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I do believe in God and I live in a deep SD orange country so if you say you believe in God people will think you are backward. And to be honest although I believe in God I have more in common with atheists than the regular Christian or Muslim. Christians and Muslims tend to be very rigid and not open minded than Atheists. At least with atheists you can have very interesting conversations, especially with the ones who are in the twilight zone between SD orange-green. The thing is I don't like to over explain things, so with some instances I just say I'm atheists because I know with these people it is very binary: you are rational and with us or you are irrational and with those religious zealots. So do you guys always say you believe in God? I believe 100% authenticity is stupid. Especially when you deal with regular people. One has to develop healthy persona's to deal with people. Sometimes being authentic is not loving. Mask on. Mask off.

This is how I see it State = condition of your body/mind (which are the same anyway) Frame = how you position your body/mind Body is feminine and mind is masculine and together they form a union aka sacred marriage. That is why it is important to take both of your body and mind. If you don’t take care of your body you will have a bad marriage and vis-à-vis. And the bad news. You can’t divorce your wife.

So how does frame compare to state then?

Core Concept: Frame The central concept discussed is "frame," described as a man's real strength, which is not just money or muscles, but includes his ability to lead a group and be a leader. Frame is also your ability to hold your validation and be the dispenser of validation, making others chase your acceptance and approval. Losing frame is when a man puts a woman before his mission for God, loses confidence, or becomes dependent on her validation. How Men Lose Power and Why Women Leave Women are described as being there to teach men the most incredible skills, but in a brutal way, through rejections, sadness, confusion, and breakups. The speaker believes that women, on a core level, will "viciously say no" as soon as a man puts them before God. When a guy loses frame, women have something called an "RA slip" or Reticular Activation System flip. They previously pedestalized the man, but upon losing frame, they focus on his bad sides and leave. This can happen rapidly after just one instance of losing frame, described humorously as "die fucker". Losing frame makes a man look pathetic, which can kill a woman's attraction. Women may begin to "shit test profusely" if they sense a man is losing frame, emasculating him or making mean comments to test his weakness. If a woman detects a man losing frame, she starts looking for backups. The speaker uses a graphic analogy involving the shape of the penis and the function of sperm to suggest women are biologically driven to "plunge out" other men's sperm (representing a man who has lost frame) and find a new man quickly. Relationships are very tough because external factors like Instagram, family, and friends often encourage women to leave. Instagram is seen as mocking relationships and brainwashing women. Women today often brag about having a "roster" of men, similar to how men traditionally would. They enjoy their freedom and being single often means being sexually active with multiple attractive men. Societal Changes and Loss of Frame Support The speaker contrasts modern society with the past, where institutions like the church, community, and family helped hold frame for a man in a relationship by discouraging cheating and divorce. Modern society lacks these external supports; there is less stigma around divorce and having sex with multiple partners. Modern day marriage is seen as dangerous because these supporting structures are gone. It's very difficult for one man to hold frame consistently for 50 years without societal support. Young men today are seen as not having a "stake in modern society anymore". The "Ick" Mechanism Women have countless "icks" or minor turn-offs that can instantly destroy attraction. It's impossible to avoid all the icks. The only solution is to "transcend the ick" by being the one who is qualifying the woman, putting her in a "self-qualifying mode" rather than allowing her to qualify you down. Maintaining Frame and Organic Attraction In the absence of societal support, the only thing holding a relationship together is "organic attraction". Organic attraction is generated and maintained when a man holds his frame and validation, becoming the dispenser of validation that the woman chases. Maintaining frame requires a man to get his validation and frame from sources like God, his environment, passions, purpose, hobbies, friends, nature, and day-to-day life. It is human to seek validation from a partner, and while it can build a bond, it becomes dangerous when there is no external support for frame, as the partner can withdraw that validation. Being in a committed relationship can lead men to lose external validation sources like friends and hobbies, making them overly reliant on their partner's validation. Dating multiple people can help a man effortlessly maintain frame because he is receiving validation from various sources and isn't overly invested in one outcome. If a man wants monogamy and a traditional family in the current environment, he must become very good at maintaining frame and generating organic attraction without external support. The speaker believes the single best way to build frame is to go out and socialize, getting real-time feedback on your frame. This involves being grounded, centered, self-amused, having a plan, enjoying yourself, and not seeking reassurance from the woman. Instead of trying to gain rapport, focus on owning your power and getting others to chase your acceptance. Believe that your life, social skills, lifestyle, and vibe are so cool that others would be lucky to be a part of it. This is not about being manipulative, but having self-control. Consequences of Losing Frame Losing frame leads to the man becoming a "pathetic pool of patheticness". The woman feels good watching the man who used to chase her collapse. After a breakup due to lost frame, the man is often left feeling numb and struggling to socialize while the woman is congratulated by friends and Instagram and has many new options. Men often self-emasculate by making the woman their world and losing their external validation sources. Learning from breakups is crucial, as the pain can drive personal growth and help men get better at maintaining frame. Practical Application and Learning The speaker demonstrates subtle frame control techniques, such as being inquisitive and driving the other person into a "self-qualifying mode". This dynamic is similar to how high-end luxury brands make customers feel privileged to buy their products. Women are often naturally good at this frame control in dating interactions. The speaker runs training programs, including "infield training" where participants practice social skills in real-world interactions and receive feedback. Learning these skills provides a return on investment (ROI) by improving communication, confidence, social skills, and potentially career prospects and financial success. It's important to learn this early in life, especially for men who want to have a family, as delaying learning can lead to relationship failures and impact future generations. True frame maintenance should ideally come from within, perhaps through spiritual practice or meditation, rather than becoming addicted to controlling the frame for external validation. It's a challenging process that may take years, but accelerating the learning curve is necessary in modern society.

