LordFall

Yes, being able to set and enforce boundaries is one of the most important skills to building a high quality relationship in my opinion. It can single handedly change if your relationships are toxic or full of alignment.

I think with the right woman and relationship you wouldn't see it as an invasion of privacy man, more like a welcomed addition to your life purpose and an injection of feminine energy into your tank.

Yeah I go out with the boys sometimes and do some cold approach when having drinks in downtown. In general I like the idea of sexual transmutation and when you don't have a girl converting your horniness into motivation to work on your business or your social circle and not just waste time hooking up with random chicks or porn.

Counting dates (1, 2, or 3) is a symptom of relying purely on cold dating funnels. When you’re meeting total strangers off of cold approach or dating apps, you’re forced to set arbitrary counters because you have zero prior context on who they are. When you build through a social circle or shared ecosystem first, you already know their values, lifestyle, and vibe before date one. The transition to exclusivity becomes an organic escalation of how well she fits into your life.

Also agreed, being comfortable with your sexuality is a big bonus point for game and if you make hanging out with you a safe heaven for women to express theirs then you'll have a good time.

Cool, if you're a personal trainer you must have an Instagram or some videos of you up online for advertising right, let's see it.

How good do you feel about yourself /10? I've found that the better I feel the less approach anxiety I have. If I feel bummed out that week then it becomes much harder to socialize as I feel more in my head. If I've had a good week then it's much easier to be charismatic and keep my energy going for hours when out. Ideally one should be able to regulate their mood most the time and use discipline over motivation as well but easier said then done.

Offer value to people's lives and be there for them. That can be as someone they can rely on in tough times but also someone that is fun to be around, organizes cool events, brings the group together, helping people achieving their goals, etc.

Do you have videos of you up somewhere like a youtube channel or instagram? I think its common to get in a slump and get more stressed out with life and when you go to game you're less enthusiastic and more monotone than you mean and that kills a lot of your charisma and thus results. If we hear what you sound like it'll be much easier to tell you honestly our feedback. I think in terms of looks you look fine I don't think that is the issue. Being more fit can always help though both in terms of muscle and aesthetic but also energy levels and thus charisma.

Also Mohammad disliked dogs and had a lot of them killed, strange guy. I think he was broke merchant that prayed to God for a better life and god was feeling feisty so he gave him some self-confidence and some prophecies and his warlord timeline began. God has some similar things with thousands of people throughout history to varying effects. Joseph Smith similarly had a mystical/divine experience that lead to Mormonism taking hold and he was not particularly a standup guy either.

You don't seem to me like you're comfortable with your sexuality, I don't think that's healthy man. @Inliytened1 is just talking openly about his, women that I'm comfortable with and platonic friends with do so as well. It's not just a locker room type of thing, it's part of integrated human communication. What else do you wanna talk about, how much we enjoy walks in the park?

I think if you are primarily interested in monogamy then spinning plates can be okay but I think you're right that keeping your energy for one deep connection makes sense if that's your goal. I would game in a manner where you are building a strong social circle with female friends and acquaintances so that you're continuously meeting and building bonds with women that your relate with and are aligned with your goals and then you ask out the ones you really vibe with and you try to make them your girlfriend. Something like this

I find it most fulfilling to combine my sex and dating life with my life purpose. When hot girls come to my events or they help me to shoot content/ads, it feels like we're taking on the world together and is much more fun than just dating girls that are completely separate from your life or having a string of one night stands. You're right about Canadian women, it's tough to date out here if your social skills and your social circle game is not on point! People are guarded with their energy and time and can be friendly up front to strangers but getting a friend group or dating life built around it is harder. I hear Europe is much more inclusive when it comes to that. What city did you live in Canada? Depending on the one it can be easier or harder. I've lived in Calgary, Toronto, Kelowna and now Montreal and they each have their upsides and downsides when it comes to dating.

I wouldn't say I try to, it's more my personality type. I find I tend to get along best with submissive women and we have the most compatibility. Both in and outside of the bedroom, I like to take care of women and take them on fun dates and have them not worry about stuff just me taking them on an adventure and us having a good time. It's perhaps a subset of being a provider male, I don't mind paying for dates and don't really enjoy the 50/50 kind of dating framework I feel like it robs the relationship of polarity. Happy it cleared up for you and good that you're bringing it up, it's important to learn about these things and take appropriate measures to safeguard ourselves and our partners from it. You think you accidentally gave it to her without knowing you had it for a bit or maybe she was seeing other people?

