AION

Real smart people don’t go around thinking and saying they are smart.

And it was probably free too. Sounds like a good resort. 🤓

Don´t try to be funny and you will be funny. Nothing worse than a clown. Most people I like who are funny are just charismatic, clever and have self esteem and funniness is just a byproduct.

Klefki

Perhaps we are all the terrible all devouring her.

An Indian woman called me today and I got so paranoid because of terrible all devouring "her" is that I thought the woman in question was the terrible all devouring "her". The reason is because her mannerisms was exactly the same. She was talking about lust and stuff like that in this thread. She got in all of our heads lmao.

Just looking at Jocko or that other black military guy. You can just tell they have couple of screws loose. I wouldn’t be listening to them. They don’t even look physically healthy. And I’m not even talking about the mental part.

You don’t have to kill an animal with an axe. You are already killing millions of living things just by existing. You live in an eco system and there is a cost of you living your vegan or non vegan lifestyle. Holding an axe doing a little theater and coming here to tell it is just little games you are playing with yourself. If you are so into Leo look into self deception.

I don't know my man. I hear people say I'm difficult to predict. It is not a pro or a con. I'm not involved with these social games anyway, my highest priority to individuate and become my ultimate self in this life span. At the end we are all tapped into something. But it shouldn't define you. I'm neurodivergent so my brain already works different than most people. I have learned to become socially successful and it is all about becoming predictable because for most people predictable means safe.

That is social intelligence you are talking about which overlaps with emotional intelligence but I get what you are saying. Most people are tapped into the social matrix and their behavior is very predictable. It is like playing against low tier chess players who are easy to read.

Apparently Farfetch'd makes good soup.

