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Narcissist vs. Codependent (or Independent) Avoidant vs. Anxious NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) vs. BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) Masculine vs. Feminine Dominant vs. Submissive Self vs. Other God vs. Love Individuality vs. Collectivism Control vs. Freedom Logic vs. Emotion Order vs. Chaos Stability vs. Change Power vs. Vulnerability Independence vs. Dependence Assertive vs. Receptive Mind vs. Heart Strength vs. Sensitivity Light vs. Shadow Conformity vs. Rebellion Ego vs. Altruism Autonomy vs. Relationality Expansion vs. Containment Fear vs. Desire Harmony vs. Conflict Creation vs. Destruction Discipline vs. Spontaneity Structured vs. Fluid Intellect vs. Intuition Presence vs. Absence I am the World vs. One with the World Self vs. No Self

The key difference between the narcissistic and borderline ego lies in how they cope with the illusion of self, both exhibiting their own form of psychosis. The borderline's ego is characterized by a lack of firm boundaries, making it fluid and malleable, constantly seeking to merge with external entities, people, and experiences. This desire for connection stems from an inherent fear of abandonment and a fragile sense of self. In its extreme, the borderline ego may experience moments of feeling at one with the universe or even with what they perceive as 'God.' This sensation can be deeply spiritual or overwhelming, as the borderline attempts to dissolve the separations between themselves and others, yearning for a profound unity that fills their internal emptiness. The struggle for identity can lead them to latch onto people, experiences, or ideals that provide a temporary sense of wholeness, but this fusion is often fleeting and unstable. Self Seeking the Other. No Self. Inherent Lack of Love for the Self. In contrast, the narcissistic ego operates on an entirely different mechanism. Where the borderline craves union, the narcissist seeks to control. The narcissistic ego is fortified by a rigid sense of superiority, constantly needing validation and admiration to maintain its inflated self-image. Instead of merging with others, the narcissist tries to break others down, molding them into reflections of himself. This process of "consuming" others is driven by the need to turn them into extensions of his own identity, reshaping their thoughts, actions, and even their sense of self to align with his vision. To the narcissist, others exist as tools or mirrors, reflecting back what he wants to see, reinforcing his sense of being the center of the universe—a distorted image of 'God.' Self Seeking the Self. Ego Self. Inherent Lack of Love for the Other. While the borderline ego seeks transcendence through connection, the narcissistic ego seeks to dominate and recreate others in his own image. Both are, in their own ways, grappling with the illusion of self and struggling to find a stable identity. Yet their approaches are starkly opposite: one expands outward, seeking to engulf everything in its path, while the other contracts inward, pulling everything toward itself to build an empire of mirrors. What happens when BPD & NPD meet? This dynamic can be likened to the pairing of "Avoidant" and "Anxious" attachment styles, where both individuals are drawn together, feeding into each other's traumas and worldviews. While the narcissist seeks admiration and strives to mold others into versions that serve his own narrative, the borderline naturally attempts to become the perfect partner for her 'favorite person.' She doesn’t need the narcissist's manipulations because she instinctively adapts to his desires. Initially, this creates an intense attraction, with palpable chemistry between them. The borderline tries to expand her sense of self so much that she can consume the narcissist by becoming him, while the narcissist works to diminish her sense of self, shaping her into his ideal image. Although this is a simplified overview, it illustrates the core tendencies. However, this relationship is often toxic. The narcissist neglects the other's needs, while the borderline loses sight of her own, creating a destructive imbalance. Unless both individuals are self-aware and willing to work through their issues, such relationships tend to end abruptly, explosively, and painfully. This, of course, can happen in any relationship where essential needs are ignored.

