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Depends on what fulfills you personally. A sugary orange colored artificially flavored drink or a banana smoothie. Your choice.

Speaking of ancient living. A video from the 1800s. Mind blowing.

Godly godly godly. Licks my soup bowl clean. I can't survive in the wild even with the best tools. I need my gym.

@samijiben yes my jujubee. That's a very very tough question. I'll pass. I rather not give handshakes. I get the heebie-jeebies

They live without all these and they seem to be doing quite well. But I get your point. Without your pleasures, you couldn't go without a day. Anyway good video. I had a major paradigm shift just watching it.

Wow, that's nice. Then you are perfect for them. You should just try it for a weekend perhaps.

@samijiben the real problem at heart is that you can live among them as a guest and have a pleasurable experience too but you can't live like them because you simply can't hunt like them. It's a skill to be a hunter fatherer too. You have unfortunately lost this skill through years of enmeshing with modern slavery. But I say, get on with them, while the opportunity lasts.

Ahh!! Survival at its finest. We die paying taxes though, you made a great point.

If I may ask, why only a weekend? if you like it so much there with your distinguished divine enlightened hosts, you should probably prefer to spend your entire life with them, they would welcome you graciously with open arms as their delightful subject. You should honestly live among them and post your reports right from there. It would make an interesting case study.

It's just brute pure survival gripe. Ancient survival too. But where's the scope for invention. What if they get rabies? Would they have access to a vaccine or what if there's kidney failure? Would they invent transplant machines? You're looking at this from a purely theoretical perspective of just flat survival in the bush. But you aren't trying to think survival beyond that level. Their survival is basically as close as you can get to pure Darwinian survival, just natural selection, people who can't make the cut would be left to just slip through the cracks. Would you be delighted to live among them?

I agree quite strongly. It hasn't been outgrown and I don't see why there is a need for it to be outgrown in the first place. Outgrowing it or even bashing the pressure men need seems like a direct suppression of masculinity, like rendheaven said men would need an outlet for healthy masculinity to evolve as it directly correlates with their self esteem too —maybe the feeling of being a man and not a boy is something that a male needs to distinguish internally to have healthy emotional self esteem.

You're probably looking for quicker ejaculations. Heightened sensitivity -=> heightened pleasure right. These thoughts can be highly stimulating, but in a way that rapidly builds tension rather than sustained, relaxed pleasure.The focus shifts back to you and your perceived power, creating a self-referential loop that can heighten sensitivity and lead to quicker ejaculation. You're no longer fully present with your partner but are instead engaging in an internal narrative that can be self-sabotaging to sustained pleasure. Look into what gives you pleasure but also see the downsides of it. You won't like it that much long term or you'll get too used to it. You're kinda building violent intimacy with her. Just do it moderately as long as your partner is comfortable playing out your fantasy with you. Don't judge it morally though, it's just sex and you should find yourself vulnerable doing it, not judging it as right or wrong.

Definitely Oogabooga here... It's fine whatever thoughts you have lol. Play out your fantasies with your partner. That's what intimacy is all aboit. Hojo raised a good point. Why is cumming a punishment? You probably have some unresolved stuff going on that you consider certain thoughts as dark. You are just getting guilty pleasure. Bring that spark back into it. Have you been having sex a lot? It sounds like you've stumbled upon a powerful connection between your mindset during sex and your physical experience of it. Is it "God" or Your Body's Wisdom? You framed it as "God rewarding good behavior." it's more about how your mindset directly influences your physiology. Your body is incredibly responsive to your thoughts and emotions. When your thoughts are aligned with a giving, connected, and respectful approach, your body responds with greater control and endurance. When your thoughts are driven by less positive, more egocentric impulses, your body reacts with a different, often less controlled, physical response. This isn't necessarily a moral judgment from a higher power, but rather your own internal system providing feedback. It's demonstrating that a mindset of respect and focus on mutual pleasure creates an experience that is more satisfying and sustainable for you physically, while a mindset of dominance or objectification creates an experience that is less so. It's a powerful lesson in how our internal world shapes our most intimate experiences. Deep topic indeed. I'll be looking more into this as I myself struggle a lot with dominance submission thoughts too.

