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So, i came across this "Breatharian" people. They basically claim they do not need food nor drink to survive. They use the "energy from the air" as food and claim that this is all you need to survive. Does anyone know about this? Is it fake? Experience?

You put too much importance on that little detail. The weight you put on it is so big that the thought keeps coming back because you connect such a big load of fear / ? to it. Trick is to stop giving importance to that scar / thought. Just accept yourself as you are. Look in the mirror, look at the scar and be confident. Accept yourself as who you are and that little scar is a part of you. Once you accept what is, and once you realize that thinking bad about that scar will only result in you feeling bad, but not resolve anything, the thought should fade away. Like Eckhart Tolle puts it, thoughts are like entities. They need energy to survive. Everytime you give energy to the thought, it grows bigger, and you keep it alive. Stop giving energy / focus to it, and it will die.

I went to a psychiatrist today. She came to tell me, after 30 mins of talking, that I suffer from "autism". I never ever imagined me to have that. Not sure what to do with this information... And I don't like the sound of it? Anyone any experience with it? This is a whole new level than I previously thought

@Nahm I remember you told me. It's the same as bipolar disorder right? I'm glad you found your way back, dear friend! Now it's up to me.

Thank you all for taking time to reply to me! However, I don't identify with the label. That's why I said that I am not sure what to do with it. It was just another label slammed at my head and I just couldn't really grasp the idea of it. But it did interest and confused me of course, since that's not what I thought I would've diagnosed with as a condition. Ill read your replies soon, busy studying now. Thanks again guys

So last few months were some of the worst months in my life when it comes to mental health. I was so deeply identified with my thoughts that came from a bad situation, that I could not see a way out. I had a feeling of constant stress, could feel physical pain in my heart, had shortage of breath. Could not really do anything, could barely clean my own room, had a hard time getting up, even showering was a hard task. I was so caught up in my thoughts, that I thought they would never go away. I tried to "debunk" them, tried to rationalize them. But when I finished doing that, they all came back and I just could not stop thinking about them. The same thoughts were always present, constantly, as hard as I tried "let them go". I tried writing about them, tried meditation, talked about them with my family, but they still hung onto me. That's when I realized I was doing it wrong all along. Instead of following the train of thought, jumping on the train and trying to get rid of the root by analyzing them and "debunking them", I just had to stop giving them any attention or focus. So, when these same thoughts pop up again, I look at them, and don't go into it. I am like a "silent watcher". The same thoughts still pop up occasionally, probably because I thought about them non-stop for the past 7 months. (and with non-stop I mean every single moment of the day, they were always present). Now, since I started being an observer, my headspace feels so "empty", that it is sooo easily filled up with anything else now. (I know it sounds kind of like a paradox) I am trying to focus but I get distracted by the slightest thing. (I have been diagnosed with ADD so that could be the reason), but it is worse than ever. Instead of giving attention to my headspace, there's so much room that came free now, that so many impulses are triggering it. I see a word and it makes me think of a story, I open youtube to play a song and I dream away of old stories. I see an interesting video and article and I want to know all about it. Like these are not "bad thoughts" anymore, but the triggers are so overwhelming that is hard to focus on what is in front of me right now (my thesis, my exams). Could it be that, because of the fact that there was no room for any other thoughts than these worries I had, they are all attacking me all at once? Does meditation help? I don't want to take medication like adderall / rilatin cause it makes me feel like a zombie

@WelcometoReality I went to a psychiatrist today.. After 30 mins of talking she said that I suffer from autism..? I never thought about that

@Serotoninluv Love that! Exactly! Doing that right now.

@YaNanNallari And yes, they indeed came from a bad feeling. @Privet Thank you! I will implement that strategy!

@YaNanNallari Alright , I understand! But Still not sure what you mean with that, because it sounds paradoxal to me. On one hand you say "don't judge identification", which I understand. But then you say, "you'll notice how it starts to get draining to hang onto them eventually." Do you mean that it starts to get draining to hang onto your thoughts? Yes, that's what I suffered from, and I am trying not to do that by not identifying with these specific thoughts. Hope it makes sense?

@nethernalbeing <3

@nethernalbeing Yeah. There's so much sensation now, Ill try. it's like my energy levels just reversed. I was soooo low on energy and now I am SPIKING. Thanks for the tips, fellow being

@YaNanNallari What do you mean? Identification with thoughts = hanging onto them.

@nethernalbeing It's so unwanted right now though. I need intense focus to obtain my university degree. I don't want to deal with this stuff right now but it is so overwhelming I am not sure how to handle it. I am glad I could lose the "grip" on those worries I had before. I was suffering so deeply, and all of it is gone almost now. But I am still having a very hard time focussing.