You basically have to find out what is "holy" for that person and just praise that. I had this gf who was really in Jordan Peterson and she was basically worshiping him. It was obvious to me it was because of her daddy issues so she projected her daddy onto Peterson. It was very dysfunctional and it was getting annoying. So after I while I started commenting on this and after that it went south really fast. The bottom line of the thread is this: never attack that thing or person that is holy for the person you are talking to... In the same way, everybody has their own idols they worship. It doesn't have to be a person, it can also be a concept or belief. Examples of idols Jordan Peterson Integral model or SD model Jesus Athlete Ghuru Alien consciousness Leo Gura A particular book/theory Preacher etc It is really a big sin to worship idols and almost everybody does it. So I made the misjudgement that everybody was interested in the truth as me. If you are into truth, it will blow up your social life. To friends and to have a good social and dating life you basically have to cater to their emotions, survival and ego to be successful. It is no different on this forum and here I'm making this topic lol. I think very socially successful people know this. One should observe it to understand it. It can also be clearly seen in certain podcasters, they inherently know this. You basically have to instill the belief that the other is "holier than thou". Especially with girls if you give her the feeling she is not holy aka not a holy Mary, you are gone so fast. Even if she is a huge slut you have to give her the feeling she is worthy of what is holy aka love/respect but it shouldn't come free because what is free is not appreciated by the masses. We can also see this with pop stars. People who worship these idols basically see them as God's representatives on earth. You don't really need to become a popstar to create this vibe. Leo Gura has done it and there are thousands of people who see his word as holy although(!) Leo doesn't intended to be seen like that. You can do the same. I think real religion which I believe is gnosticism does this. Gnosticism teaches to be your own leader instead of following the flock. There are basically two kinds of religion: the flock religions and being your own leader. And when you become your own leader in your life, people will subconsciously pick it up and want to be part of it. These were my own insights but Owen talks about it too from another angle without the holiness thing which is my own insight I. The Detrimental Effects of Desperation and the Speaker's Initial Observations on Relationships Being desperate and needy will kill attraction and the dynamic in a potential or existing relationship, often causing the other person to withdraw. Even after a wonderful first encounter, neediness can drive someone away. The speaker initially questioned the value of traditional relationships, particularly marriage, contrasting the perceived negativity of a married "nice guy" being mistreated at home with the freedom and enjoyment of single life, including going out and meeting various people. He wonders why someone would choose a relationship worse than being single. He acknowledges that having children is a profoundly beautiful and fulfilling experience, surpassing superficial encounters. The speaker suggests that men in relationships might fixate on what they lack rather than appreciating the intimacy they have. He aims to show how to maintain the positive treatment often received when single, within a relationship. II. The Rapidly Fluctuating Value in Relationships and the "RS Slip" A man's value in a relationship can change rapidly and dramatically in real-time. The concept of the "RS slip" (Relationship Status slip) is introduced, describing a sudden disappearance of attraction. This can be triggered by a moment of low status. The "RS slip" occurs when someone steps out of the other person's "frame" to reconsider what they truly want, often an emotional rather than a logical shift. III. The Speaker's Four Factors of Success in Social Interactions The speaker identifies four crucial elements for success in social interactions, especially dating: Status hierarchy: Occupying a position of higher status. Good emotions: Creating an emotional rollercoaster, not just positive emotions. Challenging the other to seek validation: Not providing approval too easily. A better place to go: An attractive lifestyle. Possessing these four factors can lead to being the most popular person in a social setting. IV. The Lack of "Equity" in Traditional Relationship Investments The speaker argues that many common investments in a relationship do not build lasting "equity" or value. Money has no "equity". After an "RS slip," financial contributions can be perceived as manipulation. Wealth alone does not guarantee attraction. In divorce, the partner who didn't earn the money often takes half, demonstrating a lack of perceived equity. Friendship has no "equity" in romantic relationships. Rapport is often built on perceived value; if that value diminishes, the friendship can unravel. Even helping friends can lead to ingratitude and exploitation if their status changes. Gifts given with expectations can be seen as manipulative. Only truly unconditional gifts, given without any agenda, are genuine, but even these are viewed through the lens of potential "RS flips". V. The Importance of "Frame" and "Value" in Attraction Attraction for women is heavily based on "frame". When a woman is within a man's frame, she adopts many of his personality traits, values, and beliefs. Men value fluctuates, females value is static; in relationship you get more buffer. Women within a strong