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Not fully! Once you are "awakened", you can take any path you want. You might start appreciating the world more deeply, continue doing what you were already doing but with greater awareness, or use that understanding to help others and improve humanity. It's not petty - if everything is ultimately meaningless, then you're free to do whatever brings you the most joy, passion, and fulfillment. And even if you reach a state of enlightenment, that doesn't free you from financial or practical human needs. A lot of people, wanting to stay close to the truth they’ve realized, choose to build a life around it. Not because they’re deluding themselves, but because it genuinely feels like the best path - one that aligns both with their understanding and their basic human needs. TLDR: Wanting to debate and improve human thought can be a completely valid and authentic desire.

Do you mind expanding on this? I understand the logic, but I'd love to hear you explain it more clearly - it sounds interesting! This kind of description actually made me think of a cell and how it infinitely multiplies into smaller versions of itself. I love it - one big cell branching into infinite smaller cells, each one a reflection of the whole, like endless layers of the same infinity.

It’s an ambiguous thing, but you can definitely feel it - especially when you're shifting from one state to another. Like waking up from unconsciousness into consciousness, going from being very alert to drowsy and tired, or from being hyper-aware to feeling dizzy or disoriented. If you’ve ever done psychedelics, you’ve probably felt the shift from your regular baseline into that trance-like, hyper-aware state they can induce. Or think about being totally in the zone while working out, then suddenly feeling more detached or less present. These are all examples of different "states of consciousness." It’s your ability to take in and process everything happening in your current field of awareness and to focus on it. The less of that field you can "take in" - and the less depth with which you can perceive it - the less conscious you are. The more you're able to take in and engage with, the more conscious, “awake,” and alert you feel. Dead → Unconscious → Deep Sleep → Groggy → Semi-Aware → Lightly Awake → Tired → Alert → Focused → Engaged → Aroused → Flow State → Peak Awareness → Transcendental Awareness → Enlightened / Fully Awake / "Alive" / "Real" / "Truthful" / "Radiant"

@Natasha Tori Maru >.<

Precisely because everything feels so "meaningless" - because nothing really seems to "matter" in any ultimate sense - the best thing you can do is just enjoy your time here as much as possible. You're a temporary carbon-based lifeform on a floating rock, and there aren’t many other fields that genuinely help you appreciate the moment and the experience of being alive like spirituality does. The only real caution with spiritual work is getting too deep into it before your material life is in order. Like it or not, we still have to deal with money, health, safety, and all the basics. So I usually suggest people get that stuff sorted first, because no amount of psychedelics, meditation, obscure yoga practices, or breathwork will make your rent magically disappear. But once you’ve got the essentials handled - or at least have a plan and are working on it - adding spirituality and self-development is incredibly powerful. It's one of the few paths that actually aims to deepen your awareness and increase your ability to find beauty in simple things, instead of chasing material wealth, luxury, or the scarcity mindset that dominates modern life. Think about how it feels when someone you love dies. Losing a loved one can feel like a small preview of death itself. In those moments, what do you wish you had done more of? You probably just wish you had spent more time with them, appreciated them more, really understood and loved them deeply. It’s the same with your life and this earth. You’d probably wish you had found more joy, more love, more happiness. That you had opened up more, understood, and expressed yourself more. That you had seen more of the world, more beauty, in whatever way felt true to you. It might sound wishy-washy on the surface, but if you sit with it, you’ll feel the truth of it yourself. And, don’t just take my word for it - actually contemplate it! Death - or even just contemplating it - can offer a powerful clarity about what truly matters. It gives you a glimpse of how you might feel when your own time comes, and that awareness can guide you toward living more fully and not wasting it. The tricky part - and this applies to almost everyone, myself included - is that even when we know all of this on a conceptual level, actually feeling it is a whole different story. Truly stepping into a state of appreciation and gratitude is hard. It's not just a mindset shift, it's a full shift in consciousness. Like Leo said in his recent post on “Change of States". No matter how much I or anyone else tells you, “Be happy,” or “You could die at any moment, be grateful,” it’s still incredibly hard to feel that truth deeply and consistently. That’s exactly why spirituality exists. It’s a field that recognized this problem - that we live in different states and gradients of consciousness - and it began to study it almost like a form of science. It asks: What actually works? What techniques genuinely help people live in a more elevated, present, and appreciative state? Just like studying business, sales, or finance can help you solve money problems, studying spirituality can help you solve existential ones - the numbness, the emptiness, the disconnection from life. It helps you feel more, see more, and appreciate more. That, to me, is deeply meaningful - and absolutely worth the time and effort!

