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Here's a reframe that's helped me. Simply enjoy socialising with EVERYONE. Forget about pick up. One of the biggest blocks I've had with the frame is the state of neediness I've had come up from trying to/having an expectation for "more to happen," whether a number or sex or whatever. I've found pickup has also conditioned this distinction of hot girl / everyone else, and there's programmed behaviours that come with that perception for me ~ hot girl, i choke, everyone else I've learned to vibe hard Especially if you don't have a basic social foundation of regular socialising/social flow, this will help A LOT. You're just starting from a way better fucking state than whatever blocks you're coming from that you believe you have so you came to learn pick up in the first place. Learning to just fucking enjoy socialising, is a massive win ~ not only does it take pressure of this chasing sex game/frame. But socialising in of itself becomes the win ~ which means you'll do it more, and WANT to do the process of mad approaches, because you're there to vibe and see what happens NOT to get anything. Free is becomes my mind instead of being caught up in a percieved zero sum win/lose game of, oh I did/didn't get laid tonight ~ I'm great/I suck. Too volatile. Learn to enjoy the ride, this time can also be used to become conscious of your social ticks as you do it ~ am I comfortable holding eye contact? Being the center of attention? Leading group dynamics? Being vulnerable or honest with strangers? What do I/how can I most enjoy socialising with everyone? Practically in bar settings for example, if you know you're going to talk to everyone anyway, you also know you'll open whatever girl you noticed but feel too intimated to go and talk straight up to. If you can get fascinated in the whole picture of inner work with socialising, your patterns with women become part of the mission ~ not the whole mission. Takes the pressure off. You have fun. You come off as more attractive, very social/lots of friends/learning deeply about yourself... you get the picture. TL;DR: relax bro.

I regret not trusting myself more. I wish I had gone fully for what I want always, and learned to listen to myself instead of pandering to the expectations and demands of others.

Sick idea. Me aswell!

For those pursuing & that have achieved financial freedom. What is the strategy for conscious investment that actually benefits the world ~ instead of funding warcrimes ~ when you reach 6-7 figures in the bank? Thank you for your insight.

Meditation might be an easier in than Kriya yoga ~ Christians can have a block (the bible says you can't) practicing other religions, yoga may be percieved as having stronger connotations of having religious roots where meditation has/can be white washed enough by the western lens to be percieved as more dissonant from the religious connotations. If he has this block, try offering meditation.

Hey! What practices: habits, supplements, beliefs etc. Have had the biggest impact on your health mental clarity & energy levels? I want to have killer energy levels & mental clarity going forward. I hit an amazing flow state playing piano a couple days ago that made me realised how fried I feel on average by contrast which is a state I have been completely unconscious of.

Any tips & tricks for practicing night game/being able to be consistent & not crashing out so hard from lack of sleep? My brain feels fried after 2-3 nights, the cost with other self-development practices & pursuits seems too high to make it a consistent weekly thing.

Sounds cool. Create systems of accountability & iterative visioning to keep inspired with taking daily action. Post some links to your work here too.

Now, now. There's infinite daddies.

No. I'm in a lucky spot to go max self-development for the next two years. I study at university and want to nail my life purpose & a complimentary start up ~ I have a lot of inner work to address with dating & relationships that overlaps with my life purpose hence this being a priority area.

I do. The 3-4 days spent recovering/being in suboptimal consciousness which I want to minimise.

Ideally, I want to practice night game 2/3 nights a week consistently without it knocking me out for days after. Any way to minimise the sleep cost is ideal.

What brand do you use? I use loops but I can only use them 1 day max because they mess with my ears. RIP because my dorm has a fucking bar 5m from the front window.

How does this help you?

The thing is, you can learn to enjoy the challenge more than any cheap thrill. I think for me it's a mindset thing of loving myself for taking on and being with the challenge. Jumping in the deep end & seeing if I can swim is rewarding. Perhaps question why you desire things to be easy? OR What would the reality REALLY be if you really got exactly what you wanted? Boring, surely. Victory is earned. And you can learn to appreciate taking on the challenge as it's own victory. Start small & build momentum ~ do what you can, until you can do what you thought you couldn't.

I believe the claim & value with Spiral Dynamics is in anecdotal experience ~ how can you actually use it, in real life, to inform your sense-making & decisions. One example for me: Never start a start-up with stage orange & below again expecting them to match or care about Green values.

You can do it. You'll need to get good at outreach/ networking, mastery at your craft & mastery at being able to market your craft. The deciding factor for success is enjoying the process & challenges that come with putting something out into the world more than anything else you could be doing.

