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How To Get Laid - Part 1 - The Foundations Of Success With Women
 

Cold approaches

Going to cities where you have no social presence can be one of the ideal methods to practice and gain results. 

Distinctions between day & night game, choose the strategy that best serves your needs and lifestyle choices. 

Can achieve a sexual body count of every other night. 

This can be done without any requirement to live and have a social circle. 
Get a girlfriend and you can back. 
Highest aesthetic standard is lower from cold approach. 

Social stigma

Social engineering involved in the pick up community. This is the core of the social circle method and could be construed with a lack of authenticity. 

What role does hyperagmy play in the social rejection of pickup?

If men are not taught how to do pick up with responsibility, it will undermine the integrity of the men. 

Leo claim's strawman is about exploiting social psychology while using silly pick-up lines.

Personal development
The foundations of pick up require development of the base hierarchy of needs before pursuing pick up.

Working on limiting beliefs is the ideal foundation to pick up.

Will esssentially create the kind of men who join incel groups if they don't develop a healthy method to pursue women.
Foundations of pick up are turning yourself into a high value man, that most women would find attractive.

Suggestions of creeps doing pickup. However, guys who have no game are creepy according to Leo. This is about creating strategies of ability.

Good in bed, good sense of humour, physically well put together. Fashion, money, 

Essentially to develop better masculinity.

Social circle

Social circle is more geared toward extraverts and creating dinner parties and such. This is the socialite method for pickup and requires a lot of work. Always stuck.  
Social circle method of pick up requires a lot of maintenance. 

This requires business enterprise development and is contingent as this is a status game which women are attracted to status. 
Party creation can be the way to meet a lot of people and build a party network. 

This makes you the leader of the party and you will inevitably get laid. 

Getting laid through work can be dangerous or limited. This can create a situation where you are stepping on peoples' toes.

Also can be ways that create networking jobs. 

Alternative strategies
-Life purpose pick up strategy
High risk, high reward and can also require more discernment due to the implications.
-Money
Buy prostitutes and escorts, become a millionaire and buy the girlfriend experience.
-Online game
Using dating apps will be for aesthetic appeal and will always prioritise that. This is lazy game and will never get decent results.

Top reasons why guys don't get laid
1: Not being social enough
2: Not going out, staying home on the internet - Need to change their lifestyle. 

3:  Not approaching women

4: No flirting skills, too logical, not romantic enough

5: Don't understand what attracts women

6: Deep victim complex and limiting beliefs.

7: Not willing to work hard to grow yourself. 

Mindsets, limiting beliefs & Motives
Activities to improve limiting beliefs.

Being deeply loving, being able to commit, being a leader.

Love is the goal

Remove victim complex

Improve self esteem

Remove limiting beliefs

Don't believe it is possible or you don't deserve it. 

Mechanisms of attraction/inner game

Asymetry as to what men and women are attracted to. 
Men are visual

Women are emotional. 

Women are attracted to masculine energy which can be cultivated.

-Evolutionary underpinning of male vs female attraction

1: Women are nurturing the home and child. Poor at protecting and such. 

2: Men are out in the world bringing home the bacon. Being a good provider and leader.

Character dispositions of attractiveness: Masculine energy, strengths, confidence, charisma, charm, wit, fun, adventure, romance and emotional stimulation.
Strong personality and passion. 
High value, status, social approval are other dispositions of being attractive.

Detached and a sense of life purpose, which is more important than the girl.

Well groomed, clean, fit and smell nice. 

Self-deprecation is attractive to women.
Game is about being smooth character and having a social calibration that benefits her. 

Top limiting beliefs

1: Not attractive enough.

2: Scientific beliefs which studied attraction lead to conclusion that reinforces not being attractive enough.

3: Girls only want the extroverted alpha male.

4: Girls want muscular men.

5: Attractive girls requires wealth.

6: Too much of a need, geek, introvert.

7: Pick up is a scam.

8: It's a numbers game, there's no skill.

9: Only unattractive girls will be interested.

10: It's not fair, it's easy for girls. 

11: It's unfair how hard I have to work. 

12: Feminists and SJWs are emasculating men, and it's their fault I don't get laid.

