With Leo's video about the next phase of Actualized.org, I am also starting to think about my own next phase of life. The past 10 years (my 20's) have really been focused a lot on personal development and building career skills. The last three years have been focused on developing my intimate relationship, gaining momentum with my freelance business, and buying and renovating a house.  In the next phase I want to further develop my business and make my life purpose out of it and focus more on spiritual work. I also have a desire to raise kids though. Somehow I have the belief that all these things can't be done together. I assume that I could choose two of these three, but not all three, so: career and spiritual development, or career and kids. On the other hand, I could also see that raising kids can be a great way to self-actualize.  My question to those who raised kids is: did it improve your self-actualization, and ability to do spiritual work? Or did it harm it, because you just didn't have the time/energy while raising kids? Thanks!