Happiness and Enjoyment of your Life! Spiritual work, psychedelics, meditation retreats - all enhance your ability to appreciate the beauty of your experience more and more. That’s really it! What else could it be? The more you understand reality, the more you can navigate it, absorb it, and use it to enrich your life and your limited time here. Whether you choose to use that understanding to help others, to enjoy yourself, to be playful and happy, or all of the above – that’s entirely up to you! Purifying your mental state, gaining clarity, self-love, and confidence. Honestly, it’s a beautiful path – one of the most humane and fulfilling fields there is!

Happy Birthday!

The Ego thinks it is Love. The Dog thinks it is God!

@Princess Arabia B=B!

Looks and beauty are obviously important, but if someone wants a genuine, long-lasting connection, it’s silly to make them a dealbreaker - unless you're counting on aesthetic medicine advancing drastically in the next 20 years so we can all look like youthful chickens with surgery. There has to be something "deeper" that keeps you both together, even as you wrinkle into dust.

@Leo Gura Do you ever plan on having a long-term partner? What happens as they age? (This isn't an attack/trap question promise, just genuine curiosity - thank you!)

@Carbon Aww, super glad it helped you! This made me smile a lot <3 I wish you the best of luck, and if you ever need help answering the questions or reflecting on them deeper, feel free to write here or DM me for support! Sorry about that. Yeah, self-esteem and confidence are probably the next areas to focus on, to be honest. If you can, investing in some sort of coaching or just putting yourself out there conversationally - or in whatever area you feel "unworthy" - is the best approach. Confidence is just massive experience. The more experience you gain in the areas where you feel insecure, the more competent you'll become, and the more self-esteem you'll rebuild. I'm sure if I asked you about your startup and had you explain it to a newbie, you'd feel plenty of assurance and confidence. To be honest, even outside of relationships, this is probably one of the most invaluable skills you can invest in. Massive opportunities open up for people just by developing more self-belief. You’re clearly a highly skilled and intelligent person - there’s no reason this has to be a lifelong struggle - I have high hopes for you, Carbon :) Good Luck!

Hey, amazing! Congratulations! In terms of money, no one inherently "deserves" it more or less. If you look around, you'll see that a lot of resources don’t necessarily go to the most intelligent, kind, or conscious people, but rather to those who have the resources, network, grit, and perseverance to chase it. While this isn’t always the case, many people acquire wealth this way. From your perspective, you didn’t scheme, cheat, or scam - you provided something of value to society. That money is 100% deserved. In fact, there’s no one better to have it because now you’re in the best position to use it however you want and truly reflect on what will make you most fulfilled and happiest. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking, "Money won’t make things better" - of course, it will. With money, you have SO many more options: the ability to create the changes you want to see in the world, help your loved ones, push human development and research, go to therapy, and heal the parts of yourself that struggle with self-love and relationships, etc. I think this is the perfect time to reflect and ask yourself: What do you really want out of life? How much money do you need to achieve it? Looking back, what made you the happiest? What change do you wish to see in the world? What business, product, content, or creation do you want to bring into existence? What makes you enjoy your days and love your life? What inspires you? What would you need to buy or acquire to create your ideal environment? What kind of space or setting makes you feel the most inspired and at peace? What does your perfect day look like from morning to night? Who are the people you are actively engaging with daily? Who do you have around you that brings you joy, growth, and fulfillment? If you don't, where would you need to be to find such people? What kind of conversations do you want to be having regularly? What activities or work make you lose track of time? What hobbies or passions do you want to explore more deeply? How do you want to feel every day when you wake up? What kind of physical and mental routines would make you feel your best? Where do you want to spend most of your time - city, nature, by the water, in a cozy home? How much structure vs. spontaneity do you want in your days? What habits or distractions do you want to remove from your life? What experiences or adventures do you want to prioritize in your life? What is missing right now that, if added, would bring you more happiness and fulfillment? Money is an amazing tool because it gives you the freedom to pursue so much more. Not having to stress about bills or financial struggles is huge. Many people live their whole lives and die before ever having the opportunity to truly think about what they want to do in this world. Don’t feel anxious - this is an incredible moment! Your life will only get better from here. Also, what happened with your relationship, if I may ask? Is there a chance for reconciliation? If you have more time now to invest in relationships and less work stress, you could have a meaningful conversation with her about why things ended and show a real commitment to fixing things. If she was a good partner and you’re serious about making it work, I see a lot of potential there. That said, even if this relationship doesn’t work out, dating with financial stability is so much better than dating without it. In any case, it will help you find and filter out the right people - those you truly resonate with and want to spend your time with. Good luck, and once again - congratulations on your financial freedom!

