By The Caretaker
in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family,
I had a long (literally a few A4 pages of description, thanks again to my personality type), but I can sum up in a few sentences.
1) So far, I've achieved most of the things that require SOLO routines (enjoyable and good-paying job, decent physique, higher consciousness and intelligence). 2) I struggle very, very much with any social stuff. If making new friends is not that hard per say, dating feels borderline impossible. Fears, anxieties, traumas, what-ifs, and so on. All the worst struggles a ever had surround this topic. 3) I have some relationship experience, but every freaking time it was engaged by the other party, so I don't really have a skill set to reach them on my own. 4) I am not that good-looking, per se, but I have a lot of charisma, intelligence, and humor. 5) I can make a new routine of going out much more often (which I kinda already do), but I never approach anybody. Day game, night game, social circles, what fucking ever. Fear just overwhelms me. Compared to solitary confinement, this is the real torture. Next year I am 30, so this will not get any easier by age. I want to make the maximum of this summer and autumn. Starting by finding a wingman, local or through pick-up websites, might be a solution, but tbh, I kinda got disappointed in other people. I want a method to not rely on anybody, which by itself might be the problem. I want a LOGICAL and SOLO solution to an EMOTIONAL and SOCIAL problem. Which again does not sound much like play. But Jesus fucking Christ, no amount of self-awareness ever helped me with this. I was considering joining a local pick-up/wingman community through Leo's link. It had around 40-50 people in there. Also, the city I live in has around 800k-1m population. The points of interest are rather small, so the concentration of people is high. I just wonder if this number is enough for cold approach or to consider mostly social circles.
1) So far, I've achieved most of the things that require SOLO routines (enjoyable and good-paying job, decent physique, higher consciousness and intelligence). 2) I struggle very, very much with any social stuff. If making new friends is not that hard per say, dating feels borderline impossible. Fears, anxieties, traumas, what-ifs, and so on. All the worst struggles a ever had surround this topic. 3) I have some relationship experience, but every freaking time it was engaged by the other party, so I don't really have a skill set to reach them on my own. 4) I am not that good-looking, per se, but I have a lot of charisma, intelligence, and humor. 5) I can make a new routine of going out much more often (which I kinda already do), but I never approach anybody. Day game, night game, social circles, what fucking ever. Fear just overwhelms me. Compared to solitary confinement, this is the real torture. Next year I am 30, so this will not get any easier by age. I want to make the maximum of this summer and autumn. Starting by finding a wingman, local or through pick-up websites, might be a solution, but tbh, I kinda got disappointed in other people. I want a method to not rely on anybody, which by itself might be the problem. I want a LOGICAL and SOLO solution to an EMOTIONAL and SOCIAL problem. Which again does not sound much like play. But Jesus fucking Christ, no amount of self-awareness ever helped me with this. I was considering joining a local pick-up/wingman community through Leo's link. It had around 40-50 people in there. Also, the city I live in has around 800k-1m population. The points of interest are rather small, so the concentration of people is high. I just wonder if this number is enough for cold approach or to consider mostly social circles.
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