frame are often unable to logically consider leaving until they experience an "RS slip". Men should focus on creating and maintaining a strong "frame" by demonstrating high "value". The speaker defines "value" in terms of: Status Evoking good emotions (fun) Not easily giving validation An attractive lifestyle (better place to go) Men are encouraged to be the source of their own validation, to be uninhibited and fun. "Value arbitrage" refers to creating value without necessarily being rich. In any social interaction, the person with more certainty and social proof dictates the "frame". The speaker demonstrated this by interacting with audience members. VI. The Pitfalls of "Self-Qualifying" and Neediness "Self-qualifying" (bragging or trying too hard for approval) and neediness undermine attraction. They erode the pedestal on which someone might have placed you. VII. The Role of "Swag" and the "Winner Effect" "Swag" is a constant effort involving access to desirable things, humor, and confidence. Many men lack "swag" by overemphasizing integrity and hard work, which don't directly influence dating success. The "winner effect" is the feeling of enlightenment the brain experiences from social validation. A high "winner effect" leads to greater confidence, better vocal projection, and ease in social tension. Most men have a low "winner effect". It's crucial to self-generate the "winner effect" through inner growth, spirituality, goal achievement, and cultivating self-belief, rather than relying on external validation. VIII. The Impact of Modern Culture on Relationships Modern culture, characterized by social media and hyper-individualism, puts significant strain on relationships and marriages. The collectivist structures that historically held marriages together have dissolved. Current structures often pull relationships apart. The speaker refers to this as an "individualist cluster fuck free-for-all". A "culture war" is ongoing, impacting relationships. Women in their twenties are often less interested in serious relationships, prioritizing fun and sometimes having financial support through "sugar daddies". Instagram's AI surveillance system can influence perceptions of relationships by feeding users content aligned with their current mindset, potentially reinforcing negative views if a relationship is struggling. IX. Understanding the Reticular Activating System (RA) The speaker explains how the RA filters information based on our beliefs. This explains why people in a negative "frame" tend to remember negative experiences ("memory state access dependent"). Understanding how one's own RA and others' RAs function is vital for effective communication and navigating relationships. Someone with more "value" can influence another's RA, potentially filtering out other voices, like a partner's. X. The Roles of Women and the Primacy of Attractiveness Women bring "flow" into men's lives, teaching them to appreciate the present moment. Men should embrace this instead of solely focusing on being providers. In contemporary society, attractiveness is paramount for forming and maintaining relationships, more so than just providing and protecting. The traditional emphasis on these latter roles was, according to the speaker, promoted by a "beta male collective". Men need to learn how to be truly attractive through going out, practicing, and learning from relationship failures. XI. The Dangers of Drug Use and the Power of Inner Growth The speaker strongly warns against drug use, highlighting its detrimental effects on the brain. Genuine awareness and inner growth stem from study, mastery, nature, and meditation. XII. Maintaining "Frame" in a Relationship Sustaining a strong personal "frame" is crucial for the longevity of a relationship. In any social dynamic, the person with greater certainty and social validation dictates the "frame". Once "frame" is lost, regaining it is difficult. XIII. Personal Responsibility and Setting the Frame The speaker emphasizes personal responsibility in relationships and life. Men should stop blaming women or society and take ownership of setting their own "frame". He criticizes the lack of initiative and self-leadership in many men. XIV. The Winner Effect and Social Validation Revisited The "winner effect" is linked to social validation and provides a feeling of relief. A high "winner effect" contributes to confidence and a strong "frame". It is vital to cultivate the "winner effect" internally through self-confidence, inner growth, and achieving personal goals. XV. The State of Modern Relationships and Potential Solutions The speaker describes the current state of modern relationships as a chaotic "individualist cluster fuck free-for-all". The traditional supports for relationships ("Chester's fence") have disappeared, making individual attractiveness essential. He suggests that mainstreaming the principles he teaches (like "swag," "frame," and understanding attraction) could be a potential solution to the "carnage" in modern relationships, advocating for its inclusion in education. The speaker acknowledges that the current hyper-individualistic culture might lead to a regression towards more controlling societal structures if current trends persist. In essence, Owen Cook argues that the dynamics of modern relationships have fundamentally shifted, rendering traditional approaches to attraction and relationship maintenance ineffective. He stresses the significance of personal attractiveness, controlling one's own "frame," and grasping the psychological factors that drive attraction and repulsion. He criticizes the absence of societal support for relationships and calls for a re-evaluation of how we understand and teach attraction and relationships.

