What Is Love?

By Leo Gura - September 24, 2018 | 30 Comments

A deep metaphysical explanation of how love works

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Mayur says:

Waited this for long time.

Stephanie says:

Leo, how do you express unconditional love in your (personal) daily life? Do you feel the longing to express it? I’ve been holding it in for some time now and only recently started to share it with the world. I found it quite liberating to really live it. So I’m just curious hence I’m asking.

Robert says:

At min 79 you speak about real and fake smile, mentioning that you have to practice real smile. No! Only fake smile can be learned and everyone of us have done it once in our early life, then practiced. A genuine smile comes according to our feelings, no exercise is needed.

Meta Alpha says:

Sometimes people get so engrossed in being fake that being real and their own authentic self is what needs to be taught. “Teaching” doesn’t necessarily mean learning something completely new, sometimes it just means remembering something long forgotten.

Robert says:

That’s true! sad but true.

Martin says:

Waiting for “What is Free Will” video

Pfletcha says:

search for it hes already got one about it

Lin says:

I came back after a break. Seriously life changing

Ingrid says:

Dear Leo,
I just started to watch your videos and thank you! I have been victimizing myself for a couple of years (or more?) and although it is hard to realize this I am willing to take actions and imporve myself, be more conscious. My question is: you mention here that love is selflessness too and “love is tolerance of the intolerable’- so I just realized that I loved deeply a toxic narcissist person (and sociopath) and even one week ago I was completely blind to see the mindgames and manipulation and he (luckily) discarded me. I am very angry with myself that I let all this to happen, and my only mantra now is that at least i am capable of loving unconditionally. But loving selflessly should have limits maybe? I have a trauma now where my brain and heart is fighting constantly(love-shouldnt love), back and forth..I hope you get my point (I am not a native speaker- victim-thinking again thank you in advance!

Edmond says:

Do you have evidence for your assumptions? How do you know that the universe is a giant mind? Where do the color codes come from?

Cris says:

Leo, you’ve done an amazing work that has such a great impact on so many people, their souls respond to yours, you’ve created an amazing community. You could have kept it for yourself but here you are instead, sharing it all with us. I keep telling how wonderful this journey has been so far and hope it will keep going on.

I remember you once said you had a deception in love and that brought the motivation in you to start on your self-development. It’s like you’re building a house here so she can find her way back home I don’t know if that’s the case but I’ve just read some books written by John Welwood and he says that your journey’s destination is in your heart, where’s your feminine energy and that only completes in a couple. I hope you two will reunite, I hope your pain, growth, love, and generosity will be rewarded with true fulfillment and happiness. I recommend you his books if you haven’t read them already

All the love and positive vibe to you.

Kelli says:

Hi Leo,

I’m actually finding it difficult to find the words to express how I feel, so I’ll keep it simple, Thank You!!!!

Theodore says:

The girl who got away.I did not love her enough before Takao kissed her first truly
I named her short, flat, childish but she wished we met sooner

Logic Pro X says:

Awareness provides the answer

to all human problems

that actually have a solution

Pets says:

Waste all the time you possibly have to live to take care of your biological children

Father says:

Want a virgin wife

Teach

the woman

you want to marry

how to protect her virginity

when she’s alone

or with

potential random rapists

ALL OF THEM POSSIBLE IN EXISTENCES MUST BE BANNED FOREVER REGARDLESS

REPLACE WITH HEALTHIEST FLAVOURFUL MOUTHWATERING SEASONED VARIED

DIETS

SO DELICIOUS THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW IRREPLACEABLE HEALTHY

FOOD REALLY ALWAYS IS

BAN

EVERY UNHEALTHY EATING PLACE IN EXISTENCES

IF AN AQUARIUS FEMALE LOVES YOU

CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY!

SHE DOES NOT LOVE

JUST ANY MAN!

AQUARIUS FEMALE IS NEVER SUPERFICIAL

SHE IS ALWAYS ATTRACTED TO

INTELLIGENCE

WISDOM

ORIGINALITY

DEEP SENSE OF HUMOR

OPEN MINDEDNESS

EMPATHY

UNPREDICTABILITY

MORE THAN PHYSICAL ATTRACTION

SAGITTARIUS says:

