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For the last 6 months I have developed multiple addictions I am still trying to quit I’ve managed to quit my addictions to video games , phone addiction and porn addictions by using an app that locks all my apps on my phone. However, there is no way for me to “lock myself out” of junk food. I still live with my parents and they eat bad foods and so I can’t avoid them I decided to watch Leo’s video called “Awareness alone is curative” and I think it might be my only shot at quitting my junk food addiction If you haven’t seen the video, Leo talks about how you can quit any addiction simply by just being aware of yourself when you indulge in the addiction/bad habit Using this method I’ve run into a few problems id really appreciate help with 1. I’m unsure I’m even using awareness correctly. Like how do you even be aware when you do the bad habit, I don’t understand what the difference between being aware and not being aware is. 2. Am I meant to let myself do the bad habit as much as I want? Leo says in the video to not stop yourself from doing the bad habit as long as you use awareness whilst doing it. But am I really meant to let myself do my desire 24:7 because if I do that I’m always eating since I have the desire to eat bad food A LOT. 3. Is there proof this awareness method used to quit addictions/bad habits works? Leo never mentioned any proof of anything using it so I feel like I can’t fully believe it works tbh. 4. is it normal that I’ve been eating triple the amount of bad food. My addiction feels like its just gotta worse because I’m doing the addiction way more now ever since Leo said in the video not to stop yourself from doing the bad habit but to just be aware of yourself doing it. I understand the idea is that you keep using awareness until your awareness becomes very good that you quit the habit, but I’ll honestly get diabetes at this rate bruh 5. I’m just worried this bad habit will never end. I’m stuck with what to do and I’m trying to cling onto this method for hope but so far not getting much results. please help me. I want to quit my addiction but I just don’t know what to do. please help answer my questions and give me your best advice on how to quit addictions 🙏🏼

Apologises if this post seems oblivious, I don't use the forum as much as I'd like to, so if the course is already out, please let me know I'd really love to see the course as soon as it's out, so if anyone has any information on this, please let me know

@OppositionlessI think I’ve finally found a way to quit. Look at @woohoo123s reply to me above His comment really has helped me its made me realise how much I hate feeling tired and disgusting when eating junk food this has helped me realise how much I like feeling clean and healthy This was only possible after Leo’s awareness video called “awareness alone is curative” because using the awareness when you’re doing a bad habit means you get to truly experience what you are doing to yourself instead of doing the bad thing without thinking. You get to feel yourself feeling ugly for doing the bad habit. and the 3rd thing which is massively helping me is i made 10 affirmations I’m now reading everyday and it’s not just about reading them but also seeing their truth in them. Here is my list below. Affirmations are very powerful. Don’t let anyone tel you they aren’t. Trust me. Make your own. If you don’t know how to. Watcha video because they are powerful we can both quit our addictions. I’ve got a lot of hope for myself from just a few days ahha. here’s the affirmations ✳️My NEW beliefs about junk food and binge eating Junk food tastes disgusting to me Junk food makes me feel disgusting and weak I enjoy eating healthy foods and hate eating junk food I easily ignore junk food each time I see it I always can easily stop myself from eating junk food I am more than capable of quitting junk food I am free from junk food and binge eating I barely eat junk food or binge eat I easily go for days without thinking about junk food I love eating well and feeling healthy I release the past—I enjoy each new day fresh.

I can’t believe I didnt reply to this. Ty for the help I have to ask, Did you make up that tip about saying “i love you but you gotta go” yourself? And does it actually work? and with your last paragraph, I have to ask, what do I reprogram my mind with instead of just trying to stop my current program of eating junk food