Bioenergetics (see video above) helped me more than 5 years of therapy. All those years of yapping with female therapists who don't know anything about anything. Fortunately I wake up but I wished I woke up faster. I hate to say it but Andrew Tate was the catalyst for me to stop listening to others. Most people are idiots but I still love them but that doesn't mean I will listen to them with all due respect. To stop listening to others, you first need to fix your epistemology and work from first principles and direct experience. That is how I discovered about bioenergetics. I mean, how hard would it have been for therapists to forward me a 10 minute video about bioenergetics that would help me with accessing my emotions. Most people operate from sheep mentality. They can't think for themselves. They just do what others do. And in a certain way, you need this ability too, which is called social collaboration: but don't expect these people to help you with anything. They can't even help themselves. The antidote to a sheep mentality is what? What is the opposite of a sheep? I won't spell it out but that is the mindset you need to develop to get anything done.

All you need to know about bioenergetics which will help you to create a better relationship with your anima (which is your body). He provides exercises how to do it: when you change your relationship to your body (anima) you change everything. Especially for nerdy guys who neglected their body these exercises is the gordian knot.

A contrast is drawn between the speaker's background and Tate's. The speaker suggests a general guide in life is to be nice or good. While the posturing of figures like Tate can be attractive to young men, particularly those who feel ineffectual or rejected ("incels"), as it might offer a pathway to toughen up and strive, monster is considered better than wimp, but the question is what is better than monster. Narcissism and intense internal focus can help someone get "pretty far" or "close" to the top, especially in difficult fields like fighting, because it allows for specialization and drive. However, it is suggested that at the championship level ("the King"), athletes are almost universally disciplined, focused, and generally kind. They possess balance. An imbalance, while allowing someone to get far due to specialization, can lead them to "fall prey to the balanced man". The drawbacks of narcissism and sociopathy are highlighted. Individuals with these traits often know they cannot be truly proud of themselves. They don't receive the positive feedback from true kindness to others and know their reputation is founded on sand. Rationalizing this by thinking "everyone does that" leads to not trusting or liking anyone, resulting in being "really alone". Even achieving success can feel hollow because of this isolation. The source outlines a progression, likened to Carl Jung's concept of individuation, which describes a path of development for men. This progression starts with being ineffectual and rejected (e.g., an incel). The next step involves finding a "shadow figure" to sharpen and toughen up, leading to striving and becoming, in a sense, a "monster". The crucial subsequent stage involves the integration of the feminine part ("anima"), which includes discovering the utility of empathy, compassion, kindness, mercy, and care, while still retaining the ability to deal justice. This integration is described as what ultimately places individuals, even fighters, at the highest level. George St-Pierre is given as an example of a highly successful fighter who embodies this integrated state. He is described as one of the greatest of all time but also one of the nicest people, curious, intelligent, well-read, always interested in new things, and still on a quest for improvement as a martial artist even in retirement. Talking to him, you would never guess he was one of the greatest fighters. The audience drawn to the pathway Tate offers is noted as being particularly disaffected and quite angry, especially towards women. For these individuals, if it's a choice between being "hard on women" or picking themselves, they will pick themselves.

After the Pope's death I got reminded how awful natural death is. Most of the time it is not peaceful. Like some kind of heart failure. The last moments on this earth you will be struggling to breathe or your heart is about to bust in your chest. It seems like an awful way to go. I don't get why people just don't take a pill and take the initiative if it is apparent they are about to go. This shouldn't be that taboo in my opinion. My biggest worries is about lowing my mental prowess. People think they will maintain their mental faculties forever. With age you lose that too becoming a teeth-less lion being a burden on others.

@WikiRando @Eskilon perhaps my experience of old age is different. I have seen old family members and old acquaintances suffer through endless chronic pain/disease. For example Leo Gura is another example. You don't know how painful existence becomes in that case. And mind you I'm a health nut, kick boxer and warrior. So I suffer every week in the dojo. But I understand that kind of suffering is different from old age. Probably the most worst of it is mental decay of old age. I can't stomach losing my intellect when I'm old. Probably not being able to fuck will be least of my concerns although that is a hard pill to swallow too. I have my emotional traumas too. I need to sort my relationship to being old because it kind of scares me although I still have a long and long way to go. One thing I do is I enjoy every moment of my youth. True wealth is youth. And a lot of young people don't appreciate it at all which is sad and I'm glad I know the value of youthfulness.

If somebody is going to be make money, it rather be me than some scumbag. I will invest it in self actualizing and the greater good while that other person will blow it on hedonism.

