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Maybe you're a femboy or a full on trans woman or just more feminine man than average. I think that's great, Femboys are very attractive to a lot of people, myself included. Fun fact if you go on Reddit and look at all the porn subreddits, the Femboys one is one of the ones with the highest weekly viewers. It's a pretty popular identity that mainstream society shames. If I were you I'd go on Reddit and explore the communities along those terms that are text based and explore these questions and you will probably be able to find stories that let you make peace with your identity. There are millions of other men that feel like you do, you probably won't find a lot of them talking openly about it in more restrictive countries or even in most circles in the progressive ones. If you know where to look online and there a lot of them talking about it though! https://www.reddit.com/r/feminineboys/ For me, no I cannot relate. I would be curious to live as a woman for like 1 day to see what it's like but then I'd want back to my male identity. I love and thrive under brutal competition with other males and the quest to building power and leverage with the goal of building my dream life and bringing more feminine individuals into my life feels very natural to me. I'm very much so a provider male. I've recently come to terms with my bisexual identity and it's been a lot of fun exploring it! Society is very behind in terms of our awareness of identities that aren't mainstream but we've made a lot of progress over the past 20 years. In another 20 years I think all kinds of alternative identities will become mainstream and accepted by most people. There's also the Peter Pan Syndrome to keep in mind where perhaps part of what you're feeling comes from the jarring reality of having to become an adult and provide for yourself whether you're a man or woman. Perhaps part of your goal in striving for femininity is avoidance of responsibility which to a point we all feel and I can definitely relate to. I would say they are separate but potentially overlapping issues though but don't fundamentally have to do with your gender identity.

That tells me that your main bottleneck is overthinking. How consistently do you meditate if at all? I don't have a similar issue, when I get tired I stop socializing entirely and just answering a question feels like a drag so I resort to one word answers and recharge my energy through my inner world and mostly want others to leave me alone.

@Rafael Thundercat Yes agreed, I think that by adding the percentage to the model it makes it better, more useful and more practical to assess individuals and our own progress in life. I think your pushback makes sense but I will say that the characterizing factor of Stage Green is empathy and fighting back against injustice. Therefore the organizations they build are based on that as opposed to being more systematic and actually causing change.

I think you can be stuck in a mix of the 2 where you're starting to build systems to add value to the world and you get frustrated that other perspectives don't quite fit into it. These stages are not binary. To me at 20% stage yellow integration frustration seems inevitable but when you get to lets say 100% integration and 20% Stage Turquoise then the resistance starts to make sense to you and you start to integrate other perspectives into your work and building solutions that integrate their limited viewpoints and resources as opposed to judging them for it. I think the difference is Stage Green is stuck in a pure reactionary phase and isn't actually building many systems to start to fix the injustices they feel in the world. The most they do is organize and protest(which is usually a movement started by another person that you just add your presence and emotions to) but when you start to build an organization that addresses the world's problems I think that's when you take your first big step into Stage Yellow.

Optogenetics sound quite cool, seems like it could lead to huge breakthroughs in fighting diseases like Alzheimers and Dementia. Well most observations are not that useful, they need to be refined over years to become breakthroughs that can help mankind. Everyone has thoughts but the value of those thoughts is quite limited unless you work on them for a while and researchers do that to the point that some of them win Nobel Prizes for their work. For example if your introspection and consciousness work has led you to insights that can similarly cure people with Alzheimers which is caused by neurodegenerative decay then you should work to get that published as well. I'm gonna assume that's not the case but I'm sure you have some other field of interest that you're working on and that you can provide value in!

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That's awesome man, keep it up. My only feedback is if you find a way to integrate your pursuits so that they feed off of eachother, you unlock levels of alignment that aren't possible for average people. I've found great success in mingling my business efforts with my social life and the people I meet through it I'm much more compatible with than just interacting with the silos of people in each field. Especially in terms of pickup, talking to women that aren't part of the communities you wanna inhabit feels a lot of the time like time to go through a wall face first instead of just creating a room people wanna be in or just joining the rooms without using brute force exposure therapy. You know my perspective by now but you should definitely host an event around a hobby you enjoy and I think you'll enjoy that much more than spamming cold approaches. Personally I also get a lot of approach anxiety when talking to women out of the blue. I usually force myself to do it but a lot of times I realize there was no real reason for me to force an interaction with this person. Whereas when I create rooms where the women in it can benefit from my knowledge or we can collab on something, it feels effortless to talk to them because I know I have a lot to offer. It also depends if you're looking for alignment and compatibility or just casual sex.

Interesting perspective, thank you for sharing! It seems Germans are much more proud and xenophobic than other nations like Canadians for example. I had a few instances of kids being a bit rude to me growing up but never had issues making Canadian friends as a 2nd generation immigrant. I wonder where that stems from; perhaps it's due to Canada being originally a nation of immigrants? Can't really be the case since the US had plenty of racism and has a similar immigrant background.