Yeah a lot of people settle for relationships where they're not even sexually satisfied, I find that such a shame. Sexual compatibility is one of the most important parts of a relationship. This guy I knew in Toronto I Invited to my speed dating event said he coudn't make it cuz he just got back with his sex. He told me before they even broke up a couple of years ago that their sex life is terrible and they barely fuck yet he ended up going back to her. Happens so often.

It's very important for me, I'm an emotional guy I like to love deeply. I don't think you need a traditional relationship setup for that to be the case though. Alternative dynamics require a much deeper level of trust and communication than regular relationships so I think in some cases it can lead to a deeper intimacy and love than regular relationships. There are some times where they blow up due to that increase pressure but some others that blossom beautifully for many years. You can read that subreddit for examples of couples in those types of relationships now, I've also met people in real life currently in an open or a BDSM type of relationship that had a partner they seem to quite enjoy but also had the option to have more fun outside of that 1 connection.

Makes sense, I'm also like that. I think it can be troublesome if there is not agreed upon dynamics in the relationship and you and your partner grind teeth instead of working together collaboratively to build an awesome life. Have you ever looked into BDSM? It's also a dating niche like polyamory but it centers more around control based dynamics. BDSM stands for B/D (Bondage and Discipline), D/s (Dominance and submission), and S/M (Sadism and Masochism) Myself I'm much more dominant in relationships and when I'm with more submissive women I find it flows much better and our frames integrate with each others as opposed to it devolving into nagging or arguments. When I hangout with dominant women even platonically there is way less polarity and I find myself having to censor myself just to keep social cohesion and I don't tend to vibe well with those types. This is a also a good subreddit to read more on the different dynamics that people use to date in that community and also to ask your own questions. https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/ This site is good for finding local events in your city, platonic meetups at pubs or bars or more spicy scenarios. https://fetlife.com/

Got it so you felt like you guys were fighting for control and you had issues laying down boundaries that were accepted by her without constant nagging? I can see that situation being irritating and leading to you either losing your cool at her or just retreating into avoidance and the communication lines starting to break down in the relationship leading to a breakup.

What does that mean though like incompatible hobbies like she likes camping and you like watching football? I have a feeling it's deeper then that, can you share more about it, you didn't really give clues to the core issues. If you want to get into polyamory I would recommend reading up on it so you can see how other people have done it before you just jump right in. The Polyamory subreddit is a good resource. They have a wifi and an extensive frequently asked questions section https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/wiki/faq There's also good books on it like Polysecure by Jessica Fern, Opening Up by Tristan Taormino or one that I personally enjoyed The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. As I said Feeld is a great app to find people into that sort of dating paradigm. You can also find local events like Poly Munches on Fetlife or Meetup.

Self-awareness and introspection have always helped me in diagnosing my blind spots and the parts of me that were codependent and pushing people away. What caused your last few relationships to not work out? Do you think you could've done something different to change it or it was more of a inevitable clash of different traits or differing standards or goals you two had?

Haha yes the classic whipped husband that only gets blowjobs on his birthday A fate worse than death if you ask me

Why does it abuse so many people and leave them with cognitive dissonance if not straight up trauma then? You judge a tree by it's fruit not by how poetic it sounds.

Yes most people settle for the first relationship that's semi stable even if they're not super into their partner or they aren't really compatible in terms of their desired life purpose. Abundance is a concept that sounds simple but goes very deep.

Different things each time. Recently it was helping my dad doing construction work in the house. Last time it was doing squats. I'm quite sure I had good form but since my injury when I was like 19 it hasn't recovered that well.

I think this can happen but not as described. A lot of career women become high income and then their dating options because a bit limited as usually women like to date men that earn more then them. It can also rub off men the wrong way that have a victim complex and default to sour grapes and disliking those women as opposed to just learning to seduce and attract women that make more money than them and offering value in other ways than financial or just working on their career/business and levelling up their income potential.