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@gettoefl This is poetic, this is what I'm talking about. an insight like this won't help you practically with anything, it'll just help with understanding and how you relate to things.

@Eskilon that's what i said, it doesn't help you execute, but it helps with how you relate to how you execute and your results.

here's my attempt at answering that. The key distinction is this: not all truths operate at the same level. There are two layers we're dealing with: At the relative level, cause and effect are real. Effort matters. Habits matter. Identity matters. If you want to build muscle, you train. If you want to make money, you create value. This is the level where self-help, psychology, and skill-building actually work. At the absolute level, everything collapses. There is no separate self, no control, no inherent meaning. From this perspective, nothing is truly happening in the way you think it is. Both are true. But they serve completely different functions. Absolute truth is not meant to tell you what to do. It’s meant to change how you relate to what you do. For example, you still go to the gym, push hard, and track your progress. But at the same time, you’re less attached to the outcome. Failure doesn’t crush you as much. Success doesn’t inflate you as much. There’s a kind of lightness behind the effort. Another example: you still work on your business, improve your skills, and make strategic decisions. But you’re not psychologically dependent on it for your sense of self. That’s the real role of deep truth: orientation, not execution. Execution comes from the relative level. Freedom comes from the absolute level. If you ignore the relative, you become passive and ineffective. If you ignore the absolute, you become tense and overly attached. The goal is not to choose one. It’s to operate in both, acting fully, while understanding that, at the deepest level, there’s nothing to hold onto.

I'm Curious why we hurt ourselves ? what the mechanism behind that?

@PolyPeter biggest picture helps with understanding stuff accurately so i don't misunderstand you.

@CARDOZZO let's just focus on the point. using depression in this context should be taken lightly, and understand it as this pop culture version of it.

@PolyPeter okay now the picture is clearer. so would you say the breakthrough happens once one is conscious of what God is and what existence is? then comes the emotional work that'll serve as a way out? if we all compress that into one sentence, would it be "truth shall set you free" ?

@CARDOZZO i mean, you never experienced depression?

oh boy, i might have some bad news for you. your next break up will be as intense.

@UpperMaster the way i would put it is, vulnerability is expressed after dealing with neediness, not before. since you are being vulnerable because you aren't afraid to lose them or their validation. that's what vulnerable means, you give them a chance to reject you. if you are needy, it would be hard to be vulnerable. neediness is broad, it can be for many reason, it could be due to lack of abundance, or insecurity, or trauma, or conditioned beliefs, or inexperience, or dependance on externa validation.... for me personally, it was because of childhood trauma, i developed fearful avoidant attachment style because of that. (if you don't know, search what that is and you'll get a bit of understanding)

😂😂 bang on

what do you mean by emotional work exactly? So metaphysical understanding helps as well? this what i got from this: emotional work and metaphysical understanding.

didn't even see this line, it sums it all up.

@integral nice i love this framing. i always use the mental model of seeing everything as a skill, i guess i didn't apply it on this one 😀 reflecting back, it really is a skill, but one that is harder for some and easier for others.

@UnbornTao yed depression is a broad term but understand it in this context. I'm talking about that nihilistic feeling from being striped from conditioned external systems of meaning and value. you become misunderstood, judged, lonely, can't fit in, and lost and see life as one giant meaningless absurd existance. you know, the stereotypical saying of "ignorance is a blessing" and "awareness hell" there's this lame ass quote by Fyodor Dostoevsky that goes: "the more you understand the world, the more you destroy yourself. that's why fools are happy and intelligent people live in loneliness"

loss of direction, meaning and clarity. and identity uncertainty. too much uncertainty without clear direction. (there are exceptions, like loss of loved ones, struggle with survival, physiological stuff like you said...)

@Natasha Tori Maru yeah, but it's more like a skill than a mindset. it is play for extroverts because they're naturals. and True, Leo has done it and also his videos around game and relationships are king.

what do you mean by multidimensional intelligence? you mean holistic? or more specific?

@ROOBIO i had the same problem, and this is what i wish i knew before: distinction between thinking mode and social mode. thinking mode is being in your head using logic and trying to figure out things with thinking, observation and analysis. that's what introverts are best at. social mode is a skill, it's not logical. you can't think your way into it. it's a state where your nervous system is calm, you are present, spontaneous and have high self trust in handling social situations. find balance between shutting off either for the favour of the other i used to always turn on thinking mode, like an anxious autistic mf, which backfired in every social situation.

