Puer Aeternus

Nah man, you just like categories. You don't seem to be very flexible with them either. Slick edit btw, trying to cover that up lol.

BUT? Will it be BIG enough?! Stay tuned to find out ...

We do hope people recognize the intentions, the structure of the post~ And don't come in and start debating the content of the post instead.

Someone in the shadows right now

Obvious to you. Perfectionism is obvious when you're aware of it, unconscious perfection can run someone's life. Anyone can nod along to it conceptually when explained to them. Doesn't mean they're free from it. So sorry, your response is not needed (no offense😂).

Oh hey a topic about me! Currently working to unfuck this. It's a grand time. Hurling myself into grand uncomfortable situations and absolutely boring work.

Cool list, thanks for updating. But after reading the summary and some of the reviews for the book on autism, it looks completely ridiculous. It definitely struggles with only having an outsider rather than an insider view of the topic. It's true that many of us with ASD/Asperger's have lacking empathy. But this is definitely not always the case and in my experience with these others and myself it can swing very wildly in the opposite direction where one can have TOO MUCH emotion/empathy. The framing seems ridiculous at times in context of this. Folks will think what they want, it's just a warning from me if anyone here is interested in that book to take it with a hefty grain of salt.

Oh shit, actual responses! Ultimately, it's primary focus is subjective sensate experience. Therapies and theories have pointed me to the source, but none of them quite touch on what I actually experience. It's a buncha pointers mishmashed together with my own learnings from working on this level over some years. You won't find some scientific framework to explain this. But there are few ones I've found useful- Polyvagal theory basically is all about safety. You need to feel safe in order to process things in a healthy way, if your nervous system is overloaded you will dissociate automatically and the trauma will hide from you and leave an imprint. I had to learn a routine of safety, build an environment of safety, and establish/cut off people to really feel this. Internal family systems gave me a loose framework for thinking about these different parts inside me. Burdens are parts that hold a trauma and are emotionally loaded with varying amounts of anger/sadness/intense pain, etc. Protectors are a parts category whose behaviors and emotions compensate for burdens, but in less than healthy ways. Can be something like intense anger/judgementalism. Finally, firefighter parts take over when a disaster is out of control and you need to numb the pain. Think of self-destructive habits and addictions. Gives suggestions on how to work with these parts. Although, I don't really use the framework much anyway. I've got my own sloppy way that works. But it was very useful on the beginning. The most interesting I think is Peter Levine's research in Etiology. Very interesting, can't find much of it immediately online. But much of it is detailed in his book In An Unspoken Voice. Worth checking out if you've got it at your local library. It connects fight/flight/freeze response to animal behaviors. Discovered a forgotten mechanism animals use to release stored anxiety that most people don't experience anymore. Tremors. Today I saw it in action. I was out walking and saw a squirrel rush a busy intersection and nearly get run-over. After this near death experience, rather than needing to go get psychoanalyzed I watched it shake silently on the sidewalk for thirty seconds before scampering off on its own way. The book includes animal studies of when this ISN'T allowed to happen and the consequences, connecting them to humans.

Sounds like some you stuff. Do you really know what peoples intentions are? You don't have to be willing to give someone a kidney to give someone well intentioned support, some ideas, or references to get them started. Haha of course he has to do the work, he knows this! But? You didn't even flat out tell him he needs to figure it out for himself. You had to coat it in your cheeky little one liner basically calling him an idiot. Seems like this is the meat and bones of your response. I'm sorry you've had those experiences, there's certainly a lot of people out there like that. It can truly make you jaded asf and expect the worst from people. Would you say that could somewhat apply to you or am I being unfair? At the end of the day, I think of it like a toolbox. Different interactions require different tools. Harsh truth can be like a swinging a battle axe. It's a useful tool but it's not always the right choice. Sometimes using a softer, respectful screwdriver is more well suited lol. That is, if your intention is to help people. Be honest with yourself, were you really trying to help him when you said that? Or was it something else.

Lol, ya. I did a one month dive into some of the more woo studies- For me, astrology was an absolute cheeks predictor of me and my personality. But human design was spooky levels of prophetic for God knows wtf reason. I tried to rationalize it away after awhile, but the true aspects just kept crawling back to me. So there can be value in this weird stuff.

@Natasha Tori Maru Where would you recommend to start learning about MBTI/cognitive functions? Gimmie the sauce!

This one was just- yeah. I couldn't resist. It's valid to point out the pros and cons of capitalism! Certainly, there are some good ones and I'm not trying to take away from the pros you listed! From studying countries, I've seen grounded implementation of capitalism can raise all boats of citizens in a country. China isn't full sending for communism for a reason. It's the most competitive system we have for now. It delivers results. Clearly it's not something that can be easily replaced and if some fuck off progressive just went in trying to change things willy nilly, it would be a disaster. The lens of your analysis basically focuses on the products capitalism has created. It's an important scope and sounds like one you have experience with and can think through easily. There's something to be said about innovation. But uhhh.. what about literally everything else? And is it even that good at innovation? Well, probably depends. Consider how many quality products have been bought out and shittified, new innovations blocked by powerful market leaders, shut out completely because they were too threatening. Look at these companies, look at their moves. The most innovative product is nice to have but isn't always the end goal. You already said what the ultimate goal is. Cause do you SERIOUSLY THINK that the only person fucked by the maximize profit motive.. is the final stakeholder? Not seeing. Anything else? Anything glaring, anything screaming. Lol the people at the top are only super corrupt but that's okay because evil aligns with the greater good most of the time.. and it can be "true". But when it's not, it's one big fat ugly beast. One big mess. So don't start glazing on the pros too much. It's what we've got for now, hopefully humanity can grow into something even better some day.

Why you making that assumption immediately and putting bad intentions on him? You don't know what he was thinking. Maybe he just wants to know what's up? There's understandably a lot of emotionally loaded discussion around Israel/Gaza situation, so I could understand someone wanting to seek clarity through the smokescreen.