the-philogynist

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  2. Posted · Edited by the-philogynist

    1 hour ago, Serotoninluv said:

    Simply not true. There are many many men that want sex and can’t get it. There are online forums filled with men unable to get sex trying to learn skills fir pick up. 

    You are speaking about human sex as if it was dog sex. For humans, it is a lot more than simply sticking an erect penis in and out of a vagina. 

    The best way yo learn is through experience. For example there are skills of oral sex that took me years to learn. These include tongue dexterity, tip of tongue vs flat edge, different pressures, usage of lips, labia or clitoris, motion style, rhythm, consistency vs variation, suction etc. It’s like playing a musical instrument. There have been books written to develop these skills. Yet you need to get in there and practice. 

    I somewhat agree with your OP in that watching porn is NOT a good way to develop sexual skills. I would consider it counter-productive. 

    Let me ask you something: tongue dexterity, tip of tongue vs flat edge, different pressures, usage of lips, labia or clitoris, motion style, rhythm, consistency vs variation, suction etc., do you have to go to a training school to known how to do those?

    It doesn't matter if it's additional minute movements, penis in vagina is basically sex.

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    41 minutes ago, Consilience said:

    I already have. Since you’re a virgin that probably explains your beliefs on the matter. I dont say this to be mean, just as friendly constructive feedback.

    As you gain experience with sex, you’ll understand how sex is in fact a skill. There’s a lot more that goes into good sex than humping. But if you view sex as completely mechanical, it’ll more than likely limit your sexual abilities in the future. 

    Anyways I agree... porn feels pointless other than to remove energy from the body and mind. It actually feels harmful sometimes. 

    Those where not skills

    And I would tell you, being a virgin doesn't have much to do with it.

     

    I'll give the analogy of:

    I consider myself sexually knowledgeable.

    It's like a person that always got an A+ on their training but hasn't actually gone to the field yet.

     

    A virgin knows how to and about sex by natural default, because the truth is sex is not really what we do, it's actually what we already are.

     

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    6 minutes ago, Shin said:

    It is about thinking you would be happier with someone else, which is the same with chasing money, success.

    You seek happiness basically, and you will never find it, because that search never stops.

    So you're saying the what masturbation is really about is fantasizing about having another woman?

    If that's true then I call it greed.

    But we have to learn the grass in not greener on the other side.

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    15 minutes ago, Consilience said:

    ? alright buddy. Feel free to believe that. When you try to eat a woman out and get confused why just “licking” isnt enough, dont say we didnt warn ya. 

    That's an insult to my intelligence.

    How is the world is I'm going to get confused buy just licking something?

    Those minute moments you're keep talking about are not skills. Why do you think that?

  7. Posted

    25 minutes ago, Shin said:

    You need to masturbate because you're addicted to it.

    You would still be addicted with a wife.

    The only difference would be that you would use your wife vagina instead of tissues to satisfy your insatiable addiction.

    There is zero need to masturbate if you live your life with passion and aren't addicted to the rush of dopamine from porn and ejaculation ?

    That doesn't make any sense.

    If a person is still so called addicted to masturbating even though that person has a girlfriend or wife, then I ask what is it all about?

    Is it about the pleasure?

    Is it about the orgasm?

    Both of those we can get with an actual woman in front us.

  8. Posted · Edited by the-philogynist

    18 minutes ago, Consilience said:

    There are techniques you can practice with sex and get better at. For example, giving oral to a woman, or a woman riding a man - there’s a skill, a finesse, a rhythm to these sexual acts that can improve over time. And after you’ve been with different partners with varying skills, you can observe the difference. Even staying with one partner, you can improve your ability to give pleasure based on feedback and thus, improve your skill. You can also get better at tuning into non-verbal cues as to what your partner enjoys. It’s an intuitive skill you can develop, being able to read what your partner enjoys in the moment without them actually having to use normal language. There are a lot of details to sex you can improve upon. This has been my experience anyways. 

    Those are not skills. 

    What does it actually take for her to put something in her mouth and just suck?

    What does it take for her to just hop on something and just move up and down?

    Yes, there are minute moments she can do within though acts but they're definitely not skills.

    Like I said you don't to go to school or have training to simply have sex.

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    8 minutes ago, Serotoninluv said:

    Incels are involuntarily celibate (in part because they lack skills). And if you’ve never had lame sex, good for you.

    A solo porn session with great imagination is much better than a lame one night stand without any substance and chemistry, ime. 

    There are different skill levels with sex, just like there are different skill levels of athletes. 

    There's no such thing as involuntary celibacy, you ether choose to be celibate or not.

    Name some of the skills of sex.

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    5 minutes ago, Shin said:

    If I'm productive, I don't even think about sex for days, weeks even.

    The amount of energy you get is ridiculous at first, then you adapt, but you clearly can feel the difference if you fap again.

    Curing this addiction that is considered normal (fapping), was the second best thing I ever did ?

    4 minutes ago, Shin said:

     

    Do you have a girlfriend or wife?

    Yes, we wouldn't need to masturbate if we had a spouse of our own.

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    15 minutes ago, TrynaBeTurquoise said:

    Its like the junk-food for your sexuality. Instant gratification, extremely accessible (like cheap, widespread fast food), hits your feel good receptors for a quick spike but then crash later (like processed sugar) doesn't have the essential nutrients you need (love, connection from real sex) so it depletes your energy and deteriorates your health. 

    Take the slow, steady long term gratification instead. That being said its not evil or bad, and doing it in moderation isn't going to kill you, you just have to peg it for what it is. 

    Well nothing is better than having an actual woman in front of you.

    People have casual sex all the time and there are no love, connection in that.

  17. Posted

    First I just want to start off with, I am an 36 yo virgin and I'm not anti porn nor am I pro porn.

     

    Sometimes I wonder what is really the point of porn? I mean all you're doing is watching adults have sex but that'll cause frustration because you're not having sex yourself.

    Sometimes we just have to ask ourselves what's the point of watching somebody else have sex when when the viewer is not having sex themselves?