MattP

you have to suffer through it. I have the same problem when trying to meditate. Mind is going crazy. Perfectly normal. If you sit still long enough, eventually your mind will calm down. Also, focus on breathing. When you inhale, focus on the center of the chest. Breath into it. When focusing on your breaths, other thoughts and anxiousness will slowly disappear. This has helped me.

Watch Leo's recent video on loneliness. I feel like there are some points within that can help explain what is going on. Just the fact that you are one this forum leads me to believe you are pursuing self development. Therefore, you must not be giving your wife the attention she needs. She must feel starved for attention. If She is not getting it from you, where else can she get it? If your spouse is not interested in self development as much as you are, (or at all) there is not much you can do. You can sacrifice your self development to meet the needs of her, or allow her to wander away. What is more important?