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How is it that the people who are the smartest, hardest working and usually the most productive don't get ahead in the corporate world? I have noticed this at almost every place that i have worked at, the most productive and smart people are usually not at the top of any company that i have worked in. One of the companies that i am working in has been seeing losses of 20% in net sales for 2 years in a row, which is a disaster for a company with small margins, yet all the people that have been promoted within this company lack the competenece or are completely uneducated. Most don't even make an effort to learn anything new. When i would meet the most senior people within this company i always assumed that they were extremely bright, because they had so much experience and so on, but they would make the wrong calls 90% of the time. We have a store where we service our costumers, sometimes our CEO would forget to schedule people so the store would be empty on a weekend, on the most crucial days they would forget that we would open 1 hour before the usual time and so the costumers would get extremely angry waiting outside in the rain. This has made me fluctate in self esteem like crazy, sometimes i would feel that i would never be able to run a company even though i have read over 500 books, done extreme amounts of self development work and so much more to really grow myself and yet i still feel that maybe im not ready yet. But why is it this way? Why are so many of us not taking charge and really going full brute force with out dreams on the world? So many people that i know that are extremely hard working and bright talk about how they would like to change but none of them have the courage to do so. Also, if people who have extremely low levels of competence and intelligence can run multi-million dollar companies, what could the rest of us do? The ones who really apply themselves to growht and development? Any input would be appreciated.

Well that entirely depends on how you define smart, should you have to give up personal values and personal ethics just because you want to get ahead? I wouldn't call somebody "unsmart" because they aren't getting ahead, it's most likely a self esteem issue.

So, after years of research an reading as much as i can from the self help community, i still don't get these 3. I have spent around 9 years in the self development community and still haven't gotten the results that i would have liked from it, most of the things that i have tried have not worked at all and at this point i feel really dissapointet by the whole process, i have gone so deep into the topic of self development that i cannot discuss these matters with anyone else since most people don't care about things like this. For everyone that's experienced or has insights, please share them since these 3 areas, i believe are the real cornerstones of living a fulfilled life, and you can help everyone on this forum by sharing. So the first of the Big 3. Visualization - The big secret in Napoleon HIlls book Think and Grow Rich. The idea of visualizing yourself as already having achieved the goal. Leo talks about this, but the way it seems to works is that a person builds up a new self image of themselves, and that the brain then looks to match the external world to the internal world. But is this actually what visiualization does? Or what is actually going on? What actually happens to your brain when you start visualizing? Can someone please ellaborate a little bit on this, also please share personal stories if you have had any success or dramatic changes from this process. Motvation - How does motivation actually work, i am told that in order to be motivated you need to have a vision that is extremely compelling, but how do you create movtivation, do you visualize daily in order to "refuel" the fire? How do you get completely obssessed with your vision so that it gives you unbreakable persistance? If you are completely unmotivated, how do you get yourself motivated? Do you create a vision of yourself, and then continiously reconnect with that vision? Has anyone created a burning desire or a complete obsession by doing visualization work? Does anyone have any research or a more in depth understand of this? Is there anyone who has gone from being completely unmotivated to being a truly motivated and driven individual by doing visualization? The Subconscious mind? - The holy grail of all self development work - But how does it work, when i try to research the subconscious mind i do find a lot of interesting things, but i don't find any support for most of the claims that are made, like affirmations, or visualizations, or even the "secret". Most of the information that i have gathered comes from Thinking Fast and Slow, where the unconcious mind makes snap decisions and so forth, but it doesnt say that you can "reprogram the subconcious mind" by affirmations, or visiualizations or any other self help techniques? Can someone please crack the code on these 3 for me since i have watched every youtube video that i can find on it and most of it is either non-sense or it simply is contradictory to what the sciences say? The reason that these are so important for me is because i have known for years that there are certain changes that i have had to make, but have not been able to make myself take the right action steps to complete the goal. I have all these goals and nice dreams, but i cannot get myself completely consumed by motivation and desire. Napoleon Hill says that " A weak desire will bring forth a weak result, just as a weak fire gives of little heat." ANd he goes on to say that "You can never have great riches, unless you can work yourself into a white heat of desire". BUt HOW?! How do you actually get yourself that moviated, what are the steps? The big 3 seems to have something to do with this? Any help will be tremendous help!

I have studied Napoleon Hills work for years, and I have read every book he has published, even the ones that flopped. The problem with me is that when i try to visualize i have extreme resistance to it. And i can't get motivation even after having been visualizing and meditating like i was a munk!

