AION

Softness

Everybody has a death drive according to Freud. It is important to be conscious of it. For example. It is like those people who dig a big hole in the sand and then it collapses and they die in their own hole they dug. Or people who get some kind of illness like cancer. It is an unconscious hole they dug most of the time. But humans have a drive to live too. And our drive to live should be stronger than our drive to die. That is called survival.

I wasn’t there so let’s leave it at that 😭

@Natasha Tori Maru you literally told me you left after he asked you to go to couple therapy. You can go and read it back. If he only saw you as the problem he wouldn’t do that. People who blame others don’t go to therapy.

A guy wanting to go to therapy and you dropping him for it? You really dropped the ball by letting him go. But it is typical for a woman to do that when a man shows weakness / vulnerability. Although women claim otherwise, men shouldn’t show vulnerability to a woman.

Maybe that guy didn’t fuck it up but aced it from his POV. Probably that guy had so many options that he didn’t mind to pee in the friendship pool. Especially if he didn’t have anything to lose. That guy was attractive in the first place because he was detached and playing the field. If he acted like an incel; clingy, needy and codependent, he wouldn’t have gotten laid and not be popular in the first place. If a guy is an incel, the solution is not to find one gf. His aim should be to create abundance of options because that will give him the freedom to express himself authentic way without a fear of losing her. That is what charisma/charm really is. It doesn’t come from being a nice guy.

Videos should have chapters if they are multi hour. Now they feel like a blob of a video.

Social circle game works but incels don’t have a social circle. I noticed that if you are in a social circle, the girls compete with each other for a guy and that is what gets them laid. It is not the guy doing anything than just being and not doing something stupid to fuck it up. Pickup guys and such are doing non social game and that makes things a lot more difficult because women need social proof or you need to offer something else like looks / charisma / funniness.

Congratulations to the new addition

Problem that I had for a very long time is that I was chasing success. One has to internalize the success so that it doesn’t even matter how others respond and if you have that attitude they respond well because you aren’t putting pressure on them to like you. Owen Cook calls that state of arriving instead of chasing. Good friends can help you with creating that state of mind because you don’t need to have good vibes to be accepted by them.

Just say you don’t know and roll with the punches. Even when you find somebody who fits your liking, it is still constant chaos with them.

If you are an introvert and you find that is a problem you need to learn to test your mind with outer reality. And for that you need guts. Micro dosing some psychedelics is better than alcohol from my experience. Since psychedelics give you some brain elasticity and help you let go of ingrained patterns.

Act from your being. Don’t try to fit a mold. Act from your being even if it is uncalibrated and painful. After a while your being will calibrate and successful social interactions will become second nature. I achieved it as INFJ.

We should have all listened to you 😞

@Natasha Tori Maru I like psychologically mature and immature women. But I do have a strange allure to psychologically immature women because I feel safe with them I guess. I think I was projecting a little bit.

Perhaps what Leo did worked for him because it was his (individuation) path. But most of his followers are let’s say a certain type of people who just copy his lifestyle 1:1 and that is just a disaster. Enlightenment experiences too early in one’s development is like breaking a chick out of its egg prematurely (the egg being the ego self). Understanding psychology is so important. For example there was this other thread and this guy was on DMT and he thought the world was ending and he needed to do something to save the world from his mother’s basement. 😂

Your signature already says it. At least you know where your diet is going to lead you to.

I know and you will find out soon enough After death there is rebirth. It is all fun and games. Just enjoy the ride. Not everybody have to be studious fucks busting their ass with DMT. If somebody wants to have a pious life or go around being promiscuous and teach young men how to do it, it is all ok. Creation is perfect as it is.

A lot of people are so delusional on this forum. Humans need social interaction to individuate and become their own person. That is just how people are build. Perhaps in old age, solitude is possible but if you aren’t old, it is not wise. People should stop following Leo blindly and read basic psychology or risk fucking themselves up totally. Society is like a womb that grows a person in the same way you grew as a baby in a real womb. The purpose is to get out of the womb but to get out you first need to fully and successfully embrace the experience.

Nah. When you are dead. You are going to the same place Owen Cook is going to. No special place for your crusty ass. The final curtain is the same for everybody

All roads lead to Rome man. I don’t think an introvert life is superior to an extrovert life per se.

You need to be a good looking guy to pull that off. I’m not saying you aren’t. I do get passive attention too but not a lot.

Don’t make it a rocket science. It is very simple. Test this out.

How to say one is an incel without saying one is an incel …

I’m making some 4k footage and I’m surprised it makes good money. What is your side hustle?