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Hahahah - it's a different option if we talk about the "pathless path" and being awareness - attachments and clinging to people and objects only postpones the inevitable. Of course everything is only a game and what will happen will happen. Our friend may talk to the girl, start a relationship and find his life fulfilling in moments. If we talk about an everlasting freedom and happiness - only being our Self is a valid option. Sending love!

Great response. I share your "neediness" a lot dear Rilles. It's caused by our deep need to return to "the source" - which is true love. By being with somebody we tend to forget ourselves - thus being more authentic - being (if only for a moment) egoless. The needs and concerns of our partner become crucial and we spontaneously want to help. There is a trap here of course - as the feeling of this heavenly admiration starts to fade. We realize that our needs and insecurities start to bubble up and we may then proceed to project our fears on our love interest. We see faults in our partner. It's always the same with something we think we need. Alcohol, computer games, new car etc. We think we need it but, after some time, the initial "high" wears off and we need something different. Only the "naked" consciousness doesn't fade - is the only genuine thing and source of happiness. It's very good that you recognize the pattern in yourself. Fantasies are a construct of thought - nothing else. However - it's a very difficult thing to overcome. As we live in separation - thoughts arising in our awareness will desperately try to cling to anything. But don't beat yourself up. Sit with the emotion in silence and lovingly accept it. It's very hard but it helps. Good luck my friend!

It's beneficial to know "the basics" of how ego works and what is enlightenment in a nutshell. Of course straying too far may cause you to misunderstand a lot and it's useful to not try to understand enlightenment and consciousness with your mind so much. Mind knows objects and labels the world - it doesn't understand something which cannot be measured, seen, touched etc. Staying silent and inquiring about the nature (using only questions) is beneficial. Do whatever you feel like doing. Something must have brought you here. Sometimes it's good to know where you are. In the end "we" will all return to the source. This life is just a game. Stay true to yourself. Sending love!

Will meditate on them. They show up when somebody asks me about "me". I usually respond with: "everything's ok". They expect me to add something and I have nothing else to say. I'd rather spend this time just being with them but we live on a different paradigm.

Howdy Everyone! I hope you're doing well on your pathless path There's one thing that's been bugging me for a while. I know deeply now that nothing really matters. That really stripped my ego of a need to talk about "myself" and "my story". Knowing that however is making "me" really disinterested in conversations. People talk so much about themselves and their problems seem really "childish" to me. I treat it as a blessing - which shows me how to potentially help someone or remind me of the traps of ego. In the end unfortunately feelings of being "boring" and being an "uninteresting" person to talk to bubble up. Of course meditation and sitting with the feeling help me in a way. It's tough however to have the sensation of turning into a lifeless husk Any advice would be very appreciated. Thanks in advance. Love you all!

"Asshole-to-belly-button" awesome stuff my friend. Appreciate the wisdom. Will definitely apply this reasoning. Thank you so much!

I personally use Vipassana technique. Basically do nothing and watch your thoughts for the whole meditation. Acknowledge and let go of every thought. Don't fall into fantasies but don't try to stop the thinking. Thoughts being like clouds in the sky. Observe them and let them go. That's what I use and it doesn't bring any feelings of doing something wrong. In time thoughts are less frequent and meditating becomes easier.

Big stuff. Thank you friend.

Hello my friend. Every meditation technique is different and suited for different people. What problem is arising during your meditation?

Thank you for your reply. I'll try to let it go. Could you explain being "me"? I always succumb to a trap while conversing. It seems to me like talking itself is meaningless and by doing it I somehow "fall back" to my ego.

Hi! First of all - I'm new here and I'm very grateful to be a part of this forum (Hi once again!). This post will be a longer one due to the nature of my ego's problem. Will appreciate any response. I'll start with a brief background. About a year ago I was an aggressive, totally ego-bound guy. I had a girlfriend at that time (which I dated only because of her looks unfortunately). I had also my two best mates and we lived together under one roof. I aspired to become a great, famous musician (doing my solo project). 4 months have passed. Because of my anger and a sense of self-importance I broke up with my GF and lost my buddies. Finally they basically kicked me out of the house. Left completely alone and homeless - I found a new room for me to live in (with great cotenants). In that time the reality totally punched me in the face. Calming down my nerves and improving myself - these were my main goals back then. After a while - through meditation yoga etc. my path brought me to self-inquiry and enlightenment. Later on I noticed that my old hobbies (gaming, excessive movie watching, and social media) started to bore me immensely (although I keep playing games occasionally - and watch movies. I ignore social media in general). New friends and a girlfriend would be a distraction - so I'm left by myself very often. My 3 questions are: - being still in "the matrix" how can I fill my time? I keep meditating, exercising, being aware while doing simple things, self-inquiring - however I'm left with hours of free time. Being in the moment is great but it's hard to just be for hours daily while still attached to ego partially. - what to do with my music? I still have an attachment to it but try to create it to please others and not my ego. - I keep constantly judging things by their relation to ego. I know labeling is a thing of the mind but will it not help me to avoid unnecessary activities? As you can see I'm trying to accept what is but I'm in a limbo. I recognize the human condition (desiring, chasing, aspiring) and try to avoid it but know that letting go is the best option. Feels damn strange and also my relationships with others are getting clearer but weird AF. Any responses would be much appreciated. Thank you!