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I dare god to imagine deez nuts.

@Sucuk Ekmek your profile photo looks like a black girl from afar.

Actualized-snobbing. Example in a sentence: you are actualized-snobbing me you actualized-snob fuck! Meaning: You are acting condescending because you know about and learn from Actualized.org.

Better call Saul my friend. He knows a guy who knows a guy. but there's no coming back from this. and seems like you'll need the deluxe service, he'll give you a number, call it and say "I need a dust filter for a Hoover Max Extract Pressure‑Pro, Model 60." seriously though, what i found works for me best is rather than constructing an identity, i instead construct and anti-identity. it's hard to get clarity and know exactly who do you want to be and act like, but it's way easier and clear to know who you don't want to be. it acts as a reference point. this works for several principles about human psychology and behavior: We're wired for survival, not for happiness and alignment, so instead aligning with an identity, try surviving against one. Negativity bias: we react more to problems, negative stuff, anti-goals rather than aspirational stuff. The enemy effect: we're more likely to take action against an enemy than towards some ideal (this is used in war, politics, branding...) Cognitive dissonance: acting in ways that your anti-identity avatar would act like creates tension, pushing you to adjust behavior to reduce it. the mind hates that shit. Contrast effect: we constantly perceive ourselves in contrast to something else, that's why we constantly compare ourselves to others, judge and criticize the fuck out of anything. Disgust as Behavioral Deterrent (as long as we do it consciously): We’re wired to steer clear of anything that feels gross or wrong, so seeing something disgusting makes us way less likely to do it ourselves. for example, when you see someone who constantly complains and acts like a victim, and you either consciously or unconsciously feel disgusted and disappointed, you are more likely to never do the same. Same thing for constructing a vision, when one is not clear on a vision for the future, constructing an anti-vision gets you there faster and gets you moving.

probably because Asians only study math and engineering, not philosophy. and they do so since birth.

Proud of having answers for my younger siblings after figuring shit out on my own for years. and proud of having infrastructure that makes them transcend the shitty kinds of survival.

nice 😆

see "life unfolds in chapters and phases" and "ego backlash" episodes also, you probably need an answer uniquely to your life and where you are at currently.

@Toranvor This would take some trial and error. maybe you can find your answer in history of how people dealt with similar issue with the rise of similar technologies.

The way he writes his articles and essays is a work of art, he mostly writes about the shallow topics that work and get so many views but use philosophy, developmental psychology, actualized.org inspired topics, human behavior, history to talk about them in an engaging simple way (he was a copywriter). he is the perfect example of balance between art and business. the most holistic motherfucker I follow online.

Same thing happened when all of these technologies were invented: printing press, camera, digital tools, electric guitars, synthesizers...

deep throating regularly. (not speaking from experience)

The smartest people often aren't the ones who read the most books. They're the ones that have the right attitude to knowledge. Curiosity, intellectual honesty and Action-driven learning beat Accumulation by a miles. People with right attitude are researchers, always having a reason for their learning, wither they're curious about something, or want to figure out something, or have a goal in general. They do all that with intellectual honesty, as in ego-free, ideology-free, radical open-mindedness and integrity. and learning happens in cycles of intense learning, reflection, action, integration, synthesis.... The "read books daily" is lame linear productivity advice. _________ Edit: lemme add detail and nuance. what i mean is, if your goal is to learn, discover, understand, theorize, and all sorts of intellectual stuff, establishing a daily habit of reading goes against human nature. we as humans learn information that we either use, are curious about or matter to us in the moment. memorization is not effective. I'm not saying reading books is bad, I'm saying reading books with the wrong attitude is ineffective. if you have the right attitude, you won't find a problem with reading books and consuming any information. because you would be curious and look for answers. Reading books daily seems mechanical, you would only implement this habit if you either hate learning and you're not an intellectual person, or you have an extremely tight schedule. if you are a curious person, you would go from phases of consuming an equivalent of 3-4 hours of reading books, and times when you're barely consuming any because you're on a different phase, you have clarity now, there's too much action to take. these phases could be from 2 weeks each to 6 months each to more. the point is, we don't learn in a linear manner.