Totally agreed. It's what separates Stage Green from Stage Yellow. Stage green complains about the unfairness of the world and feels like an eternally slighted victim. Stage Yellow understands the systems that power our world and starts to create new systems that benefit himself or herself and the people around them. A LOT of Stage Green and below people demonize money as opposed to just learning effective ways to generate value and ways to package an offer. Alex Hormozi's books are great for understanding how to do this. Hopefully you're joking and learning how to generate income for yourself. Getting others to subsidize you will always leave you under their control. If you're an extremely submissive person it might satisfy you more than the average person but still it'll leave you vulnerable and at the mercy of others.

That's fair, I don't know much about the Alien Lore. What I like is how it portrayed a plausible version of reality where one of our techbros starts to seek out the secret to immortality through far fetched tales of an alien civilization. How they show the archeologists that were nerds excited to connect the dots and find the drawings that prove the existence of the engineers was cool. Then when they actually meet the engineer who immediately gets offended at being interrogated by humans and tries to kill them all while resuming our extinction was pretty funny. I wished they made Weyland's daughter survive, that would be a cool character to bring back. It also comes at the angle of the creation of humanity through another angle. The black goo genesis idea is very interesting and is like a 4th path to think about part from the religious creation story, atheistic big bang and the actualized.org nondual the mind thinks itself universally from scratch. Now we have this non-communicative advanced species that clones itself on a new world and then assesses if the emerging civilization is worthy or not. It's actually pretty close to the Abrahamic religion judgement after death angle. I haven't watched Alien Covenant yet but I saw the trailer where David drops the goo on them to wreck them and then perfect the Xenomorph I thought was a pretty cool plot. I wish they would make another prequel with a full movie from the pov of the Engineer's civilization and how their politics, engineering, culture and dating worked that would be interesting.

I appreciate man, it's not much in the grand scheme of things but it gives me motivation to scale it big over the next few years. How are the projects going on your end?

Have you tried it or are just imagining that it would be stupid? I had Lenovo Thinkpad with a touchscreen for years before getting my current Macbook and I miss it. It's very convenient once in a while to click on buttons with a quick touch of the finger instead of having to use the trackpad. Steve Job's point is only half good, indeed the horizontal keyboard is the surface that you'll mainly wanna use but having the touchscreen able to be used for like 20% of interactions made a big difference for me. It would definitely get me thinking about upgrading the one I have right now.

I haven't watched the video but most of what Iman Gadzhi says is gold and works. A lot of people like to overthink and not take action. If you are using efficient tools to provide value to the marketplace then of course you'll make some money from it. If you're a beginner then any low upfront cost business model is good to try out, give it a go IMO! He used to run a platform called Digital Launchpad that was basically private business course for $50/month, I took it for a couple months and thought it was quite high quality. Remember that we are blessed to be able to start a business for like $0-100 these days. Not that long ago you had to borrow money from your relatives to put together tens of thousands of $ to open up a brick and mortar store. Remember that overthinking and being a skeptic is WAY more expensive than throwing stuff at the wall and seeing what sticks. If you tryout 5 business models, 2 might be terrible, 2 might work but not fit your personality style and 1 will show promise if you double down on it. People say Tai Lopez is a scammer and he did recently do a sort of ponzi scheme type of thing but his courses on business and social media marketing are great. I paid $50 for someone to send me his $1000 SMMA and I myself made thousands from following it. I paid $1500 to take a videography and personal branding course from Corey Chaloff/RSD Luke/Michael Sartain and I've made back around $30,000 from it on top of meeting hundreds of chicks. Take action on concepts that make sense to you, rinse and repeat and you'll end up with 100x the results of men that are too anxious and cynical to try out new avenues.

I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt to elaborate on how your strategy is yielding the results you want. You seem to always default to defense mechanisms and invalidating people working on their social life. That’s where my impressed of you being jaded and isolated comes from. There is no need to take offense to my comments. A self development forum is meant to push us away from our mental blocks and dysfunctional coping mechanisms towards having the courage to take action to build our dream life.

I mean if your philosophy is producing the results that you want more power to you. It sounds like you failed at getting what you want out of building your social life and are not jaded and isolated and trying to make your situation a high moral ground. I feel quite fulfilled and excited to build a life that appeals to me and of course that includes beautiful women and achievements in my business outside life. You saying that having goals and strategy is needy sounds like massive spiritual bypassing to me. I shared some of the results I've been getting in my own life, feel free to do the same if you think your philosophy is genuinely valuable and not simply coping against failure.

