Whitney Edwards

Thank you.

Nothing personal. Just a hypothetical question.

Real spiritual people are hard to find. What should the metric be?

Hopefully it's released by January.

More crocodile videos. Ah!

Human body and brain as a combined unit is designed for survival. But conscious living is possible and that's what this work is about. It's about finding a balance between being a human as an animal that he is and being a refined conscious entity capable of much more beyond the animal realm.

There's no emotional value in a harem.

Whatever is your aim, whether it's sex or partnership or marriage, hard work pays off. It's your mindset that matters in the end. The best mindset is to keep trying as much as you can, without worrying too much about the outcome. Detachment from the outcome but focus on training. You should know what you want but you shouldn't be obsessed with it. This doesn't mean that you should not consider outcome at all, it means understanding the outcome without being overly dependent on it. In the end all your hard work pays off one way or another. If you only consider outcome, you lose focus on the process and it becomes less wholesome

Being high value is not easy but being high value is worth it in the end. And it applies to anyone, man or woman. Dating is not easy but dating is worth it in the end, of course. And it applies to anyone, man or woman. The only thing that's not worth it is desperation. It leads nowhere.

True.

@Leo Gura if a man has to be a hungry wolf, then he should know his prey well. Which means a man needs to know what pleases a woman. Women want and need emotional stimulation. There is no sex if that's not happening. It's not like women don't understand sex drive. She only does when she sees a high value man. She wants him deeply. He can easily get her. Because she easily develops feelings for him. She is blind to low value men. That's why being a wolf is not enough. Being a high quality wolf is what's needed. Once you're there, it's easy to stimulate the woman you want. A woman doesn't need to understand sex. She only needs to be attracted to him, mostly in illogical ways. Men are too logical and get lost in logistics. A woman will understand a man once he captures her emotions. Till then she is blind to him.

I can say the same about men. They only care about their sex needs met. See?

Why should a woman understand sex drive? She will want what she wants. That's where her focus lies. A man's worry is not her worry. Is a man worrying about what a woman wants outside of his sex drive needs? If you are selfish, I'm selfish too.

I channel my worry healthily instead of aggression and desperation. What should I do when I worry about getting a high value man? Simple. I should work on myself to match his standards. If I'm worried I'll hit the gym and attain the body and confidence and sex appeal he wants out of me. I will work on my emotions to be a good girlfriend/wife for him. Why can't men do the same then? Work instead of complaining and whining. I don't go around begging a high value man to date me. So you see the difference now?

Difference between what you need versus what you want. What you need is peace of mind. What you want is a big fat burger. The analogy of rabbit-wolf that you're applying to dating can also be applied to junk food. We're all innately hungry for a big piece of chocolate cake. But we should need healthy eating. So we use our conscious mind to pick organic food. All of your work is about high conscious living. Why can't this analogy work for dating then?

A secure man is not a wolf.

Don't have the "guys are wolves, girls are rabbits" mindset. It will build up a lot of aggression. That's not healthy for men mentally and emotionally. Men want to be cared for. That's why they are attracted to women. They want a caring woman. So just relax. Build yourself as a man first. Be proud of who you are. Don't rely heavily on validation of women. Self esteem lesson number 1. Be the man first. Attract the woman next. You will attract her eventually with your effort. But you have to be a healthy partner first. What you will give is what you will get.

But there's so much pressure, aggression and frustration with the "I want a girl" mindset. Instead know that approaching is always good, there is always something to learn one way or another. What's healthy for a guy? The best is to be carefree.

Why are most men so overly focused on the outcome of dating? Why can't they just enjoy the process? Why can't they control this tension? Is it lack of self control/immaturity ? Dating is fun if you had a fun attitude to approaching itself instead of being so aggressively selfish about it. Relax and go with the flow. Learn what you can from the process. Results are not always possible and that's okay too. If you are too result oriented, you will end up with a lot of frustration. Everything has its own place and time. Go approach as much as possible but don't be attached to the outcome. Rejection is fine too, although it hurts.

Desperation in drive versus desperation in vibe. Desperation in drive can make a person want more or aim higher. Desperation in vibe can be a big turn off as it communicates lack of authenticity and confidence.

Your definition of feminine is so shallow (Lmao), I laughed a loud laugh.

Ignoring sexual desires is almost impossible. Yet desires can ruin your life if you let them. The middle ground here is moderation. Also dating is basically Survival with a capital S. It's brutal. In fact it's the most brutal thing in reality. So you'll have to be a bit hardcore about it. Dating is brutal for both men and women. It's not easy to attract someone or be attracted. Now the hardcore part. You have to ask yourself some painful hardcore questions, like— What have you done so far to improve yourself in the dating arena? How have you worked on your body and confidence levels? Whats your experience with approaching and what lessons did you learn? Do you have any female friends? Have you tried building connections with women? What work have you put in improving yourself mentally and physically and emotionally to attract the kind of person you want? These are hardcore questions which needs real work rather than just sitting and desiring an ideal partner and relationship. But people want perfect things in life especially in dating yet they avoid the work part. I hope you get my drift.

I'm myself a south Asian girl who was picked by a western guy who married me and I get to upgrade my life because of that. I don't consider it exploitation. We like each other so don't know why it should be considered exploitation.

It becomes a cycle. More desperation. More rejection. Do you see how you're getting trapped in your own cycle? This is about freeing yourself and seeing the bigger picture. We all want stuff to make yourselves happy. If you free yourself of this desperation, you'll give out a more confident vibe. Confidence is a huge key in attracting women because to women confidence means you're sure about what you want and that in turn means authenticity. So as long as you are desperate it won't communicate authenticity. Can you now connect the dots?

I never said women can't be. Men don't like clingy gfs and I'm well aware of it.