Lutalica

Kristin Neff: The Three Components of Self-Compassion Common humanity is hands down my biggest challenge in the journey of self-compassion. As Kristin Neff puts it in the video although of course I logically know we all suffer, when I find myself suffering I always tend to feel alone in my suffering triggering feelings of isolation, which causes me to further isolate my self and don’t seek the support that I need in myself and others. During the past week I’ve been doing some self-compassion meditations, and informal practices during the day, and I believe I already feel some subtle changes.

Thank you @Zeroguy !

I run into this today and I think it helped me take the decision to start this journal: https://brenebrown.com/resources/manifesto-of-the-brave-and-brokenhearted/

I’ve been thinking of starting a public journal for a while but have been resisting to the idea, because it makes me feel so terribly uncomfortable. I even wrote a first entry once and never posted it. I’m not in a very good place right now, and feel I really need to find a way to communicate myself. I’m now retaking the life purpose course (which I bought 5 years ago and never finished) and working on Mindfulness Self-Compassion. I have no idea what this journal could evolve to, but I believe it will help to keep myself accountable. It might get personal or it might be just me sharing things I’m learning and inspire me.

@Harry Thanks for the advice! I did this last night and it turned out being super effective! Not only did a I repeat the phrase before going to sleep, but the moment the alarm went off in the morning I started repeating it out loud, and suddenly the horrible feeling of having to get out of bed somehow dissipated. I find that other useful tips can be: - Drink a glass of water first thing in the morning, this hydrates you and is proven to kickstart your metabolism. - Wash your face with cold water to feel more awake. - Having a morning routine you look forward to. If I’m not excited about my day, focusing only in the first things I’ll do in the morning really helps. This things can be: meditating, working out, reading something inspiring, watching a motivational video, or preparing something special for breakfast . Even if I have to wake up earlier to do so, I feel much less sleepy and more positive the rest of the day than if I’d slept one more hour. - Write down the night before your schedule for the morning, so the moment you get up, you know exactly what to do, and you don’t lose time making decisions, even the very simple ones. Also leave everything you might need prepared the day before.

Although now I’m really committed to self help and life-long learning, it hasn’t always been this way. There were times earlier in my life where I wanted to change things about myself and tried to read a self- help book , but it didn’t really get to me. Or it did, but I couldn’t figure out how to put it into practice effectively, and found it really frustrating. It probably wasn’t the right time for me, or the information I needed in that particular moment. What is helpful for me right now, probably wasn’t back then. The people who say they don’t have enough time to watch a 60 minute video, probably don’t know what this could do for them, or how it could lead to transform their lives. If they knew, if they really understood, they’d watch it. Telling someone to watch or read something which you “know” would be helpful for them, is going to be of no use to this person if he/she hasn’t previously felt the need to change. I can see how relaxing for an hour watching your favorite show after a day of work, can seem much more convenient than spending the same time watching a self-help video if you can’t see its benefit. Not so long ago I also acted this way. I have changed a lot since, and I’m so thankful for it, because although this change is due to a lot of effort and dedication on developing myself, if I hadn’t been triggered in a certain moment to have an inner realization which made me commit to a life long journey of self development I could still be this person watching TV. I think it’s almost impossible to really internalize all information in all of Leo’s videos. Even if you sit, analyze them, and take notes, it requires intentional and constant practice of these concepts during a long period of time to really change yourself. Even if something is just adding to the knowledge-graph, I believe that’s useful (as long as you don’t misunderstand the information). Just by knowing a certain concept exists, I may go back to it in the future when I can really benefit from it.