Somebody you look up to Or try to borrow something from.. Share your pick in this thread No butt hurt or judging. Just sharing. I like this guy. Amazing vibe:

It was a while back man. Stop busting my balls. I'm going to read Wilber again very soon. I like his integral approach on consciousness. I was serious about life but in the wrong way. Depressive people are serious about life but they lack the backbone, character, personality, playfulness to play with problems and solve them Problem solving requires playfulness, not seriousness. My best games in chess are when I'm not serious but playful ..

Body and mind is the same. So your body is your mind and when you relax your body you relax your mind too. Even buddhist don't make the distinction between body and mind. So saying you are not your body is actually not true in my opinion. Touch your arm right now. You are touching your mind. One goes into the wrong if we identify with the body and get swayed by instincts and emotions of the body. One needs to respect the body otherwise sooner or later you will get health problems. Especially when doing psychedelics and shit. You can say screw you body I'm not you. And then you body will turn around and screw you and you will have cripplign health problems for the rest of your life. The body is like a woman. You need to treat it the same way; and not abuse it, ignore it or misuse it.

I don’t like the word seriousness because it feels like an attribute of a grumpy old man. Life is too short for that. I think we shouldn’t lose our inner light aka inner child because we need to become like children again to enter the kingdom but it needs to be balanced with the responsibility of an adult.

Seriousness = responsibility We all have consciousness and it pertains certain rights and thus responsibilities I’m already working on that because I lack it. It is the third pillar of pillars of self esteem by Branden.

@Davino I watched that video already but I guess I will transcript it again and make some notes.

@Leo Gura We all have that divine light in us but we have to crank it up by letting go of contraction / ego / trauma / rigidity. As far as I understand our state is our body. We need to relax. If our body is rigid. Nothing will work. No spiritual practices nor psychedelics. But having no rigidity in the body is even important for personal and social success. In PUA too state is king. When going out I always do shadow work and visualize what my body (flesh) desires like safety acceptance and approval love and affection and so on and once I have anchored that state in my body , it is much easier to attract that reality. Girls just feel that anchored state and they want to fulfill the wish.

@Leo Gura I thought state was level of consciousness in David Hawkins sense

For me it is Jeffy. This guy has definitely grown on me. He always shares some deep shit on his instagram like an old dude who lived 5 lives. Back in the day he was such a scum bag but he changed as a person. Always lovely, humorous and truthful like in this video where he checks old guys very hard: So who is your favorite instructor? For me autistic Owen is just a social jedi who you can't unravel even after couple of years. I'm doing Owen Blueprint Reloaded right now and it is amazing. Just very unstructured and he is all over the place but what he offers is really good too. I just don't like listening to him because he is on an ego trip 2/3th of the time.

Numbers are structure. It is the language of the gods. 1 became 2 and then more.

