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@Elisabeth that is not true

Actually there is no RSD instructor left. Julien is solely focused on helping desperate house wives. Max got into swindling and selling bogus business courses. Todd shat his pants as the autistic guy he is. Owen is the only one who is left and there is Jeffy of course. Owen talks too much smack lately. There are some golden nuggets in his videos but the juice is not worth the squeeze. His last video was worth it though: The speaker addresses the narrative circulating on social media which suggests that 80% of women desire only the top 20% of men, perceived as "high-value men". Instead of complaining about this dynamic in online forums, the speaker suggests a more productive use of time and attention would be to understand why there are so few "high-value" men. The speaker argues that women are currently outperforming men in various life facets, including college degrees, home ownership, and income, and men should focus on how to level this playing field. Complaining online indicates that one is likely a "low-quality man" and not in the pool of "high-value men". Therefore, a better use of time is to figure out how to become a "high-quality man". The speaker acknowledges the perspective of a woman from the start of the video, who finds that being in a relationship with a man makes her "look like shit" and "like the life has left [her] eyes," regardless of whether the relationship is bad. This leads her not to be a "big relationship person" because it takes up time that could be spent "getting money and getting to the bag," closes her off from others, and makes her "look like shit". The woman also uses the example of "Bonnie Blue," who reportedly had intimate relations with a thousand different men willingly, to argue that it is not hard to get a man to be attracted, spend time, or want a woman, implying "men are not the prize". The speaker, however, suggests the woman lacks context. The speaker points out that the college admissions and job markets now favor women in some ways, and online content aimed at helping men is at risk of removal, preventing men from seeing the larger picture. While it may appear women have randomly shot ahead, the speaker, having studied this for two decades, aims to explain the dynamics at play and what it would take for men and women to reach a better place. He stresses the importance of empathy for men to understand women's current position. The speaker contrasts the current social landscape with the past, specifically the era of patriarchy prior to World War II. In the past, women had limited rights; they couldn't vote, get credit cards, have bank accounts, or easily get jobs. Furthermore, the high risk of pregnancy made women cautious about who they had sex with and reliant on men to "stick around". In this older society, men were needed as "protector and provider". However, the speaker argues that in the present day, women generally don't need a man for protection due to modern police forces, and they don't need to be provided for as they now have more access to jobs and education than men. The speaker states that about 60% of new jobs go to women, and around 65% of college admissions are for women. Additionally, modern birth control and the availability of abortion (until recently) reduced the fear of unplanned pregnancy. The speaker notes that this shift in social landscape means that women no longer need men for protection or provision in the way they once did. Drawing on evolutionary biology and human history, the speaker explains that in nature, a small percentage of top males impregnate most females to move genetics forward. Sex's function is to "weed out low-level men". The speaker suggests that the traditional patriarchal pressure for women to marry and have sex with potentially less attractive "beta male men" was an "enslavement" from a biological perspective. The change in social circumstances has freed women from this pressure. A significant social trend discussed is the use of club promoters by rich guys to attract women. Promoters are paid (sometimes up to $100k/month) to find attractive women and invite them to exclusive events like private dinners, planes, yachts, and trips. The speaker claims this is why many women are able to attend events like Coachella without paying, being brought there by promoters connected to rich men. The promoter often has more "swagger" and is more genuinely liked by the women than the rich guy paying for everything, although the rich guy still benefits from the favorable ratio of women. The speaker mentions a client worth $30 million whose wife is divorcing him for $15 million, suggesting that despite being a "good man" (faithful, provider), he became boring to her. The speaker advised this client to allocate a budget to hire promoters and attend exclusive events to meet women, as this environment offers a better situation than focusing solely on providing. The speaker introduces the concept of the "winner effect," drawing on research by Robert Sapolsky on baboons. The winner effect posits that perceiving oneself as having higher status changes brain chemistry. High status is associated with effortless public speaking, confidence, health, and positive social interactions. Conversely, perceiving oneself as low status leads to being trapped in one's head, feeling not good enough, difficulty flowing in conversation, constant compensation, and hypervigilance in social interactions. The reticular activation system (RA), responsible for selective focus, goes "haywire" when one feels low status, focusing on perceived threats or value, leading to overthinking. Low-status