Andrew Tate's Core Philosophy: A central theme is the belief that everything in the world is a choice, including being overweight, broke, or even depressed. Adopting this mindset is seen as empowering, as it allows individuals to choose to change their circumstances, whereas believing things are not a choice removes power and responsibility. The most powerful mindset, especially for a man, is one that allows him to be most competitive and win. What matters most is not necessarily objective truth, but adopting mindsets or strategies that lead to winning. Tate argues that his entire worldview comes from believing what makes him feel most powerful is true. His primary objective is to win all of the time, not to feel happy. Happiness is described as being for women and children, not for men. Men are expected to be constantly stressed or annoyed, and pursuing happiness as a man leads to being unproductive and engaging in "unimportant narcissistic hedonistic garbage". Building something and being content with achievement is seen as the "masculine imperative". Views on Society, "The Matrix," and the UK: Tate frequently refers to "The Matrix" as a system that manipulates information and controls people. He claims the media softens people to ideas rather than reporting truth. The media is accused of lying and being a tool to prepare people's minds for what is about to happen. He expresses strong views on migration in the UK, claiming it is the reason streets are unsafe and London is in decline. He states there is a deliberate effort to replace native British people with "third worlders" for political and financial gain, allowing leaders to rule with absolute force and steal without accountability. The Netflix show "Adolescence" is criticized as a deliberate "scop" (setup or scam) designed to attack masculinity and blame native British youth for societal problems, deflecting from the issue of migration. Tate believes the British government is corrupt and actively attempting to jail him without legitimate reason, seeing his legal troubles as part of a deliberate effort to silence him because he highlights systemic issues. He argues that being "law-abiding" is irrelevant if the government can lie and fabricate charges to target anyone they wish. Trusting the government to fix problems they created is seen as foolish. Views on Personal Finance and Assets: Saving money is described as the "most foolish thing a person does" due to currency devaluation through government printing and inflation. Only poor people save money; money loses value rapidly. Real assets matter because they retain value as currency decreases, mentioning food and shelter as examples. Buying assets using debt, where the interest rate is less than the asset's appreciation, is presented as a way to get rich, as inflation decreases the value of the debt while the asset's price goes up. Regarding asset protection, Tate notes that while some Bitcoin and property were seized by the government, he was still able to live in the seized property while under house arrest. He suggests that trusts are more complicated for the government to seize assets from compared to owning them personally or in a company name. However, he also states that if truly attacked by the government, particularly with money laundering accusations, they can seize all associated assets regardless of structure. Views on Personal Development, Effort, and Education: In chaotic times, when predicting the future is difficult, the only thing one can predict is their own effort: working harder, getting up earlier, paying more attention, researching more. Going "all in on yourself" is an investment that will never backfire. Adaptability is key to survival and success. People who are losing often "deserve to lose" because they don't try. The ease of winning in the world today is attributed to the majority of people being unwilling to put in the effort. Love without capability is meaningless, particularly for a man. A man's love only has value if he has the means to act on it, such as providing and protecting his family. Not trying to escape poverty or the system shows a lack of care for oneself and family. Traditional education is described as a "complete scam" and a tool for the state to brainwash children with "poisonous ideologies" and condition them to "permafail". Children learn little of value in school compared to what they can learn from life, extracurricular activities, and the internet. Home education and focusing on interpersonal skills, confidence, and putting children through stress/tests are suggested alternatives. Views on the Future: The art of making money is predicting the future. This is becoming harder due to global disruptors like cryptocurrency, AI, and geopolitical issues. AI is predicted to make the poor poorer and the rich richer, widening the wealth gap. The time to get rich is now because there is an urgency due to impending changes. There is concern that "The Matrix" might eventually switch off the internet to maintain control over information and ideas. Planning for this could involve decentralizing assets and building connections with influential people. History is questioned, with the COVID-19 pandemic used as an example where the reality experienced by individuals differed significantly from how it might be portrayed historically, suggesting that what is understood as truth or history might be a "scam". Samuel Leeds also shares his experiences, including his weight loss journey inspired by Tate, the success of his business amplified by Tate's appearances, and his own financial practices involving property, debt, and asset protection. He agrees on the importance of making money and taking personal responsibility. He has pulled his own children out of traditional school for home education to avoid state brainwashing.Here is a structured summary based on the provided transcript excerpts: This transcript captures a conversation, primarily between Andrew Tate and