Puer Aeternus

Congratulations, that is a brilliant sample size of one person. Let's assign you an average man to be your best friend. Let's put em through all those same experiences as you. Really think it's going to be different? You really think that's the deciding factor.

Most men want to have sex. Most men want relationships. Men here are more inclined towards truth/spirituality. Most men here try dating, but find it more difficult to find a partner with these matching values. Then complain grrrrr why don't women want truth! They're just creatures of emotions and survival! But most people aren't into truth/spirituality. You think the women who care about this stuff have an easier time? No. They don't. It makes such a hilariously miniscule difference. Yet when you come to rant about ohhh women just don't care about truth! You're not really saying much of relevant importance. You're just standing naked in front of us with all your own problems that you're now preaching about. You only care so much about this one metric because it affects you personally and you've simplified it down to gender to make it feel like you understand reality. That's why there's so many posts about this here!

Want an actual model? An actually decent model? I'll pull a better model out of my ass. We'll call it the truth/spirituality indicator model! We'll indicate some metrics that may make someone more likely to seek truth/spirituality. But are by no means a be all end all. Let's play along with your indicator here.. and say men more likely than women for truth/spirituality. That's basically the only metric you've given us here to gauge things on! Those damn women, so emotionally allergic to truth. If only they were born with cocks. But. We can add more indicators here.. Were you born in a stable, relatively free country? Stability more likely for spirituality/truth IF NOT born in a stable country, were you born in a stable family who sustained themselves financially? Family stability more likely for spirituality/truth Did your family members value spirituality/truth and pass these values down to you? Spirituality/truth valuing family more likely for spirituality What are your genetics/karma/whatever unique nature you've inherited? Some genetics more likely for spirituality/truth. What is your personality type? Some personality types more likely for spirituality/truth. Is spirituality/truth more valued in your culture/society or is it more repressed? More cultural values on spirituality/truth more likely for spirituality/truth. What is the GLOBAL level of consciousness and what scaffolded ideas are popular and widespread in global culture? More conscious = more likely for spirituality/truth. Do you have severe childhood trauma that will more easily keep you bogged in survival/dysfunction? Less trauma more likely for spirituality/truth. What was your education like? Did you get any? Was it fairly open ended or more like religious indoctrination? More open education more likely for spirituality/truth. How open to change are you? Do you often change or do you mostly stay the same or change less than others around you? More open to growth means more likely for spirituality/truth. Not that these are perfect indicators. Or even a great model. Or that many won't have exceptions! But it's better than just the little male/female indicator. You can say it's more than that, but y'all yap about it sooo much and hardly talk about the rest. Yet it's this constant harping on one small indicator. Not even close to the most important one! Most people aren't interested in this shit.. but still, it's. Blah blah women this women that. You see why it drives some of us crazy? Why not make an actually good model? Instead, you've just made the same lazy take that half the men here regurgitate on the regular. Beating the dead horse through to the afterlife. But sure! You can be proud that you've nailed your one little, tiny variable on the head. Ahhh yes. The history one isn't getting through to you. And yesss totally totally, the influential legacy left over from literal milenia before feminism is basically not impactful too? Brilliant.

Aha. You know what a stereotype is? It's a half baked caricature model of reality. You can make an earnest, nuanced model of reality. Not what you've done mate! Proud that you can claim your stereotypical take as it is. Keep talkin to GPT mate, not like there's I dunno.. any structural reason? Why most women wouldn't be able to be popular intellectual figures until the last 100-200 years? Hmm, nah men are just more spiritual. That's exactly what it is.

Raaah it's literally the SAME SHIT. Just on different threads, every. Single. DAY. Omg. The same 1-dimensional take. Noooooo women don't care about the truth, MEN MEN MEN. They're just meager fragile creatures who only care about survival, unlike MENNN. You lot stereotype women and then you stereotype yourself shouting with chest the same recycled take over and over. Why do you even care so much that this is such a talking point that needs to come up so much? And it's always presented so ferally. Some of yous should be out and getting some pussy until you don't care about this shit anymore. Then you can stop bitchin and moaning from your meditation cushion with your rod on. If you just want a wife go get a wife no one's making you do this! So tiring to witness day in and out. I'm sure it's even less fun to live in this so best of luck. Hope you can get unstuck someday, think I'll be sticking to reading the blog mate.

Mate you could literally do that in a year or two if you're living in a reasonably large city and not working crazy hours a week.

Actual threat to Merica' (sqwuak): Iran with nukes Iran bombing oil fields in retaliation to U.S. strikes, spiking global oil price, sending a teetering U.S. economy into a recession and further debt which grows more and more tenuous by the day. Further diminishing it's declining global power

Sounds like more gender games to me. Ohhhh women are so confusing, men are simple. Nooo it's the men that are confusing! It's a tired perspective game boss.