Yes I was replying to your comment. I personally enjoy building an intentional social life on my terms. Going clubbing with random chicks is not part of my ideal lifestyle. If it is for you then more power to you but conflating strategy with neediness is a strange idea. I think perhaps you're judging yourself for desiring high quality women and great results and projecting that shame unto others? To me hosting events feels like things clicking into place and is much more fun than pure nightlife ever was.

I think you're overthinking it man, equating intentionality and lifestyle design with "neediness" is a complete category error. By that logic, building a business is needy because you want revenue, and training in the gym is needy because you want strength. Building a high quality lifer requires designing your life, career, and social environment from first principles rather than drifting passively into whatever situation presents itself. Expecting to get high-ROI outcomes in life without a coherent strategy isn't "non-attachment", it's just laziness disguised as philosophy and I don't think it produces high quality results for many people.

Sure, you've not seen Game of Thrones? You can experience dragons visually and through your ears through the show. Eventually when VR takes off you'll be able to experience touching them, talking to them, riding them, etc.

Weird take. Are you able to enjoy a cold cup of water or a nice meal or is also ruined by falsehood to you? You can enjoy reality without getting stuck overthinking ontological truth. It's the main purpose of reality; to be enjoyed.

There is a difference between being stuck in your head constantly overanalyzing social situations vs having an overall strategy for your dating life. Joining girls on nights out a few times and having fun is fine. Then I would suggest to sit down and think on whether you enjoyed it as it is or do you like bringing girls into your life more. To me catering the environment overtime makes much more sense and makes it possible to justify socializing continuously since I also build value for the ecosystems I'm building as opposed to just using socializing to blow off steam or to to pull women. I hosted a content mastermind a few months ago and it was both a fun way to meet new chicks and also it helped my agency and community. About a month before that I went out for drinks which chicks that invited me out and it was fine and fun but the ROI was much lower.

I wouldn't recommend it, forex is very volatile and is mostly a get rich quick scheme. I would make money in a way that's aligned in your industry. If you have around $800 USD you can buy a nice camera and start getting paid to shoot concerts and events which will get you networking in the scene. You could also work as a promoter for other artists and sell tickets to their events and eventually be an opening act and then in a couple years sell your own shows. The road to becoming profitable in trading is around mastering complex arbitrage strategies which can work if you have an a deep interest in finance but be careful getting tricked into "Copy these trades and make 200% yearly returns no effort needed!" It seems like mastering a basic fundamental skill like videography or direct response marketing will be a much better foundation to your skillset and will give you the foundation to start marketing and profiting off of your own work much faster than trying to become a quantitive analyst that crushes forex.

I would recommend trying it a few times but more than likely you'll realize it's a bad idea. Better to invite women to your events than to come out to the club with them. It will leave you in a reactive frame where also she'll probably subconsciously or intentionally put you against other guys she knows or random dudes that come up to hit on her. If you've been gaming a lot then you might be able to meet other women there and merge sets and use the opposite effect on her but either way you start off at a disadvantage. It's not a bad thing to experiments with environments that don't favor you but in general you obviously should build a social life that works for your goals and not against them.

So beyond your post-colonial grievances, how do we suggest that we move forward to make our societies productive and safe? That's a very real geopolitical truth. The US mainly flourished as a superpower due to Oceans protecting its borders and being basically impossible to invade. Europe doesn't have that luxury and it's a great part of why it and the middle east are conflict ridden regions. The solutions that we propose and our politicians implement must consider these truths if they are be viable and not just based in virtue signalling.

It's near the top of my to read list. Currently reading his other book Laws of Human Nature and once I finish that I'll probably pickup a copy of the art of seduction. I'm very familiar with seduction strategies and framework, I'm now looking for a more historical exploration of how seduction work and the different archetypes of it. Especially I'm interested if he's gonna touch on the sensual lover archetype that enjoys human sensuality and connection and thus values having many sexual partners as that's the one I feel myself developping into. It seems missing from modern discourse as sexuality is either talked about in terms of solely the strategy of it or how the sexual revolution has affected culture whereas I'm more interested in the exploration of love with many people otherwise known as polyamory! I like this image, came up when I typed polyamory wallpaper on Google images. Combines the many loves etymology of Polyamory(poly = many and amory means love) with the bisexuality angle of being able to desire and love both genders.

Your reply sounds to me more like Stage Green moral outrage vs Stage Yellow systemic thinking. Understand our history and how the states we inhabit were formed is very important. The current politicians today are not the same ones that operated the Canadian Indian residential school system nor is that what we were discussing in terms of immigrants assimilating in a culture. If you have a particular interest in discussing the history of First Nations in Canada I would be curious to do so as well as I think they actually did not assimilate well to our current society and the system that was used historically and even today clearly is not working. I'm interested in solutions and how we make our world better than it is 5 and 10 years from now; if you have some in mind feel free to share as that's a valuable topic to discuss.