Akshay

This is kinda an abstract question. Why do I have dreams every night? I have been told dreams are occasional but I have them every time I sleep! Like even if I slept while studying for 4-5 minutes, I will have a vivid dream or something! And most of the time I remember my dreams! Yes! Some of these dreams are also all fucked up! Like they can give you feelings of anxiety and loneliness after you wake up! Like recently I took a decision to be detached from a girl in my life. But what I dreamt the other day was me having a fuckin great time with that girl! Of course this hurts when you wake up to reality. But seriously, not only this, sometime ago I saw myself being chased by a thousands of gunmen trying to kill me and me killing them and escaping them. I woke up terrified! I have recently become more aware of my old beliefs habits and mistakes and working on myself on the personal development front. Is this all a result of my spiritual awakening process ?

This is kinda an abstract question. Why do I have dreams every night? I have been told dreams are occasional but I have them every time I sleep! Like even if I slept while studying for 4-5 minutes, I will have a vivid dream or something! And most of the time I remember my dreams! Yes! Some of these dreams are also all fucked up! Like they can give you feelings of anxiety and loneliness after you wake up! Like recently I took a decision to be detached from a girl in my life. But what I dreamt the other day was me having a fuckin great time with that girl! Of course this hurts when you wake up to reality. But seriously, not only this, sometime ago I saw myself being chased by a thousands of gunmen trying to kill me and me killing them and escaping them. I woke up terrified! I have recently become more aware of my old beliefs habits and mistakes and working on myself on the personal development front. Is this all a result of my spiritual awakening process ?

@Nahm In the dream I said and did some things which I am afraid to say in the Present or supress it in the present I guess

@cetus56 There is a girl in my life whom I am in a co dependent relationship with! Being in that relationship in a while has really taken a toll on my emotions. So many times I tried to cut off the person but I kept giving in. But finally now that I decided to cut off that person or holding very little contact with that person both on the intimacy and conversation front, I dreamt having an awesome time with that same person! As far as before bed activity is concerned, I usually don't watch TV but I am on phone either reading an ebook or watching a self help material on YouTube. Do I have to stop doing anything at all before sleep?

@Nahm what approach can i apply

@cetus56 Shoud I take any messages from them? Are they trying to tell me something?

@Nahm I don't know how to interpret these dreams! They are really conflicting of the present moment. The decisions that I have taken in this moment are difficult for me to maintain if I receive these kind of messages from my dreams. Are they telling me that the decision that I made in the present moment is not good and needs to be changed? I'm confused !

@Leo Gura Most Definitely!

What is a better way to meditate? Being guided step by step and listening to it while looping in headphones or just sitting there without any guidance and putting all efforts Yourself ?

Dude the thing is this..! A woman does not like to take responsibility or make decisions! Women are emotional beings. If she asks you to take a decision regarding which clothes should she wear today, which place to visit today, etc., then as a man you are responsible to take that decision for her and tell her about your opinion even when you are not interested. This is a job of a man not to get annoyed by these little things. A woman really will not be interested in a guy who is indecisive and can't take decisions. The only help you can do is to help her take these decisions because almost every woman is like this! Show her how you care for her and love her by making these small decisions for her and she will love you more than ever with an increase sense of respect. Also, I suggest you to read " The way of a superior man" by David Deida. In this book he really goes deep and touches the roots that can make or break a relationship !

Yes i guess that will be my approach now onwards!

Definitely! It is a part of her playing games. And also, being with her, I also started acting like her, demanding attention, so the ego also has a part to play in this. I once listened to Eckhart Tolle's love hate relationship recording. In that he tells whenever we feel empty, our ego blames that the other person is responsible for our problems. These relationships are like drugs he said. When it is available, we are on a high and when not, our ego demands attention. So I am just trying now to break free from this addiction!

@Mad Max Thanks..!Great Advice man!

@Mad Max @abgespaced I have thought numerous times about backing out of intimacy in the past but at those times I thought if I am getting this intimacy in friendship without any commitment, then why not, let's continue this. But with time, it really stated feeling like there should be more to this. Of course if you spent a good day together, come back and then don't talk for a day or two, it really feels lonely. But now I guess it's time to cut the intimacy as I don't see a future here. But after spending like 4-5 months like this, how Should I deal with the loneliness and discomfort which will come with making this decision of no intimacy. If you are attached to a person, backing off really takes time I guess. It's a harsh process!

How can i make like minded friends who are into self help like me? It really feels isolated when you learn all these great things and there is no like minded person whom you can share with all your experiences..!