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But that's only a survival strategy, not a phycological dependency. you can totally choose not to play those tribal/social games, if they're not necessary for your survival.

yeah exactly, playing validation games are a choice, not something we depend on.

what does self-validation mean here?

that's a different thing, social validation in this context is a strategy, it is functional and has nothing to do with psychological dependency. and i agree, survival requires validation, in business and career, that's literally the game being played of who's valid most to a certain group of people (Leo's work example)

social validation is not a psychological need we have, you can be rejected, misunderstood, outcasted and still be happy and psychologically fulfilled.

happy birthday leo

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Instructions weren't clear, i went viral for swinging my dick around trying to fuck everything like a madman, including myself, what did i do wrong?

You have so many options in University. just be everywhere, try everything, join anything and expose yourself to lots of social situations. eventually you'll figure it out, you just need some exploration and experimentation.

yeah this distinction has to be made. validation and connection are two different things.

Just simply wrong.

and I'm saying you can learn to not depend on that. yes it will effect me negatively, but only in a form of automatic reaction and in the moment. my worth and happiness won't be effected.

Yeah. also social connection is only one form of connection. Connection is one form of metaphysical love. I learned this from Leo's insights and from a bit of contemplating and direct observation and experience.

yeah I'm aware of that principle. having something far more important blurs all the external feedback.

yeah it's optional, no one is denying you of seeking validation, but it is not necessary.

You're welcome

I believe validation is the wrong word here, when in a bleak emotional winter, it is connection we need, not validation. and there are so many ways to get connection besides external ways/from others. Craving social validation is the ego/self image needing to be confirmed and reinforced by others.

You are talking about flow state?

yeah, but the idea that we are 'dependent' on social validation is wrong, i believe.

I still don't get life purpose. since my life has always been a series of medium-term projects (6 months to 2 years) that either solve a problem, or my curiosity drifted me there. these projects are all over the place, from university to business to dating to hobbies. i learned so many skills and never specialized in any domain. now I'm a freelancer, not because of life purpose, but i maxed out university so i quit and freelancing seemed to be the next challenging project that excites me and I'm curious about. when i think of the future, i don't see myself doing something specific, but rather engaging in projects that fit that context of my life. my motivation has always been growth and creativity, so do I need life purpose?

the synthesis of causality, self help, practicality, human behaviour, nature of mind and thoughts, will power.... makes it already unique. it gives all of that context instead of them being separate things.

yeah, it can be the bridge between neurotic thinking and systems thinking. it can also decrease internal drama which is a huge factor for unnecessary suffering.

So it's a system of influences influencing influences in a complex weird loopy maybe infinite way?

The illusory of free will part needs some more nuance and details. how are these statements true at the same time?: so does agency exist according to this framework or not? if so, what type of agency?