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Yeh this is nothing to laugh about. Isn't playing in a band kind of creative though? Do you have like a musical instrument at home or something? You could try playing together I don't knooow, but you you can surely come up with something, there have been some good suggestions here.

I was just teasing. Perhaps she is not being judged and she does not need you not to judge her, perhaps she wants something else, like fun. You don't have to listen to everything she says, she is not your parent and you are not her child.

He was banned yes, he is back now luckily. And I don't think things like that happen too often on this forum, most of the bans are spammers. I was trying to say that the person who banned electroBeam banned them for like an actually quite serious reason one should not just overlook. I think he was talking about taking some extremely high doses of psychedelics that might be dangerous. By the way there are people on this forum who became schizophrenic because of taking too much mushrooms, I spoke to them. Doesn't seem pleasant at all in my opinion. I don't know how much I can trust the people who go down the psychedelic path to consider the safety measures etc. but then it is something that is not just a small issue. It's just that Leo mentions so many of the safety measures that probably most people don't even follow, so somebody talking about tripping on such a high dose might really mess somebody's life up if they are like confused in this matter. And just look around, there are quite a few trip reports of people saying "I wish I didn't try to take a shortcut with psychedelics", but like Leo mentioned that they shouldn't do heavy doses right off the bat. I am glad he is back, but I just have to keep repeating this, because I think this thing about electroBeam wasn't just black and white kind of situation as most people see it. Although I love electroBeam so much and I like to have him on this forum, I also feel the need to defend the moderator. Unfortunately I have to second this, and I mean, the mods really do give people a second chance if they screw up. There are people here who have about like 5 different warnings. (At that point they are still not banned! How many more warnings do they want?) I don't know how serious of an issue is this. As Forestluv mentioned, people get small warnings and they would need like a lot of them in order to get banned. And when somebody makes a serious mistake, it is quite obvious. This is actually so accurate. Thank you. Could we make a conclusion that we want people of this forum to express their opinions more by reporting users (there are only a few users that use the report function frequently, big thank you to those) or DMing mods and Leo about serious concerns? Also that users should not be as afraid of getting banned, because it requires many warnings to arrive at that and also warnings can be taken away from a user if we see an improvement in behavior? (this has happened) Probably the only issue with getting a warning is that it might be a reason for Leo not to choose to make a person a moderator in a future, which is something many people want for some reason. (I mean it is some work, it does not make your life better, it does not make you more conscious... why would you want to become a mod?) Any more conclusions?

It is not wise at all to skip dating, I mean, it is essentially learning about the other person. You don't want to just go into an unexplored territory. Doesn't seem like a good idea at all.

Bro speak to girls. You are not fucked at all! Just get rid of the neediness and low self-worth and you can do whatever. I think shy girls still like sex and all these things. Maybe you are just unable to make them playful, or they just don't want anything.

I think maybe all of you guys on this thread have different definitions of what being a troll means, so I do not really know what to take away from this. Usually the kind of members you are describing though get banned in terms of hours. You are definitely underestimating the hard work some of the mods here put into detecting these individuals. It is hard to imagine for a regular user what it is like to be a moderator, I mean, a moderator does not have time to check all the threads and detect all of the trolls. But if you guys detect somebody like that, just report them, there is the option to do that and it makes the job for all the moderators much easier.

I think you are right on this. Maybe I don't trust the odds of any party turning out to be a good one, so I just end up doing different things instead x) Well yeh I don't do either. And I guess I would enjoy a different kind of party with a different kind of people and hot girls. I like deep conversations for sure and I believe there can be a balance between partying and talking about deep stuff. Yeh bro I totally get you, if the OP wants to party then sure I hope they go for it. I was just trying to give them another perspective. I don't judge any type of person who isn't cisgender straight. Partying can certainly be seen as spiritual, just like anything.

@Striving for more Yes, I made some money there. It is very easy to get clients - Tutoroo finds them for you, take all the profit for the first 2-4 lessons and then all the money goes to you, that's their business model. Then you just need to schedule a meeting and convince them that they want to continue with you. If they end up not enjoying your classes, half of the money they paid to Tutoroo for connecting them with you goes to you. Teaching is quite hard so be prepared for every lesson you give.

Hehe I am getting the feel that our OP will be unable to follow any advice haha

Could you please educate me? Sure it definitely has its benefits, but some people enjoy being reached out to. Sometimes that can be a distraction from growth but not always. Also some people do not have friends, or they want to connect with people who are interested in spirituality and they have not yet met anyone near them. That's good too, people are here for different reasons. Please not that electrobeam, even though I am glad he was brought back, was banned for quite reasonable reasons in my opinion, and I definitely feel for the person who banned him. Super large doses of psychedelics can be very dangerous.