13: The MeToo# movement has destroyed pickup/game.

14: Girls are sluts, liars, cheaters and gold-diggers.

15: Too few good girls out there.

16: But I tried and failed (insuffiecient approaches). 

17: No place to meet girls in my area.

18: Too late to start (okay 20s, 30s and even early 40s, might need some thinking through).

Repels women

1: Neediness, desperation and attachment to her.

2: Being too nice

3: Fear, insecurity, meekness, shyness
4: When men are sexually vulgar, this turns women off.  
5: Women are repelled being desired only for sex.

6: When women are objectified, it is repelling.

7: Trying to impress women repels them.

8: Fakeness or being too gamey/unnatural approaches.

9: Bragging about yourself. 

10: Boring, logical talk or serious talk. Being business like. 

11: Forcing a woman to lead. 

12: Being ungroomed, sloppy, bad smell. 

13: Creepiness.

14: The insecurity about not being attractive enough is repellant to women.

Preparation/practice
1: Visualise yourself attracting attractive women

2: Study game.

3: Go out every week.

4: Work on limiting beliefs until destroyed.

5: Take a mindset of tenacity.

6: Believe you can do it. 

Commitment
The commitment has to be, talk to 30 new girls every week. 

Stop bingewatching TV shows, video games, anti-female mindsets. 
 

Edited Tuesday at 09:24 AM by Emptiness-one

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How To Get Laid - Part 2 - Outer Game Techniques

Inner Game
-Social skills

Learning how to flirt, be emotional. 
Learning wit and verbal skills. 
Building core inner confidence/dissolving limiting beliefs.

Finding your authentic style of game, this is your highest self.

Learning to be authentic takes thousands of hours of pratice. 

Learning how to calibrate with the environment.

Reading social queues. 

Being smooth and natural, that leads to women being comfortable around you. 

Befriend people quickly, both friends and partners. Life skills. A distinction of social calibration.

Cultivating the skill of gentle physical escalation.

 

-Meta of game
Learning how to deal with logistics (friends, work in the morning) 

How do you get them to your place or her place. 

Women are unforgiving when it comes to verbal skills. 

Outer Game

-Location, location, location.

Research where women are most likely to reside. 
Make a list of 50 different areas where approaching might be possible.

Differentiate between the day or the night.

Plan the times of the day. 
Bars, cafes, clubs, social groups. 

Move city if the city you live in is dull. 

Clairfy the excuses that are preventing, also make a list of the excuses that provide the boundary to hit on women. 

Focus on the 'How can I do this?'

Study books on game. 

 

-Day game

Sidewalks, shopping malls, cafes. 

Difficult to find locations with lots of attractive women. 

Not many women walking around.

Being direct is paramount and you have to be genuinely attracted. 

Less likely to make a decision to sleep with someone. 

Increases the likelihood of meeting long term partner. 

-Night game

Alcohol is the difference, this creates a high energy environment. 
A lot of approaches are possible.

Easy to practice physical escalation, women are more relaxed and open to partying.

Blow outs are not a big deal.

Likelihood increases of having sex.

 

-How to approach

Scan the woman to see if there is genuine attraction.
Only approach when you actually mean it with day game

Don't overthink it.
You have to be 100% you are approaching as you are interested. 

Get her attention firmly 'Hey, excuse me, stop.' Strong eye contact combined with comfort with silence. 

Opener statement - 'I know this is very forward and felt very attracted to you and wanted to speak with you'
You can say something about energy. 

Maintaining the conversation is the skillset.

Have a relaxed disposition.

It's a playful disposition. 

Be genuine and honest

Make statements about her. 'You look like the kind of girl who...' and creating an environment where 'no' is optional increases trust. 

Teasing is also a good strategy to cultivate emotional rapport. 

Building a bond, take a position of skepticism combined with degrees of judgement, like a disposition of 'I am evaluating you for suitability', 

70% of women will not respond after giving you there number. 

Can ask if single within 5 minutes. 

Approach directly and grand her attention, deliver an opener, be playful, clear intent, lead her toward a coffee/drink.

Stay with the girl. 

