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You are bending over backwards for other people too much, that's toxic behavior. Just get friends naturally, if you just want more friends for the sake of having them, none of them is gonna be a true friend. Actually, I only had like 1 quality friend, but now when we have been supporting each other and going out, we met more people and became able to converse with more developed people and have more fun, it's really not that hard at all. Maybe you are just introverted, because your friends suck and you cannot be honest around them.

@Moreira You are fucking crazy dude

@Ampresus I am terribly bad at skiing too man, I absolutely feel your pain. But sometimes, you have to learn things the hard way and I think it's the best way. I couldn't go down a hill without falling, until I actually let go of the fear, you are whining too hard man. Let go of this young age excuse and this „people can kiss my ass“ thing. You are gonna feel much better.

Well said, beginner mindset always. If you are too pride, the Universe will find a way to fuck you up for sure

@Yonkon Of course you can fuck someone up... the hug there was good in my opinion though I know what you mean by aggressive male compassion, I sometimes also overdo it... Try to listen without judging, I know you can get annoyed a bit sometimes, but in general, love and peace is a better fuel than rage. You can even point something out „aggressively“ with compassion and unconditional love and it works well, at least for me. It can happen very often, that your clients live in a totally different reality than you do, so you kind of have to grow with them in my opinion.

@ExodiaGearCEO Go get an interesting life for your own sake, not for someone else's sake. Do you have any reasons for not having an interesting life? Are you against it? @Haloman Calm down dude. You only see what you want to see - it can be otherwise, if you stop assuming, that the world is all about surival of the fittest.

@Bojan Sorry man

@Bojan I meant This is the best time to be alive, but ok Love is very important.

@LoveandPurpose Do you actually feel like everyone is on their journey or are you just saying it? Investigate this, it is powerful. Sure, it definitely was worth a try Toxic motivation is a lack of presence, love, compassion, honesty and transparency, like pick up for example - manipulating girls just to have sex with them. I like looking at people who are in the 10th ox-herding picture, just being there for people. I think Shinzen Young shared a nice example in his mini series about these pictures Not trying to look cool by teaching these things, just listening and flowing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ozca_5ifwQ0

Leo is right, you really have to become a master. Also be careful about choosing your life purpose before trying many things. This can also be an ego trap of wanting to tell everyone what to do and control them. Consider these.

It sounds like something Eckhart Tolle would say

@LoveandPurpose I understand what you meant there... I don't think, that my friend is weird, she is kind of different, not interested in spirituality, but you can learn from literally anyone. By her saying this I discovered that maybe it's not ideal to try to spread the Truth and control other's lives and this understanding is deeper and deeper as time goes on. It's like serving meat to a teethless child. I want to say that maybe you were aiming too high or there was some other toxic motivation behind it... I think that talking about things like this with people who are genuinely interested is much more rewarding.

@LoveandPurpose Of course, I no longer do it If I had to choose a presentation now, I wouldn't do spirituality...

@iamnotahumanbeing you cannot go beyond love and presence, I think it's the highest stage

@LoveandPurpose Was it like they wanted you to talk about it, or have you sort of invited yourself? My friend called me a toxic narcissist after telling her just from my curiosity... Maybe not the best idea.

As long as you don't become a zen devil and don't misuse your mind, I think it's all right. Maybe stage green is a good indicator in my opinion

@Anton Rogachevski Let go of intention and narcissism

Hm... interesting to see other people with this problem I used to be incredibly needy for love, but now when I'm not, pretty girls are hitting on me, but I don't feel like I need them in my life. Even though the date goes well, we have similar hobbies, sense of humor, she is pretty and smart... I don't feel anything. I'm 15, but it's kind of weird, because other people in my age are like exploring their sexuality, but I'm kind of stagnating with it hahaha.

Oh, I also meant that, maybe I should've put it into quotation marks... But I think that sounds mean too, because it's just not his reality. You're like the top best package for him (if he is a needy guy) and he doesn't see any better you know. Thanks <3 You sound awesome as well

There are many good metaphors for life in the Bible

@Joshuas Hey buddy! I will give you advice in the areas of life that I feel like I know. That means that I won't be advising you about relationships, because I am a single teenager, who has dated like 1 girl Your days lack structure: Get a regular sleep schedule of 7 to 8 hours of sleep. This will help you tremendously, trust me. Then say to yourself: what are the things that I really have to do? (school, sleeping, eating maybe you have some more) Then go from the last thing (for example: going to sleep, 10 pm) and ask yourself what do you want to do. For example: I go to sleep at 10 pm, so I have to stop doing all the other things at 9 pm, so I can stretch, read, meditate, take a shower... (have a solid morning/evening routine like this) Always work on one thing at a time (you are probably trying to fix too many things and that's why you get slapped), but never miss a day, it's your new mandatory thing. You can write something like: I will meditate and stick it on your door. You aren't satisfied with your friends: I struggled with this as well, my friends started so drink, smoke, party etc... and I didn't like it. I never drank or smoked, but I still went to parties. Honestly, it felt meh, so now I feel like not going there. Maybe you feel like that also with your friends, but you are affraid to just leave the group or spend a lot more time in it - go for it. I don't think that people are gonna care that much, and if they do, they probably aren't good friends. Instead, ask other people here on forum, chat them up, start new hobbies to meet new people... Having more developed older friends can benefit you so much, because they have maybe went through the problems that are bothering you and they can offer you some help. Also, watch Leo's video on death contemplation and DO THE EXERCISE to find out, how serious are you really about improving your life? You might even hape like a mystical experience or feel really uncomfortable, but it's a very effective method

@LoveandPurpose Get on nofap asap, there has been nothing that has helped me so much with anxiety. From the beginning you will feel like a god, then it will kind of slow down, but still it's worth it, there is so much creative energy that you are wasting. Nowadays I feel like this sense of awe in my stomach and it's just amazing, you can channel that energy to do so many things. You are wasting your life if you are still fapping man Also, you brain is programmed to do these short term „investments“, that suck in the long run. I do this and after it I feel more open, compassionate and loving. There is a big freaking difference in my mood when I don't practice this. Don't expect this to be easy, it takes time to build a good life, but it's worth it. It's like a rowing race, you have to be precise and powerful, but also consistent.

@Peo Do you do the work or are you just asking questions?

@LoveandPurpose I see, presence works in any situation What about activating fourth chakra, it always helps me Also, are you on nofap?

You guys seem to know him better than I do Good to learn something new