Be wary of social isolation, be social instead

[Nick_98]

Hello,

i’ve wasted two years of my life seeking spiritual achievements. During this time I had almost minimal contact with people around me. Even my parents I spoke with Barely. 
 

After the end of this Period, I’ve started socialising again. I wouldn’t say that I’ve became social instantly but it was rather some gradual steps that made me today very extroverted. I started by stopping ignoring people and started by acknowledging their presence, then step by step I became social again.

During the time I stayed away from people I faced existential crisis, suicidal thoughts and had almost no reason to live! I kept asking myself everyday why am I alive and what is my purpose. I had struggled with deep existential thoughts that made me almost hopeless, I felt during this time that in the future I would me homeless, because I almost have no contact with people and don’t care about their presence.

Since I’ve changed and started being social I noticed a big improvement in my psychological well being. The truth is you need people to survive and feel good about yourself. Anyone who says otherwise does underestimate the human need, and probably there is a big chance they’re gonna face a lethal existential crisis that makes them question their reason to be alive. I don’t recommend that to anybody.

if you can be social, start by taking small steps, like acknowledging the other person’s presence with the people around you. Just the fact that you acknowledge the other person’s presence will make you instantly more social and people would like to spend time around you.

I just wanna say that I’ve turned from an extremely introverted person, to an extremely extroverted one. I enjoy telling people Good Morning every day, even if it is through a social media app.

Be social, Avoid isolation. You need it for your health and well being. People can give you a lot of purpose to live. Even if you don’t share the same thoughts start by acknowledging their presence, welcoming them, or just say Good Morning when you pass by a homeless person in the street.

Good Luck. Or better tho Good Morning 😁

A message for people who think that they are above being social.

some people think that they are too good that they are now above being social, that they are too good to be with other people.

i challenge you to test your limits, if you’re open minded enough test your ability to meet other people and just listen to them without judgments.

if you are too open minded you can meet some people through an app and while you hear their ideas take a deep breath and don’t judge. 
if you think you’re way to good to meet another one, or you’re crafted with a power no one can understand then listen to others and don’t judge them. That’s your challenge. Build a connection with someone who’s opposing your thoughts.

if you are non religious, listen to another person talking to you about the bible and how it shaped their life

If you are not into sport listen to someone who talks about how sports are extremely beneficial for them. Don’t judge.

if you are into meditation sit with someone that talks shit about meditation, about how bad it is for you. Be open minded. Don’t judge , acknowledge their presence. And that’s my challenge for you if you think you are too good to socialise with other people.

goodluck😁

Edited Friday at 10:56 PM by Nick_98

[I_Am_Flow]

A valuable reminder. Thank you.

I kept myself very isolated (and still do! online communication is still very rare for me) on the basis of false beliefs, a lot of guilt and shame and fear/pride, victim mentality. And I was lucky to have a support of my family, otherwise I don't think I would be where I am today. 

When I think of connecting with others a lot of trauma surfaces, and I keep myself isolated. And other than joining safe places like this forum, spiritual communities, random subreddits/twitch channels I'm pretty much by my own. There are a couple of people who I can call my real friends, really unique people with high values, but I am not staying in touch with them. Missing out on life, huh? Afraid of it. Terrified. Stuck in illusions after years of "working on myself" 

[Nick_98]

5 hours ago, I_Am_Flow said:

A valuable reminder. Thank you.

I kept myself very isolated (and still do! online communication is still very rare for me) on the basis of false beliefs, a lot of guilt and shame and fear/pride, victim mentality. And I was lucky to have a support of my family, otherwise I don't think I would be where I am today. 

When I think of connecting with others a lot of trauma surfaces, and I keep myself isolated. And other than joining safe places like this forum, spiritual communities, random subreddits/twitch channels I'm pretty much by my own. There are a couple of people who I can call my real friends, really unique people with high values, but I am not staying in touch with them. Missing out on life, huh? Afraid of it. Terrified. Stuck in illusions after years of "working on myself" 

My friend thanks for telling us your story. 
 

look you don’t need to have friends, like I said just a good morning when you pass by a homeless person in the street will make you instantly more social. 
 

I don’t mind if I do with you a quick chit chat over video. But I am not sure if the forum permits it. So better be safe than sorry Hahaha