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@Dan Arnautu You talked about how if you give someone a plan to follow and they follow it they will always get the results because the plan is bullet proof (losing weight through caloric deficit for example) The question is how do you get someone to pick a goal like that and actually stick to the plan for the long term? People often times say that you just have to be positive or something, or just believe in yourself, or "just do it". But there must be some other aspect of psychology that makes someone follow through. Let's say that you give me the caloric deficit diet plan, and for a week I follow it then my motivation vanes or other habits kick in that steer me off the path. How do you keep yourself motivated for such a long time to make the habit permanent? Or make the habit just a part of who you are? People assume its a question of Values, but people can value the "wrong" thing. They can logically know that they shouldn't eat processed foods but do so anyways, so how does one become truly commited to a goal without ever giving in. I have read so many autobiographies and in every single one, the key ingredient was that they kept on pushing no matter what, some even kept on pushing in spite of fear of death, how the hell does one get that level of determination and willpower for something like losing weight, or going out picking up women? Awaiting your insights!

My goals are quite simple, I want to use my business expertise to grow a business to a very profitable level. Once I get to a high enough level I would like to create something called a "Life-bar". This will be like a chocolate bar that has 2000 calories in it, has a good ratio of fat, carbs and protein and will be extremely easy to produce with a very long shelf life. This bar will then be distrubited all around the world in poverty stricken areas and there will even be vending machines where everyone who has no food for the day can go and get a "Life-bar" to survive and energies their bodies. This will be my life mission, hopefully it will end world hunger and then I'm done. Then I'll go buy a little boat with the money I have left and go fishing somewhere. Hopefully one day the boat turns over and I drown, this is my preferred way of dying. So the challenge is this, I have internal resistance to going out in the business world, I can't get myself to work as productively as I need to be able to work in order to realize my dream, and then when I put in a few months of work and get no result I get extremely discouraged and usually revert back to my old ways.

@Michael569 But getting on that horse again after several falls eventually just starts to feel like you are doing something wrong, if you have tried all the recommended techniques for example to become motivated and stay commited, and not 1 of them works to produce the outcome, then its either the system or advice that is wrong, or it's me. Whichever one it is is of no matter to me since I just want to be able to create the habits, the persistance to push through and reach my goals. I am willing to change whatever aspect of me for the greater outcomes.

Believe me friend, I have tried more exercises and done more work on my life vision than 99% of people who are famous in the field of self help and even then, as you are exactly correct, my motivation dies anyways and I simply can't push through all the resistance that I face socially and emotionally in the attainment of my goals.

@Dan Arnautu You are absolutely right that persistence and patience is critical to success and I fully understand and apperciate that. I am not trying to have a quick fix or do some trick or something. However my experience is that the secret lies in consistent execution over long periods of time, and then you get the outcoume. However, I almost never meet anyone who has been successful in applying what they have learned and actually gain anything from it. Most people get stuck in the theory and stay there, I have done my best to actually produce the result that I am after but after months of intense emotional labour and weak or no results, my motivation dies, and even if I just use brute force eventually my willpower runs out and I revert back to old behaviours. This is why I sometimes lose hope that it's even possible. Logically it all works out perfect, emotionally and pragamtically it almost never does. As an example of this, we enrolled in a seminar about business, out of the 200+ people who attended only 1 person was able to succeed using the business tactics. Same is true about Pickup for example, I know countless guys who have bought pickup products and are still virgins. It may just be that I have understimated how hard change is and that I have to be willing to sacrifice everything for my outcome.

Of course they don't just creep back, what I meant was that the change doesn't stick. Eventually for example I give in to temptation and miss a few gym workouts and then I can't get the motivation to get back on track, avoid temptation and work out.

@furashido For example, I wanted to lose weight. And the way i did this was i planned out a weight loss program with intermittent fasting, tried that for a few months lost the weight and then gained it back. After that I learned about systems theory from Eben Pagan and decided that I was going to Make it impossible Not to lose the weight so I bought all the healthy food that i was going to need and gave my credit card away to my mother so i had no money to spend for a whole 30 days. Lost the weight, but eventually it all crept back. Then when this happened, I quit my job eventually to try to focus on my businessess, that worked for a while but then my desire for the business died and i couldn't get myself motivated again. I know this all sounds werid and even lame, but I just can't seem to create a habit and then have that habit be so deeply ingrained in me that it carries me with it. The other goal was meditation, I realized that this may be it, so I sold my PC and from September 2016 to May 2017 I had an old phone with no internet connection and no tv, no pc. Full monk mode, i managed to meditate regularly for these months but eventually i got discouraged by the results and that habit died out aswell. These experiences have been quite repetative for me, but I was successfull in my job (top performer in sales), i have a steady circle of friends, around 5 close friends. I have enough money to not work for a year or two, but these damned self helped things just don't want to stick with me haha.

@Star Net I Will give it a try, thanks for the recommendation

@Leo Gura oh yes Leo, how do I learn to apply what I have learned? Any recommendations?

@molosku I'm thinking I'm going to give this new setup of affirmations and visualization a new try. If it doesn't work I'll give it up for a whole year or something and then come back. I have decided to try again for 3 to 4 months or the whole of summer which will be enough to see if any change occurs. Thanks for the advice ?

@Jamie Universe heres the problem for me I do all that stuff. I actually did sell my PC and was away from the internet for 8 months of the year 2017 in order to deepen my meditation practice. I did 1 hour of forced determined sitting at least daily. I do 5 minutes of affirmations, 30 minutes of visualization and I then write my affirmation 10 times and then journal. But it hasn't motivated me yet I'm just using every bit of my willpower to push through. Maybe it's something that I'm missing here but I don't know.

