Superfluo

So, what is what normies call love? I know love has biological, social, cultural, sexual, survival components to it, but then what's that feeling you get when you're in love? That overwhelming (and still somewhat selfless, depending on the person) feeling where you almost lose your mind for another person? I'm trying to distinguish Love from love, and understand the mechanisms and purpose of the "charge" of love.

Oh the irony...

@LSD-Rumi *Triple facepalm*

@LSD-Rumi She used the same web template...

Personally speaking, I was talking about you. What I did or did not is not relevant to the issue you brought forth. I gave you some indications if you want to approach this issue more objectively. Up to you. Also, I was curious about your point of view about her. Or maybe she had faith in the wrong people? As I said, people that bring people's shadows to the light are gonna be attacked, there's nothing new about that. I assume they are emotionally unstable, as Leo said. Why the fuck would you go live with a woman whose life and career is based on therapy? Also, there may be some problems and conflicts between people living with her, it's normal, people have conflicts everyday everywhere. Obviously some people will not be ready for her.

@ZenAlex Go watch Teal response on her channel. Then ponder what happened in an unbiased way. Then think if what she teaches is beneficial or not for people. As a personal note: I suspect you was thinking of her as a cult leader long before the series. Why? Only because she teaches new age stuff or because she lives with people? IMO what she teaches is legit and powerful, and obviously due to the fact that she talks about what people refuse to face, i.e. traumas, lies, manipulation, dysfunctional ways of relating, it's a guarantee that in the end some people would react against her. She exposes people's shadows, which is what people need but don't want.

But why?

@Leo Gura Do you think logic as a process is a sequence of micro-insights which we are accustomed to using?

@Michael569 I'd like to hear your take on this . Don't know if you have already written a post about it here on the forum though.

@TheRealJohn Adding to the other advice you have been given by other users, I'll add my take. First, I'm just genuinely curious about your mental processes. Could you elaborate on what you said here? Then, some practical advice. Read the book called "People Skills - How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts" by Robert Bolton. I found it causally, decided to buy having little expectation, and it tunerd out to be a goldmine, full of practical insights and indications on how to listen, the right principles behind communications, the right motives to act in certain ways, etc. If you struggle with small talk, you'll have to learn to spout words when you talk to people. Common fears and negative beliefs you may have and some advice about them: - "I don't know how to do it": you talk about little things related to your mundane life or what's happening in your surroundings, or whatever comes to your mind (don't talk about creepy, edgy, or sensitive topics), just because. The aim here is to two-fold: doing this makes you pratice removing filters and teaches you that to get the conversation going you first need to show people that you are easy-going. You cannot enstablish a connection with a person if you can't talk about simple things, because when you meet someone, first you start with small things and then you build up to deeper stuff with time. Obviously every person and every interaction is unique, so you have to find the right balance between social norms and your preferred way of relating with people and your personality. This takes time and practice. Think about small talk as a way to hook people with the smallest effort in order to make the conversation flowing, which will give you the opportunity to switch to more personal, intimate and deeper topics with time if you want to do it. - "People will not care": people will care less about the content, and care more about the emotions and the vibe coming from you. If you say things in a neutral way, without emotional charge behind them, people will listen but they may not be fully engaged, while if you add emotional charge, they may. Then, with small talk you are giving them new simple perspectives about material life, so don't deprive people of your perspective. Also, it's not true that people will not care. The more people feel connected to you, the more they will care about you and your emotions and your well-being. If you meet someone for the first time, they cannot be connected to you because they don't know you yet. But generally speaking, how do you know if people feel connected to you? With social and verbal cues, and also because YOU will feel connected to them. If you don't feel connected to them, they may still feel connected to you, but since you don't feel the same way towards them, they will feel a barrier, they will sense that you are not being your authentic self with them, they will feel you are not putting your personality on the table. Also, people will care about the information they can gain from what you say, so they will care if they find something useful. - "It seems dumb and shallow and pointless": yeah, but deep stuff requires people capable of handling, dealing and liking deep stuff. How do you find them? You meet new people, you start with small stuff and if the situation allows it, you introduce deeper stuff with baby-steps. Also, deep stuff is not meant to be talked about casually with people. To build the minimum basic rapport and connection with people you almost ever need just to say something, to "ping" to them that you exist and you are "alive", and that you are receptive to what happens around you. Also, dumb, shallow and pointless stuff has a purpose, that is to keep the conversation light and shallow! Think of it like a moment to relax your thinking. - "It drains me": if you are an introvert, yes, small talk is draining. This is probably because you have resistance to spouting words. Because you filter yourself, and you are too concerned with other people's opinions of yourself, so you craft what to say before talking. This drains energy. Remove the fear and the added pressure will stop, because you will feel more at ease opening your mouth to say silly and shallow stuff. Also, you'll have to learn to balance socialization and recharging. - "Don't know what to say": your mind is filled with thoughts. Spout them out if they are positive or neutral. If they are negative, don't say them. Talk about the funny way that guy at the end of the street is walking, talk about the toast you burned this morning made you angry and made you miss the train, ecc. Also, a great way to do small talk is to use what people say to add your commentary on that. If you struggle opening up you, you may need to see if the healing path is something you may want to do. Check my signature below for more info. This issue may need a psychotherapeutic solution (not necessarily a psychotherapist). Keep in mind that connection has many sides to it, but some important ones that come to mind (and I suggest you to learn what it means to feel and be connected to someone) are: - You feel comfortable showing your quirks and the more intimate parts of your personality with people - You feel emotions for other people, and it comes natural to be empathic with them at an emotional level, not intuitive or intellectual level. There has to be no reasoning behind empathy. - People tease you about stuff you say or the way you behave in a good-hearted manner. This means they like you. - People talk about personal stuff with you. This can vary from person to person. As a final note, there are some topics and some ways of saying things that could damage your connection with people or your conversation with people. Don't know how much you're autistic, but if you don't know if it's okay to say a certain thing or talk about a certain topic, err on the side of not saying that. Also, you could say to people that you consider your friends or close friends (up to you) that you are autistic and you need extra feedback and advice.