@Leo Gura I don't really agree with that statement. Ok, extroverts usually have more friends and can more easily talk to people, it doesn't mean they don't have as many close friends as introverts would have. For me for example, I have 3-4 very close and deep friendships, and lots of other more "shallow" friendships. It's more like an and/and instead of or/or

What is your guys view on Maslow's hierarchy of needs vs self-actualization? Self-actualization is on the top of Maslow's hierarchy and the rule is that all other steps must be fulfilled before reaching the top shelf. These include, as you all probably know, food, shelter, warmth, security, sense of belonging. This means that self-actualization is dependent on all of this previous steps. If one of these falls away, you will no longer feel fulfilled / alive. (eg. sense of belonging), you'll still be dependent on your friends / family etc. eg if your spouse makes you feel unhappy, treats you badly suddenly, even though you might be happy, suddenly this sense of belonging starts to be in danger, so you drop a "step". You will try to fulfill this step again, and try to move up again, like a Jo-Jo. What is your view on this?

@Leo Gura No, I meant to say "According to Maslow, the rule is.."

@Nahm Lol I was meditating with headphones while listening to music and I heard a sound didn't know where it was coming from but it was you quoting me. Something silly just happened, I was getting deeper into my meditation and then I juts felt my arm sting, and I felt some tingly feeling in my arm. I thought it might be an effect of meditating, that inner feelings are being externalized or something I don't know. I just look at my arm now and it was just a big mosquito sting now my arm is itching like crazy

@Nahm I guess it's mostly because of the fuss going on about enlightenment. And also the idea of "meditation" in the other section is very easy to grasp. So it's something where people feel kind of "attracted to", since they are more familiar with these concepts. Self-actualization is something harder to grasp for someone who isn't really knowledgeable maybe? For me, I never heard about self-actualization before visiting this forum.

Exactly how I thought about this. It feels like a lot of people just "ignore" their "problems" or "unfinished business". It's like a foundation that is destined to crumble. It's like building a house on a foundation that is not strong, not solidified, not taken care of. One might be able to live in this bliss for a while, convincing yourself of the opposite, but sooner or later the reality will hit you when this foundation will be challenged. When an unfortunate event will take place, challenging this foundation. Consequently, that beautiful utopia you have built for yourself will crumble to pieces and you'll need to build it up once again, just to fall to pieces once more with each setback. I feel like being honest an genuine to ones-self is very under appreciated. Knowing yourself fully well and working on your own inner demons, learning to live with them and creating an indestructible foundation for you to feel fully alive anywhere, anytime, in any situation.

Thank you very much dear fellow, I will take a look into it! <3 Have a great day, thank you for clearing some of my doubts. Big love.

I get that, but 'sense of belonging' is something that, feels to me, is dependent on the people you surround yourself with, no? If this environment crumbles, it seems like this "sense of belonging" becomes in danger meaning that you're not on the top of the shelf anymore. What if you suddenly become poor and don't have money for food anymore. Is there any room for self-actualizaiton, because the fulfillment of shelter and food would come in danger. Also, how does one complete their unfinished business? Maybe I'm missing something..

Sounds like you're jealous and very bitter to be honest. And what @Truth said. Nothing happened, one should act more 'quick'.

Hey all, I have been diagnosed with AD(H)D and OCD, and to be honest, it can be very very very hard. I haven't been feeling like this for a pretty long time (at least a year), but last few months have been very hard mentally. It feels like my mind/brain is constantly looking for something negative to 'grab onto', and it gets triggered very easily by things that are not 'ideal'. Let me first illustrate this with an easy example: When I have nothing to worry about or hang onto mentally, it can be something very random. Like something I am reading or studying can grasp my attention, like a word that is written bigger than another word. Then I start questioning 'why is this written bigger, it must be more important', so I want to make sure that I read it properly, which creates a 'loop', because I have been 'triggered' by that word. Then I just can't get this word out of my head and I have to convince myself that the word is not all that important to put so much focus onto it, but at the same time I feel like it is and it always somewhere present in my mind. But it can get much worse in real-life situations when something negative (or something I perceive as negative), happens. Don't get me wrong, I am a very positive person, I'm always smiling, love to have fun, have enough friends around. But at the same time I am very sensitive, mostly to people I really care about. When something happens where I feel that I have been disrespected, or maltreated, my mind can really focus on it very deeply and sometimes it is very hard to get out of it. I know the thoughts are irrational, and I know it is me acting stupid, but sometimes I just cannot resist the tricks my mind is playing on me. It is like I always find a reason to go into this negative loop and try to make sense out of a situation, and it puts me in like a zombie-like state. Sometimes my friends catch me in this phase and have to snap their fingers to get me out of it again. It can stick with me for very long. I don't know why it happens. Maybe it is because deep down I am very insecure although I do not feel like I really am. I am confident in my skin, I know how to socialize, I make new friends very easily, no problems talking with girls, etc. But still, when something is unresolved, or I feel like I couldn't say what I had to say in a certain situation; but it feels like everything has already been closed for the other person and they don't want to talk about it anymore, I am stuck there with my negative and mixed feelings, trying to find an escape to let go of my thoughts, but they just stick with me and I have a hard time getting over them. Feeling fully confident that they are irrational and don't matter is something I have a hard time dealing with. Actually, I didn't have it this bad for a long time. But when situations occur I just cannot deal with them properly. This can be applied to situations. But with the 'word', just bugging me for a few minutes to an hour, and situations bugging me for months to years. I am not sure how to deal with it sometimes. I try meditation and it helps me get back my awareness and rational state, but after a while it just all gets back to me.