tactics: no fap (once a week fap ) trying to be as much authentic as I can in social interactions when I see a stranger on a street I'd like to approach I'll count 321 down to zero and start a conversation, I'll try to know her and if I like her I ask for her number or FB or IG or I just make her day , if it's a male I'll just make his day or ask something, no need to make dates there learning from my mistakes I'll try to find women who have high interests in me personally and vice versa and set up dates with them displaying masculine energy (with integrated feminine) changing my beliefs about realationships, women, socializing connecting with people and self-actualising, improving my social, emotional awareness using "negative" emotions to fuel my actions focusing both on results and progress adjusting my tactics towards goals I want to accomplish

Yes And thank you

@Waken thank you, helped a lot

Stage green on climate change, criticising stage Orange.

Thank you all?It has grown me.so much since... I'm in tears right now, tears of joy, so much relief, I just let go of control... pain is healing me...thank you❤