@Proserpina I cannot really judge because I did not see the post, I hope you understand. But yeah I guess oftentimes people here, not only Leo, are very unsensitive. I kind of get it why Leo may be pushing the Truth so much, unconsciousness causes great suffering everywhere, but then I am not sure whether this is the best way. Does this forum help you with solving your emotional issues? Do you think it should? I am just saying this because there is nobody responsible for you here, I hope you know this. I am not saying this because I do not care about your well-being, but then you cannot really think that someone here is responsible. Maybe don't spend time here or just spend it differently, doing only the things that work? (I am trying to make suggestions because I am not convinced that there can be a big revolution on this forum around mental health) I think if people knew each other more well here, which is maybe impossible, and listened to each other and learned about each others' life conditions, that would make them grow a lot, like not just learning some models and putting people into boxes but actually interacting. I mean both tools are useful but then yeah there is balance and transcendence. There are so many opportunities for growth here that people do not see.

@Proserpina Maybe Leo assumes you want to know some truth if you are here on this forum, and pushing that truth onto people never works if they don't want it themselves. I think sometimes being harsh on people is a good way to motivate them though, it totally depends. Leo has never seen your reaction to what he says I assume, so maybe it is hard for him to predict, I mean, he does not interact with viewers face to face right. Are you able to forgive him? Do you get the sense that he has been self-reflecting in the past few days and maybe he is getting better at this? @Claymoree What do you mean?

@Proserpina Did a moderator do that? Or did some other person do that in a presence of a moderator that did not act responsibly enough in your opinion?

It is quite something and the answer is yes, they will twist it to a whole new level and yes you cannot predict anything. But then I read in a book that was talking about this (underground psychedelic therapist who had a LOT of experience with couples) that if you just make your intentions clear to each other before the trip, that it should get rid of the anxiety altogether So I guess don't try to play cool just discuss it, trust me please. You have no idea so just talk it through with her. It seems like you too talk well and it shouldn't be a problem, and if it should be a problem, then not talking about it will only make it bigger. Yes please don't pressure her, you might seriously regret it. Overall I think your previous experiences will help a lot with this and maybe I am exaggerating but it is because some less experienced people might be reading this you know... Good luck and I wish it goes well and you experience what you need to experience.

You are smart not to assume there will not be sex. I think Leo never talks about this in his psychedelic videos (maybe because he discourages people from tripping in groups, but I still think some people might be too afraid of doing it alone so I don't trust someone to listen to this advice, although I think it is a good advice... this still needs to be discussed, because it might freak out people with AND without traumas around sexuality!), but many people start having intrusive sexual thoughts and they start thinking about having sex even with people they would never consider. It can look like: "I am so One that I need to multiply myself, I cannot handle this. Oh, reproduction, sounds like a solution!" Maybe I am insane to be writing this, but definitely make it clear before the trip, it might turn into some horrors. But if you do have sex, I think it might be amazing because you might also experience increased sensitivity, compassion, even telepathy. I just don't know what it might do to your brain chemistry. Amazing question though.

Guys you are free to discuss this idea, I think it might help if you point at something very serious. I believe in you. I used to be a regular member myself so maybe I can relate and put some ideas out there myself, but I have been living in this moderator body kind of for some time now and the forum has changed since then. So please talk, otherwise this will go into waste.

@Valach Have you actually tried partying? For some people maybe partying works, but I tried like three times and it felt super shallow and full of trying to impress, acting cool etc. There are other good things out there just saying, that you can want, don't let what you want be limited to what others tell you they want. I started actualizing when I was super young and I hated things like alcohol and drugs because of my father's cigarette addiction I wanted him to quit. I never smoked myself, but then I am glad I at least tried partying a few times so that I now know that it is something I do not want from my life. Trying out once and creating your own opinion, seeing if it resonates, doesn't cost you almost anything. (unless you do something like heroine I guess you are not that stupid) This is just my perspective though, it might work for you, but please try. Also don't be afraid of not fulfilling your needs, there is not one way to actualize yourself, there is not one way to connect with people, not one way to get a girlfriend. There are so many opportunities for you to do this. Just choose the one that suits you. One of my best friends stopped partying and thanked me for showing him a new way to live. But then it was his decision, his good feeling that guided him, to do something instead of something else. Maybe not even searching for the truth is something you want, even though searching for falsehood sounds dumb. Perhaps you are not even that confused as you think you are. I mean, would you like to become a horse trainer? Would you like to become a homeless person? Would you like to become an astronaut? Maybe yes, maybe not, probably if you wanted that you would've already known. But if you say no, then that tells you at least something about your direction. Maybe what could help would be exploring very exotic things, talking to people who come from different environments than you (there are plenty on this forum just DM them) and thus getting your values and opinions challenged and questioned. I think it is a good way to figure out what you want. What you want is in you, I think you are just feeling confused honestly. It is hard to know what you want if you don't answer that question.

