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Why do you guys only have sex twice a month? I'd say fixing that is more important than getting a video of it so you can masturbate in between sex sessions. Her concerns for privacy are very fair, it's pretty shitty to have a video of you getting fucked leak online and it happens so often.

What are your sticking points? I would say dating programs are mostly only worth it if you're in a phase where you're able and willing to put a lot of effort in and you're not sure what your issues in game are. If you feel like you're in the right place for it though then dating programs are a no-brainer IMO, Hotseat at home is as good as any I'm sure. $500 is actually very little money to get past sticking points in one of the key areas of your life.

I saw Madison live in Calgary and Alex when he was still a part of RSD. Super cool events, way better than the videos. Definitely on my bucketlist to go to a big one in the States and see Owen in person.

We're gonna find out very shortly what happens with AI, in the next 18 months society will be completely different. Right now we're living through a wide scale manhattan project.

Are you sure that this is what you want? What you're talking about is like basic consideration and affection. Men generally don't get this because the average man is not as important societally and potentially dangerous. I think you're greatly overestimating what it feels like to get it though. It's basically what you get making an emotional support post here on Reddit and you have the support of random commenters. I guess it's somewhat nice at times but it's mostly useless. As a man(as a woman you can too but to less extent) you have something much nicer at your disposal; the power to conquer and the status, power, and admiration that comes with it. You don't want your woman to have some basic affection and fondness for you, you want her to admire you. It'll feel 100x better, trust me. What you're describing sounds like a friendzone of sorts, she really does care for and love her beta male friends. It's puppy love though and (IMO) is basically useless.

Try it out and see how it feels. A lot of wanting younger women is not so much how attractive they physically are but what it makes you feel psychologically. Like when you were that age you probably stroke out and now that you're older you come back to make up for lost time type thing. Get your validation. Do it. Fuck some 18-22-year-old girls. See how you like that. Kind of fun to do a couple of times then you realize that once your validation tank is full it's useless and you actually want to find people to connect with. I'm 27 and I'm really attracted to 18 years old girls but it's a very shallow thing. Once I talk to them for a few minutes it usually goes away. I used to work at a restaurant when I was 25-26 and so I had a range of coworkers. The younger ones would look good but I would get crushes on the girls that were 22-26.

Can you elaborate on what in particular surprised you and what you learned?

Sounds like you're trying to rationalize and justify your lack of purpose and romantic success. News flash, you're a low-quality person too. High-quality people don't have trouble dating and having sex. Dating and mingling with "low quality people" is how you learn about yourself, life, and women and ultimately part of what will make you a high quality person. What does that have to do with you? If you want to be productive then start a business on the side. If you want to study then research stuff. College is a place to socialize, mingle and get credentials for a specific career that you want. Take some accountability and self-ownership. If seeing kissing couples trigger you then don't go full sour grapes saying that you're mere spiritual peasants not understand the greater self-development potential in life. That's the most pseudo-spiritual take you could have.

I don't understand your point; can you clarify it?

The first date should be mostly about getting to know on the surface level and building attraction through banter, teasing, etc. A few more dates in is when you should start talking about the future of socialism and weird traumas and deeper conversations.

Definitely common for the depression and existential angst to come out at night. Not sure as to why; it's a strange phenomenon. Here's a song perhaps it'll help.

Question for the other straight men on here(perhaps the women into women as well?) It's a popular sentiment these days to live for more than sex/relationships and to focus on yourself more than women. I agree it's a great short-term strategy but overall if I wasn't motivated by my future relationship with women(either short term like making money/getting fit by summer or in general having my shit together so I can have a long-term relationship and kids) I don't think I would do much nor would life be worth it. I find some things really fulfilling like going on fun adventures with the boys and learning/understanding useful or interesting things. The process of mastering life itself is quite fun as well. I just don't know if it would be enough to make life it considering how hard it is. Like women disappeared tomorrow or somehow I couldn't never date one/sleep with one again, idk how long I'd stay here. Like there have been many times that I've been existentially depressed and wondering what the point was and saw on IG stories of cute girls I know or hot girls in real life and it immediately made me feel better. I'm curious if straight women on here have a similar view of men or if not then what is you core motivation in life like what is the metaphorical juice that makes life worth it for you? Curious if most of you feel like me or if honestly you would quite enjoy life without women anyway and they're more like a cherry on top type of thing.

@NoSelfSelf So what are you motivated by? @Ulax Connection in what context, for what purpose, and with who? Like connection with other men that have similar purposes than yourself so you can bond over the pursuit of your goals? Connection with art lovers so you can ponder on the aesthetic beauty of the universe? Connection with a(or many) women so that you can explore the world together? What connection are you seeking? I have found a lot of connections and they feel just okay to me so I'm not sure what this means to you. @Leo Gura Okay so what does that mean to you? God in which way? If God is everything so that means that you're constantly blissful and satisfied going about your day? Like you're happy just waking up and taking a shit, doesn't matter what happens afterward it's a good day? I don't honestly understand your answer. I feel like I appreciate life more than the average person but just that appreciation is not worth the amount of energy I have to expand to keep myself alive @meta_male Why do you wish it wasn't so? And like if not women then what would make it worth it? Having a beer with the boys? I don't understand. @Girzo Can you give me an example of what those side projects would be? And what do you mean by thinking about civilization's progress? Like you just sit down and ponder these things and this gives you deep satisfaction? Do you discuss this with other people? It also gives me deep satisfaction but not as much as my adventures and connection with women; does it overpower it for you? @Chives99 What does your answer even mean? What gives you the most satisfaction in life? @Byun Sean No pseudo-spirituality please, tell me exactly what makes life good for you. If you say consciousness then fine but what does that mean to you? Meditation? Like you feel down and then you remember that you can meditate after work today and that makes your day better?

