So you want to be compassionate to people but at the same time you don't want to be fucked over by them. Like if your friend told you that they are in a bad place in life and you're ready to let them live in your house and the next thing you know that in your absence they completely trash your house or or lose important stuff and you're left wondering how much you can put up with and why should you ? I mean compassion is one thing and I always feel very good to help people, it's a nice thing to do. But often I'm left exasperated when the personal cost of helping someone runs high. I feel like I did a mistake. But I couldn't have known beforehand if a person was going to take advantage of me. It's like I really appreciate helping someone when they need me but not wanting to lose something of myself at the same time. I don't know how to maneuver around this in such a way where I know I'm helping the right person. I know I'm not getting fucked over  But I usually learn only when the damage is done.