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This is a basic insight but a powerful one, and can either be interpreted as good news or bad news; it's up to you: A human is a mechanical system that runs on autopilot almost all the time. and a system that is capable of observing itself and influencing itself. Programming different aspects of yourself becomes one of the most important skills when it comes to behavioral change.

Hey man, I’m gonna answer you honestly, what you wrote doesn’t sound like a curiosity about reincarnation, it sounds like you’re exhausted and feel stuck in a life where you think you’re ‘less than’ others and hate your life, I get it. Those are just beliefs and interpretations, and they're doing way more damage than any actual limitation you might have. There are people with average or even below-average intelligence who build solid, meaningful lives because they focus on what they can control instead of labeling themselves and giving up. I get it, it can feel hopeless sometimes and your feelings are valid, but what's not valid is your interpretation of it and having that attitude/mindset. About ‘going to the next life’, nobody actually knows what happens after death. At least I don't know myself, and I don't think that's the right thing to think about right now. What’s real is this life, right now. And the fact that you’re here asking this means some part of you still wants things to be different, not just over. And that part matters. With enough understanding, better perspective, and time, people can completely change the way they see themselves and their life. This is not just lame motivational talk; it’s something you can actually observe. Your current story about yourself isn’t fixed. It’s something your mind built from past experiences, and it can be updated and changed. you can interpret things differently, see what lessons you learned, see what opportunities you have. But for that to happen, you need at least a bit of openness to the idea that things can improve. Not blind positivity, just enough optimism to stop reinforcing the idea that you’re stuck forever. Also, your self-worth being tied to past failures is a trap. Past outcomes don’t define what you’re capable of becoming and who you are. you can train yourself to not believe that. Here’s what’s not real: “My IQ completely determines whether my life is worth living.” “Because I’ve failed before, I’ll always fail.” “My current situation is permanent.” “There’s no way for me to feel better or build something meaningful.” “The only way out of this feeling is to leave this life.” "I suck and I'm not worthy" Here’s what is real: You don’t fully know what you’re capable of yet. yourself worth and self-esteem are flexible things and are not tied to past or present situations. Your mind is interpreting your life in a very harsh, fixed way. and that can change. People in similar or worse situations have found ways to build lives they don’t hate. (speaking from experience) You have some level of agency, even if it’s not absolute. Change is possible, but it starts with small shifts in perspective and action. You’re not the only one who has felt like this, even if it feels like it right now. If things feel this heavy, talking to someone in real life, even just one person, can help more than trying to solve everything alone in your head.

I disagree with this idea, yes we have esteem and belonging needs, but those are different things. we can learn to stop craving social validation and make it internal. What do you think?

How do you hold an idea or map of reality firmly enough to act on it, but loosely enough to abandon it when you're wrong? I keep running into this: I'll arrive at some understanding; about people, about how things work, about myself, and I'll feel it clearly enough to say it with confidence. Then sometimes later I look back and realize I was missing something obvious, or i was wrong. The naive fix is to just "stay curious and uncertain." But that's not really a solution, it's an abdication. You can't navigate life in permanent suspension. You need maps, even imperfect ones. You need to commit to a direction or you go nowhere. So the real question isn't whether to hold convictions, but how?, how do you build maps that are solid enough to act on, but not so rigid they stop you from growing? is it just "act based on your best guess"? or something to do with intuition and insight? or is it a paradox?

so it's about a 'state'?

i just want to know does it have this paradoxical letting go ? letting go of the need to have truth .

That would be yellow stage.

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yes. the more you meditate, the more conscious you get, the better you get at observing yourself, the better your chances are at self mastery.

yeah exactly.

you can write books on this trying to make it concrete lol. but i would say what i mean by programming oneself is being able to modify automatic behaviours (habits, thoughts, reactions, identity...) through understanding and practical tangible techniques.

spot on

I don't played games so much, by I Played Assassin's Creed Odyssey and it was sick, the story, the map, the landscape and cities, the missions.... were perfect

this is an opportunity to be vulnerable, who knows who you might help with you sharing. here are few of my recent mistakes: Used to focus a lot on theory and understanding and i try to translate that myself to practical stuff i can excute on which i fail on mostly obviously and kept me stuck. instead, i should've treated theory and understanding as context for practical stuff, and I should've also searched for practical techniques that are proven already not try to come up with mine on the go. I Was unaware that sometimes i communicate violently which effected some things negatively. I went too deep on understanding and truth seeking to a point where it put me in disillusionment, whereas i should've put most of my attention on practical life and survival, I'm young and don't have enough infrastructure for radical stuff. Not re-evaluating my assumptions enough, too many assumptions held me down.

She probably has anxious attachment style, and her past relationship made it worse. that's only a guess, ask her if she has that, if she doesn't know, tell her to ask some professional since she's getting professional help. that'll help so much.

self-awareness how? what does it mean in this context?

I don't understand your idea, can you give me an example?

Thanks for sharing Guys, i already learned more in this post than most posts on the forum.

This guy's name is Younghoon Kim. He probably needs to watch the "8 Unique & Original Proofs Of God" since it is more in a rational language, then step out of his rational paradigm. also embrace the paradoxical nature of reality. He also believes we live in a simulation. that's because he assumes God is external to reality.

I guess that's his point when he says 70%. not everyone can do that. most people are unconscious and are spiralling in vicious cycles of struggle and suffering most of their life, they just don't know any better.

will give it a read for sure.

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Thanks, hope to be able to have some friends after reading this.

create a content system. the most standard system is the 3 pillars system: 1. authority content by showing your expertise and results. 2. growth content for more reach, by copying what works and optimizing for growth. 3. personal content for trust and relatability, by sharing stories, being vulnerable, sharing personal things.. (there are more details and nuance, this is compressed for the sake of simplicity) be consistent with posting and post frequently. as long as you speak to a specific avatar, you don't need that much followers and getting only around 2k views on each video is enough to get clients/ customers if you do things right. don't try to go viral first, it would be useless at that stage and will attract random followers that won't benefit you with anything, and worse, they might effect your algorithm if they view the other targeted content and they don't care. optimizing for vitality is when you want to scale. I would recommend long form videos on youtube, the growth on youtube is brutal, but the conversion potential is insane, as well as trust building. i wish you all the luck

to a weak unstable mind without any purpose or meaningful life, yes. or an unconscious one. so, I assume rejection is not directly causing the disorders, it is just removing a huge part of what gives meaning. if you are internally grounded, no amount of rejection will make you lose your shit. but this is a strong point, imma think about that more.