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Natural selection is not about being nice. Niceness from a position of weakness doesn't survive.

I would love to see Gura and Peterson being locked in a room for a day or two, and then open the door and see what happened 😂

The best is to just try out and see what works for you. As long as you are in the field doing stuff instead of philosophizing about it.

So it happened only in mind? Just like everybody else?

If your wing is creepy and you walk up to girls, you are judged by being friends with a creepy guy. It is poisoning the well. From my experience most inexperienced guys can be jealous and not know how to tag team. It is a zero-sum game for them which fucks up their prospects. A good wing knows to find a balance between being a good team player versus going for the goal.

Having no wing man is better than having a bad wing man. Especially as a beginner when you are unsure of what you are doing. You don't want bad influence. You can actually just go in a night club and see the ballers do their thing. You don't need to be their official wing man and hold hands and shit. Just roll with them.

It is called the shadow ego.

I'm not rearranging my house to get some strange. 😂

So I invited this girl at my place and she sat on the one person couch instead of the three person couch. I know girls aren’t stupid and they know what they are doing. For some reason I felt insulted about this and I didn’t even make a move. I know this girl from a friend group so I didn’t want to make an effort is she is making anti-effort. If it was a random girl I would just ask her to sit next to me. Do you think I fucked up? Because I didn’t make a move. I was stuck in my head about her sitting not next to me and after couple of hours I thought it would be too awkward to just pull her towards me and make out.

It is usually women shaming other women for being too slutty. Not men. We would actually love it. 😅

What are the pre-modern stages in Spiral Dynamics? And modern is just another word for rational right?

Musk is definitely a sushi lover. I know one if I see one.

True, it all starts from inner game. I guess this was another experience to know myself and learn from myself. The thing is I should have learned this lesson 2 girls ago but I'm still making the same mistakes. 🤷‍♂️

I wanted to make out. It is just that if I get disappointed I don’t want it anymore. I think there is some underlying hurt from previous rejections. The thing is that she didn’t even reject me. I just fumbled. I could have told to just sit next to me straight up or with an excuse to show something on my phone but I thought that was cheesy so I didn’t do it.

Hm ok. Good to know for next time. There was good dancing music on and the vibe was good. I just had to do the leading. There was enough flirting, playful banter and teasing. I just get hung up when girls sit on the god damned single person couch instead sitting next to me on the three person couch. For me the most important thing out this is not to get upset but to keep playing the game playfully. This time I think I was ok with hiding it but with previous girl last month I was kind of obnoxious about it.

I did get upset and disappointed. And I think I subconsciously communicated I didn’t want to see her again. Because she said she wanted to meet up next week again and I said I didn’t know about that. I don’t like the fake my emotions. That is just how I felt and I’m ok with the sub communication. I’m clearly not a fuck boy. I’m not smooth about it.

Yea I waited too long to send the tone of the night. And after couple of hours it was too late to make the switch from platonic flirting to hands on flirting.

The whole point of Spiral Dynamics is to see the ranges with the help of the model and then integrating it so much that you don’t need the model to see it. That is the point of any map or model: to understand that the map is not the territory. So in that sense there is nothing wrong with Spiral Dynamics. You are just using it in the wrong way.

This is what quantum mechanics say and also what Leo Gura mechanics say. But the thing is if it is really true that nothing exist without consciousness how did the earth form into existence from the clouds and hot gasses into a globe? No consciousness was there to observe that shit.

I don’t think he likes Trump. He just dislikes the other candidates.

It boils down to if you can protect and provide.

There are so many dominations of Christianity with a different understanding of Jesus so in that sense every social group created their own social construct. Leo’s stuff is also a social and spiritual construct. There are just certain same ol’ stuff that is being reiterated on this forum.

Being a potentially good father is somebody who resolved his own personal issues. I believe if a person does that getting a girl and having good relationships just as a matter of being. But the thing is that for some guys just resolving your personal issues is a huge task because of the sheer amount of emotional baggage. Finding a good therapist is difficult and even if you find one it is still a hard job. Telling these people to just go out and talk to girls will only re-enact the rejection they experienced in their childhood. And rightfully they will give up because they are trying to fix something outside themselves that they need to fix inside of themselves.

Give time stamp ffs

They have some self esteem / self image issues. I tried to explain them about psycho cybernetics but they have a very short attention span, they don’t understand it. And they don’t have faith in the power of the sub conscious. It will be very hard for them to get rid of being thick skulled so they can change their self image. So most likely they won’t reproduce because they are stuck in their self fulling prophecy that is caused by their negative self image. So most likely they won’t reproduce. Historically only 33% of men have reproduced in history. So saying that all men are eligible to reproduce is not true. Some men just don’t have it in them. It is part of natural selection which is not something bad actually. It is just is as it is. You keep reiterating some anecdotal stories but things work different in hillbilly sub culture. Those women in hillbilly sub culture tend to act different than non hill Billy girls.