You are probably right, but the challange for me here has been what Felix Dennis called "Cutting loose" Which entails leaving a life that you are not satisfied with and changing it completely for the pursuit of your dreams. It has been some time since i felt the motivation to change and actually start going for my goals. I understand that i may have limiting beliefs, and im now taking a NLP class to work with those beliefs. I have also done some work on parts integreation trying to get myself aligned from within. But how do i get the absolute faith in myself and that burning desire to achieve? That is what led me to success before and what my life lacks right now. I am prepared to fully commit to my journey but a part of me simple doesn't want to or feels to afraid to. I also have extreme difficulty with my visualization. I used to visiualize my business growing and me growing, and i could barely fall asleep because of the feelings in my body were so energizing. Now when i visualize its agonizing, parts of me simple refuse to indulge in the vision. Should i just blast my subconcious mind with my visions untill i start believeing in it or what? I would empty my bank account to somebody if i could find the answer to what makes a human being take action and how i can do so for the rest of my life.

Recently i have started visualizing my outcomes and my goals, just as Leo recommended, to reshape my own self image and so on. And i wrote out a beautiful script of a wonderful life, something i learned from Bruce Muzik was to create a tape where i record a guided session of this, where i record what a perfect day for me would look like, and so i did. But every time i try to visualize a new me or i think about being successfull and living my dream life i start having severe irritation and it's almost like my unconcious mind becomes annoyed. Is this normal and has anyone else experienced this? How long will this thing last?

What happens in the brain when we visualize and why does that visualization on a daily basis lead to movtivation? I have tried this and it works, im just curious to how you reached this conclusion and how the process actually works?

"You may as well know, right here, that you can never have riches in great quantities, UNLESS you can work yourself into a white heat of DESIRE for money, and actually BELIEVE you will possess it." - Napoleon Hill. I have read this particular book 50 times, and still am unclear on how you actually work yourself into a white heat of desire for money? The reason i am asking is because a long time ago, i would wake up in the morning with a burning desire like this, i had a thriving business and i felt like the king of the world, even though it was a small business i loved every part of it. I had a motivation that was unstoppable, that was unmovable, unchanged for months. I dropped 40 pounds of weight, i read consistently, i worked 115 hours a week, i was dedicated to my dreams and goals 100%. But then desire started fading, i woke up one day and it was gone? My question is, how does one actually "work yourself into a white heat of desire" for anything in life? How does one get oneself motivated to take action that is outside of ones comfort zone on a consistent basis. If anyone can truly explain this to me i and hundreds of people on this forum will be forever grateful. The key in life to any great achievement, to any of our goals, is consistent productive action outside of our comfort zone. But do maintain this you have to be very motivated, you have to have that inner drive, that burning desire.

Let me explain my situation a little bit better, when i was extremely motivated i had a vision of becoming very wealthy. I know it may be an egoic answer but i really want to break free from my menial job. I have tried to get myself motivated to quit it and start my own business again, but my motivation is completely gone. I also have a hard time figuring out where i want to set my vision, i sometimes think i want to stay and live in the city where i was born and raised, but i don't like the people nor culture of this city. It has one of the highest crime rates and very negative culture generally. So a part of me wants to move to the US, another part wants to stay here. I know that time is passing by, in 5 years ill be 30 frikkin years old and i don't want to waste 5 years running around aimlessly working at a menial job where i can't even save any money. I have spent somewhere around 6 months pondering this question all the time. What the hell do i want to do with my life? - I have been thinking about everything humanly possible and still nothing clicks anymore. I want that burning desire back for something again.

No I haven't yet, but i plan on getting it sometime soon. Does it answer the questions you think?

Probably, but how do you develop that disicpline then, i am an avid meditator and i do work quite successfully for the company i work with, but i don't have that desire for anything greater, life has become all about comfort.

I have a journal in my bed, and every night I write down affirmations "My bank account is growing fast" and so on. I was selling computer hardware over the internet, but the 2008 crash basically wiped me out completely. The difference is that i don't know what the difference is, i have severe apathy now for almost everything, i have gotten too comfortable. Time is going by so fast, im not going to get to my goals in life unless i start working with that same passion again.

Interestingly enough, a long time ago whe i was around 15 years old, i had a crush on a woman that i felt was really beautiful, so i did what you say here, i use to take my computer by my side and look at pictures of her all night until i fell asleep, around 3 months later, she became my girlfriend. I don't know if that is the secret in it's purest form, or just strange luck.

Well, i am looking for the answer to Action! Because taking consistent action that is outside of your comfort zone makes you grow. And not having these 3 under control seems to make it impossible to achieve anything in life, whether it's noble or just for purely egotistical reasons like money. So if we still don't understand these 3 we may never become truly self actualized, or we may be focused on the wrong thing entirely. Maybe there is something else that leads a person to unlock their inner drive and really make the big changes in their lives that they would need to. So the proof would be that any of these 3 can actually transform a person, i am now on 4 months of affirmations and a night/day visualization and i still don't feel a brutal inner drive. (A long time ago, i had motivation that was unstoppable, i would work 115 hours a week and when i would go to bed at night i had a journal in case i came up with some idea that would be useful for work the next day, I had what Napoleon Hill calls, a burning desire, but i haven't felt that way in years, that's why i am asking).