@AION Without a calorie deficit, no amount of “metabolism fixing” will cause fat loss. But improving your metabolism makes that deficit happen more easily, sustainably and more healthy.

this is exactly what i’m talking about: i saw this viral post saying: “this is the universal male experience… staying up at night stressing how am i gonna make this work and gaslighting yourself into believing you will” that’s not ambition. that’s trauma + identity pressure + hero arc being romanticized. it's the "i need to suffer to be worthy" that's too much unnecessary suffering. real ambition is way less dramatic: boring routine, boring systems, trial and error and long term thinking. no hero arc. no self-gaslighting. just systems, iteration and repetition.

The most accurate way to spot egoic dysfunctional stuff that's causing you suffering and keeping you stuck is DRAMA. worrying, complaining, victim thinking, gossip, guilt, shame, low self worth, inner critic, identity, judgement, moralising, superiority, inferiority, fury, resentment, resistance, self hate, self centeredness, attention seeking.......all have one thing in common, they all have drama to them, and they are dysfunctional. in all those traits, the ego is in the middle of constructed story where it is the main thing and stuff are happening to it and is reacting to all that with all it's attachments and fears and wants. Of course there is a difference between expressing emotions like anger, sadness, fear, disappointment, excitement, passion...and those traits. cutting all drama doesn't mean suppressing emotion. to distinguish between those is an attitude, a skill. If it has drama to it, it's probably dysfunctional and you gotta work on stopping it. (do you think there's a more accurate way?)

Walking is king, not just for fat loss but holistically : • uses more fat as fuel when in calory deficit • easy to recover from, since it's not intense. intense exercise takes energy and also needs recovery and it triggers metabolic compensation. • Easy to sustain so less resistance when implementing that habit • you can meditate or listen to something while walking, 2 stones one bird. • impacts everything else, mood, energy, thoughts, skin health • you become more creative and you gain more clarity in your life.

@Nemra Did leo just become my master in humour as well? not just in understanding 🤦

I had my first awakening and now i see through everything, it's all clear bro. Leo tells you the ultimate structure of reality is structured for maximization of love? WRONG!! it's designed for maximization of racism. now hold on, hear me out. this sounds radical, because it is. I spent years and years to realize this, I gave up millions of dollars for the pursuit of truth, truth is all I care about, so hear me out. Why is everyone using white papers instead of black? exactly bro, trees are picking sides. okay, if we let that one slide, you would think we would use black pens as the main ones to write because of the clarity and contrast, right? wrong we use fucking blue, see and why is the default mode for every software is white mode? and why the more close to the truth a software is, the more white it is? like actualized.org that doesn't have dark mode? yes, you are right, racism. and you might be saying "oh Leo." no I mean "oh yidir, then why is everyone using dark mode right now?" the answer is that's because the world is HEALING. you want proof of that? look at goth people, they all wear black clothes and black make up to support the blacks, and they don't explicitly say it because silence is louder than words. and the fact that there are no black goth people confirms my argument, why would they wear black, they are already black. also, you know why spiral dynamics people don't use black and white to color stages? they use all colors except black and white. that's because they are woke bro, they'd rather stay away from all that and be neutral, that's why it's called a meta-model, observe from afar and don't get involved. this is just the tip of the iceberg, maybe after a decade of work you will finally understand why I say exactly what i say. you are not convinced yet? we use the word black market for illegal stuff, blacklist for blacklisted people, and whitelist for allowed things? can't you see it? The white house is white, the calm noise that's relaxing is called white noise, people wear white in a wedding to symbolize purity, white flag symbolizes peace, now peace comes in colors? but, black magic is evil magic, we say "black ice" when it is dangerous, when everything stops working, we call it a blackout, in chess black pieces start second, motherfucker even in space, when a majestic celestial object is beaming light, and it is bright and warm and romantic, when we look at it, it's fucking white. but as soon as another celestial object is sucking up everything, even light and it destroys anything that comes near it, we call it a fucking black hole. are you kidding me? You have no fucking idea what CONSCIOUSNESS is! It's too intelligent for you to comprehend. Anyone here who claims to be AWAKE, or to understand what AWAKE is, or what GOD is, or what CONSCIOUSNESS is -- is fooling themselves.