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I'm glad that debates and intellectualism are becoming more popular but they really need to iron out a format for it otherwise it always turns into one of the sides just aimlessly ranting. There should be a clear question being posed, a clear context for said question and the positions should be clear as well. Otherwise might as well call this 3 hours of jumbled nonsense, I rather get high and watch anime.

Why do you think it would specifically cause back pain?

@integral Are you suggesting cheating on her or telling her that you now want the relationship to be open? @onacloudynight You can rise up to whatever level you want to. Find the right teachers and never settle. No reason you can't be wealthy, fit and have a great relationship with one or many girls in a few years. @Girzo What is your life purpose that takes up so much time that it prevents you to work on your sex life? If it doesn't appeal you then don't pursue that path but don't lie to yourself saying you're too busy lol.

My friend Lukas watched Leo's critique of Andrew Tate this week, he's a dating coach in Toronto with a decent Tiktok following. He pointed out similarities in their philosophies. I think it's important to point out that there are people in the dating coach world that aren't total charlatans and have integrity. Here's a video he made a few months ago criticizing PUA's: In his tiktok (tiktok.com/@coachlukas) he has videos on the value of integrity and not cheating. Very different from most "Dating Coaches" or "PUAs". @Leo Gura Curious what you think about him.

@gettoefl I you really mean that then you have a lot of work to do. That mentality is stage red. Even stage orange is way beyond zero-sum as they try to make win-win deals with people to get a lot of materialistic gains long-term.

@gettoefl That's a weirdly scarce and zero-sum way of looking at the world. If anything by getting a job or getting money by creating your own business you're creating services and abundance in the world and helping me out. If people didn't spend their life and get millions from building nice hotels or creating restaurants or becoming great software developers and lawyers then I would have nowhere to eat and no websites to use and my country would be in chaos. By taking the girl that I was into you're both giving me the motivation to become a better version of myself and giving me the freedom to find a girl that I'm even more compatible with and would enjoy dating even more.

@Leo Gura Isn't it possible for an awakened sociopath to be one of the most dangerous people imaginable? If you became nondual but from a place of nihilism instead of love, wouldn't you just be like a GTA character that causes mayhem just for the sake of it? I think it's possible to develop intellectual and perhaps brute-force emotional empathy eventually but you have to make a lot of conscious effort in doing so. Otherwise, the concept of awakening without feeling a deep connection to life sounds like a disaster.

@gettoefl Why and when has that been the case in your life? @Bobby_2021 Why are you making peace with it? Why not solve it? And if you can't, is it the suffering of others that you need to make peace with or your own weakness/ignorance/incompetence? Also worth making a distinction between pain and suffering, personally what I call suffering is needless pain that could be avoided if things were structured in a better way. Helpful pain that grows you is obviously a good thing and completely different.

Have you ever thought about having simple quizzes based on the ideas in your content so we and at least you can access the level of exposure to the content and understanding that people have? It could be a simple google sheet that asks people to explain in their own worlds spiral dynamics, nonduality, productive habits, social constructs, etc. I'm not enlightened enough to have discussions with people that don't understand the concept of self-bias, it's very triggering.

You should at the very least have the option of doing so. You should get to a level of game where multiple women that you're attracted to and that you think are cool would be interested in having a relationship with you. This principle used to be the foundation of the game community but I never see it talked about nowadays nor have I met many guys that have achieved it. You're not supposed to date the first girl that you find that you like. That IS SUPPOSED TO come with flaws, red flags, and incompatibilities that you're not equipped to see coming. Often that's literally the first girl that meets your standards that is open to dating you and you end up in a codependent multi-year relationship just as you and your game were about to exponentially increase. Get rid of the jadedness and negativity that you feel right now, that's normal when a relationship ends and is extremely beta for lack of a better word but the idea of dating or at least being able to date multiple women at once is a good idea. Never lie to them and be transparent with your intentions but I have severe fear for any man who decides to settle for a relationship without getting to that point.

Didn't you use to have "My Secret Garden" recommended on the book list? I think it's a common fantasy, probably at least 20-40% of women have actively fantasized about it. Probably only like 5% of them only ever take steps to act it out though. I've done something like that before and it's not my favorite thing but the women are usually super into it. I think most women should try something like that in their lives and most men should try a threesome-foursome. Life's too short not to. OP IMO break up with your girl and start hitting the gym. No reason you should be skinny for your whole life, you should be able to give your woman the experience of being fucked by a strong fit man. And I'm saying this as a skinny guy myself. @onacloudynight You don't need to rape her obviously but it's definitely a good idea to include BDSM elements in a relationship/sex life.