 

-Physical escalation

Gauge mood, touch and facial reaction.

This is based on how the mood of her face is, gentle touch is combined with a smile is clear sign. 

A lot of this cannot be achieved during night game, but more difficult in day game. 

Hook point is the moment you can do physical escalation.

Logistics questions 'Who are you friends?' Where are you staying? How did you get here? What are your plans later tonight? Do you have a roommate? Do you live alone?

Friend handling is a part of successful pickup.

Rapport phase, make her feel like she knows you and can trust you, this is after physical escalation and takes 30-60 minutes.

 

-Infield learning

Approach women without excuses.

Be direct with your approaches. 

Square up mirror the body, speaking direct with strong eye contact.

Firm vocal tones and be loud (AUM is good for this)

Avoid supplicating communication style. 

Building - Putting yourself into a flow state of socialising. Repeated approaches get you into this state. 

This takes warm up. 

Kino escalation ladder from: 0 (no touching) 10 (Sex)

Practice making statements. 

Be emotional, dramatising, react with negative emotions. 

Practice improvisation. 

Learn story telling to give an insight into who you were

Learn how to deal with shit testing. 

Token resistance is to see how you deal with it. Either that or they need more rapport. 

Complimenting women is a rare thing. 

Edited Tuesday at 04:59 PM by Emptiness-one

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How To Get Laid - Part 3 - The Top Principles Of Game

Foundations

Bring massive value (friendships, business)

Hook point

- A girls attraction can be triggered within 5 minutes. This is the moment you should kino escalate to at least step one (assuming frame is correct and opener is strong)

Identifying hook point is when her focus is on you, asks questions about you. 

She justifies herself to you, essentially trying to impress you with her good qualities. 

Compliments are another sign you've achieved hook point.

Laughs at things you say, especially when not funny. 

Can't maintain eye contact.

Will follow you. 

Top principles

1: Go out

2: In field is king for answering  the 'how to?'.

3: Law of state transference, what you feel, she feels.

4: Man to woman communication, look at her in a sexual way.

5: Never use logic to sell yourself

6: Is my escalation fitting the context (if the environment is more social circle driven, this vs cold approach will differ)

7: Congruence -whatever words you are saying need to be in alignment with your embodied sense of self. This also needs to be considered to context and woman. Game needs to distinguish between low and high energy styles.

8: Build up state and momentum by getting rejected. This builds the state (mindset) of plenty more fish in the sea. Get your blowouts out of the way.

9: Become comfortable in your own body. 

10: Chill vs flashy game

11: Do supplicate, chase and brag. Do not make things serious. Being illogical and fun is the correct way. 

12: Physical escalation as soon as possible. This can be done within 3-5 minutes.

13: Lead her and test for compliance. Within one hour, you need to move them five times and this cultivates a sense of compliance toward moving them home. 

14: Screen her and have standards, this is about a frame of mind that is geared toward seeing yourself as having value.   

15: Abundance mindset, this is about reducing attachment to outcome, keep talking to other women and there will be a a state of flow developed.

16: Minimal investment until sex - Women have no investment until sex. Men put a lot of investment at the front end dialogue and women at the back end. 

17: Enjoy the process - This is about finding your authentic voice, and the joy in the plateau

18: Stick it out until the end of the night. Gauge the window for night game, the best results occur at the end of the night. Sometimes staying to end when resistance occurs as this is when the greatest nights happen.

19: Growing skils, not sex. Sex is a great consequence. 

Biggest newbie mistakes

1: Not going out and making excuses as to why you don't go out. Listing the excuses can be a good way to raise awareness

2: Victim mentality, blaming others

3: Crippling self doubt and negativity - Obsessing over looks and doubting the process. 

4: Not approaching 

5: One-itis, getting stuck and obsessed on one girl.

6: Reading too much theory, ties into number 1

7: Meek or half-arsed approach. Deliver with 100% confidence

8: Looks for the perfect opener, not recognising it is about vibing for over an hour. Aim for congruence.

9: Poor body language and poor tonality and smile.

10: Stiff body in the club. Over analysing

11: Running out of things to say

12: Ejecting too early. Worrying about closing.