@Leo Gura You might be completely right, it just feels that I should have come a lot further in self help given that I'm 9 years into it.. You are right about the theory part that I have very high levels of it or maybe that I still haven't found the root cause for something but where do I turn to find it? And as for victim mentality it may be that it is that which holds me back but it doesn't feel like it though. I'm satisfied in life in many ways it's just that so many attempts have been made to change that haven't worked, that's why I feel this way. But I will take your advice and double my reading and do more of the exercises to see if this helps. Thanks brother.

In light of the new information that you have shared with us Leo, especially your work on conciousness it leads me to wonder how does the Law of Attraction work in all of this. It seems to be a lot more "real" now that we understand that conciousness is everything that exists. Is it that we can manifest a reality that we have envisioned for long enough because conciousness is infinite and since we focus in on one part of the inifinte we get it to manifest? Is it that when we start imagining a goal or a new world that we start influencing the conciouesness of other humans since everything is conciousness, and when we change our conciousness and plant a strong vision by visualizing daily that we also plant that image in the conciousness of others and that aligns everyone to go with us since their conciousness is our conciouessness? Hopefully it doesn't sounds to crazy =) This is extremely hard for me to grasp even though I have been extremely intrigued by your work and have transformed my life, if anyone has any ideas or insights into how LoA is associated with conciousness i would love to hear it. Thank you. PS, Welcome back Leo, im mentally transmitting my appreciation and hopefully it reaches you for all that you have done!

@Anna1 Yeah, shes may or may not be right. But the early self help books don't describe it in that way. IE Napoleon Hill, Wallace Wattles and so on.

@Anna1 Yes, the idea that a bad mood could cause you to get into a car accident or have you get a parking ticket or something like that is quite silly. But the advanced version of LoA seems quite promising especially with the new information and insights that I have gotten from Leo and others.

@Anna1 The Law of Attraction is incredibly more complicated than that, it would be like taking a magnet that doesn't have a force to it, and magnetizing it with a positive force (visualization) and throwing it into a pile of negatively charged magnets. All of the negative magnets would align or be affected by the positively charged one. So it is for the Law Of Attraction, you magnetize your mind with a vision and then it affects other peoples minds and that help you along the way to manifest your envisioned reality.

@Leo Gura I think I understand, I have this urge for some reason to take 5 meo when I get the chance. It's been calling me for quite a while. Hopefully though I can still entertain some dreams like beautiful women or a house by a lake. And hopefully that damn LoA or Psychocybernetic theory will help me get there lol! I am sitting here writing down my visualizations for a few weeks now, hopefully it hasn't all been a waste of time, think about it Leo, if I can get a house by a Lake, you can have your meditation retreats at my house, rent free at that

But LEO! How does one live without caring about anything? Isn't it true that all our needs and goals are based off of this illusion we call life, when we wake up to it, What remains? Do we stay in the human body simply to just watch the show like we do when we go to the movies or what? I personally have a few goals that make me struggle and fight for something greater than i have now, but if i ever would experience what you are describing i would probably just completely go passive, the Law of Attraction is interesting to me preciely because i want to know the HOW behind LoA, if ego death takes me i wouldn't have to search for any answer to anything anymore.

@Etagnwo Not really, you can check it out on Google, just type in Law of Attraction and you will get the answer.

@Anna1 Such a shame though, because there are certain things like synchronocities and extremely unlikely things that have happened in my life. For example one time i had a feeling that my mother was inside a store when i was walking in town with a friend, so i walked in to the store to see if she was there and there she was That freaked me the hell out. Also the phone thing, numerous times have i said that i have a feeling that someone is going to call and the person calls within seconds of me thinking about them. It may all just be freak coincidence but it surely doesn't feel like it.

@Anna1 That's basically what the science behind visualization and affirmations has to say according to my now week longs daily research into the topic. The idea is that the body is striving for self consistency of the self image. When you start visualizing yourself doing something or a certain outcome you cause a tension within yourself called cognitive dissonance that motivates you to close the gap between your visualization and your current reality. There is no metaphysical changes or anything like that, its just a natural function of the brain and thats it.

Keep in mind, that many of the founders of self help have argued that if you for example visualize or affirm a belief, that eventually that belief will get programmed into your unconcious mind. This Unconcious mind is directly linked to infinite intelligence and that infinite intelligence will guide you to your goal, or even deliver this goal for you. Wallace Wattles is the first one to write about this i think and he also got his inspiration from the fathers of quantum physics. The question is simple, if everyhing is one giant mind and reality is an illusion. Is it possible that by changing the unconcious mind through visualization that you actually change the whole world? Since when you change your own unconcious mind you also change the unconcious of everyone else?

@The Don We don't exist, we are conciousness, if we are conciousness can we manipulate conciousness since we are gods? If we become aware of our true "nature" that we are only conciousness that has developed an identification with a body. How do we explain the phenomenon and very strongly believed idea of the Law Of Attraction?

@Leo Gura So theres basically no point in visualizing your dreams like building a company or having a certain partner in life since they are egoic? I thought that repeating something like an affirmation or visualizing something could eventually change "reality" since its all connected. Jesus christ Leo you are stripping away everything that i believe in, even my beloved mathemathics and rationality is now gone. If you ever decide to do a video on Law of Attraction again, please make it long

@Leo Gura So its true? You can actually create the thing that you visualize on a constant basis?