individuals are described as stumbling, not funny, not confident, often sick, and sometimes subservient to high-status men, which destroys their attractiveness to women. They lack "lateral thinking" and are prone to being naive and gullible, as exemplified by the public reaction to the events of 2020. The key takeaway regarding attraction is that in the current environment, genuine attraction is the only "equity" in a relationship. The old "protect and provide" model is no longer an attract tactic because women don't need it. Simply having money or providing doesn't guarantee attraction; in fact, the speaker's past experience suggests mentioning owning a house or car could be a turnoff. Instead of focusing on being a provider, men need to develop "swagger," which the speaker equates with a high "winner effect," high brain chemistry, and the ability to express oneself freely without overthinking. Swagger involves owning one's identity, even quirky or nerdy traits, and amplifying them rather than trying to dumb oneself down. It requires finding one's "tribe" – people who appreciate who you are – and not having a codependent relationship to approval. Developing swagger is an "art form" that takes practice, learning from others, and developing unique traits, jokes, and sayings. The speaker practices this by doing free associative public speaking events without scripts. He argues that cultivating swagger is more effective for attraction than focusing on traditional male roles. He gives the example of his friend "Drunk Justin," who is 5'4" but is "swarmed" by women because he optimized for swagger, throwing parties, and creating social proof, rather than traditional achievements like becoming a doctor or lawyer. The speaker is critical of modern relationships and institutions like marriage, stating the environment is "currently not suited for marriage" or traditional relationships. He believes there is "almost no equity at anything anymore" due to the lack of community accountability. Marriage is often viewed as "cuffing season" or a "flex" on social media rather than a sacred, permanent commitment. Spending money on a partner is seen as an "experience" by the recipient, not an "investment" into the relationship's equity. Friendship also offers no equity, as people may leave when attraction is lost. A core concept explaining this lack of continuity and accountability is the idea of a "private deity" in the mind. This "private deity" represents the individual's emotional state, which supersedes integrity and agreements. If the emotional state dictates a change, agreements or past investments hold little weight. This is exacerbated by "hyperindividuality" and the absence of traditional social structures like church and community that once provided external pressure and accountability. The speaker suggests the absence of God is also a factor, as God traditionally represented a higher level of ethics and integrity beyond the state or individual whim. Social media is presented as a major factor in brainwashing people against traditional relationships, promoting unrealistic expectations, focusing on boundaries and what one isn't getting, and encouraging cutting people off. The speaker uses the example of seeing his ex-partner liking anti-man content after their breakup, despite his significant efforts in the relationship. Furthermore, friends and family can contribute to dissolving relationships through gossiping ("triangulation") and encouraging breakups, especially if they are not "ingratiated" by the partner. The speaker highlights the prevalence of drug use, even among wealthy individuals, as contributing to a state where people operate more from lower-level circuitry and emotions ("reptile brain") rather than integrity or higher values. Given this environment, the speaker believes that many attractive men are becoming "oompa loompas" (low-status, trapped in their heads, unattractive) due to negative social conditioning and groupthink. He argues that it is possible to transform an "oompa loompa" into a "gigachad" (confident, attractive). The speaker suggests that men need to "learn real self value, real social skills, what it means to be actually attractive". He believes this can be taught relatively quickly, potentially in schools. He has made millions teaching these concepts but also feels a sense of guilt that this crucial knowledge is not more widely accessible, leading him to offer free events and content. While acknowledging the difficult landscape, the speaker still finds value in fatherhood and providing for one's children. He emphasizes that providing for children is done for one's own self-esteem and for the children's well-being, not as an attract tactic for the partner, who may not care. He highlights the lasting impact a father can have on his children, offering a more reliable source of validation and connection than a romantic partner in the current environment. Being a good provider for children is a result of becoming an "executor" – someone who makes plans and follows through – which is a trait women respect. Ultimately, the speaker views the current social dynamic as one where men must focus entirely on becoming genuinely attractive as women do not need them for traditional reasons. This requires escaping the "oompa loompa" state, developing confidence and "swagger," finding self-value, and committing to self-improvement and execution in life. While the traditional model of protection and provision is outdated as an attractant, it remains important for personal integrity and providing for children. The speaker offers hope that change is possible through dedicated effort and learning.

