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11/10/25 I'm coming to terms with the fact I have absolutely no fucking clue what I'm doing. This has felt shit, but it's been what I've needed - all the self-doubt about how to build a business that works and create financial freedom is also the opportunity - I don't know how success works for me, but I can figure out how. This is a huge trap I didn't even know I was in, pursuing other people's model's of success. I've come to understand entrepreneurship is an alive thing - it's opportunisitic like hunting for survival, what once worked won't in the same way anymore because it has been done, someone else was first. I've been clinging to a linear path to success subconsciously, out of fear of course, stepping off the social conveyor belt, putting myself out there, being alive and intuitive and emotional terrifies me. I didn't realise how much I've been holding myself back with subtle fears. With not dreaming big or audacious enough. With not being openminded enough. Not being ambitious enough. I "know," a lot of the frames, ideas, principles around success - I'm aware of them, I need to actually go inwards and develop a deep understanding of what these things mean in the context of my life. I've been stuck in thinking, I need to get to the tipping point of massive fucking action, I've just felt too afraid and lost as to what execution actually looks like - what am I mastering? I'm afraid of choosing the wrong choice. I'm afraid of wasting my time, being critiqued, blamed, failing. What to do now? Stoke my ambition. Vision. Vision. Vision. Massive questioning too - I won't see or feel the opportunities available to me if I don't open my mind and let curiosity lead. I feel drawn to group facilitation, meditation, journalling, workshops - these kind of things, I have an interest in creating content, skateboarding, vegan food, coaching, NLP, Art, Languages, conscious relationships, conscious entrepreneurship & finances. I have many avenues to explore. I need to be dilligent, conscious and open to the exploration process. Add going through a breakup - lots of emotional work to do. I'll do it though. I accept the challenge.

I fall into so many loops that waste time. I'm on a clock, 24 months. -Escaping Wage Slavery / Achieving Financial Freedom -Clarity on and Delivery of my Life Purpose -Excellent Foundation in Health -Excellent Intimacy, High Value-Provider and Leader in my Relationships These are the areas of my life that I need to bring to new higher stages within that time - Vision, Clarity, Process. Let's go.

Hey ~ forgive me if this is the wrong section to ask in. I want to clarify the copyright/approach with the booklist ~ my current understanding is the value of other people's books as a paid product is that I would never have found many of these myself or have as much clarity priortising their relative value. Reading and integrating the top books has added massive value to my life (for example the insight from one book fully saved my relationship.) My question is what's the ethics of sharing books with friends/family members that I can see would also reap massive value, but would be very unlikely to go out and purchase the book list? Access to these insights and information in an ideal world would be common knowledge and prevent massive suffering. Is sharing individual books okay? Is sharing collections of relevant books okay? Practically where does the copyright start/end, is it the whole compiliation plus the added value that constitutes the copyright where an individual recommendation does not? Thank you for your thoughts.

In my experience starting the thing is #1 ~ existing in the frame of "wanting to do something" is not the same as doing something of course. Where talking to people about doing the thing has helped is becoming known for doing the thing (this can also 100% be a trap) because I am known to do the thing I often feel inclined to do the thing to conform to my social identity/ role. For example my friends all know me as someone who eats healthy, I talk about this ~ they expect me to eat healthy around them therefore, to fit the image I have set with them I continue to eat healthy, this helps integrate the habit. Of course it can become very unconscious if you go by defining yourself via social perception ~ keeping integrity with yourself and honest about your desires is primary, I've just found this as a method that can help reinforce habits. The other value in talking with people is inspiration to take action if it's with the right people that resonate with you and the vision. Good luck!

The UK still sells weapons to Israel.

Can you identify the core principles behind your success? For example the principles for becoming fluent in a Language might be... ~Move to that country for a year ~Speak no English What do you think they would be for your financial success?

I want to get a sense of how you think exploring dating (or lack thereof) has impacted your life. I've been in a relationship for two and a half years, my first "adult," long-term relationship. I enjoy my partner, however with this being my first relationship I have this idea I should explore more while I am in my early twenties. I'm unsure of how important or authentic this is for me ~ I hope to gain some perspective as to if it's worth going deeper into this relationship or facing my fear and seeing what serendipity brings. I look forward to hearing your thoughts.

Asking ~ "Are you single?" Is perfectly fine. As you practice socialising you'll get a better intuitive sense of when to ask as you become more socially callibrated.

I'm moving to Germany for a year - a relatively small student city. For those that have travelled or moved abroad - what advice do you have to... Make the most of the experience? Things you wish you knew/had considered looking back?

This is the link, https://www.trustpilot.com/review/ipeccoaching.com you can also just search "IPEC Reviews" in your search engine this was the first result.

I'm coming from the UK for and staying a year.

I've been thinking about it but got scared off by poor reviews on glassdoor. Did you qualify through IPEC?

