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Feel the fear and do it anyway - love this one

@Hardik jain Minfulness builds awareness and self control in any situation. Teaches you clarity in situations to be able to see things from a broader perspective. Things that stimulate your mind like wacthing educational videos, reading books to develop your mind and challenge your thinking all builds awareness. Same with the quality of people we choose to have in our life and the quality of food we eat and how active we are - all these things can help build awareness. Alcohol & drugs take this awareness away from us. Perceptions get misinterpreted, we become delusional and our minds and actions may not be fully functional. Bad foods, poor choice of friends and life decisions can also cloud our judgement making us not aware of what is really happening.

@Mat Pav I guess everyone's interpretation of people are different. Yes we are guilty of taking people and things for granted and "using people as tools or something for our own benefit", however there are a lot of people in this world who are out to do good, strong minded people who help make the world and other people a better place despite all adversity. People are such fascinating creatures and I love that huge part of my job is learning and trying to understand people in order to help their quality of life. People are so different and now two people are the same which makes us all individually unique. What some people take for granted, other people will appreciate. You can't change people but you can always control how you respond to others and treat others.

@Nicolas Probably why he accepted my application to help moderate his forum. He's awesome. I hope to be as good as him one day.

@Orange some great advice on here. I would suggest to write out what your ideal life would look like. What is it that you would like to be doing on a daily basis? and then start incorporating these things into your daily routine bits at a time so you are not overwhelmed with everything you want to do. Next have a goals list, what do you want to achieve today? this week? this month? heals goals, family goals, study goals, relationship goals etc. For every goal write down a timeframe in which you wish to achieve these goals. You have yourself mini projects, track this so you can see your own progress. I love doing this for myself and I have lists for everything. I love the feeling of crossing something off my list and seeing everything I have achieved from that list. This gives me a sense of accomplishment.

@Magnifico Do you have meetup.com in your contry/area? Its a great way to find more like minded people.

@Lorcan I am very impressed that a 14 year old is focusing his time on reading books on personal development and wanting to improve himself and his lifestyle choices. I think at this age it is normal to kill time every now and then to do some fun things. However if you want to feel like your living a more structured and productive life, I would suggest making a list of what your ideal day would look like and instead of trying to make major changes at once, you can start incorporating bits by bits into your daily routine. Time to write down some goals and the time frames in which you wish to achieve certain goals. This helps with feeling more productive like you are not wasting time as well as being satisfied and happy with how you choose to spend your time. Some things I would of told my 14 year old self: * Read as many personal development, psychology, understanding human behaviour and self mastery books as you can as this will be very rewarding for you in the future * Don't invest too much of yourself and time in intimate relationships and if you do (because your so in love with someone) don't allow it to consume you. Make sure you learn independence from a young age and keep doing what makes you happy - running, spending time with friends, studying. Don't ever stop your life for someone else. * I used to hate studying but I wish I put all my effort into being the best I could be at school. Its pays off later believe me. Education is important. * Always put your health first, it is easy putting off little things like regular Dr appointments, dentists even your psychological, mental and emotional health - always put this first so you can always do whatever you want to do at your best self. * Stop watching so much TV and reading gossip magazines and if its not helping you grow and educating you - then it is a waste of time and if you do choose to do these things, don't spend hours consumed in it. * Learn emotional intelligence and how to be mentally tough. There will be so many challenging situations that will test you in life and if you develop a strong frame of mind and learn to control your emotions and mindset - this will be the greatest tool you could ever have throughout life as you will be able to handle any situation a lot stronger, smarter and wiser. They are just a few tips, hope this helps.

@Harvey Personally I read one book at a time as I feel like I accomplish things a lot quicker and it motivates me to read my next book. One tip that I used to do in University when there were just endless pages in huge textbooks was skimming through the contents of the book, reading all the sub headings, read all the first paragraphs and conclusions, going through the questions at the end of the chapter to see if there is anything I need to go over with in more detail. I don't focus too much on every single big word I don't understand or know the meaning of. I keep skimming through paragraphs getting the gist of it by the subheadings. Sometimes we think we need to know everything to gain understanding of it all but this is not necessarily the case. Google how you can learn to read faster, there are plenty of techniques you can try for yourself.

@Nicolas Ahh we all love Leo. I think I have gone through all of his video's and as a life coach myself have taken notes on most of his videos. He has helped many of us with our personal growth and helped shaped the type of people we choose to become. Off the top of my head the videos that have stood out to me: * How to master and control your emotions * How to start a business * How to stop being a victim * How to stop worrying * Overcoming adversity Ok there's actually too many too name lol but they are just a few..

@Hardik jain I am exactly like you, I don't like having nothing to do and I don't see the point of doing nothing. I can however, sit and read a book for hours or learn something new / study, watching something educational on youtube or the tv but whatever I am doing, I am making sure I am not wasting time just for the sake of wasting time. I like to be productive in what I choose to do. Have you tried meditation? perhaps this can be a great start to finding quiet time to yourself without all the chaos?

@username life is what you create it to be, your perception, your interpretations, your opinions on everything and everyone. Your world is created by what is created in your mind. Yes genuine love and relationships are possible but it is very rare to find. Like a needle in a hay stack.

@Beam how does the saying go.. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change things that I can and the wisdom to know the difference...