You have to take loyalty into account. In friendships there's no loyalty. But a relationship is iike a contract, you are allowed to be legally loyal to your partner or it could be grounds for divorce. This has been in built as a social structure since centuries. Nothing oogabooga about this. All relationships, even the "normal" ones, involve power dynamics, projections, triggers, and the negotiation of individual needs versus collective well-being. The difference lies in how these are managed and whether they lead to growth or destruction. The "deep mechanisms" you saod, the search for security, connection, development, and even the "oogabooga", are present across the spectrum of human relationships, but their manifestation and outcomes vary wildly based on individual health, communication skills, and the presence of pathology. It seems we crave these relationships because they uniquely satisfy a confluence of our most fundamental human needs, for security, belonging, intimacy, and personal evolution, all within a framework that often aligns with societal expectations and biological imperatives.What aspects of this resonate most with your "yellow perspective," or what further questions does this spark for you?

This is like asking why we need wifi. Really good points on the strength of relationships. One of the most profound mechanisms at play is the craving for emotional security and co-regulation. In a healthy long-term partnership, people often find a sense of safety and predictability. When one partner is stressed or upset, the other can provide comfort and help regulate their emotions. This creates a feedback loop of support that reduces anxiety and fosters a sense of well-being. It's about having a safe harbor in a sometimes turbulent world. As children we need parents, as adults we need partners. Partners are definitely a lot more than just friends. Friends can never ever give you that intimacy you're looking for. Humans also seek to create shared meaning and a shared life trajectory. A long-term partnership allows for the building of a joint future, shared experiences, traditions, and a common narrative. This collective identity can provide a profound sense of purpose and belonging that goes beyond individual aspirations. It's about building a life together, which can feel more robust and meaningful than building one alone. From an attachment theory perspective, early childhood experiences with caregivers shape our "attachment styles" (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized). We often unconsciously seek out partners who help us replay, and hopefully, resolve, early attachment patterns. For those with secure attachment, partnerships offer a space for continued secure connection. For others, a healthy long-term partnership can actually provide a corrective emotional experience, helping to build a more secure attachment style over time. It highly depends what you are seeking in a relationship.

Some of my musings (from one note) This is your time. The knight has arrived in full armor. You are a living, breathing, human being that deserves to connect with how the air feels right now, warm or cool, how the scents filter in through the window or how the steam rises in swirls from a mug of tea. Breathe in now and grant yourself this time to integrate your experiences from the day into your growing body of wisdom. Stanford Professor BJ Fogg writes, "In order to design successful habits and change your behaviors, you should do three things: Stop judging yourself Take your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviors Embrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forward." Now that the day is behind you, take a deep breath and think back to anything that felt even a little bit like a mistake today. Breathe in and see if you can let the judgement go. Rest with it a while. Let your body relax as you welcome kindness into your bones. Notice compassion sinking in where tension used to be. The musician Patti Smith wrote, "The transformation of the heart is a wondrous thing, no matter how you land there." What if you brought curiosity to anything that didn't go your way. What is the real message you have for yourself? What is the feeling that still lingers? Is it a residue of frustration? Shame? Anger? Embarrassment? Ego? If so, speak to that part of you with kindness. Ask what it would do differently? You are always the victor if you are learning. If solutions emerge, just break them down into their tiniest pieces. There's nothing you need to do right now but rest. Breathe deeply. Notice, it is not only your habits that are changing. You are developing the habit to look straight into the heart of difficulty and use it to move forward. These are the treasures you are discovering along your fabulous path.