Hugs to you! Best of Luck, @Daniel Balan <3 I believe in you. 💓💗💛💚💙💜

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@OBEler Nope, God is Everything!

@Leo Gura Do you think you would have continued using psychedelics if there were no health issues? Do you believe psychedelics contributed to your health problems, and if so, in what way? I think an episode or even a short blog post reflecting on your personal examples of harm could be valuable for anyone getting into this space. It could also include insights on when you feel you should have stopped or taken a more cautious approach. Thank you so much, Leo! <3 Also, what are the updates on conversations with Destiny or Peter Boghossian? Cheers

I think the reason there was some "outrage" is because of how you worded it. It didn't really come across as, "I feel like I found a really good partner to build my life with. I like who she is, what she stands for, and I think we'd be great long-term because we balance each other out." Instead, it sounded more like you just want to get married to feel soothed, less lonely, and less tired. That said, to answer your question - it's best to think of this as a long-term partnership, almost like a business partnership, rather than just a relationship. Ask yourself: Where are you two heading? Do you have a shared vision for the future? Do you truly understand what she needs from you and what you need from her? Can you both provide those needs for each other consistently? In a manner that doesn't exhaust either of you? Are you comfortable sharing expenses, bank accounts, structuring your life together, and making financial decisions as a team? Can you envision having children with her if that's something you want? Does she want kids? Are you aligned on parenting values and responsibilities? If she got sick or lost her looks, would you stand by her, support her, and help her through it - or would you feel tempted to cheat? Can you see yourself still feeling attraction and love for her as you both age? What would make either of you cheat, and how can you safeguard against that? How do you both handle conflict? Do you communicate well and resolve issues in a healthy way? What are her core values, and do they align with yours? Do you respect her worldview, decision-making, and approach to life? Have you discussed how you will set up your household - division of labor, roles, expectations, and responsibilities? Are you both willing to adapt, accommodate, and work through challenges as a team? Have an open, deep discussion with her about both of your life goals, how you want to build your future together, and what you both need to maintain love and commitment over the years. If most things align well and you're both willing to put in the effort, then marriage makes sense. If not, don't rush into it. This is one of the biggest decisions of your life - take the time to truly think it through. Otherwise, divorce can be a very painful experience. Good luck!

It implies Everything because it is Everything! 😊

You can watch those 1vs25+ Jubilee politics debates and just notice - who are the people that seem the smartest to you? The most composed and genuine? With most people, you'll see their arguments crash and burn so fast that they immediately start attacking the other party, getting upset, or resorting to some insane personal anecdote with no real evidence. "You are attacking me because I am black! Stop that!" "You just wanna fight - you think I'm stupid because I'm a woman, don't you?" "Wow... solid point, bro - but you have crooked teeth and a lisp, so I don't wanna listen to you." I'm not even exaggerating - some people genuinely bring up this kind of stuff in arguments. You'll see that most people have zero clue what their values are, why they think what they think, and they just want to conform to some status quo or "trendy" way of thinking. If you don’t take independent thinking seriously, you will end up with something close to that.