What is Identity? Fundamentally, it might be plausible to say all of us originate from a state of indefinite potential, at least in terms of consciousness. Over time, as we interact with the world, we begin to develop biases—either for survival or because certain things resonate with our natural talents, essence, or being. This process is somewhat similar to how AI learns about its environment, starting from pure noise or chaos and gradually refining itself through binary splits. Each new decision further defines its path, creating a gradient of choices that shape what it will do, choose, and ultimately become. With AI, it's relatively straightforward to track its goals since it's focused on mimicking and predicting based on data. However, for humans and our identities, it’s much less clear what initially drives us—what sparks that first desire, split, or motivation that makes us lean in one direction and not another. What is our original bias? It seems unique for each person, as we all carry a distinct "fingerprint" within our personas. That's why exploring the fundamental splits in consciousness is so intriguing, as understanding these primal choices may shed light on why we develop in the ways we do. Many people reflect on how they’ve changed over time, often evolving from one feeling or desire to another, shaping their sense of self in ways that become unrecognizable to their past. What was once important may influence who they are now, but it often no longer holds the same meaning or relevance. This is why I find it so fascinating when I see consistency in people that remains unchanged for years, even from childhood. It feels so fundamental, almost like a "core" essence, and I can’t help but wonder how that is formed. What shapes something so enduring? Is it possible for someone to change so completely that nothing of their earliest self is recognizable anymore?

I find these extreme cases of ego psychosis and fragmentation deeply fascinating. I’ve heard that most of us fall somewhere on a spectrum between Narcissistic and Codependent tendencies and that many relationships can be understood through this simple polarity. You can imagine it as a spectrum: on the far left, you have someone who is entirely self-centered and self-serving, while on the far right, there’s a complete people-pleaser, someone who acts like a doormat. Most of us land somewhere in between, and we often seek out partners who balance us out. The further we are from the center, the further our partner will tend to be on the opposite side (not always).

1. Quantum Entanglement: In quantum physics, entangled particles remain connected so that the state of one instantly influences the state of the other, no matter how far apart they are. Reality unfolds in a synchronized way, where things are interconnected across space and time. The particles’ states must be perfectly in sync, or else the entanglement breaks. 2. The Principle of Superposition: Particles can exist in multiple states at once (superposition), but once they are observed, they "collapse" into a single state. Reality appears only when it is synchronized with the observer. Without the observer, the particle exists in all possible states. 3. Harmonic Oscillators: Harmonic oscillators (like a pendulum or a mass on a spring) rely on synchronization with external forces to create predictable motion. If there’s no reference point, like the gravitational pull on a pendulum, the movement would not be observable. Movement requires synchronization with a reference point to even appear. 4. Symmetry Breaking in the Universe: The early universe is believed to have been highly symmetrical, but as it cooled and expanded, symmetry breaking occurred, leading to the formation of matter and the laws of physics as we know them. Reality "unfolds" from an initial state of balance (symmetry) into countless forms and dualities, each governed by different physical forces. 5. The Holographic Principle: This concept suggests that all the information about a volume of space can be thought of as encoded on its boundary. In a sense, the three-dimensional reality we experience may just be a projection of two-dimensional information. Reality could be a reflection of itself, unfolding from a simpler or more fundamental state into what we observe as the physical world. 6. Resonance in Physics: Resonance occurs when a system vibrates at a specific frequency, amplifying the effect of certain forces. For example, when you push a swing in rhythm with its natural frequency, it goes higher. In this way, resonance is an example of how synchronization with external factors can magnify effects or bring something into being.

It seems impossible for reality not to split into infinite dualities. This isn't a decision made by some higher power; it's simply a consequence of having no limitations. Where there is duality, there are infinite dualities, each containing yet more dualities, endlessly. A duality is Reality reflecting upon itself, creating movement. If reality were only observing itself without reflection, there would be no experience. Experience requires movement or vibration. Vibration, in turn, needs a reference. Without a reference point, there can be no movement. This means movement isn't truly real in an absolute sense; it only happens in relation to an observer. Movement and vibration must be synchronized with the observer, or else no movement appears at all. Each relative movement or vibration depends on another, and this chain continues infinitely. In this way, everything is merely an appearance, and it only appears because of synchronization. Anything that isn't synchronized can't appear. Reality, therefore, unfolds infinitely, always reflecting itself. Since infinity has no end, this reflection happens endlessly. If reality is reflecting itself now, it's doing so forever. There is no control or intention behind it, and there is no will at the highest level. Will only exists within form—your will, multiplied infinitely. But ultimately, reality itself has no will, because, in infinity, one thing is indistinguishable from another. Your authority is very limited. It's infinitely limited by the existence of infinite other perspectives. You are absolute in the sense that you are existence itself, but as a form, you're always relative to other forms. Without something external, experience is impossible. You're not creating reality; reality is creating itself by reflecting infinitely, without control—only possibility. What is possible simply is. "Possible" means being in harmony with infinite forms. Nothing can move even a millimeter away from this. So, God is quite powerless—completely powerless because it can't not exist or be limited. At the same time, it has infinite power in terms of creating infinite forms or reflections, but no power over what appears. You can't fly or walk on water. It's impossible because everything must be perfectly synchronized. In this sense, God is just a natural phenomenon. Beautiful . . . ❤ Thank you so much @Breakingthewall