These e-scooters or e-steps to be more precise are very dangerous even without weight on your back because the wheels are so small. In my country I can’t go into the city center with it anyway because there is police there. They are not allowed on the road. It is very easy to die on it. Even with a helmet. A helmet won’t help if a truck goes over you. I rather use my electric bike which is more practical and much safer.

Wow, just one of the best docs I have seen: especially the end of the video is very touching Khamzat Chimaev grew up in Chechnya during a time of war and hardship. His childhood was marked by poverty, violence, and instability, and the scar on his face from an accident as a kid is just one visible reminder of those tough early years. When his family moved to Sweden to escape that life, things didn’t suddenly get easy. Khamzat worked physically demanding jobs, like cleaning and carrying heavy loads in a chicken factory, all while dedicating himself to training. What could have broken many people became the fuel for his ambition. Khamzat turned his pain and difficult past into a kind of mental armor. Every struggle, every scar, became part of what made him so mentally tough. When others fold under pressure, Khamzat seems to thrive, famously saying, “I was born for this.” His rise in the UFC has been nothing short of explosive, he smashed through opponents with a rare mix of skill and ruthlessness. But what sets him apart isn’t just his athletic ability; it’s how he transformed trauma into his greatest strength. Instead of letting his past crush him, Khamzat used it to sharpen himself into one of the most dangerous fighters today. His story is proof that sometimes, the hardest life experiences can become your most valuable weapons.

I got one of those scooters too but it is very unpractical. For example I can’t go shopping with it because it could be stolen. Only thing it is fun for is to stroll around. Perhaps more fun with psychedelics? I only use it in the summer to stroll around the park and it can be fun. But always have both hands on the steering wheel because that is needed to keep your balance. And never go harder than 15 km-h with cars nearby. I heard of a girl who fell under a truck while riding this.

Ask Socrates

Real smart people don’t go around thinking and saying they are smart.

And it was probably free too. Sounds like a good resort. 🤓

Don´t try to be funny and you will be funny. Nothing worse than a clown. Most people I like who are funny are just charismatic, clever and have self esteem and funniness is just a byproduct.

Klefki

Perhaps we are all the terrible all devouring her.

An Indian woman called me today and I got so paranoid because of terrible all devouring "her" is that I thought the woman in question was the terrible all devouring "her". The reason is because her mannerisms was exactly the same. She was talking about lust and stuff like that in this thread. She got in all of our heads lmao.

Just looking at Jocko or that other black military guy. You can just tell they have couple of screws loose. I wouldn’t be listening to them. They don’t even look physically healthy. And I’m not even talking about the mental part.

You don’t have to kill an animal with an axe. You are already killing millions of living things just by existing. You live in an eco system and there is a cost of you living your vegan or non vegan lifestyle. Holding an axe doing a little theater and coming here to tell it is just little games you are playing with yourself. If you are so into Leo look into self deception.

I don't know my man. I hear people say I'm difficult to predict. It is not a pro or a con. I'm not involved with these social games anyway, my highest priority to individuate and become my ultimate self in this life span. At the end we are all tapped into something. But it shouldn't define you. I'm neurodivergent so my brain already works different than most people. I have learned to become socially successful and it is all about becoming predictable because for most people predictable means safe.

That is social intelligence you are talking about which overlaps with emotional intelligence but I get what you are saying. Most people are tapped into the social matrix and their behavior is very predictable. It is like playing against low tier chess players who are easy to read.

Apparently Farfetch'd makes good soup.