@Daniel Balan One of the best tips is to just ask "Why?" after any assumption or judgment you make. The most independent-thinking and clear-minded people - the least easily persuaded and manipulated - can answer an infinite number of "And why is that?" questions. You can keep probing them forever, and their answer will never be, "Oh because this person told me!" or "Because the Bible says it's true!" With most people, though, this won't be the case. If you "probe" enough, they will eventually get overly defensive, emotional, or mad at you. If you can state a value or opinion you hold, and I can ask you 7+ "Why?" questions - Why do you care about this? Why do you think this and not that? Why does it matter to you? - and you can stand firm in your reasoning, it's a good sign you might be solid in your understanding and less easily persuaded. A good way to practice this is to take your father's beliefs and ask yourself: Why is this belief good to have? Why is it bad? Keep asking yourself that until you arrive at the final answer. In the end, most answers will fall into one of three categories: A) I don't know. (This is fine, most people won't even admit this. Not-knowing is a good spot to be in, counter to popular belief.) B) Because someone I think is smart believes it. Then ask: Why do I think this person is smart? Why do I respect their opinion? If your answer is, "Because they seem smart," that's bad. If it's, "Because they are fun, charismatic, or seem to have their life together," This is also bad. If your answer is, "Because they hold values I also think are important," then that's good. See how it loops back to you? "I think these values are important, and this person aligns with them, so I will listen to them." The authority of your mind stays with you, not others. "If I ever stop thinking this is a good value, I will stop listening to them." C) Because I think this is fundamentally right and good. Why? If your answer includes personal experience, direct experience, or logical deduction, this is also good. TL;DR: You don't want to be the person who says, "I believe it because my teacher told me," "I believe it because the Bible says so," "I believe it because my dad says so and he's cool," or "I believe it because a bald guy on a podcast says it, and he has money, women, and status, so I respect that." There are still plenty of slippery slopes you could fall into, but this is a good start. Make sure you can go down a chain of several "Why?" questions without contradicting yourself, without referencing someone else's value system, and without getting upset or using broken logic. If you can do that, you're already in a better place than before. If you keep this mindset throughout your life, you'll be much less likely to be scammed or easily persuaded.💛

It can! However, ultimately, you need to decide what "proof" is good enough for you. If I tell you, Hey! Pluto exists, look at it through the telescope, and if you refuse to look, then you will never get your proof. Maybe you're such an overly skeptical person that you'd think I photoshopped images of Pluto or stamped some fake projection onto the telescope. In that case, you'd need to physically invest in becoming an astronaut - training, getting the money, waiting for your turn to be flown out to space - and only then could you finally prove it to yourself. That would take years of investment, effort, and cash. So, if you're seriously looking to prove something that is so radically reality-shifting, then you need to invest the appropriate time - doing the contemplation work, deconstructing your values, narratives, and opinions about what you think the world is, and engaging in lots and lots of psychedelics, meditation, yoga, breathing techniques, or whatever you can get yourself into. (Even Leo himself recommends a solid 250+ breakthrough-dose trips of 5-MeO-DMT, which is quite a hefty amount.) Good luck!

Also, please be careful not to trap yourself in a victim mentality. Thinking: "Because I grew up like this, I’ll never be able to think clearly and properly." There are people who grew up in sheer poverty, alcoholism, and drug addiction yet transformed themselves into completely unrecognizable versions of who they once were. There are many scientists who grew up in strictly religious households yet became atheists. Your upbringing doesn’t have to define you forever - it influences you, but now that you’re conscious of it, you have a choice. Please do your best to remove yourself from victimhood. The best way to do this is by taking full ownership of your values, your mind, and the influences you allow into your thinking, as well as taking responsibility for your decisions. You have no idea how dangerous this sentence actually is. Careful! <3 Who says you need to follow rednecks? No one. You don’t have to have an ounce of similarity to anyone in your life - absolutely no one. If it helps, you can use this thread/forum for journaling and contemplation on what values resonate the most with you and why. I can go over it and help. But even then, you'd STILL have to ask yourself - Why trust me and not someone else? See how it always loops back to your mind? Hehe.

