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There is a regular amount of fear of being seen, and there is an extreme case that's caused by toxic shame, which was my case. and apparently, it is an advantage. it works like a rubber elastic, the more you are pulled towards the extreme end of the spectrum (fear) the most likely that you'll end up on the other extreme (courage and audacity) if you worked on it. i experienced this personally and observed it on so many individuals. or like a strange loop, white becomes so white it turns black. fear becomes so intense it becomes audacity.

His book, the pdf version is free: https://thedankoe.com/purpose One of his articles where he explains his philosophy: https://thedankoe.com/letters/making-money-is-spiritual-if-you-learn-these-unethical-skills/

If you read one of his articles on business philosophy or his book "purpose and profit" you would understand his approach.

This is the best creator i found that talks about attachment, complex trauma, relationships and specifically fearful avoidance and toxic shame/CPTSD. https://www.youtube.com/@heidipriebe1

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@Natasha Tori Maru all this time i thought you were 26 or something, what?

seems like next time i wanna make a post, i gotta write a whole argumentative persuasive long article about it, because the casual way is vulnerable for misinterpretation and it's loose and not precise.

How's Dan Koe not mentioned yet? He's basically Leo if he decided to do content about business, branding and entrepreneurial lifestyle and philosophy.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYF4cEGym2i/?igsh=YjZ5emZoNnQ4bGUy this just looks like a video Leo would comment on, i can hear it from a mile away.

watch this episode: For the building phase of any big project in career or business, the "locking in" phase is important, you need massive effort and focus. but it won't last forever for most people, you would eventually burn out if you maintain that intensity phase longer than necessary.

That's also valid. I'm not saying if you want to be authentic, you gotta be weird. I'm just saying there's a big chance you might relate to that suppression case. that's a strawman.

in this context, consider all those the same. If you have a tendency to act irrational, that's authentic. but not every irrational behaviour is authentic. context matters.

how about this version: Weirdness can be one expression of authenticity, a sign that goofiness or irrationality, which many of us learn to suppress, is being let back out. When approval and conformity matter less than expression, weirdness often shows up naturally, simply because there's less filtering happening.Many people suppress that weirdness, often because conformity has felt safer or more rewarding than being authentic. That doesn't mean all authentic people are weird.

performers vs authenticity

I would add to this: Break all your dependence on external validation, learn to sit alone and be happy, discover as much as you can about yourself.

How about a version where you deconstruct some aspects of truth like you did with Evidence, argument and rigour?

also, why isn't there a "how truth works" video? not, what is truth, but what are it's mechanisms and what are some wrong assumptions about how truth works, and what's right...

The content of this post should be at the beginning of every actualized.org video: https://www.actualized.org/insights/actualized-quotes-683 It sets the context for why leo speaks how he does. Because many people still operate from the old "modern philosophy" paradigm where they think if something is true, it has to have evidence and we should clearly agree that's it's true. It's assuming that everything that's not proven can't be taken seriously. That was my experience when i first discovered Leo's videos, i always went "yeah, but how can you prove it?"

You said those feelings and experiences are actually universal. and that paying attention to differences is just cognitive bias and selective attention. I said that's only one case. let me explain: there's a difference between structural mismatch and universal experience when it comes to feelings of isolation. let's talk in simple models just for the sake of getting the point across. the feelings of isolation between people on the same stage of spiral dynamics isn't the same as between two different stages. in the same stage, you can make effort, be creative, and find a way eventually, because there isn't a mismatch between you and your environment, the structure is the same, but the content may differ.But imagine being stage yellow and live in a purple, blue and at best early orange environment. there isn't a single thing you can do, there's just structural mismatch. it's asymmetric, not perception bias. It's actually explicit in spiral dynamics that higher stages can model lower stages (they were there once) while lower stages can't model higher stages, because the cognitive complexity isn't there yet. Simply, difference in content isn't the same as difference in structure.

it's a double edged sword: unfair advantage: seeing through people's bullshit, unconsciousness and stupidity helps with peace and detachment from external validation and judgement. You feel free. Trade-off: You find a hard time relating with many people, with fitting in, with finding a partner, with having a regular life.... That's why you are a culture shaper, a leader, a one of a kind authentic brand. trying to be regular would be miserable.

the only spiritual thing is the last sentence, the rest is just psychology.

This is only one case, what you are saying is right, but it's only one example, one scenario. not general. Specialness is a value judgment. Irregularity is just a statistical fact. not being regular doesn't necessarily mean being special and unique. Put a harvard scientist in a remote village in neglected parts of africa and expect him to relate to them and connect. he'll just struggle, because he's irregular there, but not necessarily special.

It is a lonely part only in the beginning. once you learn to be happy just by yourself, independent of everyone. and once you build a purposeful life, it becomes a huge advantage. you find yourself easily connecting with anyone without any expectations, because you're no longer needy. you become free as fuck and able to be authentic as you are without any external pressure.....

lol not necessarily

Humans are fucking stupid. Godddddd daaaaaaaaaaaaaamn