You basically have to find out what is "holy" for that person and just praise that. I had this gf who was really in Jordan Peterson and she was basically worshiping him. It was obvious to me it was because of her daddy issues so she projected her daddy onto Peterson. It was very dysfunctional and it was getting annoying. So after I while I started commenting on this and after that it went south really fast. The bottom line of the thread is this: never attack that thing or person that is holy for the person you are talking to... In the same way, everybody has their own idols they worship. It doesn't have to be a person, it can also be a concept or belief. Examples of idols Jordan Peterson Integral model or SD model Jesus Athlete Ghuru Alien consciousness Leo Gura A particular book/theory Preacher etc It is really a big sin to worship idols and almost everybody does it. So I made the misjudgement that everybody was interested in the truth as me. If you are into truth, it will blow up your social life. To friends and to have a good social and dating life you basically have to cater to their emotions, survival and ego to be successful. It is no different on this forum and here I'm making this topic lol. I think very socially successful people know this. One should observe it to understand it. It can also be clearly seen in certain podcasters, they inherently know this. You basically have to instill the belief that the other is "holier than thou". Especially with girls if you give her the feeling she is not holy aka not a holy Mary, you are gone so fast. Even if she is a huge slut you have to give her the feeling she is worthy of what is holy aka love/respect but it shouldn't come free because what is free is not appreciated by the masses. We can also see this with pop stars. People who worship these idols basically see them as God's representatives on earth. You don't really need to become a popstar to create this vibe. Leo Gura has done it and there are thousands of people who see his word as holy although(!) Leo doesn't intended to be seen like that. You can do the same. I think real religion which I believe is gnosticism does this. Gnosticism teaches to be your own leader instead of following the flock. There are basically two kinds of religion: the flock religions and being your own leader. And when you become your own leader in your life, people will subconsciously pick it up and want to be part of it. These were my own insights but Owen talks about it too from another angle without the holiness thing which is my own insight I. The Detrimental Effects of Desperation and the Speaker's Initial Observations on Relationships Being desperate and needy will kill attraction and the dynamic in a potential or existing relationship, often causing the other person to withdraw. Even after a wonderful first encounter, neediness can drive someone away. The speaker initially questioned the value of traditional relationships, particularly marriage, contrasting the perceived negativity of a married "nice guy" being mistreated at home with the freedom and enjoyment of single life, including going out and meeting various people. He wonders why someone would choose a relationship worse than being single. He acknowledges that having children is a profoundly beautiful and fulfilling experience, surpassing superficial encounters. The speaker suggests that men in relationships might fixate on what they lack rather than appreciating the intimacy they have. He aims to show how to maintain the positive treatment often received when single, within a relationship. II. The Rapidly Fluctuating Value in Relationships and the "RS Slip" A man's value in a relationship can change rapidly and dramatically in real-time. The concept of the "RS slip" (Relationship Status slip) is introduced, describing a sudden disappearance of attraction. This can be triggered by a moment of low status. The "RS slip" occurs when someone steps out of the other person's "frame" to reconsider what they truly want, often an emotional rather than a logical shift. III. The Speaker's Four Factors of Success in Social Interactions The speaker identifies four crucial elements for success in social interactions, especially dating: Status hierarchy: Occupying a position of higher status. Good emotions: Creating an emotional rollercoaster, not just positive emotions. Challenging the other to seek validation: Not providing approval too easily. A better place to go: An attractive lifestyle. Possessing these four factors can lead to being the most popular person in a social setting. IV. The Lack of "Equity" in Traditional Relationship Investments The speaker argues that many common investments in a relationship do not build lasting "equity" or value. Money has no "equity". After an "RS slip," financial contributions can be perceived as manipulation. Wealth alone does not guarantee attraction. In divorce, the partner who didn't earn the money often takes half, demonstrating a lack of perceived equity. Friendship has no "equity" in romantic relationships. Rapport is often built on perceived value; if that value diminishes, the friendship can unravel. Even helping friends can lead to ingratitude and exploitation if their status changes. Gifts given with expectations can be seen as manipulative. Only truly unconditional gifts, given without any agenda, are genuine, but even these are viewed through the lens of potential "RS flips". V. The Importance of "Frame" and "Value" in Attraction Attraction for women is heavily based on "frame". When a woman is within a man's frame, she adopts many of his personality traits, values, and beliefs. Men value fluctuates, females value is static; in relationship you get more buffer. Women within a strong