@Ayham Holistic understanding of everything means nothing. Holistic understanding of x, where x is a subset of "everything", is better

@Leo Gura During my one and only magic truffle trip I tried to contemplate, but it felt like I was resisting the trip, resisting the experience. It felt wrong, not because I was scared, but because I felt like the substance didn't intend to leave room for contemplation but only for being a passive spectator of the trip.

@benny Underline the side of the text. For example, you find a sentence you want to underline. But you fear you might do a bad job underlining the text, or you don't want to make the text more difficult to read, or you simply want to have things neat. Well, just underline the side of the paragraph at the height of the sentence. For very important concepts you might underline two times, or underline one time adding a dot.

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Found this article online, don't know how much is reliable, but could be a solution which if it works and is implemented at large scale could be very interesting: https://phys.org/news/2022-05-mercury-easy-toxic-environments.amp

Try Artbreeder!

You could add these models: Defense mechanisms (from psychology) Reichian Characterology Enneagramm MBTI Ken Wilber model Cook-Greuter Ego Development Theory Erotic Blueprints Horoscope Cognitive Functions The Big 5 Personalities

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These are points I've been thinking about a lot. I agree on all the points except for point 4 and 6: 4) I think the High Consciousness Resource doesn't need to be fused with the Review Section, rather it should be more high quality, more polished and more moderated. An idea it comes to mind is to give access to it to people who have done serious work for long time, people who have a higher probability of posting high quality, integrated, wise, nuanced and powerful insights and resources. Personally I don't use the High Consciousness Resources section often because I'm not ready yet for turquoise stuff (and I usually found mostly turquoise stuff) but it doesn't mean that section can't be used to post high consciousness yellow stuff, high consciousness green stuff, high consciousness orange stuff, etc. If you combine the two sections together, you'll have a meek section with just some basic advice and high quality advice I think will be viewed as less impactful than other advice. 6) If you want a private journal, just journal by yourself, you don't need the forum. The purpose of the Journal section is to make your struggles and process public so as to be accountable for your improvement and get some support. If you can't journal seriously without using a public platform, even if privately, then it's not a matter of platform or place but a matter of commitment I think. Also, the journal section could contain post with photos, videos or very long posts. If it becomes a backup platform for all the people doing our work it could fill up the space on the servers. So the publicity of the journal section keeps not serious people at bay. Feedback for @Leo Gura

@Michael569 What do you suggest to do if your omega-3 levels are not optimal?

@Raine Stop whatever mainstream self-help you're doing and start doing healing practices. When you're traumatized trying to cover up your wounds is not going to help, in fact it only makes things worse. I have some posts on healing practices and advice that sum up everything you need.

What's that? Esoteric art?

Nearly in the middle of the range, so I think it's okay. I know, but if I don't exercise, my health deteriorates. If I exercise, I stress even further my adrenal glands. And this if I have adrenal fatigue, which I'm not sure of. Don't know what to do. I feel trapped in this situation. What do you suggest?

Hi! Due to Covid pandemic, stress, health problems and work to do, in the last 1-2 years I've not worked out consistently, while before I worked out properly. Recently I wanted to stop this situation and I started working out at home: about a month ago I started my first workout sessions, with 10 minutes of cardio (running on threadmill) and some bodyweight exercises. I exercised for 4 days consecutively, along with doing some heavy bioenergetics exercises (for those who don't know, bioenergetics exercises are exercises that make deep muscular tension come to the surface, it's a practice of emotional healing and trauma integration). The fifth day I got sick: fever, cold, sore throat (sore throat is also a side effect of bioenergetics exercises if you do exercises for the neck area). I also resulted positive to covid. So I rested 2 weeks. However I sensed that those symptoms could also have been due to the stress that exercise put on me. So I decided to restart working out more slowly. About a week ago I started with 10 minutes of light cardio, running on a threadmill, and I planned to do a month or two doing only that daily, maybe slowly increasing the speed. However yesterday, after 4 days of training I got sick again, but the symptoms were less intense. I tested for covid and the results were negative. So, what is happening? I've never experienced being sick after training so little. I mentioned that in the last years I had health problems. However I recently did a complete bloodtest and everything was fine. Checked thyroid, hormones, B9, B12, D3, iron, and other stuff. I also supplement with D3, B12 and other B vitamins daily. However it might be adrenal fatigue, because since September 2021, after a very stressful and long period, I've been having energy crashes after lunch. Does anybody have some insight on this? Should I rest more, and wait before starting working out again? However the more I wait, the worse my health is going to be. Thanks!

@Osaid Thanks! @Michael569 I'll PM you. @Asayake I'm not vegan. I used to be lacto-ovo-vegetarian, I've been it for 2 years, I stopped being it almost a year ago. Could be a vitamin/mineral deficiency due to stress, or too little calories. Thank you