@Elisabeth that is not true

Actually there is no RSD instructor left. Julien is solely focused on helping desperate house wives. Max got into swindling and selling bogus business courses. Todd shat his pants as the autistic guy he is. Owen is the only one who is left and there is Jeffy of course. Owen talks too much smack lately. There are some golden nuggets in his videos but the juice is not worth the squeeze. His last video was worth it though: The speaker addresses the narrative circulating on social media which suggests that 80% of women desire only the top 20% of men, perceived as "high-value men". Instead of complaining about this dynamic in online forums, the speaker suggests a more productive use of time and attention would be to understand why there are so few "high-value" men. The speaker argues that women are currently outperforming men in various life facets, including college degrees, home ownership, and income, and men should focus on how to level this playing field. Complaining online indicates that one is likely a "low-quality man" and not in the pool of "high-value men". Therefore, a better use of time is to figure out how to become a "high-quality man". The speaker acknowledges the perspective of a woman from the start of the video, who finds that being in a relationship with a man makes her "look like shit" and "like the life has left [her] eyes," regardless of whether the relationship is bad. This leads her not to be a "big relationship person" because it takes up time that could be spent "getting money and getting to the bag," closes her off from others, and makes her "look like shit". The woman also uses the example of "Bonnie Blue," who reportedly had intimate relations with a thousand different men willingly, to argue that it is not hard to get a man to be attracted, spend time, or want a woman, implying "men are not the prize". The speaker, however, suggests the woman lacks context. The speaker points out that the college admissions and job markets now favor women in some ways, and online content aimed at helping men is at risk of removal, preventing men from seeing the larger picture. While it may appear women have randomly shot ahead, the speaker, having studied this for two decades, aims to explain the dynamics at play and what it would take for men and women to reach a better place. He stresses the importance of empathy for men to understand women's current position. The speaker contrasts the current social landscape with the past, specifically the era of patriarchy prior to World War II. In the past, women had limited rights; they couldn't vote, get credit cards, have bank accounts, or easily get jobs. Furthermore, the high risk of pregnancy made women cautious about who they had sex with and reliant on men to "stick around". In this older society, men were needed as "protector and provider". However, the speaker argues that in the present day, women generally don't need a man for protection due to modern police forces, and they don't need to be provided for as they now have more access to jobs and education than men. The speaker states that about 60% of new jobs go to women, and around 65% of college admissions are for women. Additionally, modern birth control and the availability of abortion (until recently) reduced the fear of unplanned pregnancy. The speaker notes that this shift in social landscape means that women no longer need men for protection or provision in the way they once did. Drawing on evolutionary biology and human history, the speaker explains that in nature, a small percentage of top males impregnate most females to move genetics forward. Sex's function is to "weed out low-level men". The speaker suggests that the traditional patriarchal pressure for women to marry and have sex with potentially less attractive "beta male men" was an "enslavement" from a biological perspective. The change in social circumstances has freed women from this pressure. A significant social trend discussed is the use of club promoters by rich guys to attract women. Promoters are paid (sometimes up to $100k/month) to find attractive women and invite them to exclusive events like private dinners, planes, yachts, and trips. The speaker claims this is why many women are able to attend events like Coachella without paying, being brought there by promoters connected to rich men. The promoter often has more "swagger" and is more genuinely liked by the women than the rich guy paying for everything, although the rich guy still benefits from the favorable ratio of women. The speaker mentions a client worth $30 million whose wife is divorcing him for $15 million, suggesting that despite being a "good man" (faithful, provider), he became boring to her. The speaker advised this client to allocate a budget to hire promoters and attend exclusive events to meet women, as this environment offers a better situation than focusing solely on providing. The speaker introduces the concept of the "winner effect," drawing on research by Robert Sapolsky on baboons. The winner effect posits that perceiving oneself as having higher status changes brain chemistry. High status is associated with effortless public speaking, confidence, health, and positive social interactions. Conversely, perceiving oneself as low status leads to being trapped in one's head, feeling not good enough, difficulty flowing in conversation, constant compensation, and hypervigilance in social interactions. The reticular activation system (RA), responsible for selective focus, goes "haywire" when one feels low status, focusing on perceived threats or value, leading to overthinking. Low-status individuals are described as stumbling, not funny, not confident, often sick, and sometimes subservient to high-status men, which destroys their attractiveness to women. They lack "lateral thinking" and are prone to being naive and gullible, as exemplified by the public reaction to the events of 2020. The key takeaway regarding attraction is that in the current environment, genuine attraction is the only "equity" in a relationship. The old "protect and provide" model is no longer an attract tactic because women don't need it. Simply having money or providing doesn't guarantee attraction; in fact, the speaker's past experience suggests mentioning owning a house or car could be a turnoff. Instead of focusing on being a provider, men need to develop "swagger," which the speaker equates with a high "winner effect," high brain chemistry, and the ability to express oneself freely without overthinking. Swagger involves owning one's identity, even quirky or nerdy traits, and amplifying them rather than trying to dumb oneself down. It requires finding one's "tribe" – people who appreciate who you are – and not having a codependent relationship to approval. Developing swagger is an "art form" that takes practice, learning from others, and developing unique traits, jokes, and sayings. The speaker practices this by doing free associative public speaking events without scripts. He argues that cultivating swagger is more effective for attraction than focusing on traditional male roles. He gives the example of his friend "Drunk Justin," who is 5'4" but is "swarmed" by women because he optimized for swagger, throwing parties, and creating social proof, rather than traditional achievements like becoming a doctor or lawyer. The speaker is critical of modern relationships and institutions like marriage, stating the environment is "currently not suited for marriage" or traditional relationships. He believes there is "almost no equity at anything anymore" due to the lack of community accountability. Marriage is often viewed as "cuffing season" or a "flex" on social media rather than a sacred, permanent commitment. Spending money on a partner is seen as an "experience" by the recipient, not an "investment" into the relationship's equity. Friendship also offers no equity, as people may leave when attraction is lost. A core concept explaining this lack of continuity and accountability is the idea of a "private deity" in the mind. This "private deity" represents the individual's emotional state, which supersedes integrity and agreements. If the emotional state dictates a change, agreements or past investments hold little weight. This is exacerbated by "hyperindividuality" and the absence of traditional social structures like church and community that once provided external pressure and accountability. The speaker suggests the absence of God is also a factor, as God traditionally represented a higher level of ethics and integrity beyond the state or individual whim. Social media is presented as a major factor in brainwashing people against traditional relationships, promoting unrealistic expectations, focusing on boundaries and what one isn't getting, and encouraging cutting people off. The speaker uses the example of seeing his ex-partner liking anti-man content after their breakup, despite his significant efforts in the relationship. Furthermore, friends and family can contribute to dissolving relationships through gossiping ("triangulation") and encouraging breakups, especially if they are not "ingratiated" by the partner. The speaker highlights the prevalence of drug use, even among wealthy individuals, as contributing to a state where people operate more from lower-level circuitry and emotions ("reptile brain") rather than integrity or higher values. Given this environment, the speaker believes that many attractive men are becoming "oompa loompas" (low-status, trapped in their heads, unattractive) due to negative social conditioning and groupthink. He argues that it is possible to transform an "oompa loompa" into a "gigachad" (confident, attractive). The speaker suggests that men need to "learn real self value, real social skills, what it means to be actually attractive". He believes this can be taught relatively quickly, potentially in schools. He has made millions teaching these concepts but also feels a sense of guilt that this crucial knowledge is not more widely accessible, leading him to offer free events and content. While acknowledging the difficult landscape, the speaker still finds value in fatherhood and providing for one's children. He emphasizes that providing for children is done for one's own self-esteem and for the children's well-being, not as an attract tactic for the partner, who may not care. He highlights the lasting impact a father can have on his children, offering a more reliable source of validation and connection than a romantic partner in the current environment. Being a good provider for children is a result of becoming an "executor" – someone who makes plans and follows through – which is a trait women respect. Ultimately, the speaker views the current social dynamic as one where men must focus entirely on becoming genuinely attractive as women do not need them for traditional reasons. This requires escaping the "oompa loompa" state, developing confidence and "swagger," finding self-value, and committing to self-improvement and execution in life. While the traditional model of protection and provision is outdated as an attractant, it remains important for personal integrity and providing for children. The speaker offers hope that change is possible through dedicated effort and learning.