@woohoo123 hey I forgot to reply to you. Apologises just been eating so much junk food this last month everyday and it’s awful I swear haha I have to ask you. Have you quit junk food completely now and how long did it take? And Did you have a lot of junk food aroud you, specifically your house, when you were trying to quit i have a lot of junk food in my houses kitchen and i fail everyday to it and I don’t know if I’m just making it impossible for myself to quit since it’s so hard to have the willpower to not eat it i will try use your advice of preferring to be healthy and feeling good since I hate feeling low energy and depressed after eating this crap. But I’m scared how long this will take 😓 thank you for all your help btw and please help me as much as you know currently. I seriously appreciate it and need all the help I can get. 🙏🏼

I’m not really in the position to cook for my family. Would take too much time and tbh I want to fix this addiction not by removing it but by actually beating it to the point I can look at junk food and say “no” to eating it instead of just hiding it from myself yk? And thank you I will try to use the mindful stuff like you’ve said. my problem is that I’m not really sure I’m even using awareness correctly or doing awareness correctly? like what makes awareness different from thinking about something? I understand awareness is kind of like noticing something without thinking but I don’t get it tbh And because I don’t understand how awareness really works it makes it hard for me to even tell if I’m doing it right because I don’t understand awareness Fundamentally I can’t really apply it to anything haha apologises I dragged that explanation a lot but I want to make sure you understand what I’m asking Thanks for your help previously

@LordFall hey Ty for this. I just recently got insane motivation to build my body to an absolute monster body and wow it’s really making me feel like not eating that rubbish Have you got any more tips or more advice on using this tip you’ve given me i guess I can just think of all the reasons why I want to not eat it. E.g: looking more attractive which makes me more attractive to women, more energy, less depression

Any help Is really appreciated 🙏🏼

I’m having trouble understanding this girl and would really appreciate all the help I can get This post has a few questions marked with a “⁉️”. Please help me with them and provide any other insights you hav I met her 3 days ago at work and after speaking to her for the first time I had many clear signs she likes me: 1. After speaking to her for 10 seconds I knew she was interested because she immediately changed her hair style to make herself more attractive when I wasn’t focused on her (she let her hair all loose when previously it was tied up, looked way better) 2. She kept sexy strong eye contact with me the whole time we talked for over 10 min 3. She was trying way harder than me in the conversation. When I allowed for silence she kept asking me questions like “how old are you? Where do you live? How long have you worked here?” 4. She made things a bit sexual by mentioning how her hair used to go down to her bum (not the biggest sign but obv counts) I don’t need to explain anything else, even without signs, it was obvious to me just the way she looked and and spoke to me that she clearly liked me I asked for her number and she said she doesn’t give her number to people but can give her insta. Idk if this was a test or something legit but either way she was defo interested The next day I saw her throughout the day and she was still giving me insane eye contact and sometimes we’d just walk past and give each other flirty smirks, completely flirty vibed smirks like we were saying “I want you” I messaged her later that day asking if she is free to go out on the weekend and she said that we will talk about it next time we meet in person (no idea why she didn’t just talk about it on text, when I asked her about this in person she seemed clueless about it) Later that day she texted me again randomly and said “have a good night” which cleary told me that she is thinking of me, and which clearly showed me she is still interested if it wasn’t clear enough But the next day is where things get confusing The next day when we meet she seems more cold and dry and like she doesn’t want to talk, and is boring compared to the previous first 2 days where she had some personality ⁉️- I’m guessing this is just sh*# tests but tbh with you I’m not sure how to handle it. I saw a video that said that when a girl is cold and dry that you should match her dryness and then she will become normal again lol, is this true? I will mention that she did need to hurry to catch a train so we couldn’t really speak about our weekend plans So Later that day because we couldn’t talk about the plans I decided to ask her if she is free tomorrow. she said to me “I’m going out tonight, I will let you know how I feel in the morning…” (She included the … too lol, why?) I sent her a 👍🏻 Later that night she then messages me “who’s that boy you was speaking to earlier? What’s his name?” -I’m guessing this is also a sh*t test? A jealousy test or something? I just showed that I don’t care if she is speaking about other boys and texted her: “I don’t know his name, but I know he goes to X school” (I’m not lying btw) Now it’s the next day, it’s Saturday morning 2pm UK time and she still hasn’t “let me know” how she feels about going out when she said she would. This is the first time it’s taken her more than 1 hour to respond. The only thing she messaged me about this morning was to tell me a description of the guy who I spoke to because I didn’t know which guy she meant ⁉️I know the right move is probably to not message her asking about going out until she messages me right? Radio silence to make her see that I’m not gonna chase? What do you guys think? Please help me out in this post, idk what to do from here on out I want to understand women way better and how she act and how they switch between these warm and cold phases of clear attraction and giving mixed signals and what it all means I really would appreciate it and it would help me so much with this girl and future girls. Thank you fellow men.