13: Bewing too nice and too friend

14: Being all pull

15: Interview style questions

16: Trying to be a formal boyfriend, doing the chivalrous masculine process. Player frame works because it has a grounding in piagetian psychology.

17: Being too sexually explicit

18: Being inauthentic.

19: Logically convince her into sex

20: Not physically escalating right off the bat

21: Make the move as soon as the moment allows, apologise if you don't want.

22: Trying to hide raw attraction, allow the feeling to emerge. 

23: Being too gamey, or too 

24: Not being socially calibrated. This requires seeing her friends as a part of the equation

25: Not going for a close. You are looking for female interaction

26: Asking women for advice on dating, only men who have been game successful really have the insight. 

27: Qutting after less than a thousand approaches. It goes against the grain of society.

28: Not moving to a big city.

29: Getting too invested before sex, similar to one-itis.

30: Buying her drinks. 

31: Quitting the night early

Getting a girlfriend or a wife
Principles of getting married are identical to game, and select the one who most aligns with your values. This will make them feel like they are the one. 

Guys who don't play the field have too many regrets.

It's like an unurned karma that destroys their relationship.

What do I say when talking to girls?

Can you give me routines and scripts?

Conversations with girls are chaotic. It's about learning to party. 

Make dumb assumptions is a way to avoid having things to say.

Stop being logical and say stupid things. 

How to keep talking
Learn what shit talking is.

Tell fantastical stories.

Read pop culture and news before you go out, the latest celebrity info. 

Talk more about yourself. 

Free association practice talking. 

Make a list of funny lines and anecdotes

Avoid memorising a long sequence or canned pick up lines. 

Ethics of pickup

True love is the pursuit and a deep compassion.
Fail to address that they are bad for women.

Treating women as a number.

PUAs shed empathy and compassion.

PUAs generally self rationalise for their behaviours.

Do not take advantage of emotionally vulnerable and drunk girls.

Avoid field reports

Treat women well

Plan to outgrow cold approach

Works on traumas and fears of intimacy

How do you marry high consciousnessness with sexual needs being met?

 

Edited Wednesday at 03:56 PM by Emptiness-one

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Self-Love - The Highest Teaching In The Universe
Intro

This principle is distilled from the accumulation of all Leo's teachings, this is Leo's primary teaching.

It links to the idea of infinite consciousness as self-love is the love of universe and god.

It's process that needs to be accumulated from direct experience.

Thought experiment

Imagine humanity makes contact with a super advanced alien species. 

What would this species teaching mankind?

Faster Than Light Travel?

A lack of self love is the underlying issue with civilisation and would likely be their primary teaching.

This can be seen and discovered first hand.

Self-love systems observation

Any system with the deepest truth would have the most robust self love. 

Evaluating any ideologue and you will see self-love is missing from the fundaments of their thoughts.

Implementation of self-love seems to be a problem inherent within institutions, words are cheap.

Hatred within any institution suggests an opportunity to develop self-love and it is a corruption within the teaching.  

Ego-dissolution

The premise of self-love is about the atman, the truest self of unified consciousness. 

The most important implementation is based on the definitions.

What is self? 

What is love?  

Mystical experience will provide the foundation for understanding this, something like infinite love. 

Aesthetic changes won't change the underlying lack of self-worth. Judgementality will also reduce the self-love given the unified nature of consciousness.

Application of self-love
 

All collections of people require giving love as they are a fragment of the unified conscioussness, and see the beauty of it.
Self-love is like identifying the brilliance of reality and your participation within the unified field of being.

You are the universe look at itself, it is all your reflection interacting with itself. 

The infinite mind is generating the reality, and that's its brilliance, while contextualising the physical form.

A conditionality is what fractures the connection to infinite love. 

The aim is unconditional love for the interconnecting field of being. 

This means loving reality just for the sake of reality, and it means expecting nothing in return. 

Create a business that helps people. Businesses need to expand to all of mankind. By loving so many people, you cultivate the deepest self love as this is acting our the principle of Atman.

Behaviours without self-love

Workaholics

Pick-up artists playing the numbers game

Are you willing to create a new vision for your life?

