Whitney Edwards

I liked both maps. But I prefer the complex map even more because it focuses on purification and understanding of human character. It's tough to do but worth it.

There are so many videos on YouTube that start with — "best reading books." You could search for those videos.

So is it suffice to say that Coral is just an illusion and therefore pure baloney, a new age cooked up BS?

Carl you should have said how Coral is baloney. Because nobody ever gets it.

Wait. Where's the punctuation? Correct it immediately or you're getting warnings.

Umm. I like serpents. That's why I asked for more.

yea

If your narrative is going to be that most men are interested in women only to a superficial degree, isn't that already deeply offensive to men? I'm sure most men want something more in a woman than looks, as in they want the whole package, of course looks tend to hold priority for men, but they want a great personality and character along with looks. That's the vibe I'm getting from their posts. And even if they're superficially attracted to a woman's looks, it's mostly for casual sex or FWB one night stand kind of hook ups. Men who want a serious gf or a long term partner screen for much more than just looks in women. When you look at men with a reductionist lense, you end up generalizing them.

I think most men on the forum like a woman for more than just her hair, lipstick or handbag. I don't think it's that shallow. This is just my observation. Nowhere I saw them talking about wanting women in a shallow way. I think men on the forum and in general deeply crave feminine energy as it tends to be lacking in their lives when they are weaned of their mother's caring as they grow older. In society we expect men to be super confident and independent at an early age and many men experience isolation and loneliness and a lack of feminine figure in their lives. They want that deeply loving caring nurturing graceful feminine energy.

Thank you so much for this!

This sounded like serpent energy to me. But it's fun. Do you have more of these please?

Yea this reminds me of the dark feminine.

I liked that explanation.

That's an awesome insight.

Again. You are overgeneralizing entire humanity with a few extreme examples from human history. This is classic cherry picking. We have come far far from caveman times and it's because of the good in us. And to top it off, there's no rational empirical study that proves any link between testosterone and rape instinct. You made up a bunch of extreme theories.

That's the point. You focus on character. Because in your mind, you want to know that a woman is able to reciprocate what you give her. You don't want your value snatched from you by a woman who is lacking in character. You find her undeserving of your love which is perfectly understandable. It's because you want to seriously emotionally invest in her and such an investment obviously comes with expectations. If you have some basic expectations out of a woman (that you seriously wish to date) beyond the superficial aspects of just looks, then you should expect the same from the opposite sex too. Women have basic expectations out of men too. Now, if i told you (just hypothetically), that almost all women have a cheating lying instinct in them naturally at birth and their hormones (some unknown female hormone let's say), is causing them to always want to cheat and lie and deceive men they sleep with, it will be a hard truth for you to digest. And not just that. I will also tell you not to look at women with rose tinted glasses. This is a hypothetical situation I'm telling you to imagine. Now you have to not only accept the fact that all women cheat and lie and deceive men but also love these women with all your emotions invested in them. This is naturally quite hard for you to do. It creates a massive dissonance in your mind. You find it to difficult to accept and comprehend that you have to love someone and be committed, attracted and invested in someone that simply doesn't stand up to your character requirements. And your mind will go into denial and you'll tell me "no, all women cannot be that way." I'll tell you "this is the truth. Truth is not pretty. Women have a cheating, lying instinct. Just accept it." You see now. Women have a fundamental requirement of safety and security. We have basic expectations out of the men we wanna date. If you tell me that most men have an inherent rapey instinct in-built in them(due to testosterone or whatever), my mind will not casually accept that because it negates my fundamental instinct and requirement of safety from men. How am I supposed to work around men or love or desire a man with the thought that men don't fundamentally care about my safety or that they're repressing their rape instinct and just be okay with it? It massively clashes with my expectation of reality and creates a deep cognitive dissonance. It's almost like telling a rabbit to love a wolf and at the same time convincing the rabbit that the wolf wants to eat it. Can you spot the cognitive dissonance in this? It will be impossible for the rabbit to love the wolf. You cannot convince me that men have a repressed rape instinct because my fundamental instinct for desiring men is based or rooted in my trust for men. It clashes with my trust so obviously I'll be in denial no matter whether you consider such an instinct to be the true nature of men or not. I hope you got my point.

Maybe I didn't frame my question correctly. (English is not my first language) let me reframe it. Would you date a woman knowing that she persistently cheats on men who date her?

I'm tearing up. Thank you so much. It means a lot.

Nothing personal. I asked out of curiosity but it's been bothering me for a long time.

I hope Leo doesn't spank you lol. Leo be soft please.

I'm not broke but I was thinking of someone who is and who I wanted to help. Anyway thanks a lot for the audio link. Although I don't think it's a good idea to pirate Leo's course. He worked hard for it. I was just looking for some free resources that I could give to a friend. In the future I want to set up an organization that will help broke folks with self development because I can see how underprivileged they can be. I saw my friend struggling with their life and I felt bad that we take so much for granted especially all the self help resources we can pay for out there yet there are others who can't but deserve to, so it was in my mind that I'll set up a foundation in the future to help such folks for free of course, it's a good incentive to help them get back on their feet. This was a novel idea on my mind since the last few days.

Do you love a woman who is cheating on you with some other man? Asking out of curiosity.

Great. May he grant your wishes.

Thank you for sharing this.

What evidence do we have for this? None. I don't think every man on the street feels rapey. Or that if he doesn't express it then he is suppressing it in some way. This could easily be a huge projection. Anomalous projection. History is definitely filled with an astounding amount of examples of brutality on one hand but on the other there are countless brave men who died in war saving their women and children. It's a pity that humans only choose to remember the negative.