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It's ok, misunderstandings happen everywhere. I wonder where you come from. Preety_India might be more sensitive to this, because she as an Indian encounters unfairness that is not caused by a lack of self-reflection everyday I can imagine. Imagine seeing a modern skyscraper next to a dumpster and a slum. That's what India is like. Yes, but please still think about what you actually come to the person with. Spend a day just thinking about it, self-reflection. Some moderators have family lives, work to do etc. and they just will not read something that does not show empathy, self-reflection or any good arguments. Perhaps reading the guidelines would help you to understand better what is allowed and what is not, although naturally not all the things that can possibly happen can be included there. Perhaps discussing what a serious concern means could bear some fruit?

@Thittato You have no control over her. Also consider that she might be trying to avoid your best friend getting jealous by hanging out with you. This is most likely much more important to her than the thing with you being jealous or whatever, she does not give a damn.

@RendHeaven I think she is maybe less biased than you think, I know Preety_India doesn't see all mods as abuser guys/girls. Also I don't think Preety_India herself is a target of this abuse, I get the sense that she is talking about other people. For example Javfly33 created a thread in which he wanted to learn about relationships (and it was pretty obvious his mindset was not a victim mindset, therefore his thread is alive), but thought it is a victim thread and posted something like "before this thread gets banned for being a victim thread, I'd like to say so and so...". This is an important point, Leo spends his own resources to run this forum. I don't know if some of the users realize this, it's great that you do. There have been some forums in the past that got so corrupted by low-consciousness users that it went out of control and no number of mods could stop the situation, the forum had to be shut down. I can send a link to some articles about this if you are interested. This HAS happened in the past on other forums and it is one of the reasons Leo is so strict. This is very true. And there is a variety in the population of mods on this forum, they are of different ages, life experiences, genders, areas of expertise... For example if I went to preach about nutrition and exercise instead of Michael569 that would be very dangerous. But maybe I know more about anime than him. It's not like all the mods are perfectly evolved human beings whatever that means and they are always right in the advice they give and what they say, nor do I think the mods think that about themselves, although I might be wrong here. Just be mindful of this, the mods are also mindful of the fact that the users are coming from different places. I think certainly you can, especially if your concerns are serious. That's a good idea, I can see how that would work in some cases. There are some issues with that though, for example some people just cannot withstand criticism and also, most of the people who are being banned are spammers and discussing about banning them is a waste of time.

This reminded me of a paragraph I read in a book (The River Between, Ngugi wa Thiong'o) some time ago: First of all let me say [that] writing out of ideological convictions, of course, is very important. One has important ideas that arouse one’s anger, passion [and] commitment. . . . But of course when one is actually writing fiction or poetry and so on it is very important that one lets those ideas emerge from concrete reality. . . . In other words, to try and not necessarily impose those ideas on the situation. . . . So the fictional narrative has to be artistically compelling to the reader and I would say this is a challenge to fiction writers. Because there is no way we can simply impose your views, your ideology, no matter how much you are convinced of that ideology, onto a situation. Rather the situation concretely should be the one that generates those ideas. Here the author talks about creative writing basically, But I think it kind of applies to your situation. It is very hard to change someone's mind if they are not open to changing their mind, I would say impossible. You cannot make some thirsty for the truth, that's very desperate. It can be painful and hard for people to search for truth even when they genuinely want it, and if they don't want, it becomes a nearly impossible task. For example, I come from a country where there is probably more gender equality than in most other countries (Europe), and this reality for me made me question whether feminism is actually necessary etc. because I never saw women struggling very hard because of how they are. Feminists legit triggered me, I didn't understand where they are coming from. In this book I quoted from Ngugi wa Thiong'o writes about how in a certain African tribe, both men and women are being circumcised because of cultural beliefs. (for men this practice is kind of ok, even beneficial, but for women it can cause all sorts of deadly infection, make it impossible for them to feel pleasure etc.) I had to actually check whether this was real because it seemed too disgusting to be true. It definitely changed my views because it was simultaneously pointing at a problem and also speaking to something in me that I was already familiar with.

@Someone here Whether you can have a conversation with someone doesn't have any epistemological value. Being able to hold a conversation doesn't make you an authority. It doesn't help you with knowing anything. It doesn't mean you are right or anything like that. Nahm can toss away everything, he is a very strong guy

@Raptorsin7 Bro I don't think this works. I have a couple of friends who rely on psychedelics and they are just becoming miserable. Quality over quantity, if you wanna continue with psychs, don't try to take them often and think like it will make things better if you do that, listen to your feeling what it says, what works for you. I don't think experience or change of state helps ever, there needs to be further growth and learning.

Please guys actually study something about history and think about it before you write on here. You have so many ideas and you overlook many things.