I've been practicing Life coaching for around 6 months now - all free peer coaching sessions, or pro-bono sessions. I have exclusively positive feedback - which is a problem, because to improve I would benefit from a critical perspective. I believe the exclusively positive feedback is because my peers and clients also wouldn't necessarily know what to critique! 6 months in. I'm definitely not a perfect coach. What are some meaningful metrics/feedback loops I can put in place to ensure I am progressing in my mastery journey as a coach? What data do I need to be seeing to acertain whether I am TRULY delivering quality coaching?

Many may be interested in seeing you model a highly novel lifestyle - you will have things people want, if you're very grounded for example because of your consciousness work - contemplate what you have people would bend over backwards to have that you probably take for granted now!

You don't need to work with everyone. What you offer needs to be desirabe true - but consider, desirable to who? What are the needs your products/services meet that are worth paying for - that people would be itching to pay for? And how are you going to reach them? A final two questions: what is the true value of what you have to offer? How are your customers/clients/viewers going to know it's meeting the expectations you've set for resutls? If you're clear on that, results should come. If you offer me a basic meditation course I'll probably scroll past, but if I see a meditation course that promises to break me through my procrastination and puts me in the position to live up to my highest potential, become financially free, be a present partner and find my creative expression - and lives up to the promise, I'll pay. What is highly desirable, that you can and want to deliver, or learn to deliver?

Create a video portfolio of amazing inspiring speeches that deliver a powerful message/story, and then coach people on how to deliver their message/story. Start a paid meetup group, eventbrite event, run workshops etc.

18/06/25 My main two blocks are decisiveness and maintaining clarity. I have too many competing priorities to meaningfully break ground on any one. On the brightside - I have defintely developed my level of impulse control to a profoundly higher level since one year ago. I've integrated a sustainable routine that covers my bases for health and self-development work. Career is where I'm suffering from fragmented priorities. I have value to share - I've missed a huge opportunity over the past four years of doing self-development work and entrepreneurship for the past two years - of actually learning to capture and communicate the value I've created in this time. I have inner game blocks around money - I'm needy. Simply. I feel I need money. This gets in the way of turning up for people and giving all I can to solve their problems detatched from outcome and in it for the learning. Neediness moves the focus from what I can give, to what I can get. Reconciling these frames I believe is found in having an artistic realtionship to creating money - it's one of the many canvases you can paint that make up your life. I think also I have a block around giving people what they want versus what I want to give - I don't want to hop on the stage orange explotive band wagon. I want to contribute to causes that uplift the world - education and environmentalism primarily. My path forward now - I see substack as a way forward - my decision: to create a retrospective toolkit that would have helped my past-self get to where I am quicker. One hour a day to write. One hour a day to create. One hour a day to connect and network. Daily, Weekly and Monthly reflection. What results have I created? I let go of unhealthy eating. I massively improved my imulse control. I have a consistent routine of daily excercise, affirmations, contemplation and meditation. I'm going into the third year of my relationship. I've led start-up teams to deliver profitable events and learned exactly what I don't want to contribute to the world and the importance of value alignment in saving you stress and hours of your fucking life. I've facilitated workshops on cognitive bias, team coaching, entrepreneurship, and tomorrow creative design. I've worked with 5 clients delivering pro-bono coaching sessions. I think my most valuable integration currently is my relationship with life - I have a grounded, creative relationship with life, it's my canvas, self-development practices are brushes in my collection make paintings with. I see, feel and am connected with a sense of beauty and purpose - even though everything's not quite clear yet. I have coped with, laughed off and breathed through a tremendous amount of stress working in start-up and integrating radical honesty into my relationship. What are these things worth? To my past self - years of creation. I don't know where I'd be or what life I'd have lived if I had these experiences at age 12. I know it would have been a much richer, more connected, fuller - fulfilled life than the one I led. I know I'd have been more capable and in a position to take on responsibilities that would have led to the thriving instead of the suffering of people around me. I want to learn to pay forward where I am, and break ground even further so I'm in the position to uplift those around me.

I'm in a similiar boat to you around creating a personal brand. I'll share the frames that have helped me break ground. You're looking to inspire people to build friendships that feel magical, and you want to do this through writing? Pick one person you actually know that would benefit most from going from where they are, into a magical relationship builder. Talk with them, understand where they are in life - and then start writing FOR THEM - your voice is easy to find if you know who you are speaking to and what they need. Deliver life transforming excellence one person at a time creating deep rich empathic relationships that revolutionise their lives in the image of the impact you see. If you get it right, you truly deliver a transformational experience that takes them from where they are to having a profound, inspired relationship with life - then recognise you will also be building your audience, one at a time with these people who's lives have been transformed by your work - and what are they going to do if that is the case? TALK! They're going to talk about your work and get more people on board. It'll be like a snowball rolling down a hill - small at first, compounding overtime into something HUGE. One person at a time, deliver excellent mindblowlingly excellent transformational value, and they'll build your audience for you.