Samuel Leeds, covering various topics including personal development, financial strategies, societal issues, and critiques of media and government. Andrew Tate's Core Philosophy: A central theme is the belief that everything in the world is a choice, including being overweight, broke, or even depressed. Adopting this mindset is seen as empowering, as it allows individuals to choose to change their circumstances, whereas believing things are not a choice removes power and responsibility. The most powerful mindset, especially for a man, is one that allows him to be most competitive and win. What matters most is not necessarily objective truth, but adopting mindsets or strategies that lead to winning. Tate argues that his entire worldview comes from believing what makes him feel most powerful is true. His primary objective is to win all of the time, not to feel happy. Happiness is described as being for women and children, not for men. Men are expected to be constantly stressed or annoyed, and pursuing happiness as a man leads to being unproductive and engaging in "unimportant narcissistic hedonistic garbage". Building something and being content with achievement is seen as the "masculine imperative". Views on Society, "The Matrix," and the UK: Tate frequently refers to "The Matrix" as a system that manipulates information and controls people. He claims the media softens people to ideas rather than reporting truth. The media is accused of lying and being a tool to prepare people's minds for what is about to happen. He expresses strong views on migration in the UK, claiming it is the reason streets are unsafe and London is in decline. He states there is a deliberate effort to replace native British people with "third worlders" for political and financial gain, allowing leaders to rule with absolute force and steal without accountability. The Netflix show "Adolescence" is criticized as a deliberate "scop" (setup or scam) designed to attack masculinity and blame native British youth for societal problems, deflecting from the issue of migration. Tate believes the British government is corrupt and actively attempting to jail him without legitimate reason, seeing his legal troubles as part of a deliberate effort to silence him because he highlights systemic issues. He argues that being "law-abiding" is irrelevant if the government can lie and fabricate charges to target anyone they wish. Trusting the government to fix problems they created is seen as foolish. Views on Personal Finance and Assets: Saving money is described as the "most foolish thing a person does" due to currency devaluation through government printing and inflation. Only poor people save money; money loses value rapidly. Real assets matter because they retain value as currency decreases, mentioning food and shelter as examples. Buying assets using debt, where the interest rate is less than the asset's appreciation, is presented as a way to get rich, as inflation decreases the value of the debt while the asset's price goes up. Regarding asset protection, Tate notes that while some Bitcoin and property were seized by the government, he was still able to live in the seized property while under house arrest. He suggests that trusts are more complicated for the government to seize assets from compared to owning them personally or in a company name. However, he also states that if truly attacked by the government, particularly with money laundering accusations, they can seize all associated assets regardless of structure. Views on Personal Development, Effort, and Education: In chaotic times, when predicting the future is difficult, the only thing one can predict is their own effort: working harder, getting up earlier, paying more attention, researching more. Going "all in on yourself" is an investment that will never backfire. Adaptability is key to survival and success. People who are losing often "deserve to lose" because they don't try. The ease of winning in the world today is attributed to the majority of people being unwilling to put in the effort. Love without capability is meaningless, particularly for a man. A man's love only has value if he has the means to act on it, such as providing and protecting his family. Not trying to escape poverty or the system shows a lack of care for oneself and family. Traditional education is described as a "complete scam" and a tool for the state to brainwash children with "poisonous ideologies" and condition them to "permafail". Children learn little of value in school compared to what they can learn from life, extracurricular activities, and the internet. Home education and focusing on interpersonal skills, confidence, and putting children through stress/tests are suggested alternatives. Views on the Future: The art of making money is predicting the future. This is becoming harder due to global disruptors like cryptocurrency, AI, and geopolitical issues. AI is predicted to make the poor poorer and the rich richer, widening the wealth gap. The time to get rich is now because there is an urgency due to impending changes. There is concern that "The Matrix" might eventually switch off the internet to maintain control over information and ideas. Planning for this could involve decentralizing assets and building connections with influential people. History is questioned, with the COVID-19 pandemic used as an example where the reality experienced by individuals differed significantly from how it might be portrayed historically, suggesting that what is understood as truth or history might be a "scam". Samuel Leeds also shares his experiences, including his weight loss journey inspired by Tate, the success of his business amplified by Tate's appearances, and his own financial practices involving property, debt, and asset protection. He agrees on the importance of making money and taking personal responsibility. He has pulled his own children out of traditional school for home education to avoid state brainwashing.