frame are often unable to logically consider leaving until they experience an "RS slip". Men should focus on creating and maintaining a strong "frame" by demonstrating high "value". The speaker defines "value" in terms of: Status Evoking good emotions (fun) Not easily giving validation An attractive lifestyle (better place to go) Men are encouraged to be the source of their own validation, to be uninhibited and fun. "Value arbitrage" refers to creating value without necessarily being rich. In any social interaction, the person with more certainty and social proof dictates the "frame". The speaker demonstrated this by interacting with audience members. VI. The Pitfalls of "Self-Qualifying" and Neediness "Self-qualifying" (bragging or trying too hard for approval) and neediness undermine attraction. They erode the pedestal on which someone might have placed you. VII. The Role of "Swag" and the "Winner Effect" "Swag" is a constant effort involving access to desirable things, humor, and confidence. Many men lack "swag" by overemphasizing integrity and hard work, which don't directly influence dating success. The "winner effect" is the feeling of enlightenment the brain experiences from social validation. A high "winner effect" leads to greater confidence, better vocal projection, and ease in social tension. Most men have a low "winner effect". It's crucial to self-generate the "winner effect" through inner growth, spirituality, goal achievement, and cultivating self-belief, rather than relying on external validation. VIII. The Impact of Modern Culture on Relationships Modern culture, characterized by social media and hyper-individualism, puts significant strain on relationships and marriages. The collectivist structures that historically held marriages together have dissolved. Current structures often pull relationships apart. The speaker refers to this as an "individualist cluster fuck free-for-all". A "culture war" is ongoing, impacting relationships. Women in their twenties are often less interested in serious relationships, prioritizing fun and sometimes having financial support through "sugar daddies". Instagram's AI surveillance system can influence perceptions of relationships by feeding users content aligned with their current mindset, potentially reinforcing negative views if a relationship is struggling. IX. Understanding the Reticular Activating System (RA) The speaker explains how the RA filters information based on our beliefs. This explains why people in a negative "frame" tend to remember negative experiences ("memory state access dependent"). Understanding how one's own RA and others' RAs function is vital for effective communication and navigating relationships. Someone with more "value" can influence another's RA, potentially filtering out other voices, like a partner's. X. The Roles of Women and the Primacy of Attractiveness Women bring "flow" into men's lives, teaching them to appreciate the present moment. Men should embrace this instead of solely focusing on being providers. In contemporary society, attractiveness is paramount for forming and maintaining relationships, more so than just providing and protecting. The traditional emphasis on these latter roles was, according to the speaker, promoted by a "beta male collective". Men need to learn how to be truly attractive through going out, practicing, and learning from relationship failures. XI. The Dangers of Drug Use and the Power of Inner Growth The speaker strongly warns against drug use, highlighting its detrimental effects on the brain. Genuine awareness and inner growth stem from study, mastery, nature, and meditation. XII. Maintaining "Frame" in a Relationship Sustaining a strong personal "frame" is crucial for the longevity of a relationship. In any social dynamic, the person with greater certainty and social validation dictates the "frame". Once "frame" is lost, regaining it is difficult. XIII. Personal Responsibility and Setting the Frame The speaker emphasizes personal responsibility in relationships and life. Men should stop blaming women or society and take ownership of setting their own "frame". He criticizes the lack of initiative and self-leadership in many men. XIV. The Winner Effect and Social Validation Revisited The "winner effect" is linked to social validation and provides a feeling of relief. A high "winner effect" contributes to confidence and a strong "frame". It is vital to cultivate the "winner effect" internally through self-confidence, inner growth, and achieving personal goals. XV. The State of Modern Relationships and Potential Solutions The speaker describes the current state of modern relationships as a chaotic "individualist cluster fuck free-for-all". The traditional supports for relationships ("Chester's fence") have disappeared, making individual attractiveness essential. He suggests that mainstreaming the principles he teaches (like "swag," "frame," and understanding attraction) could be a potential solution to the "carnage" in modern relationships, advocating for its inclusion in education. The speaker acknowledges that the current hyper-individualistic culture might lead to a regression towards more controlling societal structures if current trends persist. In essence, Owen Cook argues that the dynamics of modern relationships have fundamentally shifted, rendering traditional approaches to attraction and relationship maintenance ineffective. He stresses the significance of personal attractiveness, controlling one's own "frame," and grasping the psychological factors that drive attraction and repulsion. He criticizes the absence of societal support for relationships and calls for a re-evaluation of how we understand and teach attraction and relationships.