Careers that hurt people, selling food poison.

The solution to fear is self love

Money problems are a self-love problem.

Solutions for systemic problems

Self-love has to allow for terrorists, and all other kinds of criminals

Our self-love creates a cascade for how the world treats the ecology.

Obsesity is a symptom of the lack of self-love that mirrors how humans treat their environment.

All aspects of life can boil down to requiring self-love of your innate consciousness. 

 

Practice

Judgements are the opportunity to see the Atman of all sentient beings and to give the disposition of love.

This leads into the realisation is the unity of all existence being love.

Self-love is your touchstone in life, it is your compass.

Homework

Flick wrist every time judgement happens.
Make a list of all the reasons you don't love yourself.

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Burning Through Karma - How To Exhaust Material Desires

Intro

What is burning through karma?

There lays a craving for material possessions, physical activities

Basic needs require satisfying before doing deep spiritual work

 

Leo Life experiences

Prioritised career, philosophy before dealing with basic survival needs and chasing women.

Then neglected the romantic and social aspects while doing actualized.org

 

Lesson of the episode

Be honest with yourself about materialistic cravings

Material desires need exhausting or transcending to reach higher desires.

Problem is trying to get to deep spirituality and bypassing the Karma.

Satisfcation of the craving desires does not make a person feel complete or satisfied.

This needs getting to a place where you are willing to surrender all your attachments. 

 

What is you own personal craving/material desires?

What are you willing to surrender? 

What are you not willing to surrender?
(Good for a written exercise)

This will create a fork in the road where you need to make a decision as to whether you are doing something that is spritual or material.

It may be dangerous for those who are not ready to sacrifice the material for the spiritual.

 

Mistakes
Majority of people who pursue too young miss out on expressing their karma.

This can lead to guru misconduct later in life.

Straight into abstinance is a poor idea as it will create sideways expressions of the karma/craving.

 

Forward thinking

Consider burning karma to be an aspect of self-love to get to the place where you see why it's not worth continuing.

Phrase of being karma can be acting out the karma to get to a place where you exhaust the underlying motive for the material craving and transcend the karma. 

Edited yesterday at 03:10 PM by Emptiness-one

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How You Lie - All Your Dirty, Sneaky Lies & Manipulations Exposed!

Intro
These revelations will shock and disturb
Essentially every person is a box of snakes, which is the garden of eden metaphor, the lie that got Eve to eat from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.

Self-deception is the name of the game and actually shows the ability of the mind to self-deceive.

Concept Of Self-Deception

The self-agenda (Peter Ralston credit)

This is like the Buddhist ego illusion, identification with the narrative of 'I am the type of person who does x, and who likes y' it is the fiction of self that obscures the true self.

 

Mechanisms of self-deception

Truth is not your operating principle if self-agenda is running.

The root of this is the desire for certainty and comfort. 

This is why going to the supermarket feels like a statement of success as you are fed.

Low-awareness serves the self-agenda

The human mind is wired for self-deception

Self-agendas die under the light of truth

The ego concept is identification with the biological entity idea (living and reproducing is the OS we are governed by)

Lies are the cause of all negative emotions and can lead to physiological impacts

List of lies

Fake smile

Lies don't need to be verbal

Fake politeness

Eagerness to please.

Acting cool or stoic

Asking for things indirectly

Labelling things and people as evil

Anger is being hurt, projected onto others

Playing stupid

Witholding important info

Pretending that your loving, self-less and compassionate

Hippie ego

Moralising

False-humility

Acting perfect when you aren't

Witholding emotions

When you soften your opinions or judgements

Sarcasm and humour to manipulate people

Scheming to prioritise your position

Being nice to get validation

Pretending not to be in physical pain

White lies you tell children

Excusing your own hypocrisy

 

Truth is the gateway

Truth alone is curative

Truth heals you

Tell the truth when it is hard

-Levels of truth

Level 1 of truth: Tell it to yourself

Level 2 of truth: Communicating the facts of situations more accurately on honestly

Level 3 of truth: Communicating how you feel about the facts

Truth is a core of integrity

Edited yesterday at 03:10 PM by Emptiness-one

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Grasping The Illusory Nature Of Thought

Intro
What is a thought?