@Daniel Balan I'm really happy it helped you so much - that brightened my day! Hehe <3 Hmm... if someone has been cheated on or fooled before, does that mean they should never try to find a genuine connection again? Probably not. You keep seeking love and connection, just with a stronger, more intelligent, and more cautious perspective. The same applies to you and your problem of seeking truth and building a moral system that you are truly proud of and certain about. Interesting, but why? And also, why do you want to align with Leo's views so much? If your father is a hardcore Trump/MAGA fan and Leo holds the complete opposite views, that suggests you have some deep searching and value rethinking ahead of you. If a person is easily swayed in one direction and then another, it suggests they haven't thoroughly evaluated what they truly stand for and why. If I can simply charm you into believing something, it’s not about what I’m saying but how I’m saying it. This indicates a tendency to be drawn to charisma and entertainment rather than prioritizing truth, correctness, alignment with values, and integrity. (But don’t worry - this is completely normal. Most people are naturally like this. You often need to experience being fooled and charmed before you start caring about it, tbh.) If anything, having those core memories and experiences of being fooled is actually a good thing because now you know to think twice before easily adopting a charismatic person's perspective. Take it as a blessing. I had a personal experience of being fooled, which is why it became crucial for me to develop independent thinking. As you heard in that Manipulation, Cheated, Exploited episode, Leo also had plenty of experiences himself, so it's nothing unusual. You first need to start grounding yourself in your own values and thinking. If you’re naturally easily persuaded, it's almost like living on autopilot - you have to slowly develop a taste for filtering opinions through your own lens. This feels like asking yourself: There are plenty of people who responded to you on this forum. Why did you like my response? What was it about it? What made my response helpful or enjoyable for you? What could I have said that would have made you hate it, discard it, or not respect it? Depending on your answers, you can start seeing what you subconsciously believe is right. If you say, "It seemed very genuine, and you have an interest in helping me," that might indicate, that I value genuineness and helpfulness. Okay, so what does that actually look and feel like? How do you ensure someone genuinely has those intentions? Why did you like Leo’s content? Why do you think Leo is more correct than your dad? Why not support Trump? Why not turn into a redneck like the people at your work? Why not fully embody everything Andrew Tate says? What’s so bad about that? Maybe Leo is idiotic and delusional - why should I trust him? You need to answer these questions honestly for yourself. The key here is for yourself. You have to genuinely question both the people you think are “right” and those you think are “wrong.” Once you truly answer these for yourself, you won’t have to worry about falling into "the charisma trap." No matter how persuasive or captivating someone is, you’ll be able to deconstruct their arguments and ask yourself: Why is this right? Why is this wrong? My guess is you haven’t deeply questioned these perspectives before - you’ve likely just been persuaded by the general emotion or archetype someone represents. This is completely fine because developing this skill isn’t natural - but now that you’re aware of it, you can start improving. As I mentioned, people often follow someone based on their vibe or archetype rather than what they are actually saying. Imagine someone selling you pure garbage - maybe a get-rich-quick scheme. But because they wear a suit, rent a Lamborghini, hire some models, and use fancy vocabulary, people trust them more than a simple guy in casual wear. A good example is how many people voted for Trump over Kamala just because he felt like a competent businessman, even though they never read his policies, investigated his past, or examined his character. The same goes for Andrew Tate - many people supported him because he embodied the “masculine alpha male” archetype without bothering to research his actual business model, how he got rich, or the manipulative tactics he used. Do you think this is true? Why? If Leo disappeared, it’s not like everything you learned from him would vanish overnight. You’ve gained new perspectives - you are not your old self anymore. I encourage you to investigate why you fear this and whether that fear is rational. I promise you. You can never truly escape your own judgment. Even if you only listen to Leo or whoever you find most compelling, you will still filter everything through your subconscious values. Two people can listen to Leo and walk away with completely different perspectives. You can never escape your own filter - you can only refine it, become more aware of it, and retune it over time. You have control here. Just because you were persuaded before doesn’t mean you always will be. Leo was once an atheist, and now he is a hardcore mystic. Do you think he fears reverting back to atheism? No, because he has lived through the direct experiences that led him to his current beliefs. He deconstructed his worldview independently and came to his own conclusions. He can reverse-engineer why he thought the way he did before and why he thinks differently now. This should be your goal too. If you can understand why you were persuaded before and why you believe what you do now, that will tell you a lot. Also, Leo only provides opinions on certain topics - but in life, you will need to make decisions about where to live, who to marry, what career to pursue, and who to trust. You can’t ask Leo to guide you on all of that. Those choices will be influenced by people who may be incredibly charming and capable of misleading you. So yes, gather insights from content creators, media, and the people around you to help make decisions. But ultimately, you will never escape your own filter and judgment. The decision of who to follow, when to follow them, and in what context will always be your choice - not Leo’s, not mine, not anyone else’s. You can never escape yourself. So work on refining your mind, judgment, and values to ensure you don’t regret who you allow to influence you. Take responsibility for your beautiful mind Daniel, and you’ll do great! I believe in you! <3