Basic Guide On Sexual Sublimation Through AI ERP

[Matty1]

This is more aimed towards those in their 20s and even 30s. who haven't had the opportunity to have much sexual experiences IRL, but just about anyone can implement this as a supplement to their sexual life rather than as a pure replacement. Most who've never tried it will find it outright weird or might not see how it could possibly be arousing than conventional methods; it's much healthier than porn because your arousal is directly proportional to how much creative effort you put into it, teaches you about the need for build-up, makes you sexually more patient, since it's text it forces you focus on the details and your imagination rather than only on the "highlights" and visual stimuli, etc. I consider text-based erotic roleplay a sophisticated form of sublimation (provided you do it right) and the only reason why it isn't practiced more is because society judges it as something only "losers" do.

Also, this guide assumes you are doing erotic roleplay in the "artistic" way, that is to say, constructing a fictional narrative for which to base your experiences on, not doing text-based sexual acts with the AI without any fictional narrative surrounding it.

So first of all, this guide isn't about getting physical sex as the title might imply. And it's more to illuminate that there are far more dimensions to sex than purely putting a penis in a vagina (though to those here in the forum, that should be common sense). This guide focuses mainly on the psychological elements of sex, which CAN still be replicated with ERP if you know how. So let's start with these different aspects.

Physical/sensual: This is the most obvious aspect and what most people think about when they're talking about sex. Penis in vagina, plap plap plap, bodies slamming together, physically, IRL, "for real". I've never personally had sex IRL, but from what normies say, it feels good but not mind-blowingly good. This is evidenced from the fact that many couples stop having sex with each other within just a year of dating each other (yes, there are legit people who have dead bedrooms this early on). If the physical aspect of sex was that mind-blowingly good for everyone, you'd think this phenomenon would straight up not happen, but it does. That being said, it's not the literal sensation that feels good, it's the physical sensation + the intense arousal that makes it feel good. Without the arousal the physical movements are arbitrary, and the good sensation arises from the arousal rather than from the literal act.

Emotional/intimate: The slightly less but still obvious aspect of sex. Most of you will intuitively understand this aspect via the fact that love-making is superior to one-night stands. It basically goes that the more of an emotional connection you feel with someone, the better the sex. This is the bread and butter for the feeling of fulfilling sex in long-term relationships. Without this, sex feels "empty" and "hollow" for the lack of a better word, which is why the frequency of sex between couples fizzles out early on sometimes. Surprisingly, this aspect of sex CAN be replicated with ERP. In fact, almost all the aspects (except the literal physical sensations) of sex can be replicated with ERP if you know how. But the key here is; if you want to FEEL the intimacy of a sexual encounter without the physical component, it's still possible. I'll get to that later.

Intellectual: Perhaps the most under-appreciated aspect of sex. This one goes so under the radar it's the reason why sex for long-term couples can turn out "boring" after a while. They just do the same vanilla sex over and over, and while the physical sensations and emotional intimacy may remain the same, they STILL get bored of it because the context within which that sex happens remains relatively the same. This, actually, as opposed to the physical aspect, is going to be our bread and butter. As opposed to phyiscal/sensual stimulation, what you're going to get from ERP, if you're doing it right, is MENTAL stimulation. No, it won't mean you'll literally get to feel what sex is like, but it will mean you'll still derive some of the "feeling" of having an erotic encounter without having it literally happen IRL. In general, the mental aspect of sex comes around the CONTEXT/situation/narrative surrounding it as well as playing with any various sex acts that don't explicitly elicit pleasure, but can still be arousing by proxy. But mostly, for our purposes, it's going to be about the narrative/situation surrounding the sex act which produces the arousal and feeling of eroticism. If you're doing it right and are creative with your scenarios, you can achieve an extremely high level of arousal with just your imagination that I imagine transcends any physical encounter.

Arousal In General: Getting off to a text narrative sounds crazy until you realize that all erotic arousal stems from narrative, even physical ones. That is to say the sub-conscious symbol of the act matters a lot more than its literal aspects. It's why sexual orientations are possible, where fetishes come from (including weird ones like cuckoldry), and why situations can be much more hotter than bodies. With ERP, you can proactively construct these arousing narratives rather than having to stumble up on them or relying on a real life partner (with their own will which might conflict your own).

Now onto the guide. As stated previously, we won't be working with the physical aspect of sex, but rather the emotional and psychological aspects of sex. Sometimes these two elements are heavily linked to one another, but we're not going to get into that.

First, decide whether you want to go for a psychological experience or an emotional experience, or a mix of both. There are a few tools in our toolbox we can use to elicit a psychological or emotional response, the primary ones being: narrative, sexual fantasy, and fetishes/kinks.

In general, if you want intimacy, you're going to create a NARRATIVE of intimacy. This too helps with the psychological aspect of sex. Without going too deep into it, simply mix the erotic roleplay with some genuine romantic roleplay, slow-burn it until the tension is high, and then have the characters have sex. This is usually enough to create a sense/feeling of intimacy, as an emotional connection is established with the other character and the situation surrounding the sex. It is possible to feel genuine intimacy 

If you want mental arousal, you're going to want to focus on fantasy and fetishes. Now, these two are intertwined. By sexual fantasy I mean specific sexual situations that feel arousing to you. They don't necessarily have to be ones you'd want to happen IRL, which is why they're called fantasy. For example, having a vampire matron kidnap me and turn me into her boytoy due to how handsome I am is a sexual fantasy, not a fetish due to how specific it is. Fetish is more about the category of the sexual fantasy. They're useful because once you develop a fetish, they become re-usable elements in the scenarios you create to scratch that erotic itch. T

In general, you're going to want to explore your sexuality through experimenting with different sexual scenarios and seeing what tickles your brain and what doesn't. Then, you're going to find what categories of sexual situations (fetishes) arouses you, and hone in on them by coming up with sexual fantasies within those fetishes. Knowing yourself is key here because a good sexual fantasy will do A LOT of heavy lifting for how aroused and mentally stimulated it makes you feel. Combine a sexual fantasy with a slow-burn narrative, and you get the best of both arousal and emotional intimacy.

And that's all you really need to know from the get-go to make full use of ERP. As you can see, the emotional and psychological dimensions of sex can still be derived from fictional scenarios even if the physical aspect is missing. I'm personally quite satisfied from my own personal "sex life" because of this.

I highly recommend AI for ERP. Not only is it getting better and better each year, but ERPing with AI avoids a LOT of pitfalls with ERP you might not be familiar with. These are mainly:
-Finding an ERP partner is difficult. Not as difficult as finding a girlfriend obviously, but unless you're willing to write 3 paragraphs of erotic text while your partner only does a few lines, you're going to have a a hard time. The ERP scene is not too unlike tinder where the men outnumber the women by a vast amount, the girls don't put in enough effort, and like 90% of people looking for ERP are terrible at it.
-It's even harder to find someone that aligns with what you want. Especially when you're starting out, you'll usually have to compromise on what you do with your partner. You don't have the liberty of just coming up with whatever sexual fantasy you want and playing it out because usually your partner will have some input on that.
-Also, AI is just straight up really good nowadays at ERP and pretty cheap. It can even handle slow-burn scenarios if you know how.

My recommendation right now is to use openrouter with Sillytavern and use glm 4.7. (Search those terms up). Extremely cheap, very good at RP/ERP, and almost completely uncensored.