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@Charlotte I completely agree, and this is not the first time it happens. when it happened in the past I was trying to bring the person back to discuss.. but then I learned that there's something hugely disrespectful about it, and approaching them is like I am chasing after them or the side that is trying to fix an error in the relationship which i did not commit. what is strange is it happened for no reason at all... the last discussion was all beautiful and affectionate, then all of a sudden I am getting a silent treatment. especially I am through some challenging phase in life, which I never made her feel any burden about. thank you for your response. Now just keeping myself busy with other things, it is not easy but the best solutions aren't always easy ones.

@Spiral what does that mean ?

thanks for the recommendations, will definitely try to find these book. thing is, I am keeping myself open and compassionate, I do want to reach out to her and see if everything is Ok. I only have the fear of being face to face with a narcissistic egoistic response. that is what's keeping me confused. through out our relationship I always showed that its ok to open up emotionally, it won't bring you down or lower your value. but I think you really can't change someone if they don't want to change. Anyways I am trying to work my way through it, so lets see how it goes.. .

@SFRL Completely agree. It's such a sensitive and difficult trait. I just need to reflect and focus on myself for now and really avoid any contact.. My aim is to really end this peacefully and maturely, no grieving or pain for both of us,, while accepting the fact that that might not happen.

regardless of my thoughts about polyamorous, I find her being the dominant one in the relationship, sorry if this sounds offensive. but if she wants to play only by her own rules, neglecting your feelings, dumb her. and no this is not easy at all. maybe you gotta watch Leo's video on how to deal with negative emotions. like @SFRL said, look for other girls, focus on your self and your life. and there's definitely a better girl out there that deserves you.

@Sevi its amazing how you broke it down! I think your message will be a reference for me. thank you.

Hello everybody, Since I was a child whenever elders asked me what is it that I want to do in life. I never had an answer. Other kids always wanted to be firemen, doctors, pilots, etc, for me, I never had an answer. Until I discovered dancing and music by the age of 6 i think... I got hooked up ever since, with music especially, then by the age of 14, I officially started dancing, fast forward after almost two and a half years, I started to teach, and contributed in creating the dance scene of that genre in my country, along with so many other accomplishments that I feel proud of. University started, and I was studying and dancing in parallel, I had a lot of setbacks when it came to my dancing and things that I am passionate about, but I came across people I looked up to who told me I should continue. And I am grateful I crossed paths with them, they helped me believe in my inner voice and tenaciously follow my intuition. I graduated from university around 7 years ago,,,, I have entered the corporate life ever since (And kept on dancing and traveled to different continents participating in dancing and cultural events and so forth) today, and specifically right now, I am working in a big company (a regular 9 to 5), I pursue my passions everyday, dance practice, music, and calligraphy. I really want to LIVE this, not do it after my 9 to 5. I want it to be my full time. while typing this I think what is stopping me is fear.. fear that it won't work, taking the risk of giving up a fixed salary and pursue something that requires my personal hard work in order to make a living. another reason is.. I don't want to be broke, and most dancers/ performers who do this for a living are actually living their passions, but in most cases, they are broke which I don't want to be! so that is my conflict in a nutshell... I think I am answering myself in the context.. but would love to hear the actualizers thoughts! Have a great day everyone, and try dancing, it could be spiritual, meditative and therapeutic (and I don't mean clubbing loll. I am talking about body movement to soulful sounds in general, contemporary, ballet, etc..)

Thank you so much guys for the insight... @Arman I completely agree,, sometimes I go too extreme with my thoughts and visualize that I will start dancing full time overnight.. which is not the best scenario... I mean there is no right or wrong it could be very challenging but if there's a better way to do it then why not? really appreciate your response.

Not going to university doesn't mean its the end of the world. maybe you can utilize your time right now to really figure out what You want to do in life. and then decide, whether to take a university degree or not. Most importantly make your decision aligned with your passions/ values. The message sounded like there's a feeling of regression just because you didn't go to university. which shouldn't be the case.

if you were not born with a gift or talent, it doesn't mean that you cannot attain it. at the same time, even if you were born talented with something (which actually does exist) without hard work you won't really accomplish much or make any significance.

this whole existence, including yourself, is God.

@HotSauce123 respect! I really can't wait to pursue my passion and make it my full time. I only have some family restriction that I can't risk anything for now. But the plan is in the making. Will definitely check your app! Wishing you the best in your journey.

not at all, you are not screwing it up. you did a good job.

Hello @AuthenticMeli ! that is so courageous of you speaking up your mind. I was wondering if you have watched @Leo Gura's episode about Islam? I recommend that you watch it, it will be helpful.. maybe enhance your decision, our at least reduce your hesitation. All the best!

Your Remedy is within you, but you do not sense it. Your Sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it. You Presume you are a small entity, But within you is enfolded the entire universe. You are indeed the evident book, By whose alphabet the hidden becomes the manifest. Therefore, you have no need to look beyond yourself, What you seek is within you, if only you reflect. -Ali Bin Abi Taleb

Agreed!

Hello @Leo Gura ! Would love to hear your thoughts about Dancing/ and body movement in general. especially to the music.

There are some scholars who are coming up in this region who share very similar views and teachings, yet they are being opposed by the majority of the masses. As a middle eastern person who was born and brought up in a Muslim country, the only way I can describe this episode is that it's phenomenal and revolutionary! thank you @Leo Gura oh and please, do not let the "hadith" and the "sunnah" confuse you. a lot of it is either misinterpreted, mistranslated, or distorted.