interesting. With my anxious attachment, I can talk to a girl for 5 minutes and then be crying the next day because she doesn’t like me. This has happened like basically 3x now for me lmao. not like crazy crying but still crying ty for the advice. I’ll try it out and tbh I’m not sure why she even became unnattracted to me. The only thing I can think of is because I kept mentioning the date. But that was only at decently reasonable times. Feels weird knowing that I have no idea exactly how I messed up lol

I’m confused can’t lie. is there like a common thing they all want or something?

can I ask how do you avoid these tests? Is there any way to avoid them and make girls see I’m “safe”? and 2. women arent really being horrible and mean sijce they do this all unconscious right? What do you think of that?

@Hojo where did you learn this stuff. Super interesting. Ty for the explanation

I wish I heard this earlier haha. Such simple yet great advice. Ty

what feminist paradigm may I ask? and how do you know she is very insecure and is playing with me? I’m curious what told you that and what do you mean by give her what she wants to get what I want. Please explain I’m curious. Not that I would do it lol

yo ty for the comment. I have to ask which part was the big shit test and what mental games is she doing exactly? I want to understand? Is it how she didn’t message me in the morning at all whether she could go out or not? in your 2nd paragraph, what do you mean by “she gets a lot of guys who flip out?” What does flip out mean and why and how is she checking that I’m not going to flip out. and why did you say to friend zone her and stop the interest? Because she is too much work?

@Emerald Ty for the analogy about the tree seed growing. That helps me understand it a lot better. Appreciate you

@Schizophonia ngl bro I have no idea what you just said

@Flint ty man. You’re right that I probably scared her off with my overthinking I know I have an anxious attachment style which makes me very very needy. So once I fix that I’ll be so much better I swear

@PsychedelicEagle tysm for the help. It means a lot to me brother!

ty for the advice. I appreciate your hard truths. I accept them and will learn from this

@meta_male completely agree with you. Thank you for the hard truth. It means a lot

@Leo Gura thank you for the great advice Leo. I completely agree with you and will listen to you I have one question about how you want to not really invest in the women and give her much of your time the below 2 paragraphs aren’t explained super well but the last sentence of this comment asks the question succinctly. I want to ask if this low/minimal investment changes once you have sex with the women multiple times and make her attached to you? since I know attachment doesn’t happen for them until sex. I’m asking this because i believe in your 3 part series on how to get laid you mention how you want to slowly transition into going from a Player into a Boyfriend ONLY once you’ve had sex with her for a few times once you’ve got that attachment from the sex, are you able to invest more in her? to what extent can you invest more into her? I’m very curious about this. I’d love to understand more about it from you

@Emerald @GroovyGuru @vinc3nc @aurum @PsychedelicEagle @Flint @Princess Arabia @AION @integral @Leo Gura This isn’t a reply to any of your comments, though I appreciate them and will reply to them but I’d love to hear your thoughts about this. idk what is going on since I would’ve never expected this but after she didn’t text me about whether she felt like going out, I didn’t message her for over a day and now she has just messaged me asking if I’m working tomorrow. strange how all this works, guess she is interested. Maybe trying to understand women is out of my understanding for now 🤣😭

@integral hey apologises if im getting too annoying. But can I please get this also quickly answered by you do You think it’s impossible to build rapport on text or can it work? If so, how?