Bioenergetics (see video above) helped me more than 5 years of therapy. All those years of yapping with female therapists who don't know anything about anything. Fortunately I wake up but I wished I woke up faster. I hate to say it but Andrew Tate was the catalyst for me to stop listening to others. Most people are idiots but I still love them but that doesn't mean I will listen to them with all due respect. To stop listening to others, you first need to fix your epistemology and work from first principles and direct experience. That is how I discovered about bioenergetics. I mean, how hard would it have been for therapists to forward me a 10 minute video about bioenergetics that would help me with accessing my emotions. Most people operate from sheep mentality. They can't think for themselves. They just do what others do. And in a certain way, you need this ability too, which is called social collaboration: but don't expect these people to help you with anything. They can't even help themselves. The antidote to a sheep mentality is what? What is the opposite of a sheep? I won't spell it out but that is the mindset you need to develop to get anything done.

All you need to know about bioenergetics which will help you to create a better relationship with your anima (which is your body). He provides exercises how to do it: when you change your relationship to your body (anima) you change everything. Especially for nerdy guys who neglected their body these exercises is the gordian knot.

A contrast is drawn between the speaker's background and Tate's. The speaker suggests a general guide in life is to be nice or good. While the posturing of figures like Tate can be attractive to young men, particularly those who feel ineffectual or rejected ("incels"), as it might offer a pathway to toughen up and strive, monster is considered better than wimp, but the question is what is better than monster. Narcissism and intense internal focus can help someone get "pretty far" or "close" to the top, especially in difficult fields like fighting, because it allows for specialization and drive. However, it is suggested that at the championship level ("the King"), athletes are almost universally disciplined, focused, and generally kind. They possess balance. An imbalance, while allowing someone to get far due to specialization, can lead them to "fall prey to the balanced man". The drawbacks of narcissism and sociopathy are highlighted. Individuals with these traits often know they cannot be truly proud of themselves. They don't receive the positive feedback from true kindness to others and know their reputation is founded on sand. Rationalizing this by thinking "everyone does that" leads to not trusting or liking anyone, resulting in being "really alone". Even achieving success can feel hollow because of this isolation. The source outlines a progression, likened to Carl Jung's concept of individuation, which describes a path of development for men. This progression starts with being ineffectual and rejected (e.g., an incel). The next step involves finding a "shadow figure" to sharpen and toughen up, leading to striving and becoming, in a sense, a "monster". The crucial subsequent stage involves the integration of the feminine part ("anima"), which includes discovering the utility of empathy, compassion, kindness, mercy, and care, while still retaining the ability to deal justice. This integration is described as what ultimately places individuals, even fighters, at the highest level. George St-Pierre is given as an example of a highly successful fighter who embodies this integrated state. He is described as one of the greatest of all time but also one of the nicest people, curious, intelligent, well-read, always interested in new things, and still on a quest for improvement as a martial artist even in retirement. Talking to him, you would never guess he was one of the greatest fighters. The audience drawn to the pathway Tate offers is noted as being particularly disaffected and quite angry, especially towards women. For these individuals, if it's a choice between being "hard on women" or picking themselves, they will pick themselves.

After the Pope's death I got reminded how awful natural death is. Most of the time it is not peaceful. Like some kind of heart failure. The last moments on this earth you will be struggling to breathe or your heart is about to bust in your chest. It seems like an awful way to go. I don't get why people just don't take a pill and take the initiative if it is apparent they are about to go. This shouldn't be that taboo in my opinion. My biggest worries is about lowing my mental prowess. People think they will maintain their mental faculties forever. With age you lose that too becoming a teeth-less lion being a burden on others.

@WikiRando @Eskilon perhaps my experience of old age is different. I have seen old family members and old acquaintances suffer through endless chronic pain/disease. For example Leo Gura is another example. You don't know how painful existence becomes in that case. And mind you I'm a health nut, kick boxer and warrior. So I suffer every week in the dojo. But I understand that kind of suffering is different from old age. Probably the most worst of it is mental decay of old age. I can't stomach losing my intellect when I'm old. Probably not being able to fuck will be least of my concerns although that is a hard pill to swallow too. I have my emotional traumas too. I need to sort my relationship to being old because it kind of scares me although I still have a long and long way to go. One thing I do is I enjoy every moment of my youth. True wealth is youth. And a lot of young people don't appreciate it at all which is sad and I'm glad I know the value of youthfulness.

If somebody is going to be make money, it rather be me than some scumbag. I will invest it in self actualizing and the greater good while that other person will blow it on hedonism.