@spicy_pickles The thing about giving people too many chances is that we are showing them that their unacceptable behaviour is okay. If something doesn't feel right, makes you unhappy or doesn't align with your beliefs or values then its time to cut your losses. I mentioned in another post that I used to think I needed people and external things to make me happy or I could never be happy with just myself and my own presence. I used to get attached to people that I love and gave people more chances than they deserved, but in the end you are only hurting yourself and it really isn't worth investing your time, effort and energy into these people. Its normal to feel guilt sometimes because we don't want to hurt others but at the end of the day, we need to do what is best for us and move forward the best we can. You still have the choice to be a nice person, when people are being horrible to you, you don't have to sink on their level (although it is easy sometimes to react than to think rationally in the heat of the moment). Exercising mindfulness and challenging your thoughts, you learn over time and with practice that mean people have no effect on you. Learn emotional intelligence - its a great way to handle any situation. One of the hardest things I've had to learn is having peace within me and my mind. You can't always control what other people say or do but you can control how you react to these type of people and it pisses people off more when you don't sink on their level and react. Although sometimes it is hard to way away because of guilt and caring for someone, usually its the better thing to do for both of you... to just walk away.

@dboyle The journey of independence and personal development is the most rewarding gift you could ever give yourself. People will always come and go throughout your life, some stick around for a long time others persue a different journey without us. For me personally, I learnt that people in general persue happiness because we think it comes from outside of ourselves when it is the complete opposite. Happiness starts and ends with us. People, objects and circumstances happen to us to enhance our life, to add to our life or teach us a valuable lesson we have to learn in order to grow and move forward. They are by no means here to consume our life and define our happiness. I used to think I needed certain people in my life to make me happy and complete, and to feel fulfilled but when we go through life grabbing one thing after another, we start to attach ourselves to the psychical things, ideas and opinions about ourselves and the world around us of how things are supposed to be. Possessions can be lost and people will sometimes leave our life - we need to learn not to attach ourselves to anything or anyone and accept life for what it is. You will learn as you get older, you will be more wise with you choose to call a friend and the type of people you want to surround yourself with, you will find that these people will be like minded people like you, the others will just pass by and this is okay. It may be a lonely road sometimes (and God only knows I have experienced loss and learning to be my own best friend through adversity) but life is always full of surprises. No need to regret anything that happens in life, its either a blessing or a lesson.. which helps you grow either way.

A happiness list seems like an excellent idea. Gives us so many reason to be greatful for in this life.

@username Life is whatever you make it. Your thoughts become your reality so talk nicely to yourself

@jes everything is a decision. You are applying yourself as the victim. You have the power to not play the victim and be the victor. Everything all comes down to how badly you want something. That what drives motivation, determination and persistence.

@zer0 You only think that you can't wake up early because in all honesty it all comes down to laziness. It is so easy to stay in your warm bed and not get up straight away when the alarm goes off. You could be too comfortable, still tired, its too cold to get up - there are thousands of excuses you can use because you 'can't' get up early in the morning. Its all in the way you think. I never used to be a morning person but once I am awake, I keep telling myself its time to get up and conquer the day and I wake up excited because I love my job and I am ready for any challenges that come my way. Exams can be daunting but make the most of the time you have now, if that means getting up earlier - then get up earlier. Put your alarm clock far away so when it goes off you can still hear it but you have to get up to turn it off and when you get up - stay up.

@rush I you tube everything. There are so many different meditation techniques that you just have to try a few and find out which one works for you =) Meditation is known to be very beneficial for the soul and clearing the mind.

You have the power to control this =)

@DizIzMikey Have you seen a Dr? There was a situation I went through once, something happened in my life and i stopped eating and I ended up making myself really sick but one day when I threw up after being sick for so long I did feel a sense of relief and started to feel better again. Could be totally different to what your talking about, but sometimes its better to let it out then keep it in.

@Blaze35 A health and fitness coach could be beneficial. I have one who I speak with about my diet and fitness and she even helps me with my schedule and when I should certain types of foods etc. To me, it has been a great investment.

@JoseM I guess if you are asking that question you don't really know what you want. I don't think you are ready for a committed relationship by what you have said, however I don't think its a bad thing to have casual thing with women so long as you are both on the same page with where you both stand with things. Sometimes it is scary the thought of settling down with one person, especially for a guy and it doesn't matter how old you are. I don't think anyone should just settle because 'its the right thing to do' or 'society says that this is how it should be'. Do what makes you happy and if you decide to get into a committed relationship, make sure you are ready to give everything to someone else and be committed. If not, then just have fun.

@isabel It is true what others have said here. Sometimes we make bad decisions and we don't know it at the time (for example, sometimes we can't help who we fall in love with) and then later find out that person was bad for us. But everything in life is a lesson and everyone who comes into our life is here to teach us a lesson or is a blessing to our life. Don't waste time blaming yourself for any of this. It has no purpose blaming yourself. Learn to forgive yourself, know that what has happened is horrible, but know that you are going to do everything in your power to make the rest of your life the best of your life. Let go of the pain, the guilt and every feeling that does not serve you, work on you and bettering yourself, making wiser decisions in the future, and don't let this be a set back, keep moving forward.

@NutellaTC You choose what you focus on and think about. Sometimes I have memories I do not want to think about because it changes my mood and brings me down but I always have a back up plan to distract myself and change my focus on something more positive and something that is going to serve me. You should try it too. As hard as it seems sometimes you are in control of your thoughts and emotions and sometimes you just need to be sad and have a cry or be angry for a while, but don't stay down too long. Make a decision to make the rest of your life the best of your life =)