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@Identity As long as you enjoy the journey, it's good

Soooo many awesome books to read, thanks so much for throwing another one to the hoard

Just don't use this attitude as an excuse to not talk to girls A developed person is probably not shy and it's very funny to talk to them sometimes, you don't necessarily need to manipulate them or anything

You are basically blaming your ego for everything, stop that immediately. I see that you are commited to change yourself, so this is the plan. Stop thinking of the ego as some sort of a devil sitting on your shoulder or a second person - these are all tricks. Just go and do something NOW, if you want to become healthy, just go to the kitchen and prepare something healthy, it's not that hard. Your problem is, that you aren't seeing the importance of homeostasis, you are blaming it, and you are living in the future, that's all.

No one guarantees that this transformation will finish after 50 years, it's just an arbitrary number... I hope that people will break out of their material paradigms as soon as possible, which will cause this evolution from chasing profit to providing love and support probably. If you would've wanted to run a business in the Czech Republic where I live a couple years ago, it will get stolen by the government, that was highly affected by Russian communists, now it's quite possible to do it, anything can happen, it just doesn't feel real now.

This guy had to try freakin' everything Whatever you do, don't jump from vegan onto keto onto carnivore onto 3 week fast ended with a raw egg, please Meat is not the answer probably...

@NoSelfSelf Exactly But I still cannot handle small talk, like when someone asks me how was school or what did I do that day... I'm always like I watched Leo talking about cumming into your own vagina and conceiving yourself! But they wouldn't like that My friend actually did it once.

@NoSelfSelf That's a good insight But sometimes, people want you to be serious and compassionate you know... Maybe you don't like talking to certain people, because you either have some deep problem, that is holding you back, or you feel like you cannot express yourself authentically in their company, that is a very common problem - That's why I like 1 on 1 conversations more, because we have equal space to talk and listen.

I am not an expert, but I think that a good side of this is, that by eating only meat, you quit sugar, bread, dairy etc...

Nothing is necessary It's on you! I actually do this too, but maybe stop analyzing women? My friends for example have totally different taste for girls than I do, but I wouldn't say that they are deluded, because they don't see, that their girlfriends don't have the „necessary“ traits... Of course, honesty is very important, but it all kind of happens naturally, you probably don't have to think about it that much

We once played Chinese whispers with friends and someone told me something absolutely hilarious and I couldn't stop laughing for like 5 minutes straight, maybe more. (this isn't even an exaggeration!) @Charlotte I have the same type of laugh almost always, especially at tests, when I don't know anything, I burst out @Gerhard I also laugh like a madman when my mind is clear! So at least I know, that it isn't just me now I also laugh at my own jokes with friends, but they actually enjoy it, some could say that it is weird, but they like the way Iaugh, they say that it looks very joyful

Hey guys, I just want to ask you - can someone heal from a stomach problem via fasting? I mean, I am slowly healing, but sometimes I feel like I am not hungry at all, but still, my dad is telling my to at least eat some bread with ham, pasta etc., which is only making it worse for me. (according to my feeling) My dad is literally telling me to not be interested in health. I understand, that he works as a graphics designer and he designs book covers for all the bullshiting diet books, but then he is just too skeptical. My doctor, who's advice he trusts, had cancer twice in her life. How do I overcome this? Is it a good idea to maybe have a 1 day water fast?

@theking00 Sahil Pandit has a good list, don't underestimate journaling, I've made the mistake of saying to myself, that it is kind of weird thing to do, but it makes a huge difference. The other habits are self-explanatory, I could add having meaningful conversations with friends, that produce practical results in your life

If you remembered every life before this one, you would've most likely gone insane. Most people cannot handle the crap they have been through in one life time, imagine, they that could remember 100 times more bad memories... It's good that we do not have this ability

@ValiantSalvatore Thanks, I will definitely check that out.

Hey guys, I did some journalling and contemplation work and I realized, that my thinking style is still very rational. Even though I understand counter-intuitiveness, irrationality and other topics, I still try to rationalize them and describe them intellectually in my mind. I also probably still have a problem with embodying them. Before, I was self-decepted into thinking, that I am yellow-green mostly, but after seeing my thoughts on a paper and after reading SD book, I am pretty sure that I have a lot of work to do to get there, at least in cognitive line of development. Therefore, I was discussing with my friend, who I consider more developed than me, what are the limits of thoughts, when should we try to understand something intellectually, and which thoughts are necessary and which are completely useless. (I learned that thoughts that lead to action are very good and thoughts that don't do that tend to be useless, but there is probably more to explore there) This led me to another thought about all this - how do I move from stage orange into green in this line of my life? I should probably start by distinguishing, when it's ok to take things logically and when it is dumb (love). But then? What more is to this? What does yellow look like, is it THAT intellectual? What is actually useful to master? I see many people doing pick-up, including Leo in the past, but I don't really resonate with it... How much am I missing by neglecting this for example? What are some other things like this? What is there to develop and transcend at every stage?

@Eric Tarpall You actually triggered a thought in me... Stop identifying yourself with the future. Can you do anything in the future? No, you can't, there is only now. By thinking, that somewhere in the future will appear a sudden shift, that makes you a chick magnet... man that's not gonna happen. Do the best that you can now, there is no other time to practice than now

By opening yourself up, you become a better man

I think I understood what you all meant correctly, no need to explain yourselves

@Simke Also, don't set any limits for yourself in terms of relationships, love is not rational. I actually have a group of friends who are excellent physicists, but they have never had a girlfriend in their life and they don't know what love is about... By choosing your girlfriend according to some logical reasoning, man... it will suck I actually remember a story, where a girl in my class was making a decision between me and another boy and she chose him, because he had a better phone Then they broke up and I started dating her lol. (we were 9 yo)

@Mu_ This is so true wow... Thanks

@Simke Try watching some Katie Byron. In my case, it feels stupid to have any problems with others, because if I write the problem down on paper (so it doesn't remain slippery in the mind) and I go deep enough, while being 100% honest with myself, I have the exact same problem, sometimes only in different area. It's like when Ron wanted to cure Malfoy in the movie you know... What do you talk about with the girls? Telling people what to do is not a good approach. Very few people enjoy complicated topics as well, because they don't bring many emotions to the surface... Now. Get a paper and a pen, write down: Girls that I like have a very low consciousness. And try to find in yourself - Where am I not conscious enough? Where am I getting self-decepted?

@Elysian Thanks so much for the effort you are putting into this. I will dm you.

@Pilgrim I actually hate physics, chemistry etc., but I like seeng the big picture, the map, where I can go. I am probably not suffering too much, my mental health is getting better and better But this spiral thing, when I see other people knowing so much about it, I always feel like a beginner and I also want to explore all this things, but I feel like I cannot even trust my mind at this point, because I got self-decepted so many times in my life. When I think about it, finding these problems in my life is kind of easy, it only takes me to grab a pen and start writing down my thoughts, then it gets much more clear.

@Elysian I am even more lost now, but this is getting really interesting