Damn. So you’re saying all this time I wasn’t joking… I was practicing wisdom? always knew i was special, I might start writing books.

it's a paradox. don't mistake that with Chaos and randomness. i don't know how to explain it but you have to be in that state of mind to grasp it.

My Why is that there is no why. My purpose is no purpose. My life is meaningful because life has no meaning. took me some time to grasp that, and once i did, it set me free.

the whole social media business niches.

i need help with some insights on this topic. i believe "the more smart and aware the more depressed" is true until a certain point. and that certain point is what I'm trying to articulate. here are my guesses so far: the early version of smart is deconstructing everything, every illusion, every meaning system. that leads to suffering, but that suffering ends or gets better once you start conscious construction the more smart and aware you are, the more you move from Orange stage to Green stage, and the moment you jump to tier 2 in spiral dynamics, the construction journey starts before, everything was external to you, value system, motivation, meaning. awareness strips you of all that, you end up thinking "nothing is real, nothing matters, so what's the point?" thus leading to depression. you get over that once you develop internal systems of motivation, meaning and values what are your takes?

There is a billion dollars start up idea here lol seriously though, the more you stay inside, the more it pulls you in, the less your desire to touch grass gets. what you're feeling now isn't real, as soon as you dress well and get outside, you realize it's not as bad as you felt.

Here's what's happening in this post: First, my framing was off, my bad. When I said “reading daily is lame,” what I meant was that that's usually passive, linear consumption without application that often becomes intellectual comfort, not real learning. But that’s not how it landed. It landed like I was saying reading is useless, that people are wasting their time, or pretending to be smart. Of course that triggered people. That part is on me. But here’s what actually made me pause. Most people didn’t engage with the idea. They attacked me personally, said I don’t have authority, "i don't know shit" and "it's your thing only" while dismissing the argument without addressing it, and created a strawman like “he thinks reading is bad. and he doesn't read at all” That’s not debate, that’s defense. And I’m going to say it directly: some of you acted exactly like when religious people get their religion criticized. When a belief is deeply embedded, people don’t hear nuance. They hear “your worldview is getting attacked” Then emotion replaces reasoning, identity replaces curiosity, and defense replaces inquiry. And that made me realize something deeper: for many people, reading books is no longer just a tool, it’s part of their identity. It represents intelligence, discipline, and differentiation from non-readers. So when that gets questioned, it feels personal. my bad for poking that. Let me clarify my actual position. Reading books is not the goal. Reading books is a tool. I read books, a lot of them, but not linearly, and not "from page 1 to last page without skipping anything" approach. When you tell me, “read books daily,” it’s like telling a painter: “mix paint every day, even if you’re not creating any painting, just keep mixing paint and leave it there. You’re an artist after all, it’s what you do.” That sounds ridiculous, but that’s exactly what passive reading looks like when it’s disconnected from purpose, curiosity, and application. also. reading for enjoyment or inspiration is a different thing, I'm not talking about that. Real learning is messy. It’s nonlinear. It’s driven by genuine curiosity. It’s reinforced through action, feedback, mistakes, and reflection. You can read for hours every day and still not think clearly, not apply anything, and not grow in any meaningful way. So yeah, I’ll own my mistake: I framed it in a way that triggered ego instead of inviting thought. But at the same time, the reaction proved something too. When a habit becomes unquestioned and tied to identity, people will defend it the same way they defend beliefs. If there’s anything worth taking from this, it’s not that “reading is bad.” It’s this: don’t confuse consuming information with actually learning. And maybe more importantly, notice what you feel the need to defend, because that’s usually where you’ve stopped questioning and thinking.

I made a mistake by making a title that isn't precise and people think I mean reading books in general is ineffective.

sure, i will make better delivery next time.