I will of course be contemplating this for myself - however I thought I'd pitch it here too because I keep seeing this phrase being thrown around. What actually is "high value?" I'm talking in terms of inner game and framing having just been on two dates with very attractive girls and having my frame crumble each time at a certain point - leading me to ask, what do I need to tap into within myself? Who do I need to be? For things to go right. Thank you for your insight.

09/12/25 God I feel so fucking insecure and needy with women, probably socially too - most obvious with women. I'm noticing the desire to find something to hide behind - "the right game," etc. I need to be dilligent around buying into external right answers without direct experience vetting. My biggest boon at the moment - facing, accepting, meeting my emotional spectrum in all it's chaos at the moment with love, and then letting go and moving on.

I fall into so many loops that waste time. I'm on a clock, 24 months. -Escaping Wage Slavery / Achieving Financial Freedom -Clarity on and Delivery of my Life Purpose -Excellent Foundation in Health -Excellent Intimacy, High Value-Provider and Leader in my Relationships These are the areas of my life that I need to bring to new higher stages within that time - Vision, Clarity, Process. Let's go.

Creating a network of international community centres to bridge gaps in the education system and vertically develop society is where I'm currently at with my Life Purpose (still a work in progress)

11/10/25 I'm coming to terms with the fact I have absolutely no fucking clue what I'm doing. This has felt shit, but it's been what I've needed - all the self-doubt about how to build a business that works and create financial freedom is also the opportunity - I don't know how success works for me, but I can figure out how. This is a huge trap I didn't even know I was in, pursuing other people's model's of success. I've come to understand entrepreneurship is an alive thing - it's opportunisitic like hunting for survival, what once worked won't in the same way anymore because it has been done, someone else was first. I've been clinging to a linear path to success subconsciously, out of fear of course, stepping off the social conveyor belt, putting myself out there, being alive and intuitive and emotional terrifies me. I didn't realise how much I've been holding myself back with subtle fears. With not dreaming big or audacious enough. With not being openminded enough. Not being ambitious enough. I "know," a lot of the frames, ideas, principles around success - I'm aware of them, I need to actually go inwards and develop a deep understanding of what these things mean in the context of my life. I've been stuck in thinking, I need to get to the tipping point of massive fucking action, I've just felt too afraid and lost as to what execution actually looks like - what am I mastering? I'm afraid of choosing the wrong choice. I'm afraid of wasting my time, being critiqued, blamed, failing. What to do now? Stoke my ambition. Vision. Vision. Vision. Massive questioning too - I won't see or feel the opportunities available to me if I don't open my mind and let curiosity lead. I feel drawn to group facilitation, meditation, journalling, workshops - these kind of things, I have an interest in creating content, skateboarding, vegan food, coaching, NLP, Art, Languages, conscious relationships, conscious entrepreneurship & finances. I have many avenues to explore. I need to be dilligent, conscious and open to the exploration process. Add going through a breakup - lots of emotional work to do. I'll do it though. I accept the challenge.

Hey ~ forgive me if this is the wrong section to ask in. I want to clarify the copyright/approach with the booklist ~ my current understanding is the value of other people's books as a paid product is that I would never have found many of these myself or have as much clarity priortising their relative value. Reading and integrating the top books has added massive value to my life (for example the insight from one book fully saved my relationship.) My question is what's the ethics of sharing books with friends/family members that I can see would also reap massive value, but would be very unlikely to go out and purchase the book list? Access to these insights and information in an ideal world would be common knowledge and prevent massive suffering. Is sharing individual books okay? Is sharing collections of relevant books okay? Practically where does the copyright start/end, is it the whole compiliation plus the added value that constitutes the copyright where an individual recommendation does not? Thank you for your thoughts.

In my experience starting the thing is #1 ~ existing in the frame of "wanting to do something" is not the same as doing something of course. Where talking to people about doing the thing has helped is becoming known for doing the thing (this can also 100% be a trap) because I am known to do the thing I often feel inclined to do the thing to conform to my social identity/ role. For example my friends all know me as someone who eats healthy, I talk about this ~ they expect me to eat healthy around them therefore, to fit the image I have set with them I continue to eat healthy, this helps integrate the habit. Of course it can become very unconscious if you go by defining yourself via social perception ~ keeping integrity with yourself and honest about your desires is primary, I've just found this as a method that can help reinforce habits. The other value in talking with people is inspiration to take action if it's with the right people that resonate with you and the vision. Good luck!

The UK still sells weapons to Israel.