Understanding Emotions - Part 1
By Leo Gura - May 4, 2015 | 182 Comments
What emotions are, how they work, and how to control them.
janet says: Wow! Leo love your video! wrote all the stuff down so l will practise this! So much work, just on emotionals but really good one leo! bravo! just love recieving yr videos , re listen to them again and again and practise your stuff too!
emotionals very powerfull stuff !
Thank you Leo and cant wait to see more of you video’s
jimmy yadav 
Thanks Leo. Your easy-to-understand videos about mindfulness and meditation have helped me control some bad habits of mine and really start to think possitive again.
jimmy yadav 
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neil byrne says: hi, I jut realised as I watched this video how bad of shape I am in and how much work I need to do. Do you think listening to heavy metal music is a bad idea because maybe it makes it more hard to be calm and peaceful and maybe because it feeds my anger and depression or do you think it doesn’t make any difference and I can and should keep listening to this type of music?
Elton says: nothing is good or bad , but thinking makes it so , use heavy metal just as a way to relieve your stress by headbanging and enjoy the heavy riffs and forget about it , don’t take the lyrics too seriously or you can stop for some time , listen to instrumental classical music or any other genres and then after few months if you wish then you can come back to heavy metal , but don’t take it too seriously ..
Jonna says: Another Great Video Leo! I’ve literally listened to this video several times a day for two days straight. I watched your Mindfulness video previously and plan on reviewing as all your suggestions and information provided have been well worth my time and effort. Your video’s, with the help of my husband, has been the stepping stone I needed to propel myself to the next level of emotional awareness and personal development.
I sincerely Thank You for sharing your gift of knowledge as you too progress through this life!
Gaman nkmalu says: that’s nice
James says: Great video! After a day practicing i realized that most of the time i don’t even know what i feel exactly even if i pay attention. I wanted to ask if you are planning to cover (at least briefly) the whole range of emotions (i am talking about the 50 items that each list has) or if you can suggest a place that i can read more about that.? Thank you very much and keep up the good work!
asdfasd Elton says: Hey Leo , the reason i was lead into actualized.org was because of rejection from a girl , i have tried the exercise for a week the one in which you change your thoughts , it helped for a while but i just cannot seem to get this girl out of my mind i’m doing meditation for a week now for 20 min daily and i have written down my life purpose and am quite clear about it , i’ve watched all your videos on relationships and dating and am reading books on female psychology too , it seems to me that when i was attending college and interacting with other girls i didn’t think much about her , but now that we have holidays i catch my self always feeling bad because of not having this girl in my life … I want to be free from this emotions even when i’m not doing anything, i’m mindful to these emotions and its cause distress , am i just attracted towards her because she doesn’t need me or is this true love ? after learning attraction i think i’ve become even more needy because i find myself trying to attract many many females anywhere ..
Elton says: and also I’ve gone from being the nice guy ; the people pleaser to being the asshole and I am trying to adopt the concept of not needing anyone or anything to fulfill me all this felt great for sometime but guess what … my friends don’t talk to me the way they used to, I feel so lonely now a days I’ve quit cigarettes , social networking sites , t.v. , and even meeting my friends that i would do daily but now that void feels bigger then ever…
Leo Gura says: You’re trying to solve these issues too superficially. You have to go deeper inside and look for the underlying issues in your psyche, not just act an asshole or act cool or whatever. How you act is just a symptom of what’s going on inside. Externals aren’t really the issue. It’s what’s inside you that’s the issue.
So look deeper and work on that. Realize that attracting girls or friends or money doesn’t solve anything of substance. All your inner issues will basically be the same no matter what you acquire or fail to acquire.
Elton says: so how do I work on my inner issues ?? on trying to interpret the symbols of my dreams ? or to take medicine from a psychiatrist ? or should I keep on asking myself why am I feeling like that ? what is this state of mind that I am experiencing called ? depression ???
Elton says: and i don’t act like an asshole or act cool its just that people who are completely independent of the good or bad opinion of others and love to be confident are called as assholes here…
Elton says: aaaaaaaa meditation and enlightenment …
Leo Gura says: This entire site is about giving you ideas and techniques for doing inner work. Follow the clues.
Thanks says: 1.My family is offended at me for watching PD videos, RSD videos, meditating, paradigms on women. There my family but they keep trying to snag me into tradional beliefs.
2.They think any of my pesstimistic behavors have something to do with taking your advice they keep telling me to stop wating those videos or stop meditating that’s ricdiculous.Why do they object me doing this?
3.i know thse trad. views are b.s yet theres a part of me that wants to beleave the Bullshit.
What would be the best strategy to do right now?
Elton says: 3 that might be resistance your mind is offering because you are changing the way you think from the traditional way to the more logical way 2 they object you because their ego is threatened they think that the values they give you , you should accept them and not others views because the ego tricks them to believe that they are right and you are wrong… The best strategy to do right now is to be independent of the good or bad opinion of others ; and independent of the good and bad option of your mothers and if your not sure then go ahead believe the bullshit the choice is yours .. but you already know its bullshit so why would you want to believe that ?? always be aware about the resistance …
Leo Gura says: Family often objects the most to you changing because they see you in a certain way. If you change, now they have to change to deal with the new you, and they don’t like change. Most people are afraid of change!
Just keep doing what you feel is right. Change isn’t easy.
Wayne says: Awesome work Leo, a question too,
As we are busy introspecting our emotional experiences, journalling, and not allowing the opinions of others deter us. How can one explain (in a nice way) to someone that, their emotional reactions are entirely their own. Some people (spouces, bosses, others) expect a behaviour from us , and exert emotional triggers and cues to get what they want.(kind of manipulation). any ideas ? .. maybe journal those too , ha ha. ?
Elton says: Can i share my experience ? I’m sharing it anyways.. my professor in college yelled at me in-front of many people in a very very insulting way; i would normally get angry or would even cry but since I’ve been working on my emotions i realized the emotion was anger , i let go of the emotion quickly and replied to him in a calm manner and in a moment he was calm too .. and the way you act depends on what goes on inside , so + affirmations and self hypnosis also helps and when situations take place the act becomes automatic, once you are grounded in your values and principles no one can manipulate you because you know what you are and no one can make you feel anything … The greed , the envy , the hatred and the insecurities are the central modes of control !
Elton says: to make someone understand this you have to keep giving them examples of their lives or maybe even yours and make them realize, i would suggest you do this only to really special people in your life because it takes a lot of effort to do so.
johny says: Thank Leo
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johny says: Love this video
Sup says: 1.thers a void in my ego that makes me needy for attention and approval like a homelss guy in the backe of my head going GIVE ME SOMETHING which repulses alot of people especially girls.
2.So do i just meditate it away or mak so many fukups until an established nietch?
3.i broke my phone so how am i gonna do game?