YOU NEVER NEED TO BE

CONVENTIONALLY ATTRACTIVE

PHYSICALLY ATHLETIC

SLENDER

EMOTIONALLY MASCULINE

BOLD

HEALTH CONSCIOUS

POPULAR WITH WOMEN

EVEN SUPERIOR THAN MOST MEN

TO WIN THE LOVE OF A

SAGITTARIUS FEMALE

SAGITTARIUS FEMALES

ALWAYS MORE ATTRACTED

TO EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION

THAN PHYSICAL ATTRACTION

CARE FOR HER

FEELINGS

OPINIONS

FAMILY

FRIENDS

COMMUNITY

WELFARE OF THE WORLD

FLAWS

STRENGTHS

LOYALTY

PAST

PRESENT

FUTURE

MORE THAN ANYTHING

SAGITTARIUS FEMALES

ARE

EMOTIONALLY ATTRACTED

TO A MAN

WHO WILL LOVE HER

CARE FOR EVERYTHING ABOUT HERSELF

AND HER LIFE

UNCONDITIONALLY

MORE

THAN

ANY PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE MEN

WHO NEVER LOVE HER AS MUCH AS

A MAN LIKE

S.C

SAGITTARIUS says:

SAGITTARIUS FEMALE

CAN BE IN LOVE WITH AND KISS

CAPRICORN BOY ON HIS LIPS MAYBE MOUTH EVEN

TAURUS BOY

PISCES BOY

CANCER BOY

VIRGO BOY

SAGITTARIUS FEMALE

CAN

FALL IN LOVE

EASILY

WITH

CAPRICORN

TAURUS

GEMINI

VIRGO

CANCER

IF YOU NEVER WANT A GIRLFRIEND

WHO FALLS IN LOVE

WITH

JUST ANY BOY

NEVER

MARRY

A SAGITTARIUS FEMALE

HER LOVE FOR A BOY

IS ADDICTIVE YET FICKLE

SAGITTARIUS FEMALES

ARE

OFTEN THE

GIRL

IN A LOVE TRIANGLE

BETWEEN

OTHER ZODIAC BOYS

SAGITTARIUS FEMALES

ARE DRAMA QUEENS

IF YOU HATE OVERLY EMOTIONAL GIRLS

NEVER DATE A SAGITTARIUS FEMALE

CANCER says:

CANCER MEN

CAN BE CLOSE FRIENDS WITH

GEMINI,

TAURUS

AQUARIUS

ARIES

SAGITTARIUS.

CANCER MEN

CAN BE BORN WITH GENETICS MAKING HIM

PHYSICALLY

STRONGER

FASTER

MORE ATHLETIC

THAN MOST MEN AT TEENAGE YEARS

CANCER MEN

ARE SOME OF THE FUNNIEST ENVIABLE MEN

OF THE ZODIAC MEN BECAUSE

HIS EMOTIONS HELP HIM DEEPEN THE ILLUSION OF HIS DARK HUMOR EASILY

A CANCER MALE

IS COMPLETELY CAPABLE

OF BEING

A FEMALES

CLOSEST FRIEND

BESIDES A GEMINI MALE

Cancer male says:

WHICH ZODIAC FEMALE WILL LOVE THE UGLIEST MAN IN THE WORLD.

A SAGITTARIUS FEMALE

SAGITTARIUS

DON’T NEED

PHYSICAL ATTRACTION

GEMINI MALE says:

Gemini man

Never falls in love easily

But he does make

Females fall in love

with him easily.

Aquarius female

She is not easily

emotionally attached

to her friends.

But

She can make her friends

easily emotionally attached

to her.

Men

You are really special

if an Aquarius female

actually becomes

emotionally attached

to you for

She never does this often

Not with

just any man!

Aquarius females

are the hardest zodiacs to

attract the romantic affections of

She has the highest standards

of all zodiac women

She will never lower

her standards

for any man.

Aquarius females

Seek a man

who can adapt to her personality

than a man to change herself for.

Aquarius female

usually have

more male friends

than female friends

If you are a jealous possessive man

Never date Aquarius female.

A.

Aquarius females

Are more Objective than subjective

If you want her to be your girlfriend

Care about her long term habits

More than her short term entertainment.

Never control

who an Aquarius female

Keeps as her friends

Aquarius females

value male friends over love

Aquarius females

hate jealous boyfriends

More than inappropriate friends.

Aquarius females

do not care

how better looking

you are than other men

If you are not interested

in caring about

her habits

She will

reject you

harshly.

Cancer male says:

One of the funniest zodiac men

In the whole world

He will make sure

you never forget

his contagious

sense of humor

he’ll make you laugh so hard

you’ll never

be satisfied

with

Appropriate humor

as much

ever again.

Max Gron says:

To love is to avoid killing things, so how does one love their work? By not killing off your beliefs, by doing the same things punching the clock only to do more than physical stance, we’re here only to exist, that doesn’t mean we should preserve the survival of our existence, it means we should pour our hearts out a physical death and spiritual life. So why do people only care about modern times and modern philosophy? Because we’re modern people.