@Leo Gura are you going to make a video about alien consciousness? Because I just read your post on infinite mind and the video. I experienced that on lsd but I don’t know how you distinguish non duality from infinity mind. For me it is the same thing. Infinity is non dual.

I don’t have a fear of dying. In the same way I don’t have a fear of stepping on a train. I have a fear of ending in between the train and platform; having to suffer a slow and miserable death. Transition is part of life. It is foolish to resist that but I don’t see you wanting to end up between the train and the platform.

I have been through all the anima integration exercises. All anima integration exercises are all yang based exercises like journalling, active imagination, shadow work, putting the man even more into yang energy because its put the guy in his head analyzing "huh am I this or am I do and how should I be?". The feminine doesn't think like that, it just feels and it is. Most of the guys who lack anima integration already think too much and these exercises put these guys even more in their head instead of the body which is the home of the anima (subconscious of the psyche which is the body). Guys should be doing bioenergetic grounding, dancing, yin yoga or some other kind of body based therapy. I would even argue that guys don't even need to know about the anima. Most guys who have an integrated anima don't know anything about the anima nor should they know about it for their own sake. For me becoming flexible with yin yoga made my mind also become more flexible. But I had a very hard time relaxing which got me into bioenergetic grounding. The body is kind of brushed under the table with Leo Gura's work too. Things like "you are not your body" can be interpreted as neglect your body. And a lot of spiritual people actually do with health problems as a result. Leo is the living evidence of this. Having a strong, versatile, powerful and flexible body means a strong, powerful and flexible mind. One can clearly see Leo's mind is also not that strong and flexible anymore. Spirituality should be learned from battle tested people. And you should have an integrated and holistic model for spirituality touching on all areas. Recently I opened a thread about this and almost nobody answered. They rather answer to stupid threads.

I don't agree. Masculinity (hardness) and femininity (softness) are like yin and yang or another way we could say they are two polar opposites causing attraction or repulsion. Too much femininity can go at the cost of masculinity and visa-versa. It is about knowing when to be "hard" and when to be "soft" no phun intended.

It worked for you because you weren't a hard case. You would have coasted by either way. Although both Teal and Emerald are nice women and I respect them and I wish more women were like them, I don't think they are in the position to help men. Even Leo and Emerald regularly fight over this and I'm not going to shy away from saying this although it won't be popular. Men have to develop the skill to extract wisdom from both masculinity and femininity energies. The one is not better than the other, it is about what is needed at that particular moment. It is like saying leaning left is better than leaning right. It totally depends on the moment. So Emerald saying men should learn left, is not good advice. I wouldn't say incels are not emotional enough if you ever met them. Their problem is that they oscillate between two extremes of being too masculine neglecting their body or acting out too much from their body, watching porn or other addictions they have. The thing is that men don't have good role models. The closest thing that comes to it is Andrew Tate but he is toxic. But that guy helped me a lot helping me to start my business and focus on myself. Women will come as a by product of it. Of course it is nice if guys develop their anima and shit, but it is not really needed to get the goods from the other sex. One should do anima integration for one's own health and development, not for a woman. For men with trouble with women and life, bioenergetics is the way to go though. It works directly with the body and strikes at the Gordian knot. I watched both Teal's videos and Emeralds and it is all intellectualizing and all in the head which is masculine to begin with: they are both overcompensating their traumas by becoming too manly. One has to work with the body aka man's femininity. That is what you did very well. You also seem to have a passion for dancing which a lot of incels don't have so I'm glad it worked out for you. But it worked out for you because you worked with your body. Intellectualizng about anima/animus won't do much.

For me all this philosophizing about anima integration hasn't really worked until I started doing bio-energetics and start removing emotional blocks from my system and idd become a more fluid vessel of the divine/universe. Bio-energetic grounding really strikes at where the anima is for the men: the body. One could be better off just saying men should be more connected and attuned to their body and treat their body like you would treat a nice lady. A nerd is a nerd because he totally neglects his body: you can see this in actual nerds who treat their body just as something to drag along. The anima integration stages are really about how you relate to your body and developing the feeling function at the cost of thinking function. Anima integration does have a price but it is a price worth paying. For me it is all about balancing, just like yin and yang. The paradoxal thing is that guys who neglect their anima get regularly swallowed up by it and become emotional, irrational, and have all kinds of neurosis like a pyscho bitch. These nerds with a rigid body usually have a psycho bitch inside of them that likes to act out. One can't really suppress it. So to answer the question of this thread: I would say the modern day guy isn't liked because he is too feminine and there is no polarity, because these guys have become bitches themselves, and the reason why is because they listened to feminists and castrated themselves. And the tragicomic thing is that, women say men don't listen enough, and they should listen more to them which will only make men's problems even worse. It is the archetypal story of prideful Adam listening to naive Eve and eating poison which leads to shame. The core of a man is that man defines man by looking to himSelf, and not listen to naive opinions. When it comes to men's issues, they shouldn't listen to women but start listening to themSelves and to other men who walked the path and got to the promised land.