I'm basically stuck and it's taking way too long time now, I'm pretty frustrated. I wanted to reach a time in my life, when I will love or at least like myself, be well organized, disciplined, and overall in check. I said to myself - when I'll reach that point I'll start dating (to not attract in my life cool girls I have to be cool guy first, I figured).  The first trap that I encountered was perfectionism - I wanted to be fucking perfect to then attract perfect woman, logic, right? Wrong, you'll never be perfect. Then I figured - ok, so I have to do it gradually. I will start from dating, let's call them not that pretty and not that smart women and we'll see where it goes. Backward fucking trap - I can't do it, it's like forcing yourself to eat something distasteful, for a lack of better words.  How to find a fucking center? What is the way? Third sentence with a question mark in the end? Please help ? ?