Note 1 (from my OneNote) Think back to the last time you felt frustrated with yourself. Was there a voice of negative self talk you heard inside your own head? There is a secret in that voice, and it is time that secret is revealed. Martin Luther King once wrote, "There can be no deep disappointment where there is not deep love." If you feel down on yourself, might that just mean: you believe in yourself? Look at those disappointments of yours. Bring your frustrations out of the shadows. Shine a really bright light on them here in the Fabulous world, where it is safe to get a really good look at them. One is never upset that pets do not speak French. They never could. So there is no frustration to feel. If you knew you weren't capable, you might not feel disappointed at all. But maybe, in truth, we do know what we are made of. We know what we deserve. Maybe the deep disappointment only exists because there is deep love. And belief. And strength that has been hiding. Maybe that frustration is proof that you know you can do it, all those hopes of yours. Now is the time to galvanize that negative energy and befriend it. Mark its good intention, but don't let it run away down an endless spiral. Redirect next time. Remind it of the path you're already on here in this fabulous world. Let that despair feel some relief that you are tending to those hopes. Maybe that's what it wanted all along.

This does seem like a religious post. But anyway, goodluck on your way. Hope you find what you're looking for.

If reality was not structured this way, over time eventually everything would get so corrupt that the universe would turn into a grotesque abomination, a monstrous sphere of unimaginable corruption that would fly apart from incoherence and disorder. The purity of Truth is the mechanism by which all corruption, all evil, is cleansed from the system. How does God cleanse corruption? By annihilating you along with your corruption inside itself. You die and become Nothing. This wipes the slate clean of your bad habits and evil ways, healing you in perfect wholeness. When you die you are reabsorbed into God, into an infinite ocean of Love that annihilates everything, including of course your sense of self. You become annihilation itself. You are the very corruption that needs to be cleansed in order for the Universe to maintain its health. When you die, you become Infinite Truth. From this place of perfect purity you can be reborn as an innocent child, ready to get corrupted all over again. Death is God’s washing machine for dirty minds. Your mind gets dirty enough, God kills you, washes you in Infinite Truth, then throws you back into the game. In this way God’s purity remains Eternal and the fly-wheel can keep turning forever. Nothing ever touches the Source except Nothing itself. This ensures that God remains eternally spotless. Pure Infinite Truth. Endless.

Kindness speaking to myself - saying this. Will you notice that crack in the cement now that the daylight shines upon it. Will you observe the light between the blades of green grass? The next person you see, will you pause to remember you can only see a tiny fraction of their complex existence? It is in that moment that an opportunity exists for kindness.

It still exists. As you travel through the fabulous world, with its huge moons sitting just on top of the horizon, you will come across these moments that offer pause. Seneca wrote, "Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness." Sleep now so that you will be rested for the unknown opportunities that await you.

Kindness speaking to myself - saying this. The night flips a switch. The same places you knew by day, for the next few hours, all exist in shadow. Every tiny crack in the cement you stepped over.. the steps between blades of grass.. they spend equal time in darkness as they do in light. People, too, have a side you can see and a side you cannot. In his book Happy : Why more or less Everything is Absolutely Fine, Derren Brown states, "we are terrible at reading each other's thoughts. Yet we consistently behave as if we have been endowed with this entirely handsome ability." It is a thought he has mulled for some time. Seven years before the book's publication, he wrote, "Each of us is leading a difficult life, and when we meet people we are seeing only a tiny part of the thinnest veneer of their complex, troubled existences. To practice anything other than kindness towards them, to treat them in any way, save generously, is to quietly deny their humanity." As you rest tonight, breathe in and imagine every little thing you saw today as it must look right now. What was once bright is now cast in the dim of this moment. But you know it is there.

I'm still trying to figure out the root of truth. The foundation of truth. Truth is based on something obviously.

Leo made a post about survival and truth etc. It resonates a lot. I really want to go over that post again and again. It made a lot of sense. But unfortunately I couldn't get through it enough because I was limited in my capacity. I want to study it though thoroughly as it made a lot of sense to me. Truth seeking is definitely an endeavor I wish to be invested in long term. But then there are obstacles to it. I think the biggest obstacle is surviving itself. If we are living as meager as we can, how can we handle the truth alongside reality. Maybe some other day I'll reflect back on this same thing. What is the root of truth? And why we don't actively pursue it? For now it's just bread and butter and survival at its best.