These e-scooters or e-steps to be more precise are very dangerous even without weight on your back because the wheels are so small. In my country I can’t go into the city center with it anyway because there is police there. They are not allowed on the road. It is very easy to die on it. Even with a helmet. A helmet won’t help if a truck goes over you. I rather use my electric bike which is more practical and much safer.

Wow, just one of the best docs I have seen: especially the end of the video is very touching Khamzat Chimaev grew up in Chechnya during a time of war and hardship. His childhood was marked by poverty, violence, and instability, and the scar on his face from an accident as a kid is just one visible reminder of those tough early years. When his family moved to Sweden to escape that life, things didn’t suddenly get easy. Khamzat worked physically demanding jobs, like cleaning and carrying heavy loads in a chicken factory, all while dedicating himself to training. What could have broken many people became the fuel for his ambition. Khamzat turned his pain and difficult past into a kind of mental armor. Every struggle, every scar, became part of what made him so mentally tough. When others fold under pressure, Khamzat seems to thrive, famously saying, “I was born for this.” His rise in the UFC has been nothing short of explosive, he smashed through opponents with a rare mix of skill and ruthlessness. But what sets him apart isn’t just his athletic ability; it’s how he transformed trauma into his greatest strength. Instead of letting his past crush him, Khamzat used it to sharpen himself into one of the most dangerous fighters today. His story is proof that sometimes, the hardest life experiences can become your most valuable weapons.

I got one of those scooters too but it is very unpractical. For example I can’t go shopping with it because it could be stolen. Only thing it is fun for is to stroll around. Perhaps more fun with psychedelics? I only use it in the summer to stroll around the park and it can be fun. But always have both hands on the steering wheel because that is needed to keep your balance. And never go harder than 15 km-h with cars nearby. I heard of a girl who fell under a truck while riding this.

Ask Socrates

Real smart people don’t go around thinking and saying they are smart.

And it was probably free too. Sounds like a good resort. 🤓

Don´t try to be funny and you will be funny. Nothing worse than a clown. Most people I like who are funny are just charismatic, clever and have self esteem and funniness is just a byproduct.

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