This. Awareness based practice being aware of how what makes you feel when you eat shit food is a gamechanger this is how I quit: dairy (caused me backpain) and gluten (kneepain) sugar (being aware of the craving loop and being opting out of putting yourself in the position of wanting more later) Another method that really worked for me is associating the outcome directly with the food - eating the candy WILL give me chronic disease and cancer, so why would I choose to eat chronic disease and cancer? Buying food in plastic packaging and throwing it away - I WILL be drinking this back in my water later, and why would I want to drink plastic? Reassocaiting the consequence of your consumption with the consuming has broken a lot of chains for me and opened up space and drive for me eat as healthy as is possible.

Some of my go to's: - Make yourself laugh, crack and laugh at your own jokes in social settings & alone - self amusement is the best kind of amusement. - Be ridiculous - Recall your peak funniest memories to enter a playful state Today I found myself laughing at a memory of a 1-1 dating coach session - my client opened a girl serenading her with his rendition of "Do I wanna know?" by the Artic Monkey's. Amazing.

My current Vision: £1,400 per week through purpose aligned entrepreneurial value creation with the first payment made to me on June 15th. How will I know when I have succeeded? £1,400 will be in my personal bank account on June 15th. Why is this a meaningful vision? £1,400 a week enables me to cover all my bills, comfortably save for an emergency fund, festivals, travel, therapy and puts me in a position to develop myself into a conscious leader and powerful creative value provider through and by embodying those things in the process - because that is what I can see it will take for me to achieve this goal consciously. Cutting through my limiting beliefs/fears/assumptions about money, grounding in - what is something I can provide - a tangible result, consistently, that aligns with my values, (Awareness, Courage and Ease) and life purpose - Inspiring people to take action and turn inwards to create purpose driven lives (I am still contemplating and refining, the vertical development of humanity and and fulfilling the true value of what education could be - embodied education that creates conscious purpose driven leaders is a consistent theme.) I recognise what I don't know - my own value, I have worked with start-ups, overcome fears and limiting beliefs, coached, created results in my personal life over the course of the past three years such as letting go of addictive habits of thought and creating a zest for life - a drive to live an inspired life and the discipline and consciousness to begin to do so. This is where my reflection and clarity begins - What results have I created that is worth £1,400 and who is it worth that to? What can I do, or have done that people would pay that for that moves the needle in line with my purpose? How can I find out? How can I stay on track with my vision - how can I step into the shoes of my new identity - moving from someone who is thinking about and wants to create £1,400 per week into the person that creates £1,400 per week - what do they wear? what do they do? who do they speak to? how do they speak? what are the disproportionate actions - the clear proven steps to make this change happen and position me to share the creation of this result too expressed in line with my purpose. My next steps: Contemplate and get clear on - "What results have I created in my life?" "What result is worth £1,400?" "To whom?" "How did I create this - what is the story?" "How did I create this - what are the core (80/20) decisions/actions/habits/skills?" "What does it look like to create this for someone else?" "Who wants these results?" "Why would they want them from me?" "In what frame/scale is the result worth £1,400?" "What is the system for making this result and income replicable?" "How can I test these insights?" "What action needs to be taken to fulfill this vision by June 15th?" "How can I document and capture the value of this process?" "What is the no bullshit system (series of decisions) I need to take to cut through to actualise this?"

I am in my first adult relationship, we have been dating just over two years - we have issues around maturity and communication to resolve - what I would appreciate perspective on is that when we have more emotional conversations I feel a negative rise in my body that pre-empts, and persists after - this has compounded into a sense of physically holding negativity that I associate with my partner. I am basically anxious that the way we process conflict is having a physiologically traumatising response because of a mutual lack of empathy in our conflict resolution, and subsequent sustained level of background stress - is this a valid concern, or a manifestation of some mental gymanstics to avoid taking more responsibility in my relationship? Both? Thank you for your help.

@Nilsi Awesome. Thank you for the frame.

Hey! I'm building my personal brand and would love reccomendations for resources/questions/insights as to identifying and understanding customer pain points (or becoming conscious of my own pain points for that matter) - I appreciate practice and iterative feedback is the best teacher, and I am looking for foundational pointers to begin the process on the right foot, or any useful anecdotal experience you wish you had known when starting to develop your offers. Thank you for your help & time.

Hey! I'm redesigning my schedule and trying to identify the core pillars of health to build minimum viable habit systems around, my current system is based around Huberman's work. I am looking for blindspots, (as I don't know what I don't know,) such as pillars I have not identified, or habits to adopt that my current pillars lack, my outline so far is: Diet - Intermittent fasting 11:00am-17:00pm 3x Wholefood vegan organic meals per day Multivitamin B-Complex Boron Omega 3 Magnesium Threonate Exercise - 3x Fullbody workouts per week 4x Neck/Abs/Cardio & Stretch workouts Sleep - Phone off at 20:00, no media consumption before 16:00 21:30-7:00 (I have a sunlight alarm which starts at 6:30) Sunlight - 1-2 Hours Morning sun (Morning routine, largely Journalling practice & Calisthenics) 30 Minutes Midday Sun (During Second meal) Social Connection - Attending local meditation group Attending Toastmasters Purpose - Daily Life-Purpose centred 4 Hour Deep work block Are there any other pillars/areas of development you can suggest? Thanks in advance.