Why People Seem Crazy

By Leo Gura - June 19, 2017 | 16 Comments

A new model for how to make sense of people.

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Joe says:

Your videos would be better if you cut to the chase a bit quicker; if you start with the crux of what we’re going to learn and then give examples and supporting information. A lot of your videos seem like you’re rambling on; telling us how stupid we are. I don’t always want to listen to the whole thing.

me myself I says:

Personally I love Leo’s rambling style, it’s kind of his trademark thing and it’s very cool.
Everything in this internet world doesn’t need to be short snappy sound bites marketed at pleasure seekers with short attention spans.
I really appreciate that Leo takes his time to properly explain his topics in detail, and often I think it actually is appropriate to keep repeating and emphasizing certain key points at great length.

Austin says:

I agree. It was his conversational and rant like format the got me interested and keeps me coming back. If it was just shot bullet points I think a lot of the nuance would be lost.

Brian says:

Joe, your reply is a bit ironic when you consider the nature of the video itself as you are assuming that what would suit you in Leo’s videos would suit everyone else. The only conclusion I can come to is that the video was so long for you, you didn’t watch it all, and went to find a different video to watch and therefore solved your own problem!

Joe says:

Lol. I didn’t intend any disrespect and I acknowledge my comment went directly against the open-mindedness Leo advocated. I can see that many people feel inspired by Leo to express themselves as freely and authentically as he does. Maybe they were the ‘auditory learners’ in school who disliked the textbook because it was too simple and too well organized.

In 5th grade, our teacher gave us a short-hand explanation for how to write. She said: “tell ’em what you’re gonna tell ’em, tell ’em, and then tell ’em what you told ’em”. The emphasis was on setting a complete set of expectations through a road map of what would be presented; then clearly and concisely flowing through the information while using the road map as a guide.

I’m 41, which isn’t exactly old, but I often prefer the ‘old ways’ of doing stuff; and ask why they changed. Reaching out to the ‘crazy people’ is a funny undertaking because it’s a label that would almost always seem more suitable for others. Maybe part of the open-mindedness is seeing the craziness in ourselves.

As I read the title of the email from Leo, I thought to myself: “aw I know exactly where this is going!”

Let me explain…

I’m a medical student, currently just finished my 3rd year in Scotland – I have been following Leo since Dec 14. If I have learnt one thing this year, it is this!!

If I now meet someone who is ‘out of the norm’ = who is not like me, I no longer judge… I accept them. And I try to understand THEIR world, which is different from mines. This goes for any patients that I meet or anyone that I meet outside the medical practice too.

This concept is helping me in business also. I can now better understand my team/business partner’s behaviours. Rather than getting frustrated, I now approach them in a different way. A better way. A way in which I can get work done with them; rather than pissing them off.

Oh, and it’s helping me understand my family too.

If there is one skill that an individual can master: ‘Being able to Understand People’ would definitely in my top 5. Remember to understand people, you have to understand their ideas, thoughts and beliefs.

Medic Mo (Glasgow, Scotland)

Jane says:

Mate. You have such a limited view of life. You say ‘A person who is high in neuroticism is going to see the world very differently from a person low in neuroticism because your emotions colour the way you see things’.

I have a friend who, in a very short time, lost his dog, his mother, his best friend and his partner. Before that he got shit from work and was dismissed. He is NOT high in neuroticism, he’s just had a shit time in the world. Many have been through that and even a worse load of crap. Does he have to have you pointing at him at the same time saying “oooooh you’re soooo high in neuroticism”. Nuh.

Nicolas says:

Great video.

It’s very interesting that you brought up sexual orientation. Ever since I’ve committed to be openminded, I’ve found that as a man, I can see beauty and be attracted to both sexes. I use to think that everybody would be the same if they only opened up their minds but only lately I’ve been doubting that assumption. Because I hold (and still hold to a degree) the sameness model.

Leo, it is possible to hold the sameness model and the difference model at once in a paradoxical way? Because we are all unique snowflakes yet deep down I feel all of us are the same thing.

Leo Gura says:

Of course

Elisabeth says:

I doesn’t happen to me much when watching Leo’s videos, but this time I thought “eh… this is still simplistic”.
Combating the assumptions of the sameness model is right and good and most of us need it terribly, but what happens, if we replace it completely by “everyone has their own unique reality” … aren’t we neglecting the similarities? The little miracle that with most people we do find a common ground?
I find that models usually have their ideal area of applicability and limits of validity. I wonder where these lie in this case.

Sophie says:

Loved this, where is the link to the personality test please?

Leo Gura says:

Sorry, I just added it below the video.

Jason Wu says:

Leo, you should look into MBTI personality test as well.

MrUnlimetedVacuumSpunge says:

Damn this topic was jut what i needed, that shit went straight into my heart-knot and made me cry! I uncovered some suppressed father and passive mother-witness abuse like a month ago trough meditation (nonsexual) It made me go through some serious anger, vengeful thoughts and crying. Two weeks went by where new memories were constantly added. Didn’t hold anything back, i wanted to let it all surface. Now i am finding myself dealing with unconscious ppl by feting into there egos, giving them what they need with a compassionate overbearing look on my face(non faked ofc). I am really hurting for them. And it makes them conscious it seems, making them correct there behavior later in the day.. They regret it and start blaming themselves almost instantly.. Before i would just destroy there egos with an overkill and they would leave me alone, and i would be alone as a certain consequence thereof. I was a master of intimidation and ego destruction.. This video will certainly help me as a reminder to understand and forgive better… Fuck i am becoming a chameleon!! I used to blame these ppl for being kiss-asses!! Guess i was just projecting ha

Jon says:

Well, one of your best videos yet in my opinion.

Whatever you do don’t let the negative Nelly’s in the comments section frustrate you or deter you from what or how you do your work. There’s probably a thousand people who appreciate your work to every one that has a critique on what or how you do your work. The thousand just don’t always take the time to make a comment.

I’m curious if you have have any perspective or opinions on hypnosis as a tool to change “how we think or view or function in the world”. Do you know or have you heard of any cases where it’s helped accelerate change in someone? Or help them to overcome some neagative neurosis? Specifically dealing with clinical depression. Or do you think any the chemical make up of our brain will over ride and suggested thought process hypothesis may offer?

Thanks in advance Leo.

Fred says:

Just killed my thought that we are all alike. The only difference is what is on the outside. Skin color, eye color, hair color, where you are from, how you see things makes a difference but only to me. Put yourself in others shoes to see how the world looks like through their eyes. The biggest thing that makes all the same is how we are feeling. Anger, sadness, happiness, loneliness, superiority, inferiority, etc.

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