Howtolive

on one hand I get what you are saying on the other hand... Men have more masculine energy then woman. It seems like feminine energy gets idealised in that way

Yeah I 100% agree. The jedmcKenna reddit forum is full of toxic people. They may have a better grasp on non duality than the average spiritual seeker. But they completely deny mental suffering/physical suffering, different devolvement stages inside spirituality. The always go super meta and ask: "Who is the one suffering?" Like super unpractical. And I also see a lot of followers actually drown more in nihilism then spirituality. Becuase I read the book after my LSD trip it really took a big hit on me and I had these existential fears coming up. I also think obsessive thinking started to hook itself into that topic. I mostly solved it by one emotional release, declaring clear values for myself and understanding that there are different levels and stages (spiral dynamics video from Leo)

In a sense I get what you mean but on the other hand so far I needed to create a map in my mind which explains all the different kinds of teachings. It helped me understand what is going all. Leo also impacted me by understanding that there are different categories: emotional healing, personality development, spirituality, non duality. Can you tell me how to advance without any teaching ?

I thought one part of enlithendment is giving up all concepts to fully surrender. It seems like to me that this is a very hard challenge for most people but even harder for woman.

Okey I get that. Wouldn't that mean that the masculine side prevents enlithentment? Because masculinity is about strong will, not accepting, moving forward, setting boundaries, having a map of how reality works, being assertive. Isn't that all connected too having an ego ?

by reacting I meant to feel the fear for example instead of going into the mind and spinning loops. not reacting in that way. thank you !

The hungry and happy at the same time is indeed a good example thank you ! I get that stickiness but it also keeps to much distance to myself. For example when meeting somebody on a date. You get warm feelings because you like the person. And then you keep that distance like "nah this is not me just me feeling" yeah okey.. Like then you can never be in love, you can never laugh about a joke and you can never be hungry. you can only feel this feelings. Sounds bad to identify that way to me