Understanding what a thought is, is the difference between living in a mental prison and living in consciousness

Thinking about thoughts is simply deepening the illusory prison

Realising that thoughts are clouds passing across consciousness

 

Analogies

Pictures of 3D objects are not the object themselves

A book is only black markings on white paper

This illustrates the meaning symbols carry as the mind shortcuts to the meaning.

The symbol is not what it represents, it is just a marking.

Thoughts are arbitrary symbols which acquire meaning, shortcutting into the narrative of the symbols and your relationship with them.

Breaking free of the mind requires becoming understanding the impact of symbols

Thoughts are involuntary

 

Technique

Flattening the illusion

When a 2D image is presenting as 3D, this is a flat marking, this has some link to the platonic form.

Identify the implicit meaning to the image/symbol and that that is a culturally decided conclusion.

The word cat is not the cat, is the the symbol used to describe the cat.

Gravity is a force in the real world, but the mind conceptualises this as a weight pulling us down.

The world is a thought, like the matrix, it is the experience we have around us.

God is generally conceptualised and these concepts stand in the way of knowing God.

The idea of 'You' is the developed ego that is housed within consciousness. This is the person who does x and enjoys y.

Essentially what you realise is that all conversation are lumps of meat parping noises at each other.

 

Challenge

Commitment to flattening 50 illusions during a week.

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Positive Thinking - The Key To Thinking Positive
 

Core
Every challenging moment is an opportunity rather than a barrier.

This is the moment for growth.

Positive thinking is a response ability, the ability to respond.

The philosophy of Aikido is about taking the force of the opponent into a neutralising of the opponent.

Every moment is to be perceived as 'How will this help me grow?'

Problems triggering are the opportunity to find the root of the trigger, this is shadow work.

'You will be truly cheerful in life when you know that no matter how you react will be any different' Tony Robbins

Exercise
Seven day positivity challenge, commitment to zero negative thoughts.

 

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Reality Is A Strange Loop - The Beauty Of Paradox + GRAPHICS

Intro

The I/Self/Person is a strange loop, this is due to consciousness being self-referential, then when it sees itself, it reveals it's infinite.

When there is a hierarchy that is tangled, and when you ascend, you go back to the beginning. 

2D & 3D examples

A > B > C > A this creates a loop that shows a letter scenario of real world examples. 

What is a thing that has no ground? Consciousness.

The strange loop is a chicken and egg dilemma, in this way, consciousness is an example of this, as consciousness requires a consciousness to create a new consciousness. 

The Strange Loop is the chicken and egg problem demonstrated in mathematics.

A perpetual motion machine is an example of a strange loop, boundaried by thermodynamics, laws of energy (energy cannot be created or destroyed, only converted) & entropy (energy dissipates with interaction with the environment).

Recursion is a feature within strange loops like two mirrors face each other.

How does a strange loop apply to religion?

Story telling due to its logical limits, turns into a strange loop, which is why story telling is a problem when it comes to using stories to justify god. 

Strange Loop descriptions

Strange Loops are predicated on self-reference, though are generally illusory and predicated on a 2D world. 

Real word examples of 3D strange loops are Godel's incompleteness theorem and the self.

This is why the Buddhist idea of the self is illusory and subject to repetition compulsion. Godel's incompleteness theorem may explain why the narrative structure of the bible creates a loop.

Implications for the nature of reality

Leo believes the materialist paradigm has constrained Hofstader as existence is the strange loop, something like the diamond net that self-references into a recursion/infinite stream.

Reality is nothing, which is everything. The physics seems to demonstrate that everything is excitation. This is the quantum level of fluctuation.

Reality is a continually expanding nothing as it is continually expanding. This has parallels to Jung's idea of the collective unconscious. This links to the pantheist worldview which given Jung's gnostic inclinations, then this would stack up.

 

Exercise to grasp strange loops

Subject object dissolution, this is an explanation that you are the 2D loop in a 3D space. This requires dissolution of all duality, or the realisation of the infinite stream of dualities as a unity.

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