Max Gron says:

As for love of life life’s suspicious, and less so the minute you’re very pessimistic, you would think the dark clouds grow thicker for a pessimist, but they don’t, pessimists love their shit lives more than everyone else.

Max the know better says:

For a pessimist I certainly am optimistic of a bitter life, and optimistic of grey clouds and rain (not to be confused with optimism), people might say it’s crazy, but I’m not just a pessimist, I’m an aesthetic, a liver (a person who lives this life), a connoisseur of music (listening to Mozart) and of tobacco (smoking cigars), simplicity of living, although ostentatious. Love is one step in the grave of good cheer and eating, drinking and being merry, instead of sex, drugs and rock and roll. As for death, I understand, he means the finality of yourself when yourself as the characteristics you hold are gone and dissolved, I experienced such a death, it doesn’t feel good, it feels like I was quelled of life, then I “rose” from the “dead”, and stayed “alive”, when I really am already alive, it’s a simple equation: I hate life, I hate death, and I hate “death”, but if I surrender to this, and stop living a good “life” to “live”, things will be easier, it’s about taking action but it’s about a shift in improving life. In short, I’m not cynical of any of this, what I’m cynical about is when my friends drag me down and discourage this procedure, from the love learned from this. It’s hard and pains for me to do this since my depressed housemate Ken is fiery about this from circumstances. It’s an odd thing to sicken people with your love, and it’s an odd thing to stand overly sentimental content. It’s not some postcard, or to not paraphrase, some amorous letter to your missus what love is, even though there’s sexual love, really called romance, love is Platonic, like the love of your dog. You’re not allowed to kick a dog’s arse if it’s eating your cough lollies, but then again, a dog obstinately eats them and forces you to share them, though dogs as food thieves are bad creatures and deserve to be sent out of the house, can you love the theft? Yes, you have a discipline not to have any theft, it’s not everything absolutely. Everything can threaten your life, but then again how do you heal my wounded heart when I’m driven to drink? Life is a bloody monster!

Max Gron says:

As for the love I was born with, I didn’t love in an affectionate or sappy way and it wasn’t a feeling, I just liked averageness and pasties very much and liked everything else this way, what I’m trying to become is the normal, the average and the love of it, like I was born to do, without being touching or sweet, I didn’t have feelings, in reality I wasn’t born with love, I just liked things very much, I started off insensitive and average, I didn’t want good, even to the point people and my cousin Peter Dunk thought I was an arsehole, but who’s the arsehole? Me being the clown trying to be funny, or that annoying man pulling my hair? It’s Peter fucking Dunk! He’s a fucking arsehole, I’m glad he’s dead.

Max Gron says:

There are exceptions to this hate, some religious people love atheists, they even think atheists have a place in heaven, the same for an atheist loving religious people, particularly their Christian parents, atheists love, it’s just a funny kind of a love, they’re cynical of imaginary things like God, even if that’s a reality for you and me, also, some people love hard people, they get angry and stuff from frustration, when the intention is lacking in love and need to be liked a lot, that’s as high as I’ll go, I like you a lot. You gotta be pissed off at Billy Brown doing stupid things, dressing like a stupid person, blowing all his money to win the horse races and losing his money, on “Buffalo ’66”, he’s an arsehole, it’s terrible and hard to cuddle him. It’s downright funny, it’s a black comedy of dark and macabre things. Am I to enjoy a black comedy? No, but I can like a lot the work put into making the films. If you’re serious about films like me, you’re not serious about making films and watching “the making of” documentaries, you’re just interested in movies, love of a thing isn’t trying to change it, improve it, make progress with it, or watching things related to a movie, it’s watching the movies, period, no bullshit, a no-nonsense approach to appreciating movies, appreciating movies isn’t appreciating studying movies, appreciating making movies, or appreciating movie documentaries, it’s strictly the movies you like, no more, no less, and yes I do sound like an arsehole for saying this, but love is direct, it doesn’t love outside of or related to a thing, that’s not love, love is loving things themselves, within that sphere, without bursting another’s bubble of loving movies. I use movies as an example, but it’s not just movies specifically, if you love science, you don’t want to tweak it, change it or make it better, you just accept science the way it always has been without calling them out on heresy, loving religion is loving religion, not changing it or correcting it, it’s acceptance of it the way it is, if you love me, then you accept me exactly the way I am and not accept me the way you want me to be or ask me to be, that’s not love, if I love my life I don’t want to change, I just want to accept and tolerate it and find it agreeable, pleasant or acceptable and enjoy it very much, that’s what love means!

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