I'm not talking about romantic attraction Just in a general sense in terms of self actualization.  Ive often made this observation that when you are rude and strict and a bit dickish with people (read Narcissist ) they tend to respect you and value you much more.  Whereas if you were being humble, nice and pleasant, they give you zero value and treat you like shit.  It's almost as if you want to earn the respect of maximum people, you have to be this egotistical egomaniac narcissist and only then you're taken seriously.  Why can't people see that such behaviors are deeply rooted in ego and ego stroking and there is no humility there? Why does humility sell so cheap?