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I respect the effort, but it's a false interpretation, (and probably a projection) I'm just looking for challenges of my opinion, and where I'm wrong and whether I'm missing something or someone has a bigger picture. so far most of the responses are criticizing the idea. where is the validation in that?

When you first get into Spirituality: After maturing a bit: What's the next stage after this?

systems thinking?

Yeah, authenticity is a huge part of reintegrating the ego after trying to deny it through spirituality.

just because rejection hurts and validation feels good doesn't mean it's a psychological need. I agree that it is a developmental thing, that's probably what my idea is missing. almost no one is born like that, but you grow towards it.

what do you mean by authenticity in this context ?

This comment says more about you than the post owner. you can't judge someone's character like that.

But that's the thing, you can live like that and be fulfilled. once you know that, you become free of social validation, and you get to do actually what you want to do without any external pressure. social validation is like an addiction, being rejected of socially misaligned feels like withdrawal at first, it is painful but after that it is freeing as fuck. it's just most people are deep in that addiction.

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But that's only a survival strategy, not a phycological dependency. you can totally choose not to play those tribal/social games, if they're not necessary for your survival.

yeah exactly, playing validation games are a choice, not something we depend on.

what does self-validation mean here?

that's a different thing, social validation in this context is a strategy, it is functional and has nothing to do with psychological dependency. and i agree, survival requires validation, in business and career, that's literally the game being played of who's valid most to a certain group of people (Leo's work example)

social validation is not a psychological need we have, you can be rejected, misunderstood, outcasted and still be happy and psychologically fulfilled.

happy birthday leo

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Instructions weren't clear, i went viral for swinging my dick around trying to fuck everything like a madman, including myself, what did i do wrong?

You have so many options in University. just be everywhere, try everything, join anything and expose yourself to lots of social situations. eventually you'll figure it out, you just need some exploration and experimentation.

yeah this distinction has to be made. validation and connection are two different things.

Just simply wrong.

and I'm saying you can learn to not depend on that. yes it will effect me negatively, but only in a form of automatic reaction and in the moment. my worth and happiness won't be effected.

Yeah. also social connection is only one form of connection. Connection is one form of metaphysical love. I learned this from Leo's insights and from a bit of contemplating and direct observation and experience.

yeah I'm aware of that principle. having something far more important blurs all the external feedback.

yeah it's optional, no one is denying you of seeking validation, but it is not necessary.