Thanks, but honestly I'm good where I am at today. Not that I couldn't get a girlfriend. I just prefer this sovereignty over that. Maybe it will change someday though, but who knows with the future anyways.

Emphasis on the BRICK. I remember the most random, sober night. Going about mine like a good little boy when a firm, authoritative voice in my head gave instructions. Drink water, lay down, put on music. Then BRICK BRICK BRICK of God or something being like WHATCHA DOIN? WAKE UP! Here have this peak experience it's on me. NOW WAKEEE UPPPP! Never consented to this.. b-but here I am! I guess.. thanks for the bricks?

Tsk tsk, how to sniff out the match you're looking for eh. So, it is 100% discernment? You're idyllic lake advertised on a water bottle levels of crystal clear on what qualities you're looking for? Or are there doubts there too? How do you try to assess people? Are you very analytical with it or do you more so just let the intuition go craaaazy? Or perhaps, something else?

Weirdly resonates, Feels like I've made the progress I've made by accident. I was just trauma healing.. but as I cleaned up, the more receptive I became. Granted I'm still very half baked. But like bread in an oven, WE RISING. Truly have a sense this process will continue irregardless of any kicks and screams of protest.

Thou shalt wager a guess! It's somewhere.. it's somewhere in the middle. I mean Emerald's out here making content on this stuff.. so of course, people interested in said content swim on in. And it's hard not to have perception skewed with that level of access! You're on the opposite end of the spectrum. As in, you could go through your in-person life not brushing shoulders with anyone on your level.. or at least? Not being aware that you did. Cause yanno.. When my colleagues / existing family ask me what I did on the weekend and I reply 'meditated, float tank, consciousness work, mindfulness, dog' etc the conversation DIES. I just don't really talk much to others as this topic kills the conversation. This response KILLS trying, because most of the time. It doesn't work! Same is happening to other people out there like you, they're shuttin up n laying low. But they're still out there, God knows where. Just sort of.. Invisible. There's also- Well. There's different depths to the game Maybe the folks you're meeting at the spiritual groups just aren't as far in as you. I mean I'm not quite sure what you're looking for! But seems like it could be a case of you being like let's go free diving in the ocean, bitchesss. But they're still getting used to wadin around in the kiddie pool There's always gonna be a blob of beginners that have to be filtered through

Damn sir, thems a lotta zeros!

BET! We watchin

Hahaha so true! They make it entertaining at least Together we can all be Shutka champions of self-deception.

Omg nooo I didn't notice! Now it's started a round two for me, you cheeky bugger!! Precisely as it was intended to be used! The cinder block choice makes sense now.

PFF nahhh this has me snickering too hard for some reason, *chef's kiss* magnifique.

@Emerald I have nothing crazy to add, just wanting to say those are some good points! I do see what you're saying and the value more now. Think I just got too lost in the sauce of my personal preference. There can be depth on many levels that I don't presently appreciate.

Are you sure that human beings are shallow? Or is it just that you fail to recognize the depth? Can it be both? I think it can be both. I think the superficial layer humans carry around can be quite shallow. After years of observing humans and talking to them, I feel most are playing a social mimicry. And so was I unconsciously! People seem to organize themselves fairly predictably around social bubbles. From these social bubbles.. they adopt ways of thinking, dressing, making a living, seeing the world. They become stereotypes of each other with some variation. Their bubble imposes limits on them which I know I will pass. It isn't very original. So, I don't get much from socializing with someone on the street for the sake of socializing. I'll pick up on their script and it'll feel like I'm just communicating in clichés and their bubble lingo back to them. Do think there's more depth in underlying the structures behind people though. The ones they're not really aware of. It is more of a puzzle, a mystery. One can think of many questions to ask! Why are people social thinkers? How does thinking change when people are in big groups? How do groups interact and fight with each other? For now, it is still interesting to me. And Leo is right, most aren't consciously aware of eeehh "spiritual things" or have a highly distorted version. Which is a different can of worms. At the end of the day it doesn't matter much. Be interested what you're interested in.

Perfect, no need for fresh ones though. I have cupboards full of my tears stored in tupperware that we can use!

On a more serious note, that's one point you can personally find lots of value in! But it ain't the only game in town spending lots of time with others is not a fit for everyone.

I am become ESTJ, worker of offices, creator of spreadsheets. I kissed God at the office water cooler. And God kissed me back.

Yess Jordan touch that grass, yess Jordan have a fun time! It does actually sound like a grand time. All that time alone, no thoughts head empty, interesting things shall happen. But yes! You can hold both at the same time. It's how I process things.. holding the emotion.. be it anger, sadness, etc. While maintaining awareness. The emotion is there but you're not attached, you're able to observe and release it because it feels more separated from you! Removing distractions can be a great way ramp up your awareness levels. The emotions can more easily grip us in totality when we are busy/doing unconscious things. Hope it all goes well for ya!

Damn it, I've been EXPOSED Need those snacks to cope with how naked and afraid I am right now.