Don't spank "us" hard with a Keisaku, Daddy @Water by the River "We" will behave Good and Ego-less. 🙈💖 "We" promise!

@Breakingthewall Unless you are...? What do you think? Fulfilles the paradox?

Are you there, dear wolf? I am, little lamb. Are you sad? I am. What does it feel like? A long hunt with no kill. How old are we, lamb? Older than those whose footsteps are long vanished. Many years. I remember them all. How long will we be together? Forever more. Never one. Without the other. Never one. Without the other. Have they forgotten us yet, little lamb? All still know us, though they try to forget. Soon we will remind them. All will know us in time. What do all stories have in common, dear wolf? They end. Lamb, tell me a story. There was once a pale man with dark hair who was very lonely. Why was it lonely? All things must meet this man. So they shunned him. Did he chase them all? He took an axe and split himself in two. Right down the middle. So he would always have a friend? So he would always have a friend. I see water. They are called tears. Is this where it feels like to end? I do not know, for this is not our end. Do others come back? Those who do wish they hadn't. All life is temporary. All things great and small... Die. There are so many ways to die. The only true death is to never live. Is it time? We will soon awaken from this pale slumber. We are not dreams. We are the waking. All things linger... In our shadow. Life is ours to end. None can hide. Though many try. Those who run from death stood still in life. They laugh and scream and dance and flee. They race from us only to find us sooner. They know we'll come. Yet they are never prepared. Treasure your final moments. We know your name. We have always known it. All your life has led to this moment. Its heart beats fast now. It knows. Beauty fades. That is why it is beautiful. Tomorrow is a hope. Never a promise. Your time has come. Ready or not. A fine life reaches its conclusion. When you see us... It's too late. No match for us. Few are, dear wolf. I wonder how they see me. Ashes on wool. What sound do they make? Feathers falling on fresh snow. How does hunger feel? Always there. Peacefully they go. Hungry we follow. If it draws breath... It meets us. Go easily. No! Thrash! Flee! Run if you can. Who's next? Everyone. Every life... Ends with us. How one dies shows how one lived. They struggle. Good. This next one will be easy. And if not? More fun. Embracing life means accepting death. Hush now. Rest. Depart in peace. Return to nothing. Time to... End this. Lamb calls. Wolf strikes. And everywhere lamb went. Wolf was sure to follow. And everywhere lamb went. Wolf was sure to follow.

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3 The initial – creation begins. 3 + 3 - (Positive and inverted forces in balance) Duality emerges, and polarities interact. 6 Harmony – the union of opposites forms a stable structure. 9 Completion – the cycle returns to its source, and the circle is closed. - I remember having an insight during one of my trips, where I envisioned the first upward-facing inverted triangle as embodying the masculine principle. This triangle, akin to the male reproductive organ, points skyward, representing attributes such as distinction, definition, and the formation of self-preservation. It embodies qualities of ego, survival, destruction, conquer, and decisive action. In contrast, the second triangle, oriented downwards, symbolizes the feminine aspect. This triangle resonates with the female reproductive organ, representing an opposite polarity to the first triangle. It signifies unity, acceptance, surrender, passivity, and the nurturing qualities that foster relationships. The interplay between these two triangles symbolizes the emergence of the child, representing the unity of opposites. Together, they form a complete circle that reflects a return to the source— to zero, embodying wholeness, divinity, and God.

3 - The Number of Creation and Stability The triangle, the simplest shape in geometry, represents the most stable structure. It symbolizes the balance of forces that allow creation to take place. Mathematically, three points define a plane, which makes 3 the foundation of form and structure. But beyond that, in spiritual and metaphysical contexts, 3 often represents a process: thesis, antithesis, and synthesis; birth, life, and death; past, present, and future. The triangle also symbolizes completeness in many traditions—the Holy Trinity, mind-body-spirit, and in the Hermetic axiom “as above, so below,” where the triangle links different realms. The idea is that there is a reflection or mirroring between different planes of existence - what happens in the higher, spiritual realms is mirrored in the physical world, and vice versa. The triangle often represents this connection because it's a stable structure that can link different levels of reality. 3 represents the emergence of structure from the formless. The number 3 is important because it marks the first moment of structure from formlessness. If we think of 1 as unity (all is one), and 2 as duality (separation of opposites), then 3 introduces the relationship between these opposites. A triangle symbolizes this, as it is the simplest geometric form that can exist in space. The triangle links the two extremes (duality) and creates a framework through which energy or form can flow. 6 - The Number of Harmony and Connection Six is special because it’s the first "perfect" number in mathematics (a number equal to the sum of its divisors). In geometry, the hexagon, formed from six triangles, is seen in natural forms like honeycombs and snowflakes. This recurring pattern reflects nature’s tendency to create efficient, harmonious, and balanced structures. In sacred geometry, the hexagon represents the balance between opposites—masculine and feminine, expansion and contraction. Six also symbolizes cosmic harmony. For example, in Kabbalah, the Tree of Life has six sephirot forming a central structure. Regarding energetic balance, six represents the point where things come together in a harmonious interaction between dualities. This balance between forces reflects an underlying unity in diversity—how opposites integrate to form something greater. The hexagon shows how opposites can be arranged harmoniously around a center, representing equilibrium. The interaction between the opposites is no longer chaotic or divided, but perfectly balanced. Imagine the triangle, a shape associated with creation or dynamic action. When you take two equilateral triangles and invert one of them, aligning them point-to-point, you get a six-pointed star (often known as the Star of David or Merkaba). This shape symbolizes the union of opposites: One triangle represents positive polarity, often associated with the masculine, active principle. The inverted triangle represents negative polarity, associated with the feminine, receptive principle. When these two polarities collide or combine, they form a hexagon at the center of the six-pointed star. This creates a deeper representation of balance and harmony, as both polarities coexist within the same structure. 9 - The Number of Completion and Transcendence Nine often represents the completion of a cycle, whether in numerology, mythology, or geometry. It’s a number linked to higher dimensions of understanding or spiritual awareness. For example, in some mystical traditions, 9 is seen as the last stage before returning to the Source (represented by 0). In geometry, enneagrams (9-sided figures) represent interconnectedness and cycles—everything is connected, yet constantly evolving. In numerology, 9 holds a sacred role as it symbolizes enlightenment, humanitarianism, and the culmination of wisdom. One property of 9 is its mathematical "constancy." When you multiply 9 by any number, the result always reduces back to 9. For example: 9 × 3 = 27 → 2 + 7 = 9 9 × 6 = 54 → 5 + 4 = 9 This seems to reflect an eternal cycle - no matter what happens, things come back to the same state. 9 symbolizes completeness, wholeness, or a return to origin. (Although, to be honest - this also is due to us having a base-10 system and 10 fingers. It's practical.) Thoughts . . . ? 🤔

Too cool, thank you for sharing!

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@Princess Arabia Thank you so much! <3 Helpful stuff!

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Hm, what would the psychology of people like this look like? Does it arise from prolonged exposure to toxic environments, or does the ego undergo a shift when faced with significant power, wealth, and influence? Is it a deep-seated distrust of society, thinking everyone is inherently self-serving or corrupt, leading them to adopt similar behaviors as a form of survival or dominance? Could it be an innate addiction to control and influence over others? A fear of vulnerability, where they see manipulation and exploitation as a necessary means to protect themselves? etc.

Hmmm... I'm not too sure! I feel like with all of these "new" paradigms, they still point to the same thing: the Absolute, Truth, God, etc. Even new levels of consciousness, like Leo's Alien Intelligence, still fall under the same overarching "paradigm", if you could call it like that. They're just so radical that it's important to make a distinction. What I personally find fascinating is when we start deconstructing how reality is imagined even more. I'd be curious to see if someone ever experiments with twisting their hands, eye colors, environment, or other monk-like abilities like levitation, sorcery, healing powers, or paranormal phenomena. I'd love to see how the mind—or even a collective mind or trip experience—can slowly start impacting reality. Hopefully, this will become more mainstream once science shifts towards spirituality and the "nebulous stuff." There's probably so much more we could invent, practically and scientifically, if we studied these phenomena. In the words of The Great Tesla: “The day science begins to study non-physical phenomena, it will make more progress in one decade than in all the previous centuries of its existence.” Here I could see so much potential! 💛😊🔅✨

💞🔅💛😊 ᴜɴᴅᴇʀꜱᴛᴀɴᴅɪɴɢ, ʟᴏᴠᴇ, ꜱᴇʟꜰ-ᴀᴡᴀʀᴇɴᴇꜱꜱ, ᴡᴏʀʟᴅ-ᴀᴡᴀʀᴇɴᴇꜱꜱ, ᴇxᴘᴀɴꜱɪᴏɴ ᴏꜰ ᴄᴏɴꜱᴄɪᴏᴜꜱɴᴇꜱꜱ, ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ, ʜᴜᴍᴀɴ ᴘꜱʏᴄʜᴇ, ɪᴍᴀɢɪɴᴀᴛɪᴏɴ, ʟᴏɢɪᴄ, ɪɴᴛᴇʀᴄᴏɴɴᴇᴄᴛᴇᴅɴᴇꜱꜱ, ᴘᴀʀᴀᴅᴏxɪᴄᴀʟ ᴛʜɪɴᴋɪɴɢ, ᴍᴇᴛᴀ-ᴄᴏɢɴɪᴛɪᴏɴ, ɪɴᴛᴜɪᴛɪᴏɴ, ᴇᴍᴘᴀᴛʜʏ, ᴡɪꜱᴅᴏᴍ, ᴇɴʟɪɢʜᴛᴇɴᴍᴇɴᴛ, ᴘᴇʀꜱᴏɴᴀʟ ɢʀᴏᴡᴛʜ, ᴇᴍᴏᴛɪᴏɴᴀʟ ɪɴᴛᴇʟʟɪɢᴇɴᴄᴇ, ᴍɪɴᴅꜰᴜʟɴᴇꜱꜱ, ᴇᴠᴏʟᴜᴛɪᴏɴ, ᴛʀᴜᴛʜ. 💞🔅💛😊

@Leo Gura Interesting. Do you maybe mind elaborating on this more? I've heard that statement a lot and I'm curious about it. It seems like plenty of guys say they don’t care about feeling special, yet they enjoy being the one leading her, the one she trusts the most to make decisions, and the one she is most influenced by—or at least more than anyone else. They like being the one to "introduce her to the world," to feel manly, have their ego stroked. That their girl respects them and their intelligence more than anyone else. That she is the most "in heat", and hot for her man. Some guys even seem fixated on being the one to take her virginity, showing off that they got a hot girl, which boosts their self-esteem in society. Doesn’t all of this suggest they do care about feeling special in her eyes, or at least "special" in some sort of status/ownership/dominance game? How do you think this differs from the girl's perspective?

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Notice how all of these examples of evil can be reframed as "a force stronger than you, a capable, powerful force." A bully who once inflicted harm might now use that same strength to protect you, turning their power into something helpful and good. Similarly, war, combat, and protection, or even a powerful demon or devil, can be seen through this lens. Often, people associate "doing good" with a soft, nurturing, feminine energy, like a peaceful, hippie vibe. But in reality, doing good can also look harsh and brutal. Good can manifest in powerful, dominant, masculine ways, as well as in softer, more caring feminine forms. I'd say "Evil" can definitely change, whether through life experiences, greater understanding, awareness, or love. Change can happen through both harsher and softer means. Someone who is arrogant and lost might need a harsh wake-up call—being thrown in prison, losing someone important, or having someone bluntly tell them they're selfish and cruel—before they start to realize the harm in their actions. Or, evil can be softened through gentler, loving approaches. You might give someone time to resist, rage, and be distrustful, yet keep offering them love until they finally let their guard down. It’s like how dog and cat trainers handle strays. At first, these animals may act aggressively, but with enough patience and love, they start to relax and transform into happy, affectionate creatures instead of defensive and hostile ones.

Of course! it all depends on how you define "evil." 1. Evil as Destruction: Destruction is an essential component of the "greater good." For instance, when we destroy cancer cells, we commit an act deemed "evil" against those cells to benefit the entire body. The cancer cells have chosen to act independently, disregarding the well-being of the organism. In building animal shelters or hospitals, we might need to demolish old, abandoned houses, which could have beautiful murals or graffiti that someone invested time in creating. However, we do this for the betterment of the health of incoming patients or animals. When it comes to self-improvement, we often need to perform what feels like "evil," acting against our ingrained desires, and built-up habits. A personal trainer or mentor might be viewed as "evil" when pushing their clients to confront uncomfortable truths for their good. 2. Evil as Separation or Division: When you choose to ghost, block, or ignore someone, you inflict emotional pain on them, even if that person wants to be in your life. Yet, if being around them deteriorates your mental state, why should you remain connected? Consider the mental energy they drain from you; that energy could be better spent on people or causes you genuinely care about. By isolating criminals in jails, we are doing something "evil" by stripping them of certain human rights. However, if left free, they could cause much more harm to society. Documentaries about countries without laws illustrate how unappealing that environment can be. 3. Evil as Ignorance or Delusion: A significant amount of evil stems from pure delusion and denial. Our minds are adept at rationalizing our perspectives and justifying our survival instincts. This can lead people to adopt extreme views to protect their social belonging, even if those views harm others. Bullies, for example, might have experienced difficult childhoods, leading them to believe that if everyone is untrustworthy, they might as well be selfish. They justify their actions as "necessary evil" based on their understanding of reality. 4. Evil as Pure Malice: This form of evil is often considered the worst, embodied by those who act purely out of malice. However, even this type of evil serves a purpose; it highlights gaps in our society. We could ask ourselves: Why are we creating these individuals and urges in others? Is it possible we are forcing people into these positions? From a non-duality perspective, evil must exist. Evil can only manifest as the suffering of an innocent. It’s a duality; good and evil, a tale as old as time. However, all dualities collapse in the Absolute. Evil only exists as long as something is attached to being one way or the other. The Absolute truth is that things are purely as they are—there is no binding to anything but the current state. Ultimately, nothing is bound to anything but the present moment. In this state of pure unconditional acceptance and presence, there is no way to be but what you are, there is no suffering, and thus, there is no Evil. To give an example, if someone throws a rock into the water or crushes it or turns it into a ring, the rock doesn’t care; it wouldn’t think, "Evil is being done to me!" It simply accepts whatever state it is in. We, humans, aren’t like that; we have egos and survival mechanisms, and we need a specific set of conditions to live well—not just safely, but happily and meaningfully. We have many attachments and desires about how things should be in our universe. They dictate how we perceive good and evil. That’s fine; there’s nothing inherently wrong with it. It should simply be recognized and understood. The more we realize our selfish needs, the more we can create a better system for everyone to function well. As a result, certain human urges that might be "normal" or "in our nature" still need to be filtered and less accepted. Ideally, we don’t want a society filled with low-functioning, unhealthy individuals. If society can’t effectively provide for everyone, we don’t want people freely lying, stealing, cheating, manipulating, or murdering whenever they desire, as that creates a toxic environment where growth, love, and safety cannot thrive. Cleansing these traits and individuals would be a "necessary evil," but still highly preferable. Evil can really be boiled down to attachment, wanting things to be one way and not any other. It’s about being unable to sacrifice parts of yourself to work with reality or the good. It involves fear and self-preservation, willingly denying the truth and the impact of your actions on reality and others, and filtering actuality for selfish gains. In a world where we are all selfish agents, humans have an innate desire to survive—both physically and mentally, preserving our identity and ego (often even more than our primal survival urges). Thus, evil and corruption are bound to happen; in that sense, evil at times must be fought with a necessary evil. Hence, evil can sometimes appear attractive because having the courage to deny and resist for the greater good can be quite virtuous. I think when people say, "Evil is attractive," they are referring to power, confidence, and the ability to create change and impact. A lot of impact, even if it’s destructive, can seem appealing, as it offers a sense of control. Charming